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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?

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By *hortyscotWoman
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

They absolutely do!

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By *ere4It3000Couple
4 weeks ago

Belgium

Without a doubt

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By *layfullsamMan
4 weeks ago

Solihull

They do but with men being chosen by ladies/couples I guess the physical attraction has to come first on a site like fab?

At least in the real world you get chance to show that early on

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West

Not sure which way round it works. But yes.

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By *emma200Woman
4 weeks ago

Warwickshire

100% yes!!

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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"They do but with men being chosen by ladies/couples I guess the physical attraction has to come first on a site like fab?

At least in the real world you get chance to show that early on"

I suppose it’s just that these qualities make them MORE attractive compared to others they find visually appealing

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By *layfullsamMan
4 weeks ago

Solihull


"They do but with men being chosen by ladies/couples I guess the physical attraction has to come first on a site like fab?

At least in the real world you get chance to show that early on

I suppose it’s just that these qualities make them MORE attractive compared to others they find visually appealing"

Absolutely agree

It’s just off fab you get time to see others deeper qualities

Not complaining though it’s all good

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By *egDaySkipperMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!

Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes

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By *ittlebirdWoman
4 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?"

Hugely so. In fact I can’t imagine being attracted to anyone who wasn’t passionate 😘

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By *avexxMan
4 weeks ago

cheshire

they certainly do

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?

Hugely so. In fact I can’t imagine being attracted to anyone who wasn’t passionate 😘"

Yeah but does what they’re passionate about matter? Would it be better if its like your own passions?

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!

Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes "

Excellent. I agree

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By *ansoffateMan
4 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Absolutely 💯 they matter.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
4 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?

Hugely so. In fact I can’t imagine being attracted to anyone who wasn’t passionate 😘

Yeah but does what they’re passionate about matter? Would it be better if its like your own passions?"

To me know. I just love to listen about their passions. It excites and thrills me and makes them achingly more attractive to me as a person, not just sexually 😘

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By *egDaySkipperMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!

Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes "

Fuck! It's meant to say...

Anyone who thinks red grapes are better than green grapes!

Green grapes are the best!

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By *eordieJeansCouple
4 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Values? Yes but I can’t stand people who agree with everything I say.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
4 weeks ago

Merseyside

For us they do Yes

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By *oeBeansMan
4 weeks ago

Derby

I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
4 weeks ago

West Dublin

For sure. All these things make a huge difference to their attractiveness.

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By *emorefridaCouple
4 weeks ago

La la land

I personally like people who are passionate about different things. I like learning from them and it draws my attention.

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The values match matters a lot. I’m attracted to passionate people doesn’t really matter what they are passionate about could be knitting or line dancing

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving."

Always surprises me when I meet someone who’s really into coffee and then I find out they only drink instant or rum and it’s Kraken, but these things are forgivable if everything else is good

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By *olden RatioWoman
4 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

If someone's on the same wavelength as me I will definitely find them more attractive. Looks will attract me, but if our values don't align then the initial spark fades.

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By *utteredBreadMan
4 weeks ago

Manchester

Doesn't this go without saying lol?

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
4 weeks ago

Voldsøy


"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?

Hugely so. In fact I can’t imagine being attracted to anyone who wasn’t passionate 😘"

Absolutely this! 🫶

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By *ou only live onceMan
4 weeks ago

London


"Not sure which way round it works. But yes."

I was just pondering this. But for me it's physical first (yeah, call me Shallow Hal).

I could quickly find someone much less attractive based on their values, but I'm unlikely to fancy someone on the strength of their values alone.

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By *ortyairCouple
4 weeks ago

Wallasey

I seem to be bucking the trend because im not sure values or morals means someone is more attractive to me.

Whether this makes them more attractive to me depends on the relationship.

If you are talking about meeting someone from here than I dont think it matters much, so long as the person is trying to push something I find repulsive down my throat, morally that is not physically obviously.

As for a long term relationship I think its important that there's some common ground but even then I dont think these things need to align perfectly, like they say opposites attract, just not too opposite and that's the trick I think,

Mrs x

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By *oeBeansMan
4 weeks ago

Derby


"If someone's on the same wavelength as me I will definitely find them more attractive. Looks will attract me, but if our values don't align then the initial spark fades."

I totally agree and could've said that word for word! Isn'tit funny how that works out? 👀

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By *ortyairCouple
4 weeks ago

Wallasey


"I seem to be bucking the trend because im not sure values or morals means someone is more attractive to me.

Whether this makes them more attractive to me depends on the relationship.

If you are talking about meeting someone from here than I dont think it matters much, so long as the person is trying to push something I find repulsive down my throat, morally that is not physically obviously.

As for a long term relationship I think its important that there's some common ground but even then I dont think these things need to align perfectly, like they say opposites attract, just not too opposite and that's the trick I think,

Mrs x"

I meant NOT trying to push something morally repugnant down my throat, Mrs x

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
4 weeks ago

Reading


"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving."

What if they don't drink coffee at all?

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!

Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes

Fuck! It's meant to say...

Anyone who thinks red grapes are better than green grapes!

Green grapes are the best!"

Oh. My. God.

You can’t be for real?!

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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"Doesn't this go without saying lol?"

I suppose so.

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By *aizyWoman
4 weeks ago

west midlands


"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving."

Is the Nescafe a hard red line??

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By *olden RatioWoman
4 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"If someone's on the same wavelength as me I will definitely find them more attractive. Looks will attract me, but if our values don't align then the initial spark fades.

I totally agree and could've said that word for word! Isn'tit funny how that works out? 👀"

Plus I don't drink Nescafe.

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By *2000ManMan
4 weeks ago

Worthing

Women - They do....oh he is on the telly...no they don't.

Men - Boobs n Bums.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Central

Yes

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By *oeBeansMan
4 weeks ago

Derby


"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving.

What if they don't drink coffee at all?

"

I can live with that if they can live with me making it my whole personality. See, compromise! 😆

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By *midnight-Woman
4 weeks ago

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100%

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By *oeBeansMan
4 weeks ago

Derby


"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving.

Is the Nescafe a hard red line?? "

I'm only teasing... But if they're open to being converted 👀

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By *oeBeansMan
4 weeks ago

Derby


"If someone's on the same wavelength as me I will definitely find them more attractive. Looks will attract me, but if our values don't align then the initial spark fades.

I totally agree and could've said that word for word! Isn'tit funny how that works out? 👀

Plus I don't drink Nescafe."

Damn, you just keep getting better 😍

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By *rivately PassionateMan
4 weeks ago

Essex

100%

Sometimes Ive looked at someone in a completely different light after seeing do things or they have acted in a certain way, both positively and negatively.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester

100% yes. They play a big part in attraction for me. Someone could be super "hot" physically but if they have opposing values to me then I won't be interested.

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By *ackformore100Man
4 weeks ago

Tin town


"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?"

For me definitely. And context is always important. For people who align on those things there's a better chance of connecting, but equally if someone has different values, morals and passions, it can be a good chance to learn about something new, learn, develop, grow... Someone who is passionate about anything can be really compelling and attractive even if it's not something I am passionate about.

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By *vaRoseWoman
4 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Yes, and equally someone who’s values are vastly different to mine suddenly becomes very ugly

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
4 weeks ago

Basingstoke


"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!

Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes "

But would you get into bed with someone those who thinks all grapes are an abomination? 🫣

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
4 weeks ago

Basingstoke


"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?"

Yes, these things absolutely matter to me. As I'm all about friendship before the benefits happen, then values are hugely important as it's very unlikely I'll find it possible to be friends with someone that has opposing values to me, let alone do anything else with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Surely it depends on the values

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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"Surely it depends on the values "
yeah. But I mean if their values are the same as yours

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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Anyway thanks all. Most helpful.

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By *hil most chillMan
4 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

Yes. I can't separate the art from the artist.

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 weeks ago

East London

Yes.

I've not done my due diligence at times, and regretted giving away my body so quickly.

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 weeks ago

East London

They can have different values but they mustn't go totally against my principles.

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By *oeBeansMan
4 weeks ago

Derby


"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!

Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes

But would you get into bed with someone those who thinks all grapes are an abomination? 🫣"

Grapes? You mean raw wine?

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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"Yes.

I've not done my due diligence at times, and regretted giving away my body so quickly. "

Same.

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By *adyBugsWoman
4 weeks ago

cognito

You can have the same values as someone and fancy them but they can still treat you like trash at the end of the day.

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By *sStephenPickle OP   Man
4 weeks ago

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"You can have the same values as someone and fancy them but they can still treat you like trash at the end of the day.

"

Yep.

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By *liceDarkTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Worksop

Yes. People on a level with me in some way are always of the most interest, regardless of how they are physically.

Equally so, attractive vacuous people hold less interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Yes, Stevie P.

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By *izandpaulCouple
4 weeks ago

merseyside

In our swinging life, not too interested in your personal life or beliefs.

In our normal lives its very important to us, as we hope our friends and associates fit alongside us.

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