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By *umagainandagain OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Altrincham

These people need hanging. I arranged a bukkake for today. Ten people were supposed to be coming. I booked a hotel and everyone agreed to pay £10 towards the cost of the room. I had talked to all of them on the phone and they all seemed very interested. Two cancelled less than an hour before kick off and only one of them turned up. I have tried contacting the others but none have said anything. I should ask for money in advance but nobody will do it. So i am about £90 down including travel expenses. Any suggestions what to do? These people need to be punished.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

I think capital punishment might be on the extreme side.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
6 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

The best suggestion I can advise OP is INSIST on money up front. Then you will not be in the same position again.

Sorry you had to go through this but hopefully lesson learned. Of they won’t pay a deposit up front they are not serious 👍🏻

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By *oelDorianMan
6 weeks ago

vanaheim


"The best suggestion I can advise OP is INSIST on money up front. Then you will not be in the same position again.

Sorry you had to go through this but hopefully lesson learned. Of they won’t pay a deposit up front they are not serious 👍🏻"

This

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By *partharmonyCouple
5 weeks ago

Ruislip

I don't see there is anything you can do except learn from the experience. Make sure you have at least twice as many as you need agreeing to come and/or get people to pay in advance.

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By *umagainandagain OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Altrincham

I have tried before but people think it is a scam. I don't know why bukkake is so hard to arrange. Most people say it is on their bucket list but they don't join in when it is offered.

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By *lix CoxMan
5 weeks ago

CF39

Thats why I instanty block especiallly unverified by others with no pic.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
5 weeks ago

Manchester

Maybe just arrange it in a club so you're not out of pocket paying for a room and if people don't turn up you may find others who are interested?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
5 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"I have tried before but people think it is a scam. I don't know why bukkake is so hard to arrange. Most people say it is on their bucket list but they don't join in when it is offered."

Then learn from that OP. If they think it’s a scam that’s on them. Arrange what you’re comfortable with and nothing else.

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By *ippyXXXMan
5 weeks ago

Tamworth

Just put it down to a learning curve..

It's cost you..you won't make the same mistake again I hope..

Too many give lip service but don't follow up on it..

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By *ickD80Man
5 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I can understand both view points…..unfortunately there are a lot of people on the internet who are just out to scam people so it’s sensible to be wary and not send money to someone you’ve never met but it’s obviously very frustrating for you when you’ve been let down and had to spend money on a wasted trip.

I’m surprised that no one has created an app that resolves this problem, maybe one where people transfer money to a holding account and no one can access the money or transfer it anywhere until your phones are next to each others or you both have a code that the other person has to enter but you don’t tell them what it is until you’re together, face to face. That way people can send money to show they’re serious but know that the other person has to meet them to receive it….

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By *midnight-Woman
5 weeks ago

...

Maybe contact some of the regular gangbangers and ask how they get around this issue

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By *ntelligent_tall69Man
5 weeks ago

mums cellar

All you can really do is money up front, time wasters boil my piss

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By *allipygousMan
5 weeks ago

Leicester


"These people need hanging. I arranged a bukkake for today. Ten people were supposed to be coming. I booked a hotel and everyone agreed to pay £10 towards the cost of the room. I had talked to all of them on the phone and they all seemed very interested. Two cancelled less than an hour before kick off and only one of them turned up. I have tried contacting the others but none have said anything. I should ask for money in advance but nobody will do it. So i am about £90 down including travel expenses. Any suggestions what to do? These people need to be punished."

Wouldn't it be a lot easier to just attend a gay sauna and tell whoever's there what you're after?

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By *enelope2UWoman
5 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

It's fab most men on here are dreamers

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By *ickD80Man
5 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

How were you planning to get 10 men up to one hotel room without the hotel staff noticing?

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By *ingpong70Man
5 weeks ago

Surbiton


"It's fab most men on here are dreamers"

Dreaming whilst simultaneously whining that nobody their answers messages is a popular combo

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By *ilverjagMan
5 weeks ago

swansea

I'm afraid that's par for the course when you try to arrange a group of guys. They talk the talk, but can't walk the walk. When a pal and I, who is sadly no longer with us, used to arrange a gang bang for a lady, we invariably invented over thirty guys, and if two or three turned up, we considered it to be a good showing.

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By *allipygousMan
5 weeks ago

Leicester


"I'm afraid that's par for the course when you try to arrange a group of guys. They talk the talk, but can't walk the walk. When a pal and I, who is sadly no longer with us, used to arrange a gang bang for a lady, we invariably invented over thirty guys, and if two or three turned up, we considered it to be a good showing.

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Were they clones? How did you grow them so fast? Or androids! Were they androids!?

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago


"These people need hanging. I arranged a bukkake for today. Ten people were supposed to be coming. I booked a hotel and everyone agreed to pay £10 towards the cost of the room. I had talked to all of them on the phone and they all seemed very interested. Two cancelled less than an hour before kick off and only one of them turned up. I have tried contacting the others but none have said anything. I should ask for money in advance but nobody will do it. So i am about £90 down including travel expenses. Any suggestions what to do? These people need to be punished."

Anyone can back out of a meet at any point they want to. With an attitude like the one you show here, the men who didn't attend had a lucky escape.

If you want to get a load of men to come to a hotel room you should be prepared to pay for the cost. It is against Fab rules to ask for money, so why you are on here whinging is a mystery. You say one person turned up to the meet with you and presumably a lady. That's 3 of you to share the cost, so it must have been an expensive hotel room if you say you are £90 out of pocket. Obviously you were relying on all the participants to pay for the hotel which must have been well over £100 and not pay anything yourselves.

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By *AYENCouple
5 weeks ago

Lincolnshire


"These people need hanging. I arranged a bukkake for today. Ten people were supposed to be coming. I booked a hotel and everyone agreed to pay £10 towards the cost of the room. I had talked to all of them on the phone and they all seemed very interested. Two cancelled less than an hour before kick off and only one of them turned up. I have tried contacting the others but none have said anything. I should ask for money in advance but nobody will do it. So i am about £90 down including travel expenses. Any suggestions what to do? These people need to be punished."

It's what's known as a Boo Hoo Bukkake. K.

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By *est_Yorkshire_GentMan
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Sorry to hear that’s happened to you OP! Like others have said, ask for money up front and the dreamers will disappear quickly! If I arrange a hotel meet I always pay ahead or do the booking and send the details over so it’s as confirmed and definitely happening as it can be

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

I think the default position would be to assume noone will turn up. Go to a club you have a ready crowd there already.

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By *ingpong70Man
5 weeks ago

Surbiton


"These people need hanging. I arranged a bukkake for today. Ten people were supposed to be coming. I booked a hotel and everyone agreed to pay £10 towards the cost of the room. I had talked to all of them on the phone and they all seemed very interested. Two cancelled less than an hour before kick off and only one of them turned up. I have tried contacting the others but none have said anything. I should ask for money in advance but nobody will do it. So i am about £90 down including travel expenses. Any suggestions what to do? These people need to be punished.

Anyone can back out of a meet at any point they want to. With an attitude like the one you show here, the men who didn't attend had a lucky escape.

If you want to get a load of men to come to a hotel room you should be prepared to pay for the cost. It is against Fab rules to ask for money, so why you are on here whinging is a mystery. You say one person turned up to the meet with you and presumably a lady. That's 3 of you to share the cost, so it must have been an expensive hotel room if you say you are £90 out of pocket. Obviously you were relying on all the participants to pay for the hotel which must have been well over £100 and not pay anything yourselves."

Cancellations and no-shows are part and parcel of group events but just because you can doesn't mean you should.

Not sure why you've got your knickers in a twist about cost sharing for rooms either, that's also part and parcel. OP didn't ask for money on the forum.

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By *vonne5exMan
5 weeks ago

Doncaster


"It's fab most men on here are dreamers"
definitely a dream boat

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By *allipygousMan
5 weeks ago

Leicester


"You say one person turned up to the meet with you and presumably a lady."

Funny how we interpret things differently. My earlier response was based on the OP's profile being that of a singe male and no woman being mentioned in his post. It never occurred to me there was a woman involved. Does that mean I base my opinions on evidence provided or conjecture? 🤔

OP! Come back and tell me was the bukkake for you or an extremely disappointed woman.

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By *vonne5exMan
5 weeks ago

Doncaster


"It's fab most men on here are dreamers"
definitely a dream boat

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By *nnejohn469Couple
5 weeks ago

Wanstead, London

Hi yes same happened to me, as I tried to arrange a greedygirl session.. booked extra guys for her ( 15 ) on the assumption that a few wouldn't make it..

We turn up i pay for the room and only 2 guys arrive..she wasnt impressed and has put her off sessions in future.

All the usual excuses... but once they have had a wank playing it over in their mind.... they loose interest..

John

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By *iddle ManMan
5 weeks ago

Walsall

It happens a lot, this site especially.

I have had a few from other sites and the fet scene too.

Planned shoots, everything agreed but last minute let downs, fortunately I've not had any just not turn up.

I know things happen and life gets in the way, but surely not that many times for people.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Central

Meet in advance to assess reliability and suitability.

Report no-shows to Admin

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle


"These people need hanging. I arranged a bukkake for today. Ten people were supposed to be coming. I booked a hotel and everyone agreed to pay £10 towards the cost of the room. I had talked to all of them on the phone and they all seemed very interested. Two cancelled less than an hour before kick off and only one of them turned up. I have tried contacting the others but none have said anything. I should ask for money in advance but nobody will do it. So i am about £90 down including travel expenses. Any suggestions what to do? These people need to be punished."

This is nothing to do with them or FAB. Was there anyone else involved ?

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By *umagainandagain OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Altrincham


"You say one person turned up to the meet with you and presumably a lady.

Funny how we interpret things differently. My earlier response was based on the OP's profile being that of a singe male and no woman being mentioned in his post. It never occurred to me there was a woman involved. Does that mean I base my opinions on evidence provided or conjecture? 🤔

OP! Come back and tell me was the bukkake for you or an extremely disappointed woman."

The receiver was a TV. I also had someone who was happy to give or receive. Neither of them turned up.

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By *umagainandagain OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Altrincham


"These people need hanging. I arranged a bukkake for today. Ten people were supposed to be coming. I booked a hotel and everyone agreed to pay £10 towards the cost of the room. I had talked to all of them on the phone and they all seemed very interested. Two cancelled less than an hour before kick off and only one of them turned up. I have tried contacting the others but none have said anything. I should ask for money in advance but nobody will do it. So i am about £90 down including travel expenses. Any suggestions what to do? These people need to be punished.

Anyone can back out of a meet at any point they want to. With an attitude like the one you show here, the men who didn't attend had a lucky escape.

If you want to get a load of men to come to a hotel room you should be prepared to pay for the cost. It is against Fab rules to ask for money, so why you are on here whinging is a mystery. You say one person turned up to the meet with you and presumably a lady. That's 3 of you to share the cost, so it must have been an expensive hotel room if you say you are £90 out of pocket. Obviously you were relying on all the participants to pay for the hotel which must have been well over £100 and not pay anything yourselves."

I split the cost evenly between everyone.

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By *umagainandagain OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Altrincham


"How were you planning to get 10 men up to one hotel room without the hotel staff noticing?"

We arranged to meet in the bar and go up in small groups. Reception is located at the side with usually only one member of staff on duty. So when she is busy nobody takes much notice of people going in the lift. I have used the hotel several times for one to one meets so they sort of know me.

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By *umagainandagain OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Altrincham


"These people need hanging. I arranged a bukkake for today. Ten people were supposed to be coming. I booked a hotel and everyone agreed to pay £10 towards the cost of the room. I had talked to all of them on the phone and they all seemed very interested. Two cancelled less than an hour before kick off and only one of them turned up. I have tried contacting the others but none have said anything. I should ask for money in advance but nobody will do it. So i am about £90 down including travel expenses. Any suggestions what to do? These people need to be punished.

Wouldn't it be a lot easier to just attend a gay sauna and tell whoever's there what you're after?"

Maybe. But i have been trying to find a group of reliable people to attend regular sessions. I was hoping to have a group of around 50 people so we can sort out a time and location when at least 15 could attend.

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By *allipygousMan
5 weeks ago

Leicester


"You say one person turned up to the meet with you and presumably a lady.

Funny how we interpret things differently. My earlier response was based on the OP's profile being that of a singe male and no woman being mentioned in his post. It never occurred to me there was a woman involved. Does that mean I base my opinions on evidence provided or conjecture? 🤔

OP! Come back and tell me was the bukkake for you or an extremely disappointed woman.

The receiver was a TV. I also had someone who was happy to give or receive. Neither of them turned up. "

Not a woman then. I'd think it's a lot more difficult to arrange when there's no woman involved. I say your best bet is a club or gay sauna on a t-girl day.

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