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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I fell down the rabbit hole in this a while ago on the hub. It doesn’t get talked about much on here though.

The kind of FreeUse situation I’m talking about is more the casual kind.

An example would be we were just chatting casually and my hand grabs your breast, I grope and fondle but no one acknowledges the sexual action, our conversation continues without interruption, it gradually gets more and more sexual until completion. At no point is the sex acknowledged we just continue on like nothing happened.

Anyone tried this ?

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By *ikesEmBigMan
7 weeks ago

Herts

They are fun videos tbf

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
7 weeks ago

Brum

Yes.

We fall into this occasionally but it’s never preemptive, just happens.

Then we have a moment afterwards of what the fuck was that??

We’ve never put a name on it before and didn’t know it was a thing.

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"They are fun videos tbf"

Yeah totally unrealistic lol but fun.

The only time I can maybe seeing this working is with a couple, by arrangement I go to there home and start freely using Mrs while Mr watches.

I’ve spoke to woman who like to be freely used by a group or by an individual but it doesn’t have the same playfulness.

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"Yes.

We fall into this occasionally but it’s never preemptive, just happens.

Then we have a moment afterwards of what the fuck was that??

We’ve never put a name on it before and didn’t know it was a thing."

That’s hot 🔥

The internet doesn’t do it justice to be fair but it’s a total turn on.

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By *j188Couple
7 weeks ago

aberdeenshire

Is it “kinky” ?

Or just good fun ? 🤭

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I would say more fun, the kink would maybe be if it was a stranger or maybe someone you didn’t expect it from lol

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By *avid 50Man
7 weeks ago

kendal

this probably doesn't count as free use but when our children were young and free time was very scarce if my wife wanted sex she would change into a flimsy summer dress, this was a sign that she wanted sex if time or place was available, if she was washing up I would come behind her feel her breasts feel between her legs and if I got an erection quickly enough give her a quick one, we did occasionally get disturbed by toddlers and youngsters but they didn't realise what we were doing it wasn't the most satisfying but at least we found time for it, I'm sure many couples in the same situation did something similar

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"this probably doesn't count as free use but when our children were young and free time was very scarce if my wife wanted sex she would change into a flimsy summer dress, this was a sign that she wanted sex if time or place was available, if she was washing up I would come behind her feel her breasts feel between her legs and if I got an erection quickly enough give her a quick one, we did occasionally get disturbed by toddlers and youngsters but they didn't realise what we were doing it wasn't the most satisfying but at least we found time for it, I'm sure many couples in the same situation did something similar"

Needs must lol

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton

lol it’s not that popular then

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By *acavityMan
6 weeks ago

Redditch

It’s hot , as a porn scenario

But I prefer actual sex with a partner who is responding to my actions and reciprocating.

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I think a more realistic scenario would be to see how long you can go without responding lol

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By *gent CoulsonMan
6 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I know a few people who have a D/s relationship where the female sub is offered up for free use.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
6 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Free use within an agreed dynamic is hot.

From Donald on the bus… not so much.

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"Free use within an agreed dynamic is hot.

From Donald on the bus… not so much. "

lol agreed

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By *reddie 2025Man
6 weeks ago

Gloucester

im not sure how this works ,is it like sexual tourists syndrome xx

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich

This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

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By *reddie 2025Man
6 weeks ago

Gloucester

tourettes xx

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By *hil most chillMan
6 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe


"Free use within an agreed dynamic is hot.

From Donald on the bus… not so much. "

Donald has needs too you know!

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352"

I can’t find this sorry 😔

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I do this all the time, if there’s a female friend in my house doing the dishes, she better watch out!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔 "

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
6 weeks ago

North West

It’s hot. I think an "ignore kink" is different to “free use” but porn uses them fairly interchangeably.

I enjoy both. Quite often when I’m reading my partner will just use me. Sometimes I even get distracted and put my book down 🤣

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser "

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"It’s hot. I think an "ignore kink" is different to “free use” but porn uses them fairly interchangeably.

I enjoy both. Quite often when I’m reading my partner will just use me. Sometimes I even get distracted and put my book down 🤣"

lol that’s hot 🔥 thanks for sharing.

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By *midionysusMan
6 weeks ago

Rotherham

This is the first I've heard of it... But coincidentally my gf wanked me off to completion the other night, whilst on the couch... She was like eyes closed asleep (obviously not) but not actively interactive just wanking me off.

No complaints here I loved it.

Will have to check this out...

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By *tlanshiaWoman
6 weeks ago

Chatham

Free use happens here. My Dom doesn't need permission or an excuse to touch me.

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By *allum29Man
6 weeks ago

Banbury

I enjoy free use, I've not done it infront on guests etc because theyve not consented and it would be rude but the ability to fondle or take my partners as and when is enjoyable

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣"

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

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By *allum29Man
6 weeks ago

Banbury


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

"

I read the one you URL'd and it was a sexy story, will look up this one

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

I read the one you URL'd and it was a sexy story, will look up this one"

That is the one from the URL.

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By *allum29Man
6 weeks ago

Banbury


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

I read the one you URL'd and it was a sexy story, will look up this one

That is the one from the URL. "

Did you ever make it happen?

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By *lasgowPandaMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow Centre

I now have something new on my bucket list!

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By *vaRoseWoman
6 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I don’t see free use as the same as object or use and disregard play… although I’ve seen porn often lumps it all together.

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

"

Read it and it was great 👍

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"I don’t see free use as the same as object or use and disregard play… although I’ve seen porn often lumps it all together.

"

Yeah the porn stuff is blur of different concepts, it’s also hard for them to work around consent rules so it doesn’t hit as well as it should.

Also sweet disc world reference 👌

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
6 weeks ago

West Suffolk


"I fell down the rabbit hole in this a while ago on the hub. It doesn’t get talked about much on here though.

The kind of FreeUse situation I’m talking about is more the casual kind.

An example would be we were just chatting casually and my hand grabs your breast, I grope and fondle but no one acknowledges the sexual action, our conversation continues without interruption, it gradually gets more and more sexual until completion. At no point is the sex acknowledged we just continue on like nothing happened.

Anyone tried this ? "

I once started sucking a guy off mid conversation and told him to just carry on talking. Was quite erotic

Mr

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By *allum29Man
6 weeks ago

Banbury


"I don’t see free use as the same as object or use and disregard play… although I’ve seen porn often lumps it all together.

"

Absolutely free use is the highest formula of trust and service and should be treated with the respect that you are being trusted with.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I don’t see free use as the same as object or use and disregard play… although I’ve seen porn often lumps it all together.

"

Agree with this. Free use is something we’ve dabbled in but it’s tricky to maintain. Conceptually it very much works for our dynamic.

Mrs TMN x

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton

The concept seems to mean a multitude of things I think the most popular is one partner completely removing the boundaries to sexual access for their partner or others.

The porn stuff seems to be more taboo male fantasy, as in the step mom, teacher or whoever doesn’t seem to acknowledge that they are being used sexually and will continue cleaning the house or giving a lesson for the duration.

I think both are hot but the porn stuff seems more difficult a fantasy to carry out without some acting skills 😂

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By *ellinever70Woman
6 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't think it sounds like something that has longevity in a relationship

At some point surely the partner who is being 'used ' just can't be bothered with being pawed at while they're going about their day to day business

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By *ndymac888 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"I don't think it sounds like something that has longevity in a relationship

At some point surely the partner who is being 'used ' just can't be bothered with being pawed at while they're going about their day to day business "

😂😂 yeah deffo

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By *asha86Couple
6 weeks ago

walsall


"I fell down the rabbit hole in this a while ago on the hub. It doesn’t get talked about much on here though.

The kind of FreeUse situation I’m talking about is more the casual kind.

I think I'm going to have to have a look into this

An example would be we were just chatting casually and my hand grabs your breast, I grope and fondle but no one acknowledges the sexual action, our conversation continues without interruption, it gradually gets more and more sexual until completion. At no point is the sex acknowledged we just continue on like nothing happened.

Anyone tried this ? "

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By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Sounds like most of my partners. There's sometimes a look that conveys - if you don't take me home now, we aren't going to make it home.

The mine, you can't leave look that's when it potentially gets impractical. It's still hot though. I love those moments when I feel utterly fucked, skin tingling, my mind skittering deliriously between bliss and reality. Staggering to the fridge on auto-pilot out of a biological necessity I am barely conscious of, just so I can get used all over again.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

I read the one you URL'd and it was a sexy story, will look up this one

That is the one from the URL.

Did you ever make it happen?"

No, it's still on our To Do list.

We've been looking for a 'Simon' for years.

Lots talk the talk but then run away when they are expected to walk the walk

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By *allum29Man
6 weeks ago

Banbury


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

I read the one you URL'd and it was a sexy story, will look up this one

That is the one from the URL.

Did you ever make it happen?

No, it's still on our To Do list.

We've been looking for a 'Simon' for years.

Lots talk the talk but then run away when they are expected to walk the walk "

Yeah so many let downs it gets so frustrating, I'll be honest I definitely can repeat as much as they can in yoir fantasy so won't offer to waste your time

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

I read the one you URL'd and it was a sexy story, will look up this one

That is the one from the URL.

Did you ever make it happen?

No, it's still on our To Do list.

We've been looking for a 'Simon' for years.

Lots talk the talk but then run away when they are expected to walk the walk

Yeah so many let downs it gets so frustrating, I'll be honest I definitely can repeat as much as they can in yoir fantasy so won't offer to waste your time"

Ahh a lot of that is poetic licence

Mind you, seeing her getting fucked does get everyone else interested again

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By *allum29Man
6 weeks ago

Banbury


"This is a biggie for us. Not the pretending nothing is happening bit, just the availability.

Have a read of https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/761352

I can’t find this sorry 😔

You need to copy the URL and paste it in your browser

It takes me to fab but it’s just blank sorry 🫣

I've just bumped it, try the green arrow, it's called "48hrs"

I read the one you URL'd and it was a sexy story, will look up this one

That is the one from the URL.

Did you ever make it happen?

No, it's still on our To Do list.

We've been looking for a 'Simon' for years.

Lots talk the talk but then run away when they are expected to walk the walk

Yeah so many let downs it gets so frustrating, I'll be honest I definitely can repeat as much as they can in yoir fantasy so won't offer to waste your time

Ahh a lot of that is poetic licence

Mind you, seeing her getting fucked does get everyone else interested again "

I'd imagine seeing you just get naked would get people interested again.

Her.... I mean her

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