FabSwingers.com forum: Women who invite guys to their house for a first meet.

By *andadbod OP Man
4 days ago

Liverpool

Is this a common occurrence?

Two women in the past have invited me to their home for a first physical contact, albeit we started in the living room to chat over a coffee but after an hour or so of gentle flirting we moved upstairs, how many of you out there would be willing to invite a guy back to your home on the first meet? Was it a success or instant regret when you opened the door to them?

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By *sStephenPickleMan
4 days ago

Ends

I would be unsure if doing it as a guy. It feels like such an obvious no no for a woman that I’d be worried I’m being set up.

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By *EAT..85Woman
4 days ago

Nottingham

"I would be unsure if doing it as a guy. It feels like such an obvious no no for a woman that I’d be worried I’m being set up. "

If I invited you to my home pickle, would it feel like a set up?

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 days ago

North West

Was this after a previous social or the very first time you ever met them?

Either way it would be a no for me. Mainly because my house is my family space.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
4 days ago

Coventry

I think when it comes to letting someone into your home it's a lot to do with trust, green flags and how comfortable you feel around them. I don't think there's a time line as such, it's different with everyone.

When I was active as a single guy I had a few first social meets that ended up back at theirs. Things just flowed naturally that way. There was woman I'd been talking to for ages online. I didn't think it was going anywhere in that way but we'd struck up a good raport. Then why night completely of the blue she point blank asked me to come around and spend the night with her. I think she'd come to the conclusion she was safe with me and its time to meet her own needs. That turned into a nice weekly booty call type scenario for a while.

Like I say it's more about how comfortable you are with people than time line.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
4 days ago

Reading

It's definitely not a common occurrence for me. I've only ever had one person I met via fab in my house. And I've known him for a year now and met elsewhere for the first 9 months or so.

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By *ar9019Man
4 days ago

Warsop

It is one of them that kinda feels wrong lol 😂 but I guess each to their own, I’d rather a social coffee somewhere else first personally to give them the chance to run away!!

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By *andadbod OP Man
4 days ago

Liverpool

"Was this after a previous social or the very first time you ever met them?

Either way it would be a no for me. Mainly because my house is my family space."

No social but we had been chatting on here for some time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 days ago

East Sussex

We're wary as a couple. If I was a woman alone I would need to know a man very well before I met him alone anywhere. The older I've grown the more wary I've become, this is in direct contrast to my younger self, I look back and wonder at my carelessness.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
4 days ago

Manchester

I'd never give someone my address I'd never met. It blows my mind that people do.

I always meet them in a public place like a bar, cafe, park, club whatever first. I need to be sure they are who they say they are for a start, and then that we actually have attraction and chemistry. I can't imagine anything worse than inviting someone to my house and there's zero attraction or chemistry and I just want them to leave 😬

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
4 days ago

Manchester

I do invite people to my flat once I've met them and know we click. But never before.

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By *ar9019Man
4 days ago

Warsop

"It's definitely not a common occurrence for me. I've only ever had one person I met via fab in my house. And I've known him for a year now and met elsewhere for the first 9 months or so."

This feel reasonable cute! You have know him a while now and so you have a pretty good judge of his character I would guess

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 days ago

Belfast

Over the years I've had two very well verified women not only invite me to their homes but insisted on it.

We had never met but they were happy to send me their addresses and phone numbers. They both said they felt safer in their own surroundings.

I refused both offers because I don't meet without a social and also because anyone willing to invite me as a complete stranger into their homes regardless of how many times they had done it before or how well verified they were, were not my kind of people.

That total lack of concern for their own safety put me off immediately.

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By *carlettsWoman
4 days ago

Harpenden

I just think this is so risky to just give some random stranger your home address. Even people you may have chatted to for a while.

When meeting I would always have a social first and met somewhere other than my safe space after

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By *issmorganWoman
4 days ago

Calderdale innit

When I was single and meeting here, I'd never invite any man over, without a social first.

I invited someone over once , without one when I was naive and new here and it wasn't great.

You hear allsorts of horror stories here, how men have given women's addresses out to others, or turned up late at night when horny.

It's just not worth the risk.

Plus If you don't find them attractive when ftf, that could get kind of awkward too, as not everyone takes rejection well.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
4 days ago

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"I would be unsure if doing it as a guy. It feels like such an obvious no no for a woman that I’d be worried I’m being set up.

If I invited you to my home pickle, would it feel like a set up? "

Yeah I’d be like, why would this hottie be interested in me

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By *untogetherCouple
4 days ago

Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K.

"We're wary as a couple. If I was a woman alone I would need to know a man very well before I met him alone anywhere. The older I've grown the more wary I've become, this is in direct contrast to my younger self, I look back and wonder at my carelessness. "

Very much this!! I often wonder how I made it out of my teens and 20's alive with some of the nieve and careless decisions I made. I look back and think I would never do that now, that is definitely a you'll never be seen alive again situation

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 days ago

East London

I did it once, with my long term partner, 15 years ago.

In hindsight, it was a terrible idea, but I was lucky and had amazing sex.

If his intentions were nefarious I'd have been dead meat, as he's very tall and was very muscular back then.

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 days ago

East London

Getting in cars with men I barely knew and going for a drive.

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By *EAT..85Woman
4 days ago

Nottingham

"I would be unsure if doing it as a guy. It feels like such an obvious no no for a woman that I’d be worried I’m being set up.

If I invited you to my home pickle, would it feel like a set up?

Yeah I’d be like, why would this hottie be interested in me

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ My point was, surely we've chatted plenty that an invite wouldn't feel weird. I've invited plenty of people over and never once had an issue. Whether that's luck or good people judgement, who knows.

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By *r SensualMan
4 days ago

London

If a woman invited me round to her house for the first time we were meeting, my suspicions would be raised & I’d instantly think it’s way to good to be true because it’s not something that happens, if at all.

Have gone over to a woman’s house for a meet before but that was off the back of us meeting in a public place first and more than once.

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By *oodmessMan
4 days ago

yumsville

Ive always met at theirs or hotels and had only a handful of socials, honestly 5ish at most that I can think of. I'd say I've met more couples than single women but either way I've rarely accom.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
4 days ago

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"I would be unsure if doing it as a guy. It feels like such an obvious no no for a woman that I’d be worried I’m being set up.

If I invited you to my home pickle, would it feel like a set up?

Yeah I’d be like, why would this hottie be interested in me

No I hear you. That’s fair enough.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
4 days ago

South Wales

I think if I was a single woman I wouldn’t take the chance if we’d not had a social first. As a couple we have still only done this once with a single guy and to be honest I thought it was probably more scary for him turning up on his own. We had been chatting for a couple of months so felt confident that it would go well but still a risk on his part more than ours xx

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By *mmaleiaWoman
4 days ago

Trowbridge

I invited a guy to mine after I’d met him about 6 times socially, never would happen if I’d met them under 3 times at least

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By *ikesEmBigMan
4 days ago

Herts

I've had a few first meets at theirs. Takes a bit of trust but so far it's been fine. Can't blame a lady for being cautious

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By *iss KinkWoman
4 days ago

Up North

Deff not

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By *eformed_CharactersCouple
4 days ago

round and about

No id never have anyone in my house, its my families home

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By *otsossieMan
4 days ago

Chesterfield

I was invited to a house and told the door would be unlocked, just come upstairs.

Reader, I didn’t attend.

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By *i versMan
4 days ago

Kirkcaldy

I have a female on here that's invited me afew times but haven't been able to go because of bad timing but I love it. She obviously trusts me and likes me to have me come to her house. I will do it soon though as it should've been done by now. I've also had other females invite me but they have been too far away as I don't drive but now I'm thinking about taking my driving test as I'm missing out.

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By *obert 323Man
4 days ago

Birmingham

"Is this a common occurrence?

It depends on how long you've been chatting to them and if there a sense of trust between you. I've had meetings where I've gone to their home with no problems and other's where we meet in a public place first. It's all down to how you both communicate before meeting.

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By *haron1701ETV/TS
4 days ago

Southport

"I was invited to a house and told the door would be unlocked, just come upstairs.

Reader, I didn’t attend. "

See quite a few like that (99.9999% of the time it's guys).

Door open/unlocked, just walk in etc..

If that doesn't get the alarm bells and red flags waving nothing will.

Anyone with anything similar that on their profile goes straight onto the block list.

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By *otsossieMan
4 days ago

Chesterfield

"If that doesn't get the alarm bells and red flags waving nothing will.

Pics were great etc, it’s just like you say. On a first meet? Red flags!

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
4 days ago

Reading

I've only ever been to my ex fwbs home and that was after us knowing each other for a year and several meets including hotels before that. I need to really trust someone before going to their place.

It would need a massive change in my living arrangements for someone to be invited to my home as it's not just my space, it's the family home.

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By *ewtfaceMan
4 days ago

Bracknell

I've never been invited to a ladies home as first meet, always done at least one social first. I feel that's sensible for both of us.

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By *manteeCouple
4 days ago

Manchester

We have done it, however our very first meet from Fab was a bad experience, the guys pictures were 10 years out of date, he was 64 yrs old not 54 which he had put on his profile. We also had a few no shows but have also had some great meets

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By *entlemanFoxMan
4 days ago

North East / London

I believe it is better all round to meet at a neutral venue for the first time. No pressure either way.

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By *loud Number 9Woman
4 days ago

Swansea

What men can accommodate? Most state they can. What they mean is they will book a hotel

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 days ago

Reading

I don't accommodate anyway but even if I did it would take me awhile before I felt I had enough trust in them.

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By *lim Jim MKMan
4 days ago

Milton Keynes

My last meet we chatted on the phone 1st, I invited her over to mine but she doesn't drive so she invited me to hers.

Must say we both felt very comfortable and had a wonderful time.

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By *hunky GentMan
4 days ago

north of Peterborough

What - you mean you don't want to meet behind the bike shed?

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By *pforfun56Man
4 days ago

sheffield

A couple is ok but if a woman alone asks to meet at hers I would rather meet at a neutral venue first to make sure she’s comfortable and I am too.

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I know a few women who do this because it’s easier and safer than going to a hotel to meet a stranger.

I’ve invited a couple of people back here that I’d never met, but I’d spoken to a lot beforehand.

I was selling gold and silver a while back on Facebook and I was more scared than people on fab. Some random guy turned up to buy a kilo of silver. I had a meat cleaver under the cushion on the sofa in case he tried to rob me.

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"What men can accommodate? Most state they can. What they mean is they will book a hotel"

Surely that’s a red flag? Man that can’t accommodate in their home or married.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
4 days ago

Kingston

Seems like an incredibly reckless thing to do but I imagine some people buzz on the risk and excitement.

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By *ecky and justCouple
4 days ago

Godalming

When I was on here as a single guy I had several first meets at ladies houses. Admittedly there was some messaging first to make sure we were compatible.

My preference was and still is to always have a social but sometimes the list was high and they wanted to accommodate.

In hindsight, it’s risky for both parties as accusations can be levelled both ways.

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By *allipygousMan
4 days ago

Leicester

"What men can accommodate? Most state they can. What they mean is they will book a hotel"

Have you done a survey? If so, what was your sample size?

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By *allipygousMan
4 days ago

Leicester

"I was invited to a house and told the door would be unlocked, just come upstairs.

Reader, I didn’t attend. "

This describes my very first fab meet about 12 years ago. It was crap.

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 days ago

Leeds

Not for me.

There has only ever been 1 guy at my house and this only happened after months of chatting and meeting elsewhere....I won't go into details but I ended up having to get the police involved.

Never again will I have anyone at my house, know matter how long I've known them for which is why I say I'm more than happy to pay for a hotel x

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 days ago

East London

"What men can accommodate? Most state they can. What they mean is they will book a hotel"

Some use a hotel until they get to know you.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
4 days ago

The Big Smoke

I have done in the distant past. But for a cuppa. Not sex. Anyone who didn’t understand they weren’t going to get in my knickers… if I wore any… wouldn’t be invited. In fact they are fucked off straight away.

Depends how much we’ve chatted really.

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By *aul Goodman2025Man
4 days ago

Swinton

I met a girl when I worked in hospitality once, she was just on a night out. She asked me for a lighter outside, then asked me for my number, I was surprised because she was gorgeous and had all the guys attention while she was dancing in the bar. We got messaging and she told me she was heavily into the swingers scene and gave me an insight into what it’s like and all about the different clubs etc… It was around the time the Fifty Shades Of Grey film came out and she seemed kind of obsessed with it making it out to be some kind of cinematic masterpiece.

She messaged me one night asking me to come round after work, I was gonna go but then she sent me her address and said she’d be in bed and to just walk in and go upstairs to her room, could’ve just been a kink thing but I’d only met her briefly, it was all a bit suspect so I bailed.

I did end up going round one night and she just sat there staring at me giving me one word answers when I was trying to make conversation, then after a bit she pulled her phone out with a picture of her in all this sexy white lingerie and dryly said “I wanted to show you this picture”, she was stunning and I told her so but I wasn’t attempting anything, I’m not a creep and although I wouldn’t have said no I wasn’t just out to get a shag. Then we went back to the awkward staring and one word answers. No sooner had I left I got a text telling me how disgusted she was with me for coming to her house expecting sex, how we had zero chemistry and how she didn’t wish to communicate with me anymore, I said no worries, all the best…

The next day I got a text saying “I think you owe me a bottle of wine” 🤯

We messaged on and off for a few weeks and it was like a different person each time we spoke, some proper split personality shit going on it was bizarre, one day she’d be sending me rude messages and dirty talk which I’m not really into and find a bit cringey, other days she seemed like she didn’t know who I was and it was the first time we’d ever spoke.

I got in touch with her again years later thinking maybe we’d just got off on the wrong foot, I’d just split up with a long term partner so was having a moment of delusion and desperation, we started off chatting again normal (I don’t think she remembered who I was to be honest) then one day she just turned on me telling me to fuck off and calling me a cunt, the way she was typing was dead out of character to the many different versions of her I’d already spoken to, poor grammar and bad spelling like a proper chav, If I had never had met her I would’ve sworn it was a catfish situation…

I often wonder what became of that fucking psycho, how many bunnies she’s boiled, what mental institution she’s in now and look forward to her Netflix documentary 🐰 🗡️

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 days ago

Central

It can be hard trusting them to your hotel room but, after meeting in a neutral place first, you can guage if and when it's right

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By *ellinever70Woman
3 days ago

Ayrshire

I'm not sure I like the inference that any woman who does this is necessarily being reckless.

That would imply that women aren't capable of sound judgement

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By *iss DevilWoman
3 days ago

Bedford

I am not currently meeting, but when I was, I did invite some people to mine straight away. It was easier for me that way, as the area where I live hasn't really got places you could meet for a social once I finished work. How I knew it was going to be ok? I just knew, I trusted my gut instinct. I had to feel comfortable enough with the person to invite them to mine- after years on here, I think I have quite a good idea of who I'm going to be ok with.

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By *uri00620Woman
3 days ago

Croydon

I invited people to mine when I was meeting. I'd prefer this than theirs, being in my own space etc.

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By *iss DevilWoman
3 days ago

Bedford

"I invited people to mine when I was meeting. I'd prefer this than theirs, being in my own space etc."

Very much this! I am much more relaxed in my own space, and afterwards, I don't have to travel anywhere. Also, not being able to drive does limit my options.

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By *eardyBikerMan
3 days ago

nr stonehaven

Have had this on acouple of occasions...but only after plenty of chatting, to ensure comfortable going forward with it.

On any other occasions , a social elsewhere has preceded it ...

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
3 days ago

Someplace

No. Never have and never will

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
3 days ago

kendal

Absolutely not! My house is my castle..... I don't want anyone in it 🤣

I made the mistake of telling a fabber where I lived (I live really remotely, I didn't even give him my adress, just a kind of vague idea) and he just randomly turned up at my house uninvited, the fruitcake!!

I WOULDN'T EVER invite random strangers off the Internet into my home..... that's the plot line of a Netflix documentary in the making!!

Also, if your not feeling the vibe during a social, you can just make your excuses and leave..... then block the person and move on with your buisness..... you're not getting upland walking out of your own lounge are you.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
3 days ago

Staffordshire

Its a gard limit for us. Our family home is just that. Nobody will be invited into it.

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By *viatrixWoman
3 days ago

Redhill

I think this is very much the exception eather than the rule. Don’t think many women would invite complete strangers to their home, their safe haven.

The expectations of some men are laughable, though. I accept that it is also men’s prerogative not to host at their homes, but then they start hesitating at the prospect of sharing hotel costs? Kindly fuck off then and stop wasting my time.

The only person I would have at my home is my FWB but realistically my house is almost never empty with my large brood. And when it is distance or work get in the way.

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
3 days ago

Norwich

I've done it. I didn't think that much of it tbh. When I first came on Fab I didn't even know socials existed.

I mean are we saying nobody has taken a guy home after a tipsy night out? Like we do Ill advised things sometimes.

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By *electableicecreamMan
3 days ago

The West

"I've done it. I didn't think that much of it tbh. When I first came on Fab I didn't even know socials existed.

I mean are we saying nobody has taken a guy home after a tipsy night out? Like we do Ill advised things sometimes.

This.

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By *viatrixWoman
3 days ago

Redhill

"I've done it. I didn't think that much of it tbh. When I first came on Fab I didn't even know socials existed.

I mean are we saying nobody has taken a guy home after a tipsy night out? Like we do Ill advised things sometimes.

This."

I never did. 🤷‍♀️ but I didn’t grow up in this country, so there’s the cultural difference.

I did meet people from t’internet (all vanilla) since my early 20s and it was always, always meet in a public place. Always.

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By *tr8MrEMan
3 days ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"Is this a common occurrence?

I think it's all down to how genuinely comfortable they sense they are going to be around you...also I think lower expectations is important, never go in with the intentions of sex then quite frankly I really don't have a problem with it

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By *illyboy12345Man
3 days ago

Brighton

I’m always cautious of going to someone’s house for a first meet, I’ve done it once when I was 18 and the woman had her husband there and I got my wallet and phone taken by him and beaten up, always been very careful since

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By *parkle1974Woman
3 days ago

Leeds

"I've done it. I didn't think that much of it tbh. When I first came on Fab I didn't even know socials existed.

I mean are we saying nobody has taken a guy home after a tipsy night out? Like we do Ill advised things sometimes.

I've never took some random home...I usually woke up with random objects instead

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By *egoMan
3 days ago

Preston

I usually go to theres as generally they feel safer.

Clubs seem to intimidate.

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By *ucka39Man
3 days ago

Newcastle

I have and they did but between having a drink and a little chat didn't spend as long as all the chit chat was done prior to meeting which left more time to enjoy the playful stuff

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