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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. " Because we only have your word for it | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. " Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons | |||
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" Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons " This is exactly the reason it isn't allowed. However, it doesn't stop me always having a nosey when I see an account being named and shamed on my updates feed.  | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons " | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons " Yes but what if you accepted my meeting request ? If such an option existed.. and why doesn’t it? Does on other sites ? | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons Yes but what if you accepted my meeting request ? If such an option existed.. and why doesn’t it? Does on other sites ? " But if they accept meeting invite and still don't show what do they do then fine them? People choose to waste people's time just report them and block unfortunately every site has it's timewasters | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons Yes but what if you accepted my meeting request ? If such an option existed.. and why doesn’t it? Does on other sites ? " What would happen if both parties did turn up but it didn't go as one may have expected and they decided to claim publicly that the other person was a time waster because they had travelled all that way and didn't get a BJ? | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons Yes but what if you accepted my meeting request ? If such an option existed.. and why doesn’t it? Does on other sites ? But if they accept meeting invite and still don't show what do they do then fine them? People choose to waste people's time just report them and block unfortunately every site has it's timewasters" | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons Yes but what if you accepted my meeting request ? If such an option existed.. and why doesn’t it? Does on other sites ? But if they accept meeting invite and still don't show what do they do then fine them? People choose to waste people's time just report them and block unfortunately every site has it's timewasters" No they build up a profile of negative feedback .. people are wary of them | |||
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"you can always make your own site and make the rules that you see fit for purpose." Great idea | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Taster9876 agreed to meet me last night and wasted my time. That's why it's not allowed. We've never spoken but it's that simple for me to name and shame you even when you aren't guilty of anything. Far too easy to abuse for all sorts of silly reasons Yes but what if you accepted my meeting request ? If such an option existed.. and why doesn’t it? Does on other sites ? But if they accept meeting invite and still don't show what do they do then fine them? People choose to waste people's time just report them and block unfortunately every site has it's timewasters No they build up a profile of negative feedback .. people are wary of them " Which might not be warrented. The person might not have met them they may changed their minds about the meet or be being falsely accused so their name is out for people to then hurl abuse at them trolling at it's worse. People hold grunges and from experience I just think you'll always have them timewasters no matter what you do so best to just move on. | |||
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"Is it against the rules to name and shame a serious time waster / no show er? " Yes it’s what Twitter is for or Reddit on those comical accounts  | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. " Because people might use the "name and shame " option to ruin someone's reputation simply because they don't like their profile, or don't agree with something they said on the forums...because people lie and you might be one of them...simple as that | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Because people might use the "name and shame " option to ruin someone's reputation simply because they don't like their profile, or don't agree with something they said on the forums...because people lie and you might be one of them...simple as that" How could that work if you had an agreed record to meet? Let’s be honest. Having 99% time wasters in here is its business model. Other sites fix it . | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Because people might use the "name and shame " option to ruin someone's reputation simply because they don't like their profile, or don't agree with something they said on the forums...because people lie and you might be one of them...simple as that How could that work if you had an agreed record to meet? Let’s be honest. Having 99% time wasters in here is its business model. Other sites fix it . " You say that but I've been here since 2016 and never had a single no show or had my time wasted. That's not down to luck. | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Because people might use the "name and shame " option to ruin someone's reputation simply because they don't like their profile, or don't agree with something they said on the forums...because people lie and you might be one of them...simple as that How could that work if you had an agreed record to meet? Let’s be honest. Having 99% time wasters in here is its business model. Other sites fix it . " If you are constantly interacting with time wasters then that is almost certainly a _you_ problem. It is very likely that your method of vetting and verifying who you are talking to isn’t working. You need to change or improve it. It is perfectly possible to go through fab life with almost no timewasting - it rarely happens to me but then I have worked out ways of checking whether someone is real or not that work for me. | |||
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"Okay why is it against rules.. doesn’t seem to me too hard to think of a system that allows an up front agreed mutual meet.. then if someone no shows quite easy to give a report .. Because people might use the "name and shame " option to ruin someone's reputation simply because they don't like their profile, or don't agree with something they said on the forums...because people lie and you might be one of them...simple as that How could that work if you had an agreed record to meet? Let’s be honest. Having 99% time wasters in here is its business model. Other sites fix it . If you are constantly interacting with time wasters then that is almost certainly a _you_ problem. It is very likely that your method of vetting and verifying who you are talking to isn’t working. You need to change or improve it. It is perfectly possible to go through fab life with almost no timewasting - it rarely happens to me but then I have worked out ways of checking whether someone is real or not that work for me." Of course you’re right .. it’s obviously my fault.. thanks for pointing that out .. won’t happen again now I know that | |||
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"I’m sorry that happened to you. And I imagine it probably happens more to fabbers in the TV/TS group more than any other. Because there’s the sexy fantasy element that some men will get cold feet about making real. I don’t think that there’s an easy solution for anyone. But especially when many of the TV/TS fabbers I know don’t go out dressed which makes a social that much more difficult." You make a keen observation Julie. I’m quite happy out in public dressed in whatever I feel like, but I’m open about who I am and don’t need to hide it from anyone. But the amount of guys who will vanish when I’m adamant about meeting in public.. luckily for me I’ve dated guys who were very happy to be out in public with me, on trains, in restaurants and bars, in the street. So I’m happy with allowing frightened men to exclude themselves. | |||
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