FabSwingers.com forum: Married men

By *ontystash OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet married men if they promise to bring their wife along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah....and so you should....sorry just my opinion but you did ask the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only meet married men if they promise to bring their wife along. "

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By *ontystash OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Fair points

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

hope you have a thick skin OP....historically these threads never end well.

Of course married men will struggle as not many like the thought of helping someone cheat, regardless of how 'good' the reason is in your eyes.

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By *woofuslondonCouple
over a year ago

london

No but thats because I have a gorgeous wife, who I dont leave home without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

You will find a lot are not honest as there are so many haters on here. Funnily enough the same haters have no problem meeting a married bi woman.

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By *woofuslondonCouple
over a year ago

london

Tbf at least the op is honest about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The doctor beat me too it! I'm married and am honest it will put off 90% of people so getting a meet from the remaining 10% is very hard, I've mainly met couples as they seem slightly less angst about it, good luck tho

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *woofuslondonCouple
over a year ago

london

He is right at the bottom admittedly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no they just have to try harder.

maybe get people to feel sorry for you because your wife is neglecting you.

quite a few women dont mind meeting married men.

i dont mind men mentioning their wives but dont like it when they keep moaning about them.

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By *ontystash OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

No it's fine say what u got to say folks I have put in profile I am married I not going to lie about but it seems ok for a married women to cheat but not a man that is just what I have seem to notice

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"No it's fine say what u got to say folks I have put in profile I am married I not going to lie about but it seems ok for a married women to cheat but not a man that is just what I have seem to notice

wat makes you say that? Each time this is bought up people say they feel the same about either sex cheating.

Its just the women rarely come on here moaning about how hard it is to cheat on their partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wat makes you say that? Each time this is bought up people say they feel the same about either sex cheating.

Its just the women rarely come on here moaning about how hard it is to cheat on their partner

I wonder why lol!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality is its the same for females and males some find cheating makes them uncomfortable as they have been in a relationship that went that way. Others often couples are not 100% secure in their relationship so its an area they avoid with others too. Some actually seek out married people as they are less likley to be clingy.

What you will find with married women is people often turn a blind eye as bi females playing alone are not that easy to find.

I commend you on your honesty, I don't know your personal situation and necessarily agree with it but neither do I have the right to condemn you so won't. I would point out airing it in a public forum could bring you some unwanted or called for vitriol.

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By *ontystash OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I not moaning Hun it's just what I have seen and heard chuck sorry if I offend

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

No ... cheating is cheating and not right or funny for the one being cheated on no matter which one is doing the cheating. Sometimes it would be easuer for us to say bugger it and only meet marrieds as they are generally not going to get clingy. but we can't as we personally think its wrong to be doing anything behind your partners back.. that goes for everything not just sex.

But pretty sure on Tv the other day they mentioned websites just for married but cheating so thats all thats on there so probably get no problems on those.

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By *ontystash OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

What you will find with married women is people often turn a blind eye as bi females playing alone are not that easy to find.

Thk you for your quote I agree with you I no I will get stick for it if I have offend ppl I am sorry what I am doing is wrong I know just want to fine out if married men have any luck on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

Dear OP please may I ask you this question:

If your mind tells you that you must seek extra sex out of your marital life, what does your heart tell you about the relationship you are in?

I am a very fortunate man who has the most amazing wife in his heart.

We talk about everything and anything and we express and talk about our desires.

If we couldn't be open, honest and truthful with each other,then personally I feel the relationship is dead.

So OP may I also ask you how you would feel if your wife felt that she needed to seek extra desires without telling you and would you feel wonderful about it?

Please do not take this reply as having a go at anyone, it's just my thought and the way I perceive the question that was asked.

All have a great day and enjoy the life and fun you seek

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By *ontystash OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

Dear OP please may I ask you this question:

If your mind tells you that you must seek extra sex out of your marital life, what does your heart tell you about the relationship you are in?

I am a very fortunate man who has the most amazing wife in his heart.

We talk about everything and anything and we express and talk about our desires.

If we couldn't be open, honest and truthful with each other,then personally I feel the relationship is dead.

So OP may I also ask you how you would feel if your wife felt that she needed to seek extra desires without telling you and would you feel wonderful about it?

Please do not take this reply as having a go at anyone, it's just my thought and the way I perceive the question that was asked.

All have a great day and enjoy the life and fun you seek

Dear sir I am totally ok with your reply if I did find out she was having an affair then we could talk and be on this site together but I know it's not good what I seek but the way it's going I won't end up meeting anyone anyway lol

And you have a grt day too

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Even if a man says he is single, if he's fibbing, a guilty look will creep onto his face pretty much the moment he's come. Dispiriting for all concerned and best avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear sir I am totally ok with your reply if I did find out she was having an affair then we could talk and be on this site together but I know it's not good what I seek but the way it's going I won't end up meeting anyone anyway lol

And you have a grt day too"

Thank you for your reply.

Why so negative about not getting a meet and why if your wife has an affair would you end up on this site as a couple?

Why don't you just be open and honest with your wife and talk

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By *ombowieMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes married man looking for discreet fun love my wife and family bit because of her stressful job she has lost interest in sex for the time being so looking to spice up sex life with married female in the same position yes find it a struggle

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

There is an interesting thread called JUDGMENTAL in the lounge.

Before you open your mouth to point out someone else's flaws, take a look at yourself and make sure you're perfect first.

I give absolutely NOBODY the right to judge me or my actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

fair play to you for being honest. Most people wouldn't say anything.

whilst i understand the comments about the validity of OPs relationship, im not sure its anyone's place to make judgements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes married man looking for discreet fun love my wife and family bit because of her stressful job she has lost interest in sex for the time being so looking to spice up sex life with married female in the same position yes find it a struggle

try making you profile a bit longer, see what other men put on theirs for ideas. add more pics maybe, go on cam and chat to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frenchbambi said it better than i could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't mind meeting married men, in many ways its better for me as they aren't going to get all clingy and attached the way that some single guys do and have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who cry "judgemental" should review their previous posts in this and other contentious subjects in the forums!

Talk about one rule for some and another rule for others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

Dear OP please may I ask you this question:

If your mind tells you that you must seek extra sex out of your marital life, what does your heart tell you about the relationship you are in?

I am a very fortunate man who has the most amazing wife in his heart.

We talk about everything and anything and we express and talk about our desires.

If we couldn't be open, honest and truthful with each other,then personally I feel the relationship is dead.

So OP may I also ask you how you would feel if your wife felt that she needed to seek extra desires without telling you and would you feel wonderful about it?

Please do not take this reply as having a go at anyone, it's just my thought and the way I perceive the question that was asked.

All have a great day and enjoy the life and fun you seek

And you have a grt day too "

I think you missed the point there. The question is the reverse of you cheating, your wife would be angry if she found out therefore you should be angry if you found out she was cheating on you not "oh let's join a swinging site then". You are only on here because you aren't getting any at home not because you necessarily want to be a swinger

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I not moaning Hun it's just what I have seen and heard chuck sorry if I offend "

OP! You cannot win this one. Like myself, you have made it clear in your profile that you are married and that in itself is commendable.

Do not take it to heart, and try not to let anyone get to you. A lot of people on this site are there just to provoke a reaction...very sad life they must have.

Have fun, believe me there are plenty of nice women on this site who will enjoy meeting with you - married or not.

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By *ipswichmaleMan
over a year ago

ipswich

Hmmmm

Not to seam rude,but why sould it matter if the male or female is married or in a relationship? I personly think that if you are looking for someone to join a couple then all you need the single person for is a sexual thing,not a relationship?

Also as said on here already if the person is married or in a relationship then there is very little chance of them becomeing clingy and you can almost guarantee absolute discretion and safe sex

Not eveyones opinion I'm sure but it is mine lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

You will find a lot are not honest as there are so many haters on here. Funnily enough the same haters have no problem meeting a married bi woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was messaged the other day by a lady looking to meet.

I never said I would meet, but I considered it right up to the point when she said her husband doesnt know.

That killed it dead.

I dont need or want the hassle.

If you reverse that. Its probably why its such a problem.

If her husband had known it might have been a possibility.

I say might because im picky and I know whay I want.

Ben

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

You will find a lot are not honest as there are so many haters on here. Funnily enough the same haters have no problem meeting a married bi woman.

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Edit: *whay = what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I was messaged the other day by a lady looking to meet.

I never said I would meet, but I considered it right up to the point when she said her husband doesnt know.

That killed it dead.

I dont need or want the hassle.

If you reverse that. Its probably why its such a problem.

If her husband had known it might have been a possibility.

I say might because im picky and I know whay I want.

Ben"

In the situation you describe, the woman may have thought twice about contacting you if you had made it clear in your profile that you do not meet married women. This is why the first thing I say to someone I contact after Hi, how are you is...I am married, will it be a problem? Saves a lot of wasted time, effort and disappointment. So far no men have openly said it was...I wonder why!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

People who have commitments both male and female can let you down at short notice. Having a partner that's not aware is a huge commitment so the chances of being let down are far higher. For us we like reliability so we tend to go for genuine sidles but in reality you only know what people tell you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf at least the op is honest about it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neadle in a haystack springs to mind!!

I am in what some call a strange situation, but honest, and up front about it, but I also respect other peoples needs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They will find it hard on here as most people don't want to get involved with anyone already involved...unless as others said they come together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I not moaning Hun it's just what I have seen and heard chuck sorry if I offend

OP! You cannot win this one. Like myself, you have made it clear in your profile that you are married and that in itself is commendable.

Do not take it to heart, and try not to let anyone get to you. A lot of people on this site are there just to provoke a reaction...very sad life they must have.

Have fun, believe me there are plenty of nice women on this site who will enjoy meeting with you - married or not."

So if people have compassion and don't want to cause upset to others or don't want the hassle if the partner finds out.. Then they are trying to cause a reaction and have sad lifes?? Seriously??

The irony is outstanding, surely those who need to look elsewhere are doing so cos they have sad lives? Lol

Oh and I don't care what sex a cheater is.. A cheater is a cheater

As for the whole judemental thing.. Its hardly judgemental to know the actions caused through cheating! Its a fact that its hurtful, disrespectful and very selfish.. Not judgemental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmmm

Also as said on here already if the person is married or in a relationship then there is very little chance of them becomeing clingy and you can almost guarantee absolute discretion and safe sex

Not eveyones opinion I'm sure but it is mine lol

Its very simple.. People come here for NSA that means no falling in love and no hassles! Hardly hassle free if a cheated on partner finds out! And many have stories to tell about that let me tell u..

So no strings = no hassles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

Dont tell people your married. Problem solved lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmmm

Also as said on here already if the person is married or in a relationship then there is very little chance of them becomeing clingy and you can almost guarantee absolute discretion and safe sex

Not eveyones opinion I'm sure but it is mine lol

Its very simple.. People come here for NSA that means no falling in love and no hassles! Hardly hassle free if a cheated on partner finds out! And many have stories to tell about that let me tell u..

So no strings = no hassles"

Agree I have had 3 or 4 calls from crazy upset partners in the last few years its a pain to deal with I used to lie now I just say ask him and hang up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

Married men are a safe bet for NSA but a lot spoil it by being desperate n mail woman too much .. Each to there own I say .. But its your private status and isnt relevant unless asked and then you decide to openly admit it !! I never had a problem with married men but learnt the hard way ( met a nice one n we get on too well ) and won't get involved with one again .. Good luck

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

this one about married men goes round in circles as this guy posted other week how do you mend a broken heart.

some play with married men whilst sum like me avoid them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

how on earth are they a safe bet for NSa.. surely strings is more than just feelings? its hassle and trouble.. try reading the post above u!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally don't mind meeting married men, in many ways its better for me as they aren't going to get all clingy and attached the way that some single guys do and have."

I've always thought this. I'm married but have full permission from my wife to play alone. It still doesn't make it any easier to get a meet.

Everyone has there own reasons to meet married people or not. I just move on to the next person that DOES want to just have some NSA fun.

I've met some lovely people on here & we've openly talked about my relationship & why I play alone.

To the OP, I've been cheated on, it hurt like f**k. 2nd marriage & honesty is certainly the best policy. Speak to your wife, you may find out that she would like to join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said it before, I'll say it every time:

Be there male or female, cheating is fucking vile.

If yer not happy, get out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

how on earth are they a safe bet for NSa.. surely strings is more than just feelings? its hassle and trouble.. try reading the post above u!"

Depends what they want if it's a one off it is NSA but if it becomes regular that opens up a huge list of disasters

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt matter which way you butter it up, cheating is wrong and has no place on this site be it male or female, this is fabswingers not fabcheaters, cheating and swinging are very far apart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

how on earth are they a safe bet for NSa.. surely strings is more than just feelings? its hassle and trouble.. try reading the post above u!

Depends what they want if it's a one off it is NSA but if it becomes regular that opens up a huge list of disasters"

Even with a one off there is a chance of comeback so not really NSA. Same as other people have said cheating has nothing to do with swinging and is actually the complete opposite of what swinging should be about. People who knowingly play with some one who is in a relationship are just as bad as the cheater. So no we don't play with married people male or female

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

I avoid married men. Apart from the moral aspect, they tend to cancel A LOT! Things crop up, kids need looking after, wife wants to go out, in-laws visiting, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

I avoid married men. Apart from the moral aspect, they tend to cancel A LOT! Things crop up, kids need looking after, wife wants to go out, in-laws visiting, etc."

Yes I agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that married men are more reliable. I've had too many singletons want to be exclusive and become a couple which is not what I want.

Married guys don't tend to ask that or want it.

Don't deliberately look for them though.

Everyone has a reason for doing what they do if its not for you don't judge just pass on by!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

I avoid married men. Apart from the moral aspect, they tend to cancel A LOT! Things crop up, kids need looking after, wife wants to go out, in-laws visiting, etc."

My wife is the baby sitter!

I can even do short notice meets.

Problem is, I'm seen as the majority of married men, cheat & unreliable

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Everyone has a reason for doing what they do if its not for you don't judge just pass on by! "
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a reason for doing what they do if its not for you don't judge just pass on by! This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had seen a lovely guy about three times who said he was a single dad, wife in some kind of end of life unit. Oh I did have great fun when I bumped into him, his wife and kids in Asda. What pleasure following him round the supermarket and not saying a word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

I avoid married men. Apart from the moral aspect, they tend to cancel A LOT! Things crop up, kids need looking after, wife wants to go out, in-laws visiting, etc."

Bloody right!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

What you'll find is married women get on with it and don't seek to justify their shannanigans: married men however start threads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that married men are more reliable. I've had too many singletons want to be exclusive and become a couple which is not what I want.

Married guys don't tend to ask that or want it.

Don't deliberately look for them though.

Everyone has a reason for doing what they do if its not for you don't judge just pass on by! "

I agree with this. Married guys do not tend to be clingy, so that bit is positive. The moral aspect is something else. I have been both sides of the fence there and it's not nice.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I was messaged the other day by a lady looking to meet.

I never said I would meet, but I considered it right up to the point when she said her husband doesnt know.

That killed it dead.

I dont need or want the hassle.

If you reverse that. Its probably why its such a problem.

If her husband had known it might have been a possibility.

I say might because im picky and I know whay I want.

Ben

When visible my profile says no married men, doesn't stop them contacting me though.

I don't play with married men now as they don't suit how I play. I don't invite anyone into my home who can't/wont invite me into theirs. Also I'm not having someone come in my house and tell me not to wear perfume, not to mark them etc, no fun for me, why would I meet?!! Nah!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Everyone has a reason for doing what they do if its not for you don't judge just pass on by! This

Likewise married people, if someone has "no married or attached" on their profile don't pester, move on to those who don't care!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

just taken this bit from your profile...

"I always treat ladies with respect"

that obviously doesn't include the one you profess to love more than any other......

warped sense of "respect" then.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the many problems with cheats is that if they happily lie to their partner's then how can you trust a word they say. And few liars are anything other than selfish, usually very selfish and desperately trying to justify their actions usually with more lies.

According to the green arrow just 2 weeks ago the OP had a broken heart. And plenty of people gave heart felt advice. Yet on the face of it is far from being broken hearted. So OP a sincere question, what was that thread about if not another lie to garner sympathy and presumably hopefully a shag?

So you lie to your partner, you lie on the forums and people wonder why cheats who seek vindication are judged and generally held in contempt bymany on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I would like to nominate you as the biggest green arrow user. Please accept the Miss Marple Green Arrow award

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I would like to nominate you as the biggest green arrow user. Please accept the Miss Marple Green Arrow award

I have been here a long time and never knew about the green arrow!!

So yes, please accept your award!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"One of the many problems with cheats is that if they happily lie to their partner's then how can you trust a word they say. And few liars are anything other than selfish, usually very selfish and desperately trying to justify their actions usually with more lies.

So you lie to your partner, you lie on the forums and people wonder why cheats who seek vindication are judged and generally held in contempt bymany on here?"

all i have to say to that is..

"the prosecution rests.... your witness the defence!!! "........

now this reply I would be interested in hearing this rebuttal..

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By *inky BunnyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

You will find a lot are not honest as there are so many haters on here. Funnily enough the same haters have no problem meeting a married bi woman.

Bravo! 100% correct

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"I had seen a lovely guy about three times who said he was a single dad, wife in some kind of end of life unit. Oh I did have great fun when I bumped into him, his wife and kids in Asda. What pleasure following him round the supermarket and not saying a word

What an arse eh!!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

You will find a lot are not honest as there are so many haters on here. Funnily enough the same haters have no problem meeting a married bi woman.

Bravo! 100% correct

I'm a married bi woman who meets couples alone on occasion....however that doesn't make me a married bi woman who is cheating.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

So you lie to your partner, you lie on the forums and people wonder why cheats who seek vindication are judged and generally held in contempt bymany on here?"

perhaps he had a regular person he nmet who he had strong feeling for and they ended things. Just because it wasnt his wife that roke his heart doesnt mean it wasnt broken at all.

sometimes in life things are not black and white. I am not talking about the reasons why he is cheating, i am not interested in that, but it is possible to love more than one person at a time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the Fabsters have very good memories, FACT!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this statement, it's ok for woman and nothing said but as a man we get so much stick...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A cheat is a cheat, regardless of gender or circumstances, IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A cheat is a cheat, regardless of gender or circumstances, IMHO.

It doesn't seem to matter how many people say this, the cheaters don't listen and I wander if its a way they try and justify their actions to themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A cheat is a cheat, regardless of gender or circumstances, IMHO.

Agreed, but I do agree that the married women on here get a much easier time than the married men.

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"We only meet married men if they promise to bring their wife along. "

That's fine. But only so long as they don't promise to bring her along AFTER the first meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A cheat is a cheat, regardless of gender or circumstances, IMHO.

Agreed, but I do agree that the married women on here get a much easier time than the married men. "

Proberly cos men have a more lax approach towards it.

Also they don't start threads on it

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

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Really ? Why stalk him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A cheat is a cheat, regardless of gender or circumstances, IMHO.

Agreed, but I do agree that the married women on here get a much easier time than the married men.

Proberly cos men have a more lax approach towards it.

Also they don't start threads on it"

I disagree, I've seen some women start threads on it and boast about it, makes my skin crawl having been on the receiving end of being cheated on. But that's just the way life is

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

We wouldn't consider meeting a married women for one minute. Your life your choices but we're not hypocritical to limit that to just guys. Fuck buddies also hold no interest.

It works fine for us this way

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

People are people at the end of the day and nothing anyone says will stop them doing what they do.........

Choose to meet them or not.........

They know the risks they are taking.......

It's easy to say I'd never do that, but until you walk in someone's shoes for long enough, how can you really say what you'd do ? So easy to say if you are not happy in a relationship then end it, but not always easy to do in every circumstance.

If you don't like, don't meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about couples??? If they meet another couple and swap partners is that not classed as cheating then????

I have been cheated on in the past and would never blame the female. They were not the one in the relationship with me. If a married person wants to cheat they are going to do it with someone, somewhere, at some stage.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

Do you believe it would be easier if you were single?

Everyone struggles to find something that suits them...

Some just dont struggle for long...

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"What about couples??? If they meet another couple and swap partners is that not classed as cheating then????

Nope...Thats an agreed situation, no cheating required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about couples??? If they meet another couple and swap partners is that not classed as cheating then????

Nope...Thats an agreed situation, no cheating required

and married men cant have an "agreed situation" without their wives being on here with them????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're married or in a relationship and the other party doesn't know then it being unfaithful. Doesn't matter if its the man or woman doing it. You're lucky enough to have someone in your life. That to me still means a lot.

If you want extra sex, then the partner either should know and agree with it or you should grow a set of bollocks and become single

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"What about couples??? If they meet another couple and swap partners is that not classed as cheating then????

Nope...Thats an agreed situation, no cheating required

and married men cant have an "agreed situation" without their wives being on here with them???? "

Then they not a couple meeting other couples....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I treat cheaters the same way, regardless of gender or circumstances.

I cheated on my ex hubby, and shall regret having caused him so much pain and heartache for the rest of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are people at the end of the day and nothing anyone says will stop them doing what they do.........

Choose to meet them or not.........

They know the risks they are taking.......

If you don't like, don't meet."

Hhmm. I kind of agree with what you've said. But it doesn't make cheating any less vile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im married and state that in my profile. I dont come on forum moaning about my husband, nothing to moan about apart from the obvious and thats my problem no-one else's. Yes Im cheating and will admit that to anyone who asks me. Its wrong yes but Im here and im not leaving. I know I will get comments about it all the time either good or bad, have had them before. Ive had meets but not recently, not sure why but thats it. Not only married guys get the problem but then it is probably that im not anyone's type just at the moment. Ive got one set up for Sunday but its early yet, could go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how do people uphold their morals on cheating if they play at parties or clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

I'm not a married man n I'm veering slightly off kilter from the question in yr post here but yesterday I pulled in2 a local notorious hook up spot n yet again was struck by the vast number of married men dropping in, parking up and engaging in consensual m/m sex activities u altho doubtless they would probably have preferred access to a pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

And this is one example of why bi and gay men are categorised as being higher risk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ?

And this is one example of why bi and gay men are categorised as being higher risk

The point I was endeavouring to elucidate is that virtually all those men would vehemently deny they were bi if challenged in the 'vanilla' world. Obviously their wives will be ignorant of their activities. In fact could YOU walk down a high street n pick out the totally straight from the bi?? Of course NOT

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

To be honest, HONESTY is important for us both. If you can't be honest with your wife who can you be honest with. That would go for single women as well. Deception or cheating has a nasty habit of biting you in the arse when you least expect it.........

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Speechless from Derby

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" "

C'mon spit it out

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

C'mon spit it out

Or swallow

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The basic problem is this. Swinging is lots of fun but......... it carries high risks. If I was the type of person that didn't like swinging and wanted my partner to be faithful (yeah that's what it says in the marriage vows) then it would be almost criminal if your partner was taking risks. Remember swinging can introduce all sort of horrible diseases into your comfy world and wearing a condom does not protect you from all of them so man up (woman up). I did make that choice and got divorced so can hold my head up reasonably high. Either stop swinging if your partner doesn't know or tell them you want to and let them decide if the want to take the same risks as you are. I suspect they will tell you to take a running jump. Remember if you knowingly give someone HIV you are committing a criminal offence. It is called reckless endangerment I think or something like that.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how do people uphold their morals on cheating if they play at parties or clubs?"

i dont do clubs or parties

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"116"

117?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If someone wants to cheat its up to them, but it does make me laugh when they then put on their profile honest and reliable. Also there are some that wear married and cheating like a badge of honour, they should state it on their profile and then leave it, not go boasting about it as some do.

Its them that have to look their husband/wife in the eye when they find out that they have been shagging behind their backs

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married or not, it's bloody hard to get any kind of reply on this site, simply because of ratios. Most messages don't even get read. And those that do, often don't bother to look at your profile. I'm not moaning by the way, just stating the facts. Women get hundreds of messages a day, it's very hard to stand out.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"If someone wants to cheat its up to them"

120

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By *heffmistressWoman
over a year ago

sheffield

"Just wanted to see if any other married men find it a struggle on here ? "

We actually prefer married men as long as they are into our kink

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"If someone wants to cheat its up to them

120"

Is there a reason you quoted the first few words of my post or are you just letting us all know that you can count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone wants to cheat its up to them

120

Is there a reason you quoted the first few words of my post or are you just letting us all know that you can count?"

I assume she's trying to get the thread to 175 and get it locked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married men .. Hmmm ...

Thing is I am reluctant because I don't want them hiding their faces whilst out in public in case they are seen , which has happened , and find sneaking about not very exciting .

.. I was cheated on by my ex when i was very ill and couldn't have a sexual relationship with him for nearly 4 yrs .Also during our marriage we had 5 children very close in age , long term breatfeeding etc which brings its own recipe for a flagging sex life .

In hindsight I wish we had entered swinging then as I think although he would be having sex elsewhere , I would not perceive it as a threat that he was gonna run off and leave me whilst seriously ill and with young children . I would have been happy that, although I couldn't be intimate with him , someone else could be. The pressure to be intimate at the time of my illness was suffocating and put us under a lot of strain. However when I fully recovered I found my libido had returned , then it was me who suggested to have an open marriage . However due to all the disharmony , anger etc caused over the years from him towards me because I couldn't be a proper wife in the end , destroyed our marriage and the way I see him now .. I just have no sexual feelings towards him anymore , although I still very fond of him.

However although I now play alone and no longer intimate with him , he is able to play with whoever he wants .

And we continue to live under same roof , separate beds , to avoid breaking up the family home with 5 young children .

So seeing things from both sides , I can understand why married peeps play away esp if the other half is ill or disinterested .

I think the divorce rate could be halved if permission was given so either party can play away without the threat of leaving the marriage and swopping one domestic disaster for another

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

We are married we play mainly as couple ,we also play solo ,we don't need to cheat we are swingers and enjoy having sex with other people,reasons for playing solo ,we both have a high sex drive,we both may be working away from home,it gives us plenty to talk about, but there are a hell of a lot of people on here who do cheat,we tend to ignore them,we do sometimes play with one half of couple at clubs or party's,with other half of couple either watching or otherwise engaged ,and vise,versa

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

We only play with single guys in clubs so in most cases we wouldn't know if they are married or not. Some we have spoken to have been truthful and for us in a club situation we are not bothered either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even in 2013 we still live in a world where soooo many other people want to imprint there faux morals on2 us!

Let's face the fact 'society' tries to inculcate us that relationships should ONLY be one on one in a loving ongoing environment (not that personally I GIVE A TOSS for society's demarcations! )

Anything that is deviating from that foisted,perceived NORM would therefore make us ALL on here immoral.

Obviously none of us give a rat's behind about that so I guess never was more apt the phrase 'let he who is without sin bla bla bla...... '

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Even in 2013 we still live in a world where soooo many other people want to imprint there faux morals on2 us!

Let's face the fact 'society' tries to inculcate us that relationships should ONLY be one on one in a loving ongoing environment (not that personally I GIVE A TOSS for society's demarcations! )

Anything that is deviating from that foisted,perceived NORM would therefore make us ALL on here immoral.

Obviously none of us give a rat's behind about that so I guess never was more apt the phrase 'let he who is without sin bla bla bla...... '

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I think those are some very valid points!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Even in 2013 we still live in a world where soooo many other people want to imprint there faux morals on2 us!

Let's face the fact 'society' tries to inculcate us that relationships should ONLY be one on one in a loving ongoing environment (not that personally I GIVE A TOSS for society's demarcations! )

Anything that is deviating from that foisted,perceived NORM would therefore make us ALL on here immoral.

Obviously none of us give a rat's behind about that so I guess never was more apt the phrase 'let he who is without sin bla bla bla...... '

I think those are some very valid points!

I concur

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Married men .. Hmmm ...

Thing is I am reluctant because I don't want them hiding their faces whilst out in public in case they are seen , which has happened , and find sneaking about not very exciting .

However although I now play alone and no longer intimate with him , he is able to play with whoever he wants .

And we continue to live under same roof , separate beds , to avoid breaking up the family home with 5 young children .

So seeing things from both sides , I can understand why married peeps play away esp if the other half is ill or disinterested .

I think the divorce rate could be halved if permission was given so either party can play away without the threat of leaving the marriage and swopping one domestic disaster for another

very true, however the one biggest thing missing from alot of relationships and the cause of so much upset and heartbreak is alot of couples (not swinging couples thats what they do do) is open conversation about everything.

Thats the key, it maybe if alot of the marrieds going behind others back on here (not all) were to have open honest conversations with other halfs about everything especially their sex life or desires then there would be alot more couples joining as well as alot more being allowed to play.

In all honesty its more than likely as long as taking precautions so as to not expose the partner at home to anything nasty, not the sex thats the problem, its the lies. If its done openly with full knowledge and permission then there shouldnt be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married men .. Hmmm ...

Thing is I am reluctant because I don't want them hiding their faces whilst out in public in case they are seen , which has happened , and find sneaking about not very exciting .

However although I now play alone and no longer intimate with him , he is able to play with whoever he wants .

And we continue to live under same roof , separate beds , to avoid breaking up the family home with 5 young children .

So seeing things from both sides , I can understand why married peeps play away esp if the other half is ill or disinterested .

I think the divorce rate could be halved if permission was given so either party can play away without the threat of leaving the marriage and swopping one domestic disaster for another

In all honesty its more than likely as long as taking precautions so as to not expose the partner at home to anything

nasty, not the sex thats the problem, its the lies. If its done openly with full knowledge and permission then there shouldnt be a problem."

Hmmmmmmm I'm not sure things would truly pan out that way. We can encounter bigoted moralizing people on here n I suspect there's an even higher percentage out in the vanilla world.

I've never been married or sired children but it would not be disproportionate to assume that many married men who 'play ' are not looking to exchange the bonds they share with a 'partner' , children and extended family members for the occasional random bonk with strangers.

The crux of the situation is that if married men (or women) wish to 'play away ' it's none of our business only in so far as you can choose to decline to meet them if that is your personal preference. It is the 'holier than thou' attitude that a percentage of other people adopt that I find distasteful (but then what do I know lol! )