FabSwingers.com forum: What is your biggest regret in life

By *sStephenPickle OP Man
2 days ago

Ends

I know it’s no ragrets but is there anything you would consider doing differently?

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By *enda83Man
2 days ago

newcastle

I regret giving 15 years of my life to my ex, it’s not that simple though as I got two wonderful children out of it, one who lives with me full time and the other lives with me now 8 days out of 14 and plans to live with me when she leaves school. If there was a way to change her and keep everything else the same I’d do it in a heartbeat I always wanted my kids to have a proper family all of their lives not just as young kids and consider it a massive failure the fact that is not the case

Deep I know ha sorry

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By *oxy-RedWoman
2 days ago

pink panther territory

My only regret is never learn ing to drive

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By *rHotNottsMan
2 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Probably my only major regret is only having 3 kids. It’s quite sad but every year older I get I regret it more and feel it slowly going out of reach 😭😭

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By *ora the explorerWoman
2 days ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t have many but I would probably have had less of an age gap between my children. I was always too sensible and didn’t because we couldn’t afford it. We’d have probably managed , everyone else seemed to!

Also smoking.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
2 days ago

the moon

Time …..

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 days ago

Carlisle usually

Trying to be normal. Thinking "Haha let's see how bad it can get" to an obvious dumpster fire of red flags while in a very self destructive spiral.

Both of them I knew I knew better. But I did the stupid thing anyway.

Anything else was an actual learning experience even if it sucked 💜

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By *ickshawedCouple
2 days ago

Wolverhampton

Not telling my grandad I was pregnant while he lay on his deathbed

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 days ago

Herts/Beds/London

Not something I made a conscious decision about, and I know it’s gonna sound odd, but…

Being gay.

I can’t help think life might have been more fulfilling if I’d been straight.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 days ago

East Sussex

I regret (we both do) not moving to mainland Europe when we were younger and it was easy.

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By *tr8MrEMan
2 days ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"I regret giving 15 years of my life to my ex, it’s not that simple though as I got two wonderful children out of it, one who lives with me full time and the other lives with me now 8 days out of 14 and plans to live with me when she leaves school. If there was a way to change her and keep everything else the same I’d do it in a heartbeat I always wanted my kids to have a proper family all of their lives not just as young kids and consider it a massive failure the fact that is not the case

Deep I know ha sorry "

I feel you pain mate, but you surround your children with love and be the best father you can be and they will (trust me) love you eternally.

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By *eorgesdad69Man
2 days ago

Long Eaton

Not telling the barber when I was 18 that the way he massaged my head as he washed my hair had given me a boner, I am sure he would have responded positively 😃💔

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
2 days ago

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"Not something I made a conscious decision about, and I know it’s gonna sound odd, but…

Being gay.

I can’t help think life might have been more fulfilling if I’d been straight. "

I’ve had similar thoughts about race before so I get it. Not that it helps but I see you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 days ago

East Sussex

"I regret (we both do) not moving to mainland Europe when we were younger and it was easy. "

Who knows though, if we had I might have been answering this as

'moving to mainland Europe when we were younger'

That's the thing with regrets you don't know how things would have worked out otherwise

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
2 days ago

Reading

My first thought was not trying harder to keep in contact with people. School friends, uni friends, that sort of thing.

But actually, I only really regret that I didn't try harder with my brother. He's my only family and I let my dad be our go-between for too long and for too much.

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By *ssexPerv80Man
2 days ago

Essex & London

I clung on to some people too long and walked away from others too quickly.

I also learned to love myself much too late in life.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 days ago

Herts/Beds/London

"Not something I made a conscious decision about, and I know it’s gonna sound odd, but…

Being gay.

I can’t help think life might have been more fulfilling if I’d been straight.

I’ve had similar thoughts about race before so I get it. Not that it helps but I see you "

It’s ok. I get to be a pillow princess so it all worked out in the end. #lazyfuck

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple
2 days ago

Voldsøy

Selling our Billie Eilish tickets. I'm not even joking! I beat myself up daily about it. I should have just waited it out, and realise we could go. 🤦‍♀️

I'd change the night I ignored my (very early) curfew to stay out with friends, when I was 17. I should have gone home.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
2 days ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Spending too long (and still do) not liking myself and thinking didn't deserve to exist

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By *aveman 77Man
2 days ago

Rotherham

"My only regret is never learn ing to drive "
there is always time not as easy as it was definitely expensive but I still say its worth it

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By *ermite12ukMan
2 days ago

Solihull and Romford

Leaving school at 16 and not embarking on further education until much later on in life.

Also, not saving for the future, aka a pension.

Buying a leasehold property.

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By *urry BlokeMan
2 days ago

I don't look back with regret

It's a sure fire way to beat yourself up over a thing that happened, generally in the past

What you did shaped you, made you (sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse), but it's happened and you make things work for you and with what you've got, including the inevitable baggage

That said, I wish that 30 years ago, a place like Fab had existed

I do think my life would have taken a sliding door rather than a revolving one

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By *oeBeansMan
2 days ago

Derby

Probably not travelling or making more of my life in my early 20s. I felt so career focused with the drive to try and save as much much as I could that I see younger people out nowadays and sort of envy them because of some kind of lost youth.

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By *luboyoMan
2 days ago

North West / Birmingham

"My only regret is never learn ing to drive "

Just do it. Even now, it's literally life changing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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2 days ago

East Sussex

"My only regret is never learn ing to drive "

It's not the pleasure it once was especially in the south east. The roads are crowded, parking is an expensive nightmare, other road users see driving as a secondary occupation to the main one of chatting to their passenger or listening to a podcast on bloomin headphones and that's before you get into fuel costs and vehicle maintenance

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By *sWyldWoman
2 days ago

Edinburgh

Getting married at 16 was a huge mistake . I knew it at the time and I regret not having the bravery to stop it

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By *eardedguy83Man
2 days ago

Kidderminster

Not breaking 3 hours for a marathon

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By *aybeLadyWoman
2 days ago

West Dublin

Marrying him. I know I have my kids but staying with their dad ruined my life and it still does, despite being divorced.

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By *enatton2Couple
2 days ago

West Midlands

Not swinging and playing earlier than we did. Feels like we missed our prime and we’re getting too old for the people we would like to play with

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
2 days ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Studying what I studied in Uni 🤨

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By *orflondonerMan
2 days ago

Wood Green

"My only regret is never learn ing to drive "

This is mine as well

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By *ookie46Woman
2 days ago

Deepest darkest Peru

After having my fourth child staying in my marriage for another seven years

Also not taking the opportunity to work abroad when the chance came up when I was younger

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 days ago

Reading

Not really. I was pretty sure my first marriage wouldn't last but I got my lovely kids out of it,

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 days ago

Reading

Oh no I do have one. Not getting on top of the diabetes sooner. That was stupid.

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By *zippyMan
2 days ago

Wexford

Excessive use of alcohol as a crutch to deal with lack of confidence and low self esteem in my younger years, thankfully I kicked the habit around 11 years ago but the amount of money I put over the counter is eye watering.

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By *ansoffateMan
2 days ago

Sagittarius A

Maybe I should have accepted that invitation from the redhead in Reno and taken off in her old campervan.

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By *arkus1812Man
2 days ago

Finedon ,

Selling my house in France

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
2 days ago

North West

Nah, that way madness lies. Because who knows which regret is the flap of the butterfly wings that changes everything.

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By *ansoffateMan
2 days ago

Sagittarius A

"Nah, that way madness lies. Because who knows which regret is the flap of the butterfly wings that changes everything."

Mad people have the best tea parties though.

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By *ohnnySweetMan
2 days ago

LONDON

Not taking my masters all those years ago

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By *ortySwitchMan
2 days ago

london

"Not telling my grandad I was pregnant while he lay on his deathbed"

Umm, why? Was it his? I think we need more detail here

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
2 days ago

Someplace

Leaving uni for a man

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
2 days ago

manchester

I have four days in my life I regret one was agreeing to marry my first wife. I do believe in fate and have been with Cammy for 23 years and happily married for the past three years. I do regret we did not get into this lifestyle earlier even though we had a good early introduction.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
2 days ago

Manchester

I haven't got time to write this essay.

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 days ago

Leeds

Not joining the navy x

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By *tr8MrEMan
2 days ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"Not joining the navy x"

Not meeting her ⬆️

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By *verageHoesCouple
2 days ago

Leeds

Nowt. Like everyone, I've made some questionable decisions in the past, been thoughtless and selfish at times, but it's all been a learning opportunity and I hope I'm a better person for it.

The one thing I do feel consistently bad about is passing my wonky autism genes onto my son, as he's really suffered through his teenage years. I know technically it's not my fault, I didn't know I was autistic until he was 10, but still. Fortunately, he's having a much better time of it now.

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By *eralt80Man
2 days ago

cork

I’ve two. Not travelling more when I was younger even when I was given opportunities to do so and not learning to swim

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By *eve500Man
2 days ago

Leeds

Deep I know ha sorry "

So you've still not forgiven her after 15 years? That's a lot of thinking time wasted isn't it? Try thinking of it, rather than a bad relationship, a good one that didn't last. Accept your part in its failure, and in time you will realise that you don't need to forgive her because there is nothing to forgive her for.....

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
2 days ago

I regret moving to Cornwall

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By *avie65Man
2 days ago

In the west.

Leaving school as soon as I could.

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By *viatrixWoman
2 days ago

Redhill

Not having made my chindren bilingual. I regret that bitterly.

Apart from that, not much else.

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By *a LunaWoman
2 days ago

o o OO o o

Selling my house.

Gah!!!!!!!

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By *ldclitlickerMan
2 days ago

portsmouth

Not licking more pussy

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By *ittlebirdWoman
2 days ago

The Big Smoke

"I know it’s no ragrets but is there anything you would consider doing differently? "

Not putting myself first ever.

I’m trying to change that but it’s hard to. I guess boundaries. That’s my regret x

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By *andering_welshman2025Man
2 days ago

KIRKBY

Not actually doing better in school!!

Not traveling enough!!

Wasting too many weekends festering!!

Still being single after 8 years of separation from my ex - yes…I want a bloody girlfriend!!! 🤯🤯😂

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By *annyDanielleMan
2 days ago

Street, Somerset

Not discovering this lifestyle sooner. By now i'd have thousands of verifications and an arse like the Dartford Tunnel.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
2 days ago

belfast

Not joining the army.

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
2 days ago

Prestwich

Being in relationship most of my life.

Wish I'd played the field more.

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By *imbob85Man
2 days ago

inverness

Trying to be the nice guy

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By *aloma PicassoWoman
2 days ago

Waterford city

Not learning to rollerskate before my 50th birthday like l promised myself

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By *ellinever70Woman
2 days ago

Ayrshire

Nah...I don't like to torture myself with what ifs

It would be soul destroying

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By *arker secrets 321Man
2 days ago

West Bromwich

Not avin children x

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By *enelope2UWoman
2 days ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Moving to the UK giving up my career and lifestyle.

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By *enguin73Man
2 days ago

Aberdeen

People telling me an ex girlfriend want good enough for me . I was late teens and wish I hadn’t listened to them , she was a great girl .

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By *ellTrixieWoman
2 days ago

Telford

Not doing what I’m doing now but earlier in life although I didn’t have someone who is an ace at what he does until 2 months ago so I’m assuming I would have been swimming with sharks then.

Trixie

P.S. Please read the profile

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By *ools and the brainCouple
2 days ago

couple, us we him her.

A few but difficult to regret choices that have given me almost 40 years together with my beautiful wife and two fantastic children and grandchildren as a result.

Career choices, yeah.

Bad financial choices DEFINITELY.

But if I could pinpoint one regret.

I wish I'd studied harder at school and taken more notice, instead of being the class clown and spending more time sitting outside various headteachers offices than sitting in class, doing my homework and asking more questions.

Having the confidence to speak up and explain that I didn't understand not realising that I had dyslexia and discalulia resulting in English and mainly maths basically feeling like another language that I could work out.

Being forced by my mother to sit for hours and hours copying pages and pages from Charles Dickens and shakespeare in order to improve my writing and spelling it always ended up looking like a illegible mess no matter how hard I tried.

So yeah I regret that part of my life.

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By *moothdickMan
2 days ago

stoke

Not returning to the careers office to join the Royal Navy .. but of a long story .. looking at positive though, if I had of done, then certain great things wouldn’t of a happened has I’d of been on a different path .. oh and smoking

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By *os19Man
2 days ago

Edmonton

From a life perspective 18-40 age range I regret not making more friends and been more social like going out to pub , clubs , parties.Perhaps if I had I would have had some friends and maybe someone special in my life.From a work perspective not really trying hard enough to go for promotion.Now 24 years later I am in the lowest grade possible whilst some colleagues are one or two grades higher than me who are not better than me.All my fault guess I am one of life’s losers.

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By *2000ManMan
2 days ago

Worthing

Taking a different route to avoid a major accident which wrote off my car. I can still recall it in vivid detail. Made me the careful driver I am today.

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
2 days ago

Bristol

Not taking up the offer I received after graduating Uni to train as an auditor. I wanted to travel and enjoy myself, there’s plenty of dumb things I’ve done in life, and though I hold no real regrets, looking back that’s the one I always think I’d do differently.

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By *emajvMan
2 days ago

Derby/Nottingham

Only ever one sexual female partner I have only had sex with my wife. I do not regret getting married or anything just that I never had any other sexual encounters with any other females before so will never know

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By *ein-guyMan
2 days ago

East Cowes

"I know it’s no ragrets but is there anything you would consider doing differently? "

Acting more on my sexual opportunities when i was younger. So many missed opportunities and experiences

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By *inxy777Woman
2 days ago

essex

Ending it x

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By *ineapplePixie69!Couple
2 days ago

Neverland

I don't regret anything, if it wasn't for all I've done I wouldn't be where I am now...never been happier and would want to change any past events that could lead to a different now 😂

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