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You’re meeting someone for the sex, do you need to talk to them much before? Do you mind if you don’t talk at all until the day? What do you need?

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By *hil most chillMan
5 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

I like a little chit chat leading up to the meet, just to confirm they're still interested and it's going ahead. It's nice to save some chat for the meet though, especially if it's a first meet

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By *eavenscentitCouple
5 weeks ago

barnstaple

It's important to me, I need my mind stimulating and my body follows.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
5 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Mutual desire.

On very rare occasions this has been purely physical for me.

Mostly I need at least a little mental chemistry 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I don't need constant chat as that can get a bit boring. But if they go really quiet on me then the doubt starts to creep in and mess with my head. I like to know they are still interested now and then. In my mind it doesn't take much to check in with someone.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

Respect.

Bring a preference not an option.

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
5 weeks ago

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"Respect.

Bring a preference not an option.

Ooooo you spitting today

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By *sWyldWoman
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Aside from chemistry. Matched effort and energy. I also feel like the only girl in the world when we are together.

Does that make me demanding?

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By *rHotNottsMan
5 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Just a bit - I’m more a face to face person. I give my full attention in person but not much virtually

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By *midnight-Woman
5 weeks ago

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"You’re meeting someone for the sex, do you need to talk to them much before? Do you mind if you don’t talk at all until the day? What do you need?"

I mostly need to know what to wear

and then I like to hear that they are looking forward to seeing me. Otherwise it's low level occasional chat

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By *tr8MrEMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

Honesty

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By *rHotNottsMan
5 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Aside from chemistry. Matched effort and energy. I also feel like the only girl in the world when we are together.

Does that make me demanding?"

No that’s exactly how it should be. If someone I’m with talks about others (on here) or goes on the phone I think I chose badly !

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"Respect.

Bring a preference not an option.

Ooooo you spitting today "

You can’t tell but I was singing.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

[deep breath]

B.R.I.N etc you get the idea.

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By *urry BlokeMan
5 weeks ago

I am not a swinger

I don't talk the talk

I lose interest very quickly with chit chat

I'm not overly interested in other people's lives

The longer I chat before meeting, the more likely I am to become bored by them

I don't need an emotional spark as long as the physical is there

I find 'flirting' cringey

As for all that wanting tease and build up to a meet - again I find it all a bit contrived and cringey

Meet me for a coffee by all means

I'd never go to a social wanting or expecting sex

Socials and meets are completely different meets to me

Make your mind up from there if you want to block me, fuck me or just be mates

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All I will say is...

I am glad I fancy men too

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By *ames - 1983Man
5 weeks ago

kingswinford

Meeting right there and get to know each other

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By *ancashireredheadWoman
5 weeks ago

Up North

Bring a preference not an option.

Yep, this ⬆️ 👏🏼

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
5 weeks ago

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"I like a little chit chat leading up to the meet, just to confirm they're still interested and it's going ahead. It's nice to save some chat for the meet though, especially if it's a first meet"

Do you worry you’ll run out of things to talk about?

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By *eliWoman
5 weeks ago

Do you mean immediately before as in the run up to a *word that should be banned*?

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By *oeBeansMan
5 weeks ago

Derby

I like a bit of flirting leading up to the meet just show that that they're still interested if nothing else 😅

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By *hil most chillMan
5 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

"I like a little chit chat leading up to the meet, just to confirm they're still interested and it's going ahead. It's nice to save some chat for the meet though, especially if it's a first meet

Do you worry you’ll run out of things to talk about?"

I guess, I like a chat and flirt, but am not one of those natural conversationists who can just talk endlessly about nothing. Althogh having shared experiences of this site usually means both parties usually have plenty of stories to draw upon.

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By *hil most chillMan
5 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

"Do you mean immediately before as in the run up to a *word that should be banned*?"

Now I'm curious, which word should be banned?

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It connection and talking is essential for both of us.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
5 weeks ago

Swansea

"I am not a swinger

I don't talk the talk

I lose interest very quickly with chit chat

I'm not overly interested in other people's lives

The longer I chat before meeting, the more likely I am to become bored by them

I don't need an emotional spark as long as the physical is there

I find 'flirting' cringey

As for all that wanting tease and build up to a meet - again I find it all a bit contrived and cringey

Meet me for a coffee by all means

I'd never go to a social wanting or expecting sex

Socials and meets are completely different meets to me

Make your mind up from there if you want to block me, fuck me or just be mates

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All I will say is...

I am glad I fancy men too"

You have pretty much described me. I am not interested in becoming pen pals (as I end up friend zoning them), I am not interested to know every detail of their day, more importantly I haven't got the time in my day to dedicate to a person that actually isn't of significant importance to me. If I have such an amount of spare time to chat or flirt then I am going to send it all my husband's way.

If it's going to take a while before diaries align then I'm very content to hold off from chatting until much nearer the time. Then I chat to confirm meeting details. The real conversation happens at a planned social. I like to look at a person, read body language, and I show much more interest in them in person. Which in turn creates a feeling of excitement.

A significant thrill for me is how the anticipation is spicing up things between my husband and I. We both enjoy the build up and post meet chats that we have together before and during sex.

Mrs

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By *enelope2UWoman
5 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I don't meet "someone" for sex.

I only deal with FWBs and there's zero rules for them.

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By *ansoffateMan
5 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

The swirly sensation of our shared desire.

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
5 weeks ago

Someplace

If i'm meeting someone solely for that, I don't really care for talking. Kissing is a must tho 🤔

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
5 weeks ago

North West

Not huge amounts in terms of volume of messages. But a level of enthusiasm and anticipation is needed within those messages.

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By *parkle1974Woman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

"I don't meet "someone" for sex.

I only deal with FWBs and there's zero rules for them."

Me too....though I do need honesty even from them.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
5 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"You’re meeting someone for the sex, do you need to talk to them much before? Do you mind if you don’t talk at all until the day? What do you need?"

Luckily for me I never just meet someone for le sex. If I did I perhaps would get a different job.

I make friends. Always friends. Some with benefits 😘

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
5 weeks ago

North West

"You’re meeting someone for the sex, do you need to talk to them much before? Do you mind if you don’t talk at all until the day? What do you need?

Luckily for me I never just meet someone for le sex. If I did I perhaps would get a different job.

I make friends. Always friends. Some with benefits 😘"

Yes this. It might not be the sort of friendship that requires daily conversation but always some level of friendship 🥰

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By *a LunaWoman
5 weeks ago

o o OO o o

Humour.

An offer of liquid refreshment, and I don’t mean their cum and a straw.

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By *lackpearlWoman
5 weeks ago

worsley

Lol not at all

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By *asha86Couple
5 weeks ago

walsall

Banter....someone who can make you laugh because at the end of the day life's too short

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