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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

o0o0o tough one.. id go for option A actually (please dont shoot me)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say B. There's not cure for HIV/Aids and a couple of other STD's. So testing is moot if you catch it from a bareback meet.

At least those who use a condom are actively reducing their risks of catching something nasty and passing it on to someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nasties can take a few months to show up on a test, especially in the case of HIV. So I guess, theoretically, if someone had sex bareback and then waited six months to get the all clear before fucking anyone else, they'd be as safe as someone who uses condoms. However, people are not like that in reality. Condoms are an important part of sex for me, as is regular testing. Neither option is particularly safe. Even condoms do not offer a cast iron guarantee you will not contract anything unpleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly."

The safest of all are those who abstain altogether, but where's the fun in that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly."

Obviously, but that wasn't one of the original options.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't like to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly."

THIS!

Also, what if the bareback person has no diseases at all (LOL AS IF), but then you get pregnant? Thanks, but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who use condoms but have regular checks also

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By *lyce and Mister MCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?"

Honestly don't know...prevention is better than cure, but if you never get tested then you'll never know you need to be cured. Guess the latter is more naive in assuming condoms will keep them safe and they don't need to be tested so think I'm leaning towards the person having tests being safer as they won't continue to infect others for the same length of time after infection?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?"

Surely that’s the same as deciding whether or not its safer wearing a swimming costume to go swimming with sharks....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo condoms and being tested after every sexual encounter

If someone went bareback with me they would prob get called daddy

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By *BW100Couple
over a year ago

Suffolk/Norfolk border

How regular are you expecting people to get tested if your going bareback, it only takes one infected person just after they have been tested to pass it on and then they may not get tested for another couple of months. Condom for me, at least it gives you some protection, when my partner and I were last tested we were also given Hep B injection which we were told is also good protection if your swinging but its not always offered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?"

To equate "safe" with either of the above is a folly as the answer is neither and to champion either as safer is a fools path to despair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

To equate "safe" with either of the above is a folly as the answer is neither and to champion either as safer is a fools path to despair. "

But I wasn't saying one was safer, it was more to get people's opinions. I'm with Goldicocks- I'm leaning towards the bareback with testing being slightly 'safer'. But clearly still not safe. As per Soxy's comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Testing isn't preventative. It just highlights the potential issue.

so in going to say B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

Honestly don't know...prevention is better than cure, but if you never get tested then you'll never know you need to be cured. Guess the latter is more naive in assuming condoms will keep them safe and they don't need to be tested so think I'm leaning towards the person having tests being safer as they won't continue to infect others for the same length of time after infection? "

thats the reason i went for option A. Condoms split and do not prevent all STI's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If testing takes place after each bareback session and have the all clear before the next, then A. Otherwise B.

IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know for sure those that say they get tested actually do so? So many people lie about stuff on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know for sure those that say they get tested actually do so? So many people lie about stuff on here!

"

My clinic sends out a text with the results. I save it until my next test.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

Honestly don't know...prevention is better than cure, but if you never get tested then you'll never know you need to be cured. Guess the latter is more naive in assuming condoms will keep them safe and they don't need to be tested so think I'm leaning towards the person having tests being safer as they won't continue to infect others for the same length of time after infection?

thats the reason i went for option A. Condoms split and do not prevent all STI's"

And say in a group situation, people probably don't wash their hands between partners, or use condoms on their fingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

Honestly don't know...prevention is better than cure, but if you never get tested then you'll never know you need to be cured. Guess the latter is more naive in assuming condoms will keep them safe and they don't need to be tested so think I'm leaning towards the person having tests being safer as they won't continue to infect others for the same length of time after infection?

thats the reason i went for option A. Condoms split and do not prevent all STI's

And say in a group situation, people probably don't wash their hands between partners, or use condoms on their fingers. "

Not even just in group situations...in a 1-2-1 meet hands wander and will therefore carry risks. Plus how many of us use condoms for oral...yes the risk is lower but it's still there. I have read more than once about people who haven't been for testing 'because they don't need to'...scary how many think condoms make them untouchable when it comes to their sexual health, or assume if there are no symptoms then all must be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

To equate "safe" with either of the above is a folly as the answer is neither and to champion either as safer is a fools path to despair.

But I wasn't saying one was safer, it was more to get people's opinions. I'm with Goldicocks- I'm leaning towards the bareback with testing being slightly 'safer'. But clearly still not safe. As per Soxy's comment. "

The only 'safe' sex is no sex...after that the risk can be reduced by varying degrees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread and what a dilemma to answer! I was trying to reason safety on another thread to do with bi guys.

But yes, if you have sex you are at risk straight away - fact - even if you use condoms.

But the NHS use statistics to calculate the risks they are prepared to take with people ie giving blood. The scenarios you have asked OP is not given by the Blood Service. I think though if they did, they would probably say the people going bareback were still most as risk.

All rather interesting and thought provoking though

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Defo condoms and being tested after every sexual encounter

If someone went bareback with me they would prob get called daddy "

I know what you meant but that just sounds wrong...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are only as clean as the last person your partner slept with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell if I got tested after every encounter I would be the ruin of the NHS! Haha

Sayin that I use condoms but do get tested regular as does my partner, that way half the tests same result as obviously we do bareback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who play safe but don't get tested safe?

People who play bareback but get tested safe?

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who play safe but don't get tested safe?

People who play bareback but get tested safe?

Really?"

And that's the dilemma isn't it! Of course not in either case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If testing takes place after each bareback session and have the all clear before the next, then A. Otherwise B.

IMHO. "

but seeing as a few infections dont show for a few months then no testing means your 100% in the clear unless you have had no activity for abotu 3 months

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?"

B - even if you get tested you could, potentially, be able to infect someone before you have a test or are waiting for results. All sexual health professionals would most likely agree.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

Was on bus today with a female using her phone to local health centre asking if they did tests for chlamydia. Wrong time wrong place to make that call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if we are to believe the whingers and almost constant requests for profile help, the safest group would appear to be single men. As they never get chance to have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if we are to believe the whingers and almost constant requests for profile help, the safest group would appear to be single men. As they never get chance to have sex.

"

Ha ha ha love it

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?"

The testing does not protect you from anything whereas wearing a condom does to a fairly high degree. It is simple maths really - no question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if we are to believe the whingers and almost constant requests for profile help, the safest group would appear to be single men. As they never get chance to have sex.

"

That's another keyboard and monitor you owe me!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly."

Cop out! You're yellow-bellied, I tell ya. Yellow-bellied!

It depends on how regularly the person is getting checked. Once a month, twice a year? To not get tested at all is just as irresponsible considering STIs can be passed orally so it's a dangerous assumption to think you haven't contracted anything.

Going to say B though because as the old saying goes "prevention is better than cure" and some things have no cure.

Yep, you guessed it. Herpes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly."

Cop out! You're yellow-bellied, I tell ya. Yellow-bellied!

It depends on how regularly the person is getting checked. Once a month, twice a year? To not get tested at all is just as irresponsible considering STIs can be passed orally so it's a dangerous assumption to think you haven't contracted anything.

Going to say B though because as the old saying goes "prevention is better than cure" and some things have no cure.

Yep, you guessed it. Herpes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 monthly is my rule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fyi: If you contract hiv from someone today, it can up to 3 months on a hiv blood test

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"fyi: If you contract hiv from someone today, it can up to 3 months on a hiv blood test"
Which means any testing is only relevant on the day you are tested.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"fyi: If you contract hiv from someone today, it can up to 3 months on a hiv blood testWhich means any testing is only relevant on the day you are tested. "

I would have thought both is better

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

To answer the question posed. Out of the 2 options given, B is safer. Testing bares no relevance to how safe any one method is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To answer the question posed. Out of the 2 options given, B is safer. Testing bares no relevance to how safe any one method is. "

Oooh good point!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Was on bus today with a female using her phone to local health centre asking if they did tests for chlamydia. Wrong time wrong place to make that call "

Were you on the way to a hotel together?

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"Was on bus today with a female using her phone to local health centre asking if they did tests for chlamydia. Wrong time wrong place to make that call

Were you on the way to a hotel together? "

Hell no and if it was I be pushing the stop button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if we are to believe the whingers and almost constant requests for profile help, the safest group would appear to be single men. As they never get chance to have sex.

"

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"fyi: If you contract hiv from someone today, it can up to 3 months on a hiv blood test

Which means any testing is only relevant on the day you are tested. "

But if you never get tested because you think condoms are safe......

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?"

Neither.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

Neither."

Neither is safer ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd say the whole thing about safe sex with condoms is it is designed primarily for intercourse (a cock going in a fanny or arse)

there are many women who play 'unsafe'..many people that play 'unsafe' just with oral sex

what about the sharing of sex toys?- never really seen a condom on a double ended dildo...have u?(has it been sterilized? etc etc)

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

Neither.

Neither is safer ?"

It's safer to assume neither is.

Let's face it, in an ideal world you would like to think people who get tested would stop playing if they copped for a positive result........ reality tells us different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who bareback and get tested regularly...

Or

People who use condoms but never get tested...

?

Neither.

Neither is safer ?

It's safer to assume neither is.

Let's face it, in an ideal world you would like to think people who get tested would stop playing if they copped for a positive result........ reality tells us different."

Woah if I found out I had I wouldn't ! Like the most in sexiest thing ever. Who would want to?!! The minorit I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm gonna go with option c.

Someone who uses condoms but gets checked regularly.

Cop out! You're yellow-bellied, I tell ya. Yellow-bellied!

It depends on how regularly the person is getting checked. Once a month, twice a year? To not get tested at all is just as irresponsible considering STIs can be passed orally so it's a dangerous assumption to think you haven't contracted anything.

Going to say B though because as the old saying goes "prevention is better than cure" and some things have no cure.

Yep, you guessed it. Herpes! "

B is always going to make you feel safer but does not guarantee anything. Sex is a risky business. People lie to each other and to themselves about their sexual health. Arguably the safest person is someone who knows they have a problem and plays responsibly.

Condoms are no guarantee against STDs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if we are to believe the whingers and almost constant requests for profile help, the safest group would appear to be single men. As they never get chance to have sex.

"

Lol

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