FabSwingers.com forum: Why shouldn’t I?

By *weetRoseyx OP Woman
9 weeks ago

North West

Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

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By *ocksareoffMan
9 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Apparently there are some gooduns out there, just don't let the bad eggs spoil your enjoyment.

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By *eoBloomsMan
9 weeks ago

Springfield

If it's a drag why not take a break and refresh rather than delete ? I do think it's quite hard for younger people on here as the majority demographic is definitely older. Hope things look up for you either way !

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By *avenNightsMan
9 weeks ago

Canvey Island

I hear you, fab can absolutely be a difficult place to be at times. BUT

There are lots of guys on here who aren’t disingenuous and do take the time to strike up conversation without resorting to “fancy a fuck?”.

Hell, in all the time I’ve been here, I’ve spoken to such guys and they’ve changed my perspective on a lot of things for the better (even improving my physical self).

You’ll be wading knee deep through mud, but keep going and you’ll find them. 😅

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By *olte121Man
9 weeks ago

just up the road and first left

Only you can decide what’s best for you OP

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Sorry can't help, fab turned me lesbian.

Mrs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If this place isn't working for you then give it a rest. No point wasting your time here when other places work better for you.

There are absolutely some worthwhile people around this place. But it's a slog getting through filtering out the unsuitable. It is a whole world easier in person rather than on here 💜

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By *lashman the ThirdMan
9 weeks ago

Leeds

You are conversing with the wrong men, love.

Read profiles, look at verifications, use the forums.

There’s lots of disingenuous people on here, it just takes a bit of skill to avoid them.

Happy Fabbing OP

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By *lofeldMan
9 weeks ago

Redhill

"If this place isn't working for you then give it a rest. No point wasting your time here when other places work better for you.

There are absolutely some worthwhile people around this place. But it's a slog getting through filtering out the unsuitable. It is a whole world easier in person rather than on here 💜"

This, anything in life that causes you stress than you can remove from your life, then do so!

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By *a LunaWoman
9 weeks ago

o o OO o o

Fab is what you make it.

Why not take back control and block everyone and you do the hunting? Or just enjoy the site in peace for a bit.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

Many think FAB is a quickie shop.

It's a resource for swinging. And if you use it that way, you will find you get more from it.

Socials, events, clubs are network points. That is where the real active members are. And yes there will be some who don't do any if that, but they are harder to find than a needle in a haystack. Especially on FAB which is over run with the Male fantasists.

What I am saying is, if you want the best from FAB use it as the tool it's designed for. If you want quickies, there are other platforms out there.

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By *ansoffateMan
9 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

As a man, I need open conversations about that sexual liberation journey, before I can consider whether it's something we could enjoy together.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

I have ups and downs with this place. It can be so tedious trawling through some of the messages to find those stand out ones that tick boxes, and can hold a conversation etc. etc. Finding the gems is no mean feat but if you have the patience, they will present themselves every now and then and make being here worthwhile.

It’s having that patience! I have been on here for years and when I find that my patience has run out or I’ve gotten bored of the same thing over and over I hide my profile or take a break off here completely. The last break I did was for two years 😁 🍭

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
9 weeks ago

Brum

You really shouldn’t delete your profile without meeting Henriette and Sam first.

They are the gold at the end of your rainbow

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By *midnight-Woman
9 weeks ago

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"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

Maybe playing with a hot husband is more of a route for you?

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By *ife NinjaMan
9 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"Fab is what you make it.

Why not take back control and block everyone and you do the hunting? Or just enjoy the site in peace for a bit.

Being hunted is good fun. I like being persued 🤓

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By *ikesEmBigMan
9 weeks ago

Herts

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

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the less competition the better adiós

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

East Sussex

If what you're looking for can't be found and you need convincing to stay somewhere it might be time to reassess your reasons for being there.

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By *aughtynice78Man
9 weeks ago

Telford

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

Still looking for the rainbow 🌈 myself, Rosie. We're not all bad, please rest assured. Although, I suspect I'm a little old for you

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By *elightful 2Couple
9 weeks ago

Not living in the UK

We had some great meets over the years but had a spell after covid where we found it hard work and time consuming so we deleted our profile, it was the best thing we done, booked a holiday to pdi and made this profile and had some great fun over there which reignited our interest in the lifestyle.

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By *weetRoseyx OP Woman
9 weeks ago

North West

I appreciate everyone’s advice x

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By *iHungMan
9 weeks ago

blackpool

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

Maybe you’re a bit quick to come to conclusions on people. I have no recollection of us interacting but appear to be blocked by you!

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By *emma200Woman
9 weeks ago

Warwickshire

Sometimes it’s good to take a break OP and come back refreshed.

Yes, there are some decent people on here to connect with.. just gotta find that needle in the haystack x

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By *hickthighs25Woman
9 weeks ago

Stockton

I think sometimes it is a bit meh when you feel that way but there is some genuine nice fun gents on here and when someone grabs your attention it is worth it.

But when i feel like its time to take a break i just hide my profile for a while and get on with day to day life for a bit.

This should be fun in my opinion and when it stops being that have a break.

Or even just try and get to know people through the forums and things make some friends instead whilst your waiting for that person to grab your attention.

Or maybe go looking and grab theirs first

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Maybe you’re a bit quick to come to conclusions on people. I have no recollection of us interacting but appear to be blocked by you! "

Maybe if someone has decided to block you and your reaction is to reach out via the forum anyway that was a red enough flag 💜

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
9 weeks ago

Stourbridge

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

There are , as has been said on the thread, some very good people around.

There are also a high proportion of a***holes who upset and offend for fun.

I think the suggestion of taking a break is a good one.

If nothing else it will give you a chance to clear your inbox!

What ever you decide, stay well.

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By *vaRoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Take a break

There are some absolutely wonderful people on fab but there are some absolutely monumental bellends too.

Only you can decide if it’s worth it

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By *exyScientistsCouple
9 weeks ago

Castlebar

I think everyone feels like that sometimes.

Hide your profile and see how you feel after a break.

There are some great guys and great opportunities. For me it is often about finding what you aren't looking for, when you least expect it

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By *dalisqueWoman
9 weeks ago

land of make believe

I often take breaks,maybe it is time you did too.

There does seems to be more and more disingenuous people about and the forums are not immune.

I practically talk exclusively to men from the forums & one was a definite fake & lots are arrogant see you next Tuesdaysor just plain arseholes.

On the flip side some are absolutely diamonds.

Like everywhere there are good & bad people.

I have made some friends for life on here & also shared some really incredible fun experiences.

You could try hiding your profile & just using the forums If you are not ready to take a full break at.

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By *imply_SensualMan
9 weeks ago

Cheshire

As other have said, breaks can be good to carry out a reset on what you want and how you might go about things differently to make it a good experience.

Perhaps have a period where you do the looking, avoiding the mass volume of messages to plough through and picking profiles you find interesting.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
9 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Looking at your profile you are looking more for a D/s dynamic and that will take time to find the right person.

That dynamic also brings out the wannabes so you’ll no doubt be inundated with messages from people that don’t fit the requirements.

Search yourself - find profiles that appeal and reach out and start conversations. If we just sat back and done nothing in here and expect for a decent message from people we want to meet, we’d have left a long time ago.

The right people are there - you’ve got to dig deeper. Or go to socials/munches and find your people.

Oh you say you’re looking to explore all sides of your sexuality and have straight on your profile, so that might put off couples, if you’re searching for those

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Looking at your profile you are looking more for a D/s dynamic and that will take time to find the right person.

That dynamic also brings out the wannabes so you’ll no doubt be inundated with messages from people that don’t fit the requirements.

The right people are there - you’ve got to dig deeper. Or go to socials/munches and find your people.

Oh you say you’re looking to explore all sides of your sexuality and have straight on your profile, so that might put off couples, if you’re searching for those

Totally agree with this especially from the D/s side. It takes time OP and you need to be very clear in deleting the shit to find the nice shiny pebbles 😘

My advice would be take a break. If Fab isn’t fun right now just switch it off and do some off grid spoon whittling. Works for me 🌈

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

Finding the gold definitely takes time. For me it came through unexpectedly making friends here on the forums and wanting to say hello in person. And then at organised socials I got to meet my wonderful friends but also met people I fancied.

I still find it very hard to connect via fab messaging alone. It has taken nearly three years of being on here (including my couple profile) to find someone where I wanted to go on a one to one social. And weirdly there’s now someone else I’m very much looking forward to coffee and cake with. Sometimes the gold is like buses. 🤣

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By *estructionDollyWoman
9 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I also use fab in a similar way to you OP, I'm a single woman who wanted to explore her sexuality (I don't just mean sleeping with women I mean that in an all emconpassing way) and have new experiences. I have met some AMAZING people over the last 3 years, but I have met most of them through the swinger club scene.

I have met some people on fab that have been diamonds, but it has been much much harder work to find those people on here. I find more people who are way more on my wavelength and have the same mindset at clubs and in event chats. Both vanilla and kinky. Some of them have become close friends away from the sex stuff too.

Unfortunately on fab there are a lot of timewasters, fantasists and people who are on a different path and looking for different things than maybe you are (as that's how I feel). But those you do find are absolutely worth it. Just be upfront about what you want, why you're here and especially what you DON'T want.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
9 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We quite often log out for a while.

Its good to take a break.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

I’m going to give the same advice I’d give a man.

Stop placing too much weight on fab.

If you are thinking of deleting, delete.

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By *ookie46Woman
9 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Fab is not the be all and end all and there are some great people to be found on here

Take a break and hide your profile if it starts getting to you

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

I've met some wonderful men here. There is the need to do heavy pruning as most of the men messaging you won't be a good fit. Get very clear on what you want so you will recognise it when you see it.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
9 weeks ago

Reading

Fab can be hard work at times, dealing with influx of messages from fantasists, idiots and pic collectors. My experience from it became a lot better when I stopped worrying about meets and used it as a way to stay in contact with people that I met at socials, clubs etc. I’ve still managed to met a couple of people from here, some won’t go beyond socials but I’m ok with that but one is quickly becoming a regular partner and friend. But that all took time and effort which I was willing to put in but I am also willing to walk away when it feels too much.

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By *oodmessMan
9 weeks ago

yumsville

You've been here 6 months and wanted sexual liberation that's not lived up to expectation.

Not sure what you are after but when I joined, I wasn't looking for liberation, and didn't have expectations. I didn't have a tick list, bucket list, wasn't searching for anything specific and didn't have ideas to join a lifestyle.

No, one knows your expectations - I realise profiles are there to read but profiles can be a line or two or be a masterpiece in literature, both can be very samey (for me), neither giving much away. Chatting, having a coffee can often result in unexpected relations you would have dismissed from a profile script.

Without going through a few let downs, you're not going to meet people you might eventually click with. Clubs are obviously a go to, as is looking for people and messaging directly but there is a meet forum.. you could post whatever it is you are looking for and see who responds.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
9 weeks ago

North West

Take a break OP like others have said, I certainly will be doing soon.

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By *racyCockloverTV/TS
9 weeks ago

WC1N

There are plenty of time wasters and fantasists on here.

But on the plus side I've dozens of great meets on here and most of them have been with lovely down to earth people.

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By *agic.MMan
9 weeks ago

Orpington

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

I'm afraid the answer is NO...nobody will be able to tell you why you shouldn't delete your profile, as the burden of choice rests on your shoulders alone. You could delete your profile, you could take a break or you could change your approach to fab altogether...maybe start searching for men with profiles that look genuine, engage with them (not just a wink 😜) and see if that works for you - be prepared to be rejected every now and then but hope for the best. It would be nice for us all to just log on to fab and have a private message from the admins with all the profiles that are genuine, attractive and compatible with us 🤭...unfortunately we all have to put in some work to find those profiles 😉. Hope you find what you are looking for 🙏

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By *hunky GentMan
9 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

Because you haven't become friends with me yet.

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By *rightonsteveMan
9 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

Because you haven't become friends with me yet.

What he said ^^^^

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By *hunky GentMan
9 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

Because you haven't become friends with me yet.

What he said ^^^^"

Yo dude.

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By *oodmessMan
9 weeks ago

yumsville

Wondering what the swinging 6'5, blue, finance guy would be ... Viking, sleeve tatts, hung vwe, exclusive or yep them

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By *bi HaiveMan
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9 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I'd just block all incoming mail, do some browsing, send some winks and messages and go from there.

I'd also look for local organised socials. There's loads and you tend to get a lot of good, chatty and sociable single guys at them. There's no better way to gauge a personality than face to face.

If after that you're still not having much luck? Hide your profile and give yourself a break. For as long as you fancy. 🤷‍♂️

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
9 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

"Hi guys.

I’ve been on fab around 6 months. I’m not entirely sure it’s what I thought it would be on a sexual liberation journey I was taking.

I’m finding more times than not, disingenuous men.

Is anyone actually able to tell me why I shouldn’t delete my profile, and essentially give up?

Is there any rainbows anyway and the gold on the other side?

I've been on here a fair few years now,

I find there are good uns on here... it is just the fun of searching through them.

Don't let the not so nice ones get you down. If you do however feel it is a bit much... step back for a little bit... don't delete profile and come back feeling refreshed

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