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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

It was national family day yesterday

As time ticks by, "family" as an institution is becoming a thing of the past.The concept of the traditional home-husband, wife and children-may soon be put on display at a museum near you, in the "extinct species" section.

I took this from an article I read in a free newspaper that came through my door.

What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree with it. dont think people take marriage as seriously as perhaps parents/grandparents did. Step parents/children are more common, families are extending.

women going to work and men being more involved with domestic chores and cooking.. its all change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps back in the days when the majority people worked in close proximity to the area they lived and their children went to local schools people were able to spend time together doing family activities on a daily basis ……

It seems individual members of families these days are far to busy rushing around on different schedules to spend the sort of time together past generations did ….!.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"agree with it. dont think people take marriage as seriously as perhaps parents/grandparents did. Step parents/children are more common, families are extending.

women going to work and men being more involved with domestic chores and cooking.. its all change."
So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Do people still hold the family unit dear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"agree with it. dont think people take marriage as seriously as perhaps parents/grandparents did. Step parents/children are more common, families are extending.

women going to work and men being more involved with domestic chores and cooking.. its all change.So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Do people still hold the family unit dear?"

i guess its a case of what works for those individual families, providing all parties involved are happier and communication is good then its positive that the family situation has adapted to accept the changes.

part of me still feels shit and a failure because ive a daughter with no father figure. But recently ive become open to the idea of settling down and that i would rather have a man in her and mines life even though he isnt biologically hers, but love means more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"agree with it. dont think people take marriage as seriously as perhaps parents/grandparents did. Step parents/children are more common, families are extending.

women going to work and men being more involved with domestic chores and cooking.. its all change.So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Do people still hold the family unit dear?"

I’m sure many people’s perception of family values are as strong as ever.

But the reality of maintaining those values in today’s society are increasing challenging due to the demands on modern living ….!.

I think it’s sad we're heading towards a culture led by consumerism instead of the strong community values of past generations...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"agree with it. dont think people take marriage as seriously as perhaps parents/grandparents did. Step parents/children are more common, families are extending.

women going to work and men being more involved with domestic chores and cooking.. its all change.So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Do people still hold the family unit dear?"

Yes immediate family definitely. People aren't prepared to suffer years of abuse whether that's physical or mental, or just plain mismatch etc from partners. If I was still with my ex I would be a very different person and probably permanently unhappy. At least now my child is living in a happy family unit with a step father who makes our world complete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot harder in this day and age with working long hours and both parents working. Also its no longer frowned upon if a family unit is broken up. Its quite the 'norm'.

For me personally I had a child thinking we were going to be a family unit forever. Things can change that.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"agree with it. dont think people take marriage as seriously as perhaps parents/grandparents did. Step parents/children are more common, families are extending.

women going to work and men being more involved with domestic chores and cooking.. its all change.So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Do people still hold the family unit dear?

Yes immediate family definitely. People aren't prepared to suffer years of abuse whether that's physical or mental, or just plain mismatch etc from partners. If I was still with my ex I would be a very different person and probably permanently unhappy. At least now my child is living in a happy family unit with a step father who makes our world complete. "
Unfortunately some people are finding themselves staying with said partners due to financial restraints, I know of at least 4 people in my social circle, this obviously doesn't help things and the family unit created becomes less important to them, due to ill feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could cope with that ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was brought up with my mum and dad happily married. The nuclear family was an important part of my life.

I do think the traditional family unit is dwindling but its being replaced by stepparents - something I'm learning to understand is a strong part of a family too.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I don't think I could cope with that ...."
I did...for years the just walked. But its seems very common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's wonderful to see strong family units regardless of both biologic parents being in the same home, I've known single parents to do better jobs of bringing up their children than some two parents families. It must be easier for children to accept different family styles now than it ever used to be. When I was growing up it was frowned upon and children without a parent or step parents felt isolated. If you are a loving parent you can make these things work and still maintain the stability a child needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single working dad with one teenage daughter and a son not far behind her.... I find it hard to balance what little time I have with them and work. I must admit though that my time with my kids is precious and spend every minute I'm with them doing stuff they want to do. I cook them tea at exactly the same time each day and we sit around the table with the telly off so we can chat about our day at school/work. I aim to be the best dad I can be and bake the small family unit I have stable for there sake. I love my kids and nothing will upset what balance we have with each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single working dad with one teenage daughter and a son not far behind her.... I find it hard to balance what little time I have with them and work. I must admit though that my time with my kids is precious and spend every minute I'm with them doing stuff they want to do. I cook them tea at exactly the same time each day and we sit around the table with the telly off so we can chat about our day at school/work. I aim to be the best dad I can be and bake the small family unit I have stable for there sake. I love my kids and nothing will upset what balance we have with each other "

A pleasure to read...

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"agree with it. dont think people take marriage as seriously as perhaps parents/grandparents did. Step parents/children are more common, families are extending.

women going to work and men being more involved with domestic chores and cooking.. its all change.So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Do people still hold the family unit dear?"

I for one love my family dearly, we are stronger together always have been. When one of us falls we stand strong and help them up. The males in our family have always cooked and helped out with chores, always has been that way as far as I am aware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family all seemed to have kids around the same time, so at the time when my mum was born within 10 years so were all her cousins, and when i was born so were all my cousins within 7 years

But since we all got older (from the age of approx 8 for me) the 'family get togethers' and Christmas parties stopped and we all went of into our own little groups sticking to the 'direct' family - i.e parents/siblings, 1st cousins, grand-parents etc - it's just the way our family are

We aren't that close now, can't see that changing tbh

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