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"All the conversations and all the action for me OP, attraction and sexual desire grows more with conversation and getting to know a person." So much this 👆 | |||
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"Oh I’m only here at the moment for chats and socials, more conversation and less asking for action please " This leads an interesting conversation. I get group socials, however one on one socials with the opposite sex, from a sex site.. surely there’s more inference than just a social.. it’s bound to send signals of other things! 🙈 | |||
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"How long to chat before meeting. If say messaging nearly every day several messages . Days, weeks, months ? " Daily messaging is a huge turn off for me. How long you chat for before meeting this up to the two of you there’s no formula it can be days, usually weeks / months or in a couple of cases years on here for me before we get round to meeting, I think it’s important that both of you are going at the same pace that works for you both | |||
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"Oh I’m only here at the moment for chats and socials, more conversation and less asking for action please This leads an interesting conversation. I get group socials, however one on one socials with the opposite sex, from a sex site.. surely there’s more inference than just a social.. it’s bound to send signals of other things! 🙈" I guess the one-on-one socials do send signals, but I like to meet someone before any action. Helps understand what each other is looking for and discuss boundaries etc.. if your not compatible you can always walk away before getting in too deep (pun intended) | |||
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"How long to chat before meeting. If say messaging nearly every day several messages . Days, weeks, months ? Daily messaging is a huge turn off for me. How long you chat for before meeting this up to the two of you there’s no formula it can be days, usually weeks / months or in a couple of cases years on here for me before we get round to meeting, I think it’s important that both of you are going at the same pace that works for you both" This is the same for me too, I don't think you can put a time limit on it. | |||
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"All the conversations and all the action for me OP, attraction and sexual desire grows more with conversation and getting to know a person." I like this way of thinking. | |||
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"I'm really into the conversation , I'm turned on by people who are funny and original , yes I know it's leading to sex talk and asking for pics etc ....but it's nice to have a pretty journey before the destination " I imagine a very pretty journey with you…😏 | |||
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"I need my mind stimulating a little before my body 🤷♀️" And I suppose that’s why so many on here leave when they don’t get to chat. This was always my issue with online things like here, you send a message and it goes into the oblivion. And who knows if you’ll get a reply. 🤷♂️ How do you get excited when nobody talks back to you? | |||
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"I need my mind stimulating a little before my body 🤷♀️ And I suppose that’s why so many on here leave when they don’t get to chat. This was always my issue with online things like here, you send a message and it goes into the oblivion. And who knows if you’ll get a reply. 🤷♂️ How do you get excited when nobody talks back to you? " Yeah i get that it is frustrating when you try and feel your getting nothing back. But i think when you finally do and get that convo flowing its worth it! 😘 | |||
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"Oh I’m only here at the moment for chats and socials, more conversation and less asking for action please This leads an interesting conversation. I get group socials, however one on one socials with the opposite sex, from a sex site.. surely there’s more inference than just a social.. it’s bound to send signals of other things! 🙈" Oh fuck no My profile and messages leave no room for misinterpretation. Right now I’m here solely for genuine flirty conversation and cordial socials. A coffee is just a coffee, not a subtext for something else. Consent and clear boundaries aren’t suggestions; they’re non-negotiable. Consent isn’t a riddle, and it’s not up for reinterpretation over coffee. If someone chooses to ignore that in the hope they’ll be the ‘exception’, they won’t be meeting me at all. Reading into what isn’t there, projecting intent where none was given, and then dressing it up as innocent ‘conversation’… that’s not insight, it’s manipulation. | |||
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"I need my mind stimulating a little before my body 🤷♀️ And I suppose that’s why so many on here leave when they don’t get to chat. This was always my issue with online things like here, you send a message and it goes into the oblivion. And who knows if you’ll get a reply. 🤷♂️ How do you get excited when nobody talks back to you? Yeah i get that it is frustrating when you try and feel your getting nothing back. But i think when you finally do and get that convo flowing its worth it! 😘" We think so 😉 | |||
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"Oh I’m only here at the moment for chats and socials, more conversation and less asking for action please This leads an interesting conversation. I get group socials, however one on one socials with the opposite sex, from a sex site.. surely there’s more inference than just a social.. it’s bound to send signals of other things! 🙈" Absolutely not. A social is just that whether it’s with someone from Fab or Pete off the bus. If a person thinks differently I wouldn’t be having a social with them. Simples | |||
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"Oh I’m only here at the moment for chats and socials, more conversation and less asking for action please This leads an interesting conversation. I get group socials, however one on one socials with the opposite sex, from a sex site.. surely there’s more inference than just a social.. it’s bound to send signals of other things! 🙈 Absolutely not. A social is just that whether it’s with someone from Fab or Pete off the bus. If a person thinks differently I wouldn’t be having a social with them. Simples " That’s fair enough, I was speaking from personal experience I suppose! I haven’t been clear enough in my boundaries in the past ( although I thought I was) and the other party was definitely expecting more than a social!🙈 so I have a narrow minded perspective, which is why I wanted outside opinions x | |||
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"Oh I’m only here at the moment for chats and socials, more conversation and less asking for action please This leads an interesting conversation. I get group socials, however one on one socials with the opposite sex, from a sex site.. surely there’s more inference than just a social.. it’s bound to send signals of other things! 🙈 Oh fuck no My profile and messages leave no room for misinterpretation. Right now I’m here solely for genuine flirty conversation and cordial socials. A coffee is just a coffee, not a subtext for something else. Consent and clear boundaries aren’t suggestions; they’re non-negotiable. Consent isn’t a riddle, and it’s not up for reinterpretation over coffee. If someone chooses to ignore that in the hope they’ll be the ‘exception’, they won’t be meeting me at all. Reading into what isn’t there, projecting intent where none was given, and then dressing it up as innocent ‘conversation’… that’s not insight, it’s manipulation. " This is more or less where I'm coming from and it's interesting to note that it's not just men who believe they are the exception to the rule. I've lost count of the number of messages I've had when I was meeting who insisted that I couldn't set boundaries on fab because if I was honest with myself, men don't have options here and should be grateful for any attention. Since I've stopped meeting, those type of messages have continued, with suggestions that I'm just holding out for the right offer and that surely I shouldn't be here if the first line of my bio was correct. I've always had options on fab, not because I'm anything special, but because I've maintained my self respect and have turned down at least twice as many offers as I've accepted. I've met 60+ people in 9 years and half of those were at group socials. Of the 30 or so I've met one on one, only one of those was without a social and only 10 percent of the total meets have gone beyond that initial social. My choice every single time and I have no regrets. As I said above, my method works for me. | |||
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"Oh I’m only here at the moment for chats and socials, more conversation and less asking for action please This leads an interesting conversation. I get group socials, however one on one socials with the opposite sex, from a sex site.. surely there’s more inference than just a social.. it’s bound to send signals of other things! 🙈 Oh fuck no My profile and messages leave no room for misinterpretation. Right now I’m here solely for genuine flirty conversation and cordial socials. A coffee is just a coffee, not a subtext for something else. Consent and clear boundaries aren’t suggestions; they’re non-negotiable. Consent isn’t a riddle, and it’s not up for reinterpretation over coffee. If someone chooses to ignore that in the hope they’ll be the ‘exception’, they won’t be meeting me at all. Reading into what isn’t there, projecting intent where none was given, and then dressing it up as innocent ‘conversation’… that’s not insight, it’s manipulation. This is more or less where I'm coming from and it's interesting to note that it's not just men who believe they are the exception to the rule. I've lost count of the number of messages I've had when I was meeting who insisted that I couldn't set boundaries on fab because if I was honest with myself, men don't have options here and should be grateful for any attention. Since I've stopped meeting, those type of messages have continued, with suggestions that I'm just holding out for the right offer and that surely I shouldn't be here if the first line of my bio was correct. I've always had options on fab, not because I'm anything special, but because I've maintained my self respect and have turned down at least twice as many offers as I've accepted. I've met 60+ people in 9 years and half of those were at group socials. Of the 30 or so I've met one on one, only one of those was without a social and only 10 percent of the total meets have gone beyond that initial social. My choice every single time and I have no regrets. As I said above, my method works for me." Absolutely I didn’t mean to imply this was purely a male issue, I’m certain that this sort of behaviour has no gender boundaries. In fact there’s definitely some ladies and couples who have messaged me for bi play (I’m straight), who clearly haven’t been told no before. A huge sense of entitlement resides in them I believe. Rejection happens to us all and to be here you need a level head and emotional maturity to handle it with grace. It sounds like you have your head screwed on xxx | |||
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