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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford

to ask someone’s name when you should probably know it? 🙃

Theres this lady who always says hello when she uses the kitchen near my office. She’s very sweet and asked me last week my recent holiday was etc. The problem is I don’t have a clue what her name is, and I’ve worked here almost 3 years.

So I asked a lady I co-manage as I thought they worked in the same office space. She gave me a name (Anna) and went back to the office to check something for me.

Then she came back and was like ‘Oh I think you meant Charlotte…. Cos I just saw Anna in the office and said that you were asking about her….’

You said WHAT 😭🥲🙃

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
9 weeks ago

Brum

Hello again, we keep chatting but I’ve never introduced myself… I’m Samuel, (soft hand shake) it’s lovely to meet you properly.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

Invite you to your next 1:1. I got your back bro

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

It’s when they get my name wrong but they call me the only other black guy’s name 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Hello again, we keep chatting but I’ve never introduced myself… I’m Samuel, (soft hand shake) it’s lovely to meet you properly."

Don’t get me wrong, I’m just gonna front it up next time she comes to say hello.

My name is on my door, so I never bother to do the fundamental pleasantries unless introduced as I just assume everyone knows who I am

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Hey, so, I don't actually know your name. What is it?

That's my usual approach anyway 💜

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Invite you to your next 1:1. I got your back bro"

I’ll have a HR meeting in the morning at this rate, or try to log on in the morning and find out my account is suspended 😭

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By *a LunaWoman
9 weeks ago

o o OO o o

I feel your pain. Kind of. There is a School mum who waves at me and for the life of me I know I recognise her but I can’t remember which child is hers.

I reckon you need to fake it till you make it. And say “is your name Charlotte?” “I thought it was but was having a memory fart”

Something like that anyway.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
9 weeks ago

Brum


"Hello again, we keep chatting but I’ve never introduced myself… I’m Samuel, (soft hand shake) it’s lovely to meet you properly.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m just gonna front it up next time she comes to say hello.

My name is on my door, so I never bother to do the fundamental pleasantries unless introduced as I just assume everyone knows who I am"

It’s the easiest socially acceptable form of communicating the fact that you don’t know her name.

She won’t even realise that was your point until she replays it in her head afterwards.

The only response to that exchange is for her to then say her name as you do the hand shake bit.

Works every single time.

Happens to me a lot

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By *dalisqueWoman
9 weeks ago

land of make believe

I struggle to remember names so I use Darling.

I wouldn't be offended if my name was forgotten,however I might if I was.

This is more common than you think so I really don't think anyone would be offended.

🩵

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

I’ve had the same dog groomer for two years. No idea what her name is and it’s been too long now to ask her name.

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By *aizyWoman
9 weeks ago

west midlands

Just say, hello duck, next time you see her, that'll be fine I'm sure.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
9 weeks ago

Brum

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
9 weeks ago

Brum


"Just say, hello let’s fuck, next time you see her, that'll be fine I'm sure.

So… Daizy, about that drink we were arranging "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

Take ownership of the problem, even if it means a little white lie, such as saying your memory is terrible. Tell her your name and take it from there. A joke would be fine too

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By *hortieWoman
9 weeks ago

Northampton

Your targeting skillz are pretty shit,

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By *aizyWoman
9 weeks ago

west midlands


"Just say, hello let’s fuck, next time you see her, that'll be fine I'm sure.

So… Daizy, about that drink we were arranging "

You had me at let's fuck!! 😍

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By *orny PTMan
9 weeks ago

Peterborough


"I’ve had the same dog groomer for two years. No idea what her name is and it’s been too long now to ask her name. "

as for email details....because you need to recommend her to someone you got chatting to at the vets.

Bullshit battles brains.

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Hey, so, I don't actually know your name. What is it?

That's my usual approach anyway 💜"

This is basically what I’ll do. And play up what an idiotic, insensitive, socially awkward weirdo I am

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By *hortieWoman
9 weeks ago

Northampton


"Take ownership of the problem, even if it means a little white lie, such as saying your memory is terrible. Tell her your name and take it from there. A joke would be fine too"

I'm guessing,we are beyond that stage.

Onwards and upwards!

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


" I feel your pain. Kind of. There is a School mum who waves at me and for the life of me I know I recognise her but I can’t remember which child is hers.

I reckon you need to fake it till you make it. And say “is your name Charlotte?” “I thought it was but was having a memory fart”

Something like that anyway."

I find myself in this situation quite often (given I work for a company with over 10k employees )

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Hello again, we keep chatting but I’ve never introduced myself… I’m Samuel, (soft hand shake) it’s lovely to meet you properly.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m just gonna front it up next time she comes to say hello.

My name is on my door, so I never bother to do the fundamental pleasantries unless introduced as I just assume everyone knows who I am

It’s the easiest socially acceptable form of communicating the fact that you don’t know her name.

She won’t even realise that was your point until she replays it in her head afterwards.

The only response to that exchange is for her to then say her name as you do the hand shake bit.

Works every single time.

Happens to me a lot "

Wouldn’t want to wrong name her and have her thinking I was flirting 🤣🤣

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"I struggle to remember names so I use Darling.

I wouldn't be offended if my name was forgotten,however I might if I was.

This is more common than you think so I really don't think anyone would be offended.

🩵"

She’s actually a very sweet lady, I just don’t know her name and can’t describe her well other than referring to her as the ‘really really tall one’

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"I’ve had the same dog groomer for two years. No idea what her name is and it’s been too long now to ask her name. "

I feel heard

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Just say, hello duck, next time you see her, that'll be fine I'm sure."

I’m also terrible at remembering names unless I use them all the time because even after our conversation the other day I briefly forgot yours 🤣

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By *aizyWoman
9 weeks ago

west midlands


"Just say, hello duck, next time you see her, that'll be fine I'm sure.

I’m also terrible at remembering names unless I use them all the time because even after our conversation the other day I briefly forgot yours 🤣"

You best not ever call me duck! 🤬😂

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By *host63Man
9 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

I am deaf and simply say I wanted to mke sure I heard the name right.

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Take ownership of the problem, even if it means a little white lie, such as saying your memory is terrible. Tell her your name and take it from there. A joke would be fine too"

I’ll play it down. My name is on my door of my office so people use it all the time. We just get so familiar nattering that I forget to say ‘im so sorry, we haven’t actually been properly introduced’

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Just say, hello duck, next time you see her, that'll be fine I'm sure.

I’m also terrible at remembering names unless I use them all the time because even after our conversation the other day I briefly forgot yours 🤣

You best not ever call me duck! 🤬😂"

I won’t pet xox

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By *ayPrimeMan
9 weeks ago

Leeds


"to ask someone’s name when you should probably know it? 🙃

Theres this lady who always says hello when she uses the kitchen near my office. She’s very sweet and asked me last week my recent holiday was etc. The problem is I don’t have a clue what her name is, and I’ve worked here almost 3 years.

So I asked a lady I co-manage as I thought they worked in the same office space. She gave me a name (Anna) and went back to the office to check something for me.

Then she came back and was like ‘Oh I think you meant Charlotte…. Cos I just saw Anna in the office and said that you were asking about her….’

You said WHAT 😭🥲🙃"

Ask one of her colleagues

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Your targeting skillz are pretty shit, "

They actually are

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"to ask someone’s name when you should probably know it? 🙃

Theres this lady who always says hello when she uses the kitchen near my office. She’s very sweet and asked me last week my recent holiday was etc. The problem is I don’t have a clue what her name is, and I’ve worked here almost 3 years.

So I asked a lady I co-manage as I thought they worked in the same office space. She gave me a name (Anna) and went back to the office to check something for me.

Then she came back and was like ‘Oh I think you meant Charlotte…. Cos I just saw Anna in the office and said that you were asking about her….’

You said WHAT 😭🥲🙃

Ask one of her colleagues "

*insert ‘Bruh’ GIF*

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

9 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"to ask someone’s name when you should probably know it? 🙃

Theres this lady who always says hello when she uses the kitchen near my office. She’s very sweet and asked me last week my recent holiday was etc. The problem is I don’t have a clue what her name is, and I’ve worked here almost 3 years.

So I asked a lady I co-manage as I thought they worked in the same office space. She gave me a name (Anna) and went back to the office to check something for me.

Then she came back and was like ‘Oh I think you meant Charlotte…. Cos I just saw Anna in the office and said that you were asking about her….’

You said WHAT 😭🥲🙃

Ask one of her colleagues

*insert ‘Bruh’ GIF*"

Tell her everyone needs to write their names on food/drink left in the communal fridge because someone keeps eating someone else's sandwiches/houmous/chocolate oranges.

Then offer her a sharpie.

Problem solved......🤷‍♂️😇😂

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By *eliWoman
9 weeks ago

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You don't remember names? Shocking, Pickle, I thought you were one of the good ones.

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By *a LunaWoman
9 weeks ago

o o OO o o


"to ask someone’s name when you should probably know it? 🙃

Theres this lady who always says hello when she uses the kitchen near my office. She’s very sweet and asked me last week my recent holiday was etc. The problem is I don’t have a clue what her name is, and I’ve worked here almost 3 years.

So I asked a lady I co-manage as I thought they worked in the same office space. She gave me a name (Anna) and went back to the office to check something for me.

Then she came back and was like ‘Oh I think you meant Charlotte…. Cos I just saw Anna in the office and said that you were asking about her….’

You said WHAT 😭🥲🙃

Ask one of her colleagues

*insert ‘Bruh’ GIF*

Tell her everyone needs to write their names on food/drink left in the communal fridge because someone keeps eating someone else's sandwiches/houmous/chocolate oranges.

Then offer her a sharpie.

Problem solved......🤷‍♂️😇😂"

Oooo this is good!

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"to ask someone’s name when you should probably know it? 🙃

Theres this lady who always says hello when she uses the kitchen near my office. She’s very sweet and asked me last week my recent holiday was etc. The problem is I don’t have a clue what her name is, and I’ve worked here almost 3 years.

So I asked a lady I co-manage as I thought they worked in the same office space. She gave me a name (Anna) and went back to the office to check something for me.

Then she came back and was like ‘Oh I think you meant Charlotte…. Cos I just saw Anna in the office and said that you were asking about her….’

You said WHAT 😭🥲🙃

Ask one of her colleagues

*insert ‘Bruh’ GIF*

Tell her everyone needs to write their names on food/drink left in the communal fridge because someone keeps eating someone else's sandwiches/houmous/chocolate oranges.

Then offer her a sharpie.

Problem solved......🤷‍♂️😇😂"

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By *avie65Man
9 weeks ago

In the west.

I often say I’m terrible with names, what is yours again?

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By *rHotNottsMan
9 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s not rude, just be honest and don’t be creepy. ‘Hi, sorry what’s your name again?’ Or ‘ hey we keep chatting and I don’t even know your name…. ‘

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

This is so common that she wouldn't be offended. Just ask.

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By *ookie46Woman
9 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Just bloody ask

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By *midnight-Woman
9 weeks ago

...

There comes a point where i just smile and say 'oh hey how are you' 🤣🤣🤣

I'm even worse at recognizing peoples faces tho

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By *ad NannaWoman
9 weeks ago

East London

Just call everyone sausage.

Alright sausage, how ya doin?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I forget everyone’s name. Even the people I know really well 🤣🤣🤣

Oops. Darling works fine for me 🤣

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By *nnCeeWoman
9 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

So, GK... What IS her name?!

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends


"So, GK... What IS her name?!"

Oh you didn’t hear?

GK got fired.

I guess we’ll never know

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"So, GK... What IS her name?!"

I’m still none the wiser

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"So, GK... What IS her name?!

Oh you didn’t hear?

GK got fired.

I guess we’ll never know"

That was a very distinct possibility after getting thrown under the bus like that

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By *carlettsWoman
9 weeks ago

Harpenden


"So, GK... What IS her name?!

I’m still none the wiser "

Can't you do like a team building day get everyone to write name badges?

Either that or just call her Dave? X

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By *inky PerkyCouple
9 weeks ago

Kingston

I'm also terrible with names. Although I once failed to correct someone when they got my name wrong and after the third time it was too late. I had to be Colin for the rest of the evening.

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"So, GK... What IS her name?!

I’m still none the wiser

Can't you do like a team building day get everyone to write name badges?

Either that or just call her Dave? X"

Haha at this point I just have to firm it and ask when I see her next before we get involved in any conversation

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"I'm also terrible with names. Although I once failed to correct someone when they got my name wrong and after the third time it was too late. I had to be Colin for the rest of the evening."

That’s the worst

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By *ou only live onceMan
9 weeks ago

London


"Hello again, we keep chatting but I’ve never introduced myself… I’m Samuel, (soft hand shake) it’s lovely to meet you properly.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m just gonna front it up next time she comes to say hello.

My name is on my door, so I never bother to do the fundamental pleasantries unless introduced as I just assume everyone knows who I am"

You've got your own door! Someone's doing alright...

*cries in hot desking*

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Hello again, we keep chatting but I’ve never introduced myself… I’m Samuel, (soft hand shake) it’s lovely to meet you properly.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m just gonna front it up next time she comes to say hello.

My name is on my door, so I never bother to do the fundamental pleasantries unless introduced as I just assume everyone knows who I am

You've got your own door! Someone's doing alright...

*cries in hot desking*"

😂😂😂 I’m kind of a big deal 😛😛😛

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By *ou only live onceMan
9 weeks ago

London


"Hello again, we keep chatting but I’ve never introduced myself… I’m Samuel, (soft hand shake) it’s lovely to meet you properly.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m just gonna front it up next time she comes to say hello.

My name is on my door, so I never bother to do the fundamental pleasantries unless introduced as I just assume everyone knows who I am

You've got your own door! Someone's doing alright...

*cries in hot desking*

😂😂😂 I’m kind of a big deal 😛😛😛"

But people won't know your name when the sign on the door just says "Chairman"!

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By *mily36CWoman
9 weeks ago

Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

The 'I'm great with faces but rubbish with remembering names'... is a classic that can be pulled out the bag anytime, surely?

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Hello again, we keep chatting but I’ve never introduced myself… I’m Samuel, (soft hand shake) it’s lovely to meet you properly.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m just gonna front it up next time she comes to say hello.

My name is on my door, so I never bother to do the fundamental pleasantries unless introduced as I just assume everyone knows who I am

You've got your own door! Someone's doing alright...

*cries in hot desking*

😂😂😂 I’m kind of a big deal 😛😛😛

But people won't know your name when the sign on the door just says "Chairman"!"

‘The Man’

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"The 'I'm great with faces but rubbish with remembering names'... is a classic that can be pulled out the bag anytime, surely? "

I’ll own my terribleness and apologise profusely

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By *inxy777Woman
9 weeks ago

essex

I didn’t know my hairdressers name for about a year! 🤦‍♀️😂

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By *r TriomanMan
9 weeks ago

Malmesbury

We have avatars on our emails, if you do too, then ask what department she's in now and search that department's staff on Outlook to find her.

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By *mily36CWoman
9 weeks ago

Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"The 'I'm great with faces but rubbish with remembering names'... is a classic that can be pulled out the bag anytime, surely?

I’ll own my terribleness and apologise profusely "

Sweeten the blow with cake

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By *sWyldWoman
9 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Does your work staff directory have photos....

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"I didn’t know my hairdressers name for about a year! 🤦‍♀️😂"

How did you find it out?

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"We have avatars on our emails, if you do too, then ask what department she's in now and search that department's staff on Outlook to find her."

I’m now not even sure what department she works in because the person I asked worked in that department and clearly had no idea who I was on about and just threw random names at me 😭😭

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"The 'I'm great with faces but rubbish with remembering names'... is a classic that can be pulled out the bag anytime, surely?

I’ll own my terribleness and apologise profusely

Sweeten the blow with cake "

Are you offering?

Ps a jaffa isn’t a cake 😝

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"Does your work staff directory have photos...."

No…… some people do have them on their emails but not everyone and we have over 10,000 members of staff as I work at a large hospital

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford

I am determined

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By *r TriomanMan
9 weeks ago

Malmesbury


"We have avatars on our emails, if you do too, then ask what department she's in now and search that department's staff on Outlook to find her.

I’m now not even sure what department she works in because the person I asked worked in that department and clearly had no idea who I was on about and just threw random names at me 😭😭"

Just ask her how's life in Accounts, she'll come back and say, "Accounts, I don't work there, I'm in ...." Not knowing what department they work in is far less embarrassing than not knowing their name.

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford

We have an update!! She’s in the office today, although I’ve given up my office for my day so I will have to get creative!!

We should have an answer by the end of the day!!

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By *heGateKeeper OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Stratford


"We have avatars on our emails, if you do too, then ask what department she's in now and search that department's staff on Outlook to find her.

I’m now not even sure what department she works in because the person I asked worked in that department and clearly had no idea who I was on about and just threw random names at me 😭😭

Just ask her how's life in Accounts, she'll come back and say, "Accounts, I don't work there, I'm in ...." Not knowing what department they work in is far less embarrassing than not knowing their name. "

This is the thing. She works in the same department as someone I co manage, who had no idea who I was talking about and threw random names at me

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
9 weeks ago

North West


"I forget everyone’s name. Even the people I know really well 🤣🤣🤣

Oops. Darling works fine for me 🤣"

💔🤣

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By *oeBeansMan
9 weeks ago

Derby

Because we're hybrid working now, people hotdesk so you have to book a desk to come in and you can see the floorplan for all the seats booked and as a result, you can see the names of where everyone is sitting. It's been a life saver

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

I am really good with names but there are some people where it just won’t stick. That’s frustrating.

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