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"Tend to agree, I think the fact I'm here is enough proof of that haha But I wish it wasn't so bafflingly confusing " Maybe the fact you're asking the question here rather than taking to her about it is a sad indictment on where things are? Communication is key, I wish you good fortune | |||
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"Tend to agree, I think the fact I'm here is enough proof of that haha But I wish it wasn't so bafflingly confusing Maybe the fact you're asking the question here rather than taking to her about it is a sad indictment on where things are? Communication is key, I wish you good fortune" Exactly my point mate, thank you. Think the conversation struggle is knowing she'll try if I speak about it, but I hate sex when the other person is doing it out of a sense of obligation. Just wanna fuck somebody who wants to fuck me lol | |||
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"Which came first your profile or your perception that she lacks interest in you? " Lack of interest came first, then the sexual frustration, then the profile. I try to convince myself sex isn't everything and it comes and goes but think there is more to it sadly  | |||
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"Which came first your profile or your perception that she lacks interest in you? Lack of interest came first, then the sexual frustration, then the profile. I try to convince myself sex isn't everything and it comes and goes but think there is more to it sadly "I guess you have a choice then. Continue as you are or start a conversation. Neither is easy. | |||
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" Neither is easy. " Agree, it is very hard. It's tough when you know the convo is probably a "we should break up" convo. Like you said, it's the breakdown in communication that says it all really, things in relationships go off the rails, no sex, arguing etc whatever it is, that's when people notice. But it start when the communication stops
Anyway in a relationship, always communicate. It's the foundation. | |||
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" Neither is easy. Agree, it is very hard. It's tough when you know the convo is probably a "we should break up" convo. Like you said, it's the breakdown in communication that says it all really, things in relationships go off the rails, no sex, arguing etc whatever it is, that's when people notice. But it start when the communication stops
Anyway in a relationship, always communicate. It's the foundation."Do you feel this signals the end of your relationship, it does seem she's sending out small hopeful signals? That's tough on you both. Hope it works out for the best for you both. | |||
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"Maybe she feels that you want things sexually that she is not genuinely interested in. Or she knows/ suspects you are cheating. Quite frankly there is very little pleasure in deep throating and it's not something I would do. But then I wouldn't buy spray for it either as I value my tonsils and gag reflex. The issue here is that clearly you are sexually frustrated so can it be sorted with your GF or is it time to leave?" I'd be terrified of something that numbed my throat outside of a medical setting the chances of choking must be increased by a huge margin. | |||
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"Maybe she feels that you want things sexually that she is not genuinely interested in. Or she knows/ suspects you are cheating. Quite frankly there is very little pleasure in deep throating and it's not something I would do. But then I wouldn't buy spray for it either as I value my tonsils and gag reflex. The issue here is that clearly you are sexually frustrated so can it be sorted with your GF or is it time to leave?" I don't put any demands on sexually, and although I love bjs I don't expect or I haven't said I like deep throat. That's what is so bizarre, I don't even know what to make of it. Maybe I'm too boring in bed lol I'll try talking but it does feel like we're at a point of communication breakdown. I don't even know what to ask lol | |||
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"Maybe she feels that you want things sexually that she is not genuinely interested in. Or she knows/ suspects you are cheating. Quite frankly there is very little pleasure in deep throating and it's not something I would do. But then I wouldn't buy spray for it either as I value my tonsils and gag reflex. The issue here is that clearly you are sexually frustrated so can it be sorted with your GF or is it time to leave? I don't put any demands on sexually, and although I love bjs I don't expect or I haven't said I like deep throat. That's what is so bizarre, I don't even know what to make of it. Maybe I'm too boring in bed lol I'll try talking but it does feel like we're at a point of communication breakdown. I don't even know what to ask lol" Start with "How can we make things better between us?"  | |||
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"Do you put as much effort into your relationship as you do on here or as you used to do at the beginning of the relationship? So many guys come on here moaning about their partners/gfs/wives shutting up shop but ask yourself if you are truly committed to that relationship and if so why are you on here? " Great question. I'm here kind of because her, she has said "shall we go to swinging club" so I started looking into it. She has more experience than me, I've not slept with loads of woman, been in relationships since I was like 18 lol But she then went cold on the idea, she doesn't seem interested anymore. Same with the deepthroating spray I don't understand, maybe she's bored I don't know. | |||
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" I don't even know what to ask lol Start with "How can we make things better between us?" "I'll try x | |||
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"Do you put as much effort into your relationship as you do on here or as you used to do at the beginning of the relationship? So many guys come on here moaning about their partners/gfs/wives shutting up shop but ask yourself if you are truly committed to that relationship and if so why are you on here? Great question. I'm here kind of because her, she has said "shall we go to swinging club" so I started looking into it. She has more experience than me, I've not slept with loads of woman, been in relationships since I was like 18 lol But she then went cold on the idea, she doesn't seem interested anymore. Same with the deepthroating spray I don't understand, maybe she's bored I don't know. " There must be a reason she went cold on the idea, maybe she thinks you are more into it than her and want to fuck other women more than you do her, self conscious maybe. If you want to save your relationship then you need to invest the time and energy into the relationship before you go looking to swing | |||
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" If you want to save your relationship then you need to invest the time and energy into the relationship before you go looking to swing " I agree, we need to communicate because I don't want to sleep with other people, I'm pretty vanilla in that I guess haha The feeling I get is she wants to swing but she can sense I'm not that into it, I think. Maybe wrong who knows with the communication breakdown. Anyway, I really appreciate you speaking to me, honestly being able to speak to people like yourself is a big part why I'm here.  | |||
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" If you want to save your relationship then you need to invest the time and energy into the relationship before you go looking to swing I agree, we need to communicate because I don't want to sleep with other people, I'm pretty vanilla in that I guess haha The feeling I get is she wants to swing but she can sense I'm not that into it, I think. Maybe wrong who knows with the communication breakdown. Anyway, I really appreciate you speaking to me, honestly being able to speak to people like yourself is a big part why I'm here. "Questions for you? Why are you on here? Why did you join? Does she know you are on here? Why haven’t you told her? Mrs | |||
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" If you want to save your relationship then you need to invest the time and energy into the relationship before you go looking to swing I agree, we need to communicate because I don't want to sleep with other people, I'm pretty vanilla in that I guess haha The feeling I get is she wants to swing but she can sense I'm not that into it, I think. Maybe wrong who knows with the communication breakdown. Anyway, I really appreciate you speaking to me, honestly being able to speak to people like yourself is a big part why I'm here.
Questions for you? Why are you on here? Why did you join? Does she know you are on here? Why haven’t you told her?
Mrs"I explained that to somebody else, my gf suggested going to a swinging club, some time ago. It wasn't something I imagined. So I looked into it, joined here, and asked her to join with me, but she lost interest. And I have remained and haven't really done much of than frequent the forums lol I've enjoyed the honest of people, and sort advice many times | |||
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"What would be your ideal outcome? Are you willing to put work into turning your relationship around, providing that your partner is too? " Yeah, I think everything else is almost perfect, just sexual communication breakdown. Partly blame my own insecurities, when she wanted to do swinging it made me feel like I wasn't enough if that makes sense. But I didn't communicate this because I was sure what to say, and I didn't want to stop her from being open, then she lost interest and I'm even more confused 
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