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Why is it hard for guys like me to get a meet

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By *obbo96 OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Basingstoke

So why is it really hard for a guy like me to get a meet I no a few guys on here have the same problem but what I don't understand is why

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By *tormidaysWoman
9 weeks ago

Manchester

"Will fill in later"

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By *eadpool-ishMan
9 weeks ago

Horam

It's the toss up between sheer volume of numbers and the effort you put in really

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By *issy4kinkTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Make sure spelling and grammar is up to scratch. Send an opening message that makes it clear you have read their profile and add a face + body photo.

Do all of the above and you'll get more meets

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
9 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

You dont really have anything in your profile. Just a "fill in later"... could try adding what you are looking for... if you have a type or not... have a look at some other profiles to get an idea what you could add to yours xx

There are a lot of men to women on here... and its hard to stand out so to speak xx

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By *ude LawMan
9 weeks ago

Harrogate

It's because you wear True Relic underwear but you wear it backwards.

Kris Kross didn't die for this.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

To be honest because they (not all) don't make an effort.

They (many) don't target their shop window (your profile) to their target audience.

They (not all) seem to talk none stop about what "they" want and want to do without any consideration for the person they are spouting this crap to.

And lastly because many (not all) think with their cock and speak to people like a disposable vagina rather than a person.

Yes I have 1st hand experience I had a single women's profile and the Mr a single males very recently, both curious what the other side was like, he got plenty of messages and conversations and I got plenty of abuse and unsolicited cock.

Mrs

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


""Will fill in later""

This. 💯%

People generally want to meet people they can work out if they're interested in and attracted to via words and pictures.

If they can't do that....why would they engage with someone when there's no end of well written profiles with good visuals? 🤷‍♂️

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

What kind of guy are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

It’s about engagement and standing out. You’re one of many many options that people have available and you have to appeal to them.

For me it’s about letting them unwrap the present and not have it all unwrapped as where is the surprise and enjoyment. Let people know what you like, what you want and tell them about you. I’m no FAB guru but to me it’s common sense

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

You put more effort into packing this question than you have in your profile. If you can’t be bothered then neither will anyone you message.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago


"You put more effort into packing this question than you have in your profile. If you can’t be bothered then neither will anyone you message.

Simple. "

100% agreed

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Chichester

Your profile text is short and not overly inspiring .

Cant accom / family commitments just reeks of cheating guy behind the Mrs back for many people on here.

Be better of omitting that tbh.

Clubs are better for single men to get going in here by miles / socials

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By *eadpool-ishMan
9 weeks ago

Horam

All of this so far is good advice

Personally, I've also found just engaging with the community in general helps

Chatrooms are a good way of people getting to know you

Posts in the fora also ... particularly if you start a thread, engage with those responding

How else are people going to get to know and like the person that you are?

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By *illan-KillashMan
9 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"So why is it really hard for a guy like me to get a meet I no a few guys on here have the same problem but what I don't understand is why "

All the W's.....

Why are you here?

What do you want?

Who are you?

Where does your biog say what you offer?

When you compare your biog and gallery to other single men, what do you see?

Which of the many options to connect that Fab gives you do you use?

Your profile biog.

Your photo gallery.

Messages.

Forums.

Clubs.

Creating meets.

Responding to listed meets.

1 2 1 socials.

Group socials.

Answer these in your profile and put some effort the options to meet and your prospects of a meet may change.

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By *heitaliandreamerMan
9 weeks ago

Northampton


"Make sure spelling and grammar is up to scratch. Send an opening message that makes it clear you have read their profile and add a face + body photo.

Do all of the above and you'll get more meets "

Not true at all

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By *andadbodMan
9 weeks ago

Liverpool

i have a theory

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By *illan-KillashMan
9 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Make sure spelling and grammar is up to scratch. Send an opening message that makes it clear you have read their profile and add a face + body photo.

Do all of the above and you'll get more meets

Not true at all"

It works for me and many other men here.

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By *obbo96 OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Thankyou for all the advice everyone I just find it hard writing stuff about my self ect due to my autism but thankyou I appreciate it all x

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By *oveat1stfeelMan
9 weeks ago

around here somewhere


"So why is it really hard for a guy like me to get a meet I no a few guys on here have the same problem but what I don't understand is why "

Because it's fab , yes a swinger's site but not all people here are Swingers & even though it's the site it is ladies don't fuck everyone , if there's something , anything , that puts them off not replying that's their choice.Fab is Fab & in my opinion ladies have their choice, it can be tougher for guys no doubt.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
9 weeks ago

North West

To be honest mate it is hard for most guys on here, me included. It is a numbers game. My advice. Update your bio, be yourself, be active on the forums, be polite, be patient. Also get yourself down to some clubs and social events.

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
9 weeks ago

Prestwich

I don't think you should join this site expecting a meet.

Try to have fun, and if you meet somebody, bonus

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
9 weeks ago

Between Sudbury n Haverhill

Why do men automatically think that women want them just from a profile? Just because you have a cock doesn’t mean women are going to jump in bed with you.

Men hear about this site and think “I can get laid easy all the time if I join”

I’m sure they think all women on here must be easy

Mrs

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By *r SensualMan
9 weeks ago

London


"So why is it really hard for a guy like me to get a meet I no a few guys on here have the same problem but what I don't understand is why "

It’s not hard to find people to meet with if you:

- have a well written profile that outlines who you are, what you have to offer and what you’re looking for (in that order)with tasteful pictures

- target specific people who match what attracts you and if you believe you fit the description of what they’re looking for. Scattergun approach doesn’t work.

- Be active in various forum threads, not just ones that are a blatant attempt to drive engagement to your profile. But ones where you can express the kind of person you are.

- All of the above along with getting your face seen at in person events and gatherings.

None are guaranteed to get you a meet but all of them combined certainly do help. Good luck OP

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

Who are guys like you? 28 year olds?

I do ok. But I want to know more about doing better

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By *hunky GentMan
9 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

OP - I'll send you one of my ladies.

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By *ulumStruanMan
9 weeks ago

Islington

Don't worry it's not (mainly) you.

You can certainly improve your odds by taking some of the advice here, but the MAIN reason has nothing to do with you - it's just supply and demand.

Cock is abundant and easily available on Fabs, pussy is not. So yes, it's a lot harder for the men to get meets than for women.

(It's not all roses for the women though - they have the opposite problem - if you post a meet and get 500 replies, you can't even keep up with the high quality replies and the men you WANT to meet).

My advice is to focus more on meetups and socials and clubs and basically in person stuff instead of sending endless messages on Fabs that get ignored.

You might also be pleasantly surprised how many of the women with the "only contact me if you're 6'3", have a six pack, model part-time and have a 10 inch cock" type profiles don't actually care about the "rules" when you meet them in person and they feel there's actually a spark and chemistry between you

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

Would a woman truly know what you bring to this and whether we find you attractive?

If mostly unsure, we move on. It requires vast amounts of effort to find the tiniest minority who are mutually compatible

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