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Women of fab - do you approach men you find attractive or wait for them to approach you?

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By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
9 weeks ago

North West

I'm not talking about on fab, I mean in public. Like at a pub or a bar, do you approach men you like? Or do you hold back and wait for men to approach you.

Just wondering. Interested to see what you all say.

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
9 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

If i am out at a pub alone.. i find guys approach me... but usually i go out with friends etc... I wouldnt approach a guy if out in a pub...

swinger club different story... xx

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By *estructionDollyWoman
9 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I've never approached a complete stranger I fancy out in the wild, I'd probably rather a large hole opened up to swallow me I don't even like talking to strangers in general, let alone a stranger I fancy. I'm a shithead.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

I'm unlikely to approach a man in a regular pub or bar because trying to explain the whole poly partners thing would blow most people's minds.

At a group social, munch or swingers club. Absolutely yes.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

Did you know: women are 74% more likely to approach a woman in a pub than online.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Out in general I don't approach anybody. If I'm out in bars I'm out with friends and to socialise with the people I've chosen to be out with.

Clubs and swingers things, more people approach me than I approach. But I do occasionally make the time and space to go talk to someone I'm particularly drawn to 💜

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

I wonder if women fear rejection and so leave it up to men to approach them

But more seriously I wonder if society and social norms are part of the reason a woman might not want to approach a man.

Great thread OP. interested to read the replies

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
9 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet


"I'm unlikely to approach a man in a regular pub or bar because trying to explain the whole poly partners thing would blow most people's minds.

At a group social, munch or swingers club. Absolutely yes. "

Basically this... I enjoy swinging i couldnt go back to monogamny (excuse spelling)...

Plus i don't "date" per say I prefer to meet like minded people in swinging clubs... then meet people in a normal pub or bar xx

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By *eadpool-ishMan
9 weeks ago

Horam


"I'm unlikely to approach a man in a regular pub or bar because trying to explain the whole poly partners thing would blow most people's minds.

At a group social, munch or swingers club. Absolutely yes.

Basically this... I enjoy swinging i couldnt go back to monogamny (excuse spelling)...

Plus i don't "date" per say I prefer to meet like minded people in swinging clubs... then meet people in a normal pub or bar xx "

Monogamy is a type of wood isn't it?

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends


"I'm unlikely to approach a man in a regular pub or bar because trying to explain the whole poly partners thing would blow most people's minds.

At a group social, munch or swingers club. Absolutely yes.

Basically this... I enjoy swinging i couldnt go back to monogamny (excuse spelling)...

Plus i don't "date" per say I prefer to meet like minded people in swinging clubs... then meet people in a normal pub or bar xx "

MonoGammy I say

(Kidding )

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
9 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet


"I'm unlikely to approach a man in a regular pub or bar because trying to explain the whole poly partners thing would blow most people's minds.

At a group social, munch or swingers club. Absolutely yes.

Basically this... I enjoy swinging i couldnt go back to monogamny (excuse spelling)...

Plus i don't "date" per say I prefer to meet like minded people in swinging clubs... then meet people in a normal pub or bar xx

Monogamy is a type of wood isn't it?"

FFS you!!!!... right on one today.... xx

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By *eadpool-ishMan
9 weeks ago

Horam


"I'm unlikely to approach a man in a regular pub or bar because trying to explain the whole poly partners thing would blow most people's minds.

At a group social, munch or swingers club. Absolutely yes.

Basically this... I enjoy swinging i couldnt go back to monogamny (excuse spelling)...

Plus i don't "date" per say I prefer to meet like minded people in swinging clubs... then meet people in a normal pub or bar xx

Monogamy is a type of wood isn't it?

FFS you!!!!... right on one today.... xx"

Yes, hard wood

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends


"I'm unlikely to approach a man in a regular pub or bar because trying to explain the whole poly partners thing would blow most people's minds.

At a group social, munch or swingers club. Absolutely yes.

Basically this... I enjoy swinging i couldnt go back to monogamny (excuse spelling)...

Plus i don't "date" per say I prefer to meet like minded people in swinging clubs... then meet people in a normal pub or bar xx

Monogamy is a type of wood isn't it?"

That’s mahogany. The type of pretty wood I provide

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
9 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet


"I'm unlikely to approach a man in a regular pub or bar because trying to explain the whole poly partners thing would blow most people's minds.

At a group social, munch or swingers club. Absolutely yes.

Basically this... I enjoy swinging i couldnt go back to monogamny (excuse spelling)...

Plus i don't "date" per say I prefer to meet like minded people in swinging clubs... then meet people in a normal pub or bar xx

Monogamy is a type of wood isn't it?

FFS you!!!!... right on one today.... xx

Yes, hard wood "

uh-huh isnt most wood har... wait... dont answer that!!!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
9 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

No, C wouldn’t approach a random guy in a pub.

At a group social where swingers attend, she absolutely would and did Friday.

K

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By *orphia2003Woman
9 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Happy to approach people I like.

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

I'd approach them....nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say x

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Usually the one who’s approached, however if I see something I really want- I go for it.

Shy kids don’t get sweets and all😏

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
9 weeks ago

near you...

We get lots (and lots) of men writing to us so not short on options there but we have approached a select few that I fancied the pants off and had interesting profiles. #slut4eva

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
9 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I rarely go anywhere other than gigs, cinema or theatre unless it's a Fab social.

Yes I've approached guys at gigs, but generally only because I'm talking about the artist, not because I want to jump them. And really, cinema and theatre are not conducive to chatting someone up! 😂

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

9 weeks ago

East Sussex

My days of meeting men in pubs and bars are long since over.

I would always wait for a man to approach me.

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By *hunky GentMan
9 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"My days of meeting men in pubs and bars are long since over.

I would always wait for a man to approach me."

I tried that, and failed.

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By *hunky GentMan
9 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

I get approached by ladies in pubs, especially if I'm wearing a shirt.

Normally because they think I'm security and want to know where the toilets are.

Oh well.

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By *ena AmourTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Chard

At least if any of the fab ladies approach me to offer a Chewbacca I now know to refuse politely

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

9 weeks ago

East Sussex


"My days of meeting men in pubs and bars are long since over.

I would always wait for a man to approach me.

I tried that, and failed. "

Well it was a pub and you did approach

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By *vaRoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I wouldn’t approach a man in the vanilla world, fab was a different story

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By *hunky GentMan
9 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"My days of meeting men in pubs and bars are long since over.

I would always wait for a man to approach me.

I tried that, and failed.

Well it was a pub and you did approach "

And I can honestly say - you look even better in person than on your amazing pics.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

9 weeks ago

East Sussex


"My days of meeting men in pubs and bars are long since over.

I would always wait for a man to approach me.

I tried that, and failed.

Well it was a pub and you did approach

And I can honestly say - you look even better in person than on your amazing pics. "

Ooo Chunky you're very kind.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

I do sometimes and typically guage their potential interest, before making contact. Smiles can say an awful lot. I have some caution, typically waiting for them to acknowledge some interest and I am a bit rejection sensitive.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
9 weeks ago

Preston

In my experience at least, it’s rare for ladies to do the running. At least in an unmistakably overt manner.

Tends more to be dropping subtle hints/done through banter…

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By *inxy777Woman
9 weeks ago

essex

No I wouldn’t approach anyone. X

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
9 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Nope I would never approach anyone lol

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By *ookie46Woman
9 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I have in the past yes

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"I'm not talking about on fab, I mean in public. Like at a pub or a bar, do you approach men you like? Or do you hold back and wait for men to approach you.

Just wondering. Interested to see what you all say. "

Yes 👍🏻

And women 👍🏻

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By *ancashireredheadWoman
9 weeks ago

Up North

I have in the past, just to strike up a conversation and gauge interest without making a total arse of myself.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
9 weeks ago

cardiff

All good things come to those who wait

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Mayfair

It's futile OP, you won't get an honest answer out of these slithering sirens. Approaching men at a bar, I ask you. The only time they've approached me is to ask me to step aside so that they can speak to the barman. {shakes fist, spills drink}

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
9 weeks ago

Voldsøy

No, not even before being ENM. Way too shy! Just fell into bed with certain friends 🤣

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By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
9 weeks ago

North West


"It's futile OP, you won't get an honest answer out of these slithering sirens. Approaching men at a bar, I ask you. The only time they've approached me is to ask me to step aside so that they can speak to the barman. {shakes fist, spills drink}"

What? No one is approaching Nero? Ladies you should all be ashamed of yourselves. Nero here, the Roman Emperor is a stallion among men.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"It's futile OP, you won't get an honest answer out of these slithering sirens. Approaching men at a bar, I ask you. The only time they've approached me is to ask me to step aside so that they can speak to the barman. {shakes fist, spills drink}"

Sassy as fuck!

I even bought dinner 😘

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
9 weeks ago

Niche

No, never.

I be too wary that they're a nutter. I think maybe online dating has meant that I've dealt with sooo many 'normal' seeming people that turn cracked completely out of the blue.

I like to take time to let the crazy rise to the top and out itself 😎

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By *verageHoesCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

No way. I need to observe them on a sex forum for at least 5 months before deciding they might be a bit hot.

N

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends


"No way. I need to observe them on a sex forum for at least 5 months before deciding they might be a bit hot.

N"

🧍🏾‍♂️

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Mayfair


"It's futile OP, you won't get an honest answer out of these slithering sirens. Approaching men at a bar, I ask you. The only time they've approached me is to ask me to step aside so that they can speak to the barman. {shakes fist, spills drink}

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Sassy as fuck!

I even bought dinner 😘"

You have, more than once! 😘

But this isn't the "Who pays/Who goes Dutch" thread.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"It's futile OP, you won't get an honest answer out of these slithering sirens. Approaching men at a bar, I ask you. The only time they've approached me is to ask me to step aside so that they can speak to the barman. {shakes fist, spills drink}

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Sassy as fuck!

I even bought dinner 😘

You have, more than once! 😘

But this isn't the "Who pays/Who goes Dutch" thread. "

You really do get sassier by the day Sassy-Ass 😘

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By *hortieWoman
9 weeks ago

Northampton

I strike first. Not so patient in my older years to be waiting on blerks to make up their mind on anything 😂😁

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
9 weeks ago

Altrincham


"I'm not talking about on fab, I mean in public. Like at a pub or a bar, do you approach men you like? Or do you hold back and wait for men to approach you.

Just wondering. Interested to see what you all say. "

If I'm chatting to someone I find attractive, usually the banter is enough to show I'm interested

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By *orbidden eastMan
9 weeks ago

london dodging electric bikes

I highly doubt any ladies and as I have read approach any guys. I’m just waiting in my lifetime if it ever happens 😜

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By *ceKweenWoman
9 weeks ago

Bolton

Very rare I approach the man

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Neither I think I have a do not disturb sign on my forehead when it comes to men in real life.

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
9 weeks ago

Someplace

With some liquid courage, I will approach. Usually men that approach first thought

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
9 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"It's futile OP, you won't get an honest answer out of these slithering sirens. Approaching men at a bar, I ask you. The only time they've approached me is to ask me to step aside so that they can speak to the barman. {shakes fist, spills drink}

What? No one is approaching Nero? Ladies you should all be ashamed of yourselves. Nero here, the Roman Emperor is a stallion among men. "

🤣 Nope not doing the approaching! There's only so much rejection a girl can take lol

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By *all me FlikWoman
9 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I approached my now partner in a coffee shop...that was 12 years ago and still going strong.

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