FabSwingers.com forum: Receiving threats

By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Someplace

Why do some men think it's okay to threaten women because you reject them? I had a guy messaging me that he's gonna find me and take me, and it really scary. I have blocked and reported but it seems like nothing happens to their account...?

I wonder why they just get away with it? Do reports ever get noticed?

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I am really sorry that you have been subjected to someone's fragile ego. It's is entirely unacceptable.

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Someplace

"I am really sorry that you have been subjected to someone's fragile ego. It's is entirely unacceptable. "

Thank you

I wonder how many other women go through this, it's disturbing.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

All reports to Admin are investigated, which can lead to various actions being taken, including accounts being removed.

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By *aughtynice78Man
9 weeks ago

Telford

Wow... that's really awful! There's some strange people on this site, hope you're OK now

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By *oeBeansMan
9 weeks ago

Derby

That's fucking grim 😕 I suppose the only silver lining is he outed himself straight away but people like that have no place on here

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By *one_maverickMan
9 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

Women can be just as bad from my experience. I turned a woman down and she literally sent me my address and threatened to turn up at my house and show my family my fab pics. Luckily she was all talk but definitely made me think about my proximity.

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By *eoBloomsMan
9 weeks ago

Springfield

That's a criminal offence. Hopefully Admin will identify him to the Police.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"I am really sorry that you have been subjected to someone's fragile ego. It's is entirely unacceptable.

Thank you

I wonder how many other women go through this, it's disturbing. "

I've had some pretty unpleasant responses to polite no thank you's which is why I don't reply to profiles I am not I terested in. But some still send abuse when you don't reply.

Threats are frightening and completely unwarranted. Sending a hug

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By *one_maverickMan
9 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

To answer your question. Some people just can't handle being rejected or they have been rejected so many times their ego breaks and you're just the hammer to their glass ego

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By *3dfMan
9 weeks ago

Llandudno

That’s disgusting behaviour! I don’t understand why any man thinks he has the right to threaten anyone on here. It makes me ashamed when I hear things like this, nobody deserves it

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Someplace

"Women can be just as bad from my experience. I turned a woman down and she literally sent me my address and threatened to turn up at my house and show my family my fab pics. Luckily she was all talk but definitely made me think about my proximity. "

That's scary, i'm sorry that happened to you

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By *nebworthMan
9 weeks ago

Knebworth

Unfortunately you are not the first forum thread I have read whose topic is about receiving a threat. I do not get why someone would write something on this site to upset someone else. It makes no sense. Hope Admin do something about it for you. So sorry you were upset.

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Someplace

"I am really sorry that you have been subjected to someone's fragile ego. It's is entirely unacceptable.

Thank you

I wonder how many other women go through this, it's disturbing.

I've had some pretty unpleasant responses to polite no thank you's which is why I don't reply to profiles I am not I terested in. But some still send abuse when you don't reply.

Threats are frightening and completely unwarranted. Sending a hug"

I think it scared me cos his location was so close by, and thank you xxx

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Sorry to hear this OP. You’ve done the right thing reporting and if necessary go to the police as suggested above. Threats are never acceptable from anyone. Ever. Sending hugs x

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By *partharmonyCouple
9 weeks ago

Ruislip

I can't offer you any solutions or explanations, only to concur that this behaviour is disgraceful and should not be tolerated.

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By *one_maverickMan
9 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

That's scary, i'm sorry that happened to you "

Thank you. I just either ignore the message if they're within a mile of me or just send them a you're not my type message if I reject them.

I think that this is just as bad as the dating scene.

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Mayfair

This really makes unpleasant reading. I'm very sorry to hear that you've experienced this, OP. I hope here, amongst the forum dwellers, you find solidarity and empathy. 🩶

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By *londebiguyMan
9 weeks ago

Southport

"Why do some men think it's okay to threaten women because you reject them? I had a guy messaging me that he's gonna find me and take me, and it really scary. I have blocked and reported but it seems like nothing happens to their account...?

Definitely report.

Screenshot and police I'd say too

I wonder why they just get away with it? Do reports ever get noticed?

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By *agic.MMan
9 weeks ago

Orpington

I'd say admins do a good enough job keeping things safe on the site (given the minimum amount of time and tools they have) ...sometimes it does take a while for actions to be taken, sometimes more people have to report an acount. Most of these are empty threats that come from a bruised fragile ego, however caution is aleays advised when interacting with anyone on the site

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
9 weeks ago

Niche

Sadly even if the profile is removed there is no way to prevent them returning.

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By *one_maverickMan
9 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

"Sadly even if the profile is removed there is no way to prevent them returning."

This is true. I've had a people pop up numerous times after I've blocked them

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

I’m sorry, OP. I Hope you’re ok that’s scary.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
9 weeks ago

Niche

"Sadly even if the profile is removed there is no way to prevent them returning.

This is true. I've had a people pop up numerous times after I've blocked them "

Same. It's a risk of online life.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

"Sadly even if the profile is removed there is no way to prevent them returning."

And return they do, making profile after profile in order to message you.

Sorry to hear you’ve experienced this OP. I’ve had all manner of threats over the years, including the threats to find me and “out me”. There are a number of men who cannot take rejection well at all!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

East Sussex

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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