FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting single men

By *INKYLOVE69 OP Couple
8 weeks ago

funky town

Is any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single guys or are we being too picky?

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
8 weeks ago

Norwich

It can be hard as so many you make arrangements with or think you're going to see and you hear nothing more.

Why bother making arrangements then if you're not going to turn up?

I get so confused by it sometimes but then I have a word with myself and forget about it.

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By *one_maverickMan
8 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

What issues to you have when it comes to single men?

I'd like to join couples but I too find it quite difficult

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By *ittlebirdWoman
8 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

What checks are you doing OPs? Are you chatting first? Chatting away from here? Establishing what you all want before meeting?

Meeting for a social first?

All of these things have helped me in the past. Hope it helps 😘

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I am single and find it hard trying to meet couples

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By *bi HaiveMan
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8 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Is any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single guys or are we being too picky? "

Picky is good.

If it was easy to meet people at the drop of a hat I'd worry. It shouldn't be a quick and hurried decision as far as we're concerned on the couples profile.

First sign of any red flags and its back to the drawing board. We'd rather wait for the right company than just settle for what's available. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ildTimes.Man
8 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

Not especially hard, just put the effort in and be picky 🥪

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
8 weeks ago

Stoke

"Is any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single guys or are we being too picky? "

We find it impossible to meet decent couplesaand single females, but singles guys aren't normally a problem.

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By *irty_little_blondeWoman
8 weeks ago

Manchester

Lately they are either fake, time wasters or just mess you about.

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By *udesentientMan
8 weeks ago

Leeds

"Is any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single guys or are we being too picky? "

I think it's good to be picky tbh. It's a bit of a sore experience across board. I've had couples that refuse social meets, and those that just stop communicating when they try to set up a meet.

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By *adgeyMan
8 weeks ago

Bingley

I find it hard to meet off here full stop.

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By *jonesMan
8 weeks ago

south west

There is just a lot of flakey unreliable folk on fab unfortunately...and some silver tongued tricksters that like wasting folks time I think...

Clubs and socials are a much more productive way to meet people I think ..

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
8 weeks ago

Telford

What issues have you been having with single guys?

From a single guy perspective, I struggle to even get messages back from couples and women. So I'm wondering what are all of these flaky guys doing right that they get meet invites in the first place?

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By *ihusband84Man
8 weeks ago

SHEERNESS

I'd love to opportunity to meet but all my texts get ignored

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By *eardedguy83Man
8 weeks ago

Worcestershire

My experience on Fab is that I enjoy, if that’s the right word, plenty of message exchanges from couples and single ladies, but as soon as meets are mentioned, it all grinds to a halt. Perhaps, it’s me or maybe they’re photo collectors, fake accounts or simply lose interest in me. As an older bloke I’m more than adept at managing my expectations, but it is a trying! But, we persevere

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By *JB1954Man
8 weeks ago

Reading

"What issues have you been having with single guys?

Yes I have age against me. Chatting to females, couples recently. Most seem to assume. I am married . Will do a no show. Yes some couples . Say straight male on part of profile. Yet in requirements state if say threesome . Male must be bi ?

As said guys must be very good at convincing in messages ?

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By *one_maverickMan
8 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

"Lately they are either fake, time wasters or just mess you about. "

I've noticed this with some couples accounts I've had conversations with as well

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By *ndymac888Man
8 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I speak to couples regularly but not met any yet, they tend to be quite specific and know what the are looking for I kinda let them find me, and see where it goes.

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By *oeBeansMan
8 weeks ago

London

Just lower your standards a bit and I'm sure they'll all be rolling in!

Oh, on an unrelated note... Hi, how's things?

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By *olo180Man
8 weeks ago

Blackpool / London

"Is any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single guys or are we being too picky? "

Here 🙋🏼‍♂️ lol

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By *hunky GentMan
8 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

Be as picky as you like.

Who you meet is completely to your taste.

What am I saying?

Pick me, pick me, pick me.

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By *he Gentleman 84Man
8 weeks ago

North East

Speaking as a single man I think people are precautious and don’t always approach even if they may want too! That’s just my take!

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By *eroLondonMan
8 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Is any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single guys or are we being too picky? "

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I'm not your target audience but having read your profile I can take a guess why you might be having issues.

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By *empest2KMan
8 weeks ago

Derby

"Is any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single guys or are we being too picky? "

Speaking from my experience, I'm not finding it hard to meet couples and ladies lately, mainly because it's always been hard for me, if you'll pardon the pun! 🤣

I also don't think you're being picky as you have your own preferences and I believe in sticking to your guns, but you're also welcome to compromise if that's what you really want in order to achieve your goal.

As someone else has said, I totally agree that swingers clubs and private parties are your best bet for meeting single guys you're likely to be interested in, and vice versa.

Nonetheless, I hope you have better luck meeting single guys soon 😁👍

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
8 weeks ago

Beverley

A couple stopped talking to me recently because I couldn't meet them on the day they wanted because I had my kids that evening. I gave them all of the other options, and I got the 'were clearly not worth it to you' speech, and frankly, no, they weren't, under the circumstances.

I'm also fed up with the use of the word 'genuine.' I, along with thousands of others on here have been verified as genuine load of times. If you're getting messages from guys who have lots of verifications, these people are not part of any problem. I'm not saying you're the problem either as you have the right to meet whoever you want, but 'genuine' really riles me

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By *esthetic21Man
8 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

I don't think there's such thing as being too picky. You like what you like, it's that simple why settle for someone or something you're not 100% happy with

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
8 weeks ago

Middle Earth

we find it pretty hard to find the right man, couples even harder.

most men don't want to put the effort in, others just don't look right, some don't turn up and others are just too far away. Its not as easy as some like to think and we wouldn't ever drop our standards. if that's being too picky so be it.

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By *JB1954Man
8 weeks ago

Reading

"What issues have you been having with single guys?

As said guys must be very good at convincing in messages ? "

Adding to this and what others have posted. Even if say can travel etc. Meeting their criteria can be very difficult. Sometimes in profile can have conflicting requirements of what they are actually looking for ?

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
8 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

In all my 7+ years, I’ve never been asked 🤷🏽‍♂️

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By *pforanything22Man
8 weeks ago

March

I have been let down a few times but I find it better to meet in swinging clubs

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
8 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

It’s not just men that’s hard to get to meet up with, couples and single women are up there as the elusive ‘genuine’ type of people in here.

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By *VineMan
8 weeks ago

Just north of Bristol

lol! If you think it’s difficult as a couple, try being a Single man.

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By *oomerangboyMan
8 weeks ago

Staffordshire

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By *oomerangboyMan
8 weeks ago

Staffordshire

From a guys point of view, meeting a couple is very hard work, I find more often than not it’s usually the male half getting his kicks while the mrs at work, it’s very rare to speak to a genuine couple, I gave up messaging couples as it tended to fall on deaf ears or it was a fake account or blokes pretending, just frustrating tbh x

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By *r SensualMan
8 weeks ago

London

Think it’s a case of shiny object syndrome with some couples who are looking for men. I’ve had conversations with couples where it’s all going well, the chat is flowing and then boom! Radio silence to the (my) last message from of the conversation.

So much choice in that regard meaning there’s a tendency for heads to be turned easily.

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By *JB1954Man
8 weeks ago

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"From a guys point of view, meeting a couple is very hard work, I find more often than not it’s usually the male half getting his kicks while the mrs at work, it’s very rare to speak to a genuine couple, I gave up messaging couples as it tended to fall on deaf ears or it was a fake account or blokes pretending, just frustrating tbh x

Although yes I message , wink to see if get reply. Do think there seems to be more couples profiles who are not what profile says. Yes may even have photo’s and veris. But seem to be on at same times daily. Not ever at weekends ?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"lol! If you think it’s difficult as a couple, try being a Single man.

It's way harder for couples.

A single guy only has his own preferences to worry about and whether they match the person/people they're talking to.

With a couple finding four way attraction and interest is significantly harder and the number of profiles to search through is far lower than the number of single male ones.

We've just been browsing on the couples profile looking at single men. Even with good search parameters there were 300+ results. And of those about half a dozen that caught our eye. It's a long, arduous process, trust me.....🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

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By *AYENCouple
8 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I think you're better off staying picky - a rare experience is a thousand times better than a bad experience. K.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Lol I've been finding it hard to meet couples and women, guys don't seem to be the problem round here

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By *oiluvfunMan
8 weeks ago

Penrith

I completely agree mate, it's rare to find a genuine couple in here these days

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"Is any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single guys or are we being too picky? "

It's hard to find genuinely single men not playing away from their wives/ partners and who also match other criteria and standards you may have. But if you don't mind sifting through and being patient then some gems do rise through it all.

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