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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily?

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By *electableicecreamMan
10 weeks ago

The West

I do. I cultivate this part of myself and try to manage it in such a way that letting go when it's time isn't always crushing.

I like having a crush on someone. I like strings and romance. I don't need to be joined at the hip with someone to feel those things and I don't worry about getting hurt when I do.

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By *electableicecreamMan
10 weeks ago

The West

I don't think it's a bad thing. Having an open heart is surely a good thing

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By *hortieWoman
10 weeks ago

Northampton

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "

Feelings of wanting to bounce around on someones cock? Yup.

Emotionally? No.

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"I do. I cultivate this part of myself and try to manage it in such a way that letting go when it's time isn't always crushing.

I like having a crush on someone. I like strings and romance. I don't need to be joined at the hip with someone to feel those things and I don't worry about getting hurt when I do."

I feel this in my entire being.

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily?

Feelings of wanting to bounce around on someones cock? Yup.

Emotionally? No."

Cock is good for you.

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By *randMrsShebaCouple
10 weeks ago

Birmingham

No. I make smarter choices I'm very logical. Only really loved wife, mum and grandmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?"

Not in general as I'm generally not interested in most people. If I find someone who floats my boat then definitely yes.

"Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "

I'd say so, judging by my previous relationships.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
10 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I always thought I fell in love easily. But reflection recently has made me realise that I absolutely get infatuated with people, and I don't honestly think I've ever truly been in love with anyone.

I definitely try now not to become too engrossed with people, but I find it's such a fine line to walk. If you like someone, you're interested in them and want to be around them right? But equally how do you not overdo it and another them?

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

I used to, maybe.

Now, I've been hurt too many times to admit feelings. Possibly ever.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
10 weeks ago

North Angus

Not sure if I feel easy or if I’m just happy to have someone to speak to and over do it

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
10 weeks ago

Someplace

No, I have only ever had feelings for one man.

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By *emorefridaCouple
10 weeks ago

La la land

Yes and no, I get attached to people in my life in a superficial way really easily.

Attached to the point I do anything for you rarely. I don't like letting people in and tbh most don't want to either

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
10 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "

Ah. I absolutely do, because I deliberately shun the social norms that there is casual sex and there is A Relationship and there is nothing in between. What has been important for me is to learn that I can feel things without a requirement for the other person to feel the same thing. It is wonderfully freeing to open myself up to organically letting feelings grow, whatever they may be, free from the constraints of a need for reciprocation.

And also that feelings can be transient. I may see someone for only a few hours and never see them again - but why not fully lean in to that experience, be open and vulnerable, fully immersed. It's intense and rewarding.

But if you mean am I a clingy pest who obsesses over people, no, definitely not.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

Feelings? Define this.

Are we talking about luuuurve?

Because if we are then my answer is no, I do not and will not fall (or catch feelings) for someone. It If I lived my life like that, I’d be heart broken after every good friend I have/had.

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
10 weeks ago

Someplace

I don't think it's a bad thing, but it's not good either. It can't be healthy.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Chichester

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "

No I don’t

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
10 weeks ago

Swansea

I am deeply in love with my husband. When we met, which was on here btw, we fell for each other very quickly and that surprised both of us.

Now that we swing as a couple, the feelings part of us is not available for other people to get close to.

Mrs

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By *ittlebirdWoman
10 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "

Yes.

No - I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. It means I’m human and like to feel things. Feelings come in all shapes and sizes. Mostly, for me, they’re positive 😘

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By *asty tatsyMan
10 weeks ago

london

I think you have to have some sort of feelings to someone your intimate with but do I fall madly in love or extend my feelings too much no

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

No not at all. I try to avoid it at all costs. It would be of no benefit to me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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10 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't know. If I like someone I like them I don't know if other people find it more or less difficult than me.

As I've grown older I have learned to reserve judgement until I know someone better though

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By *ressF4FunMan
10 weeks ago

Near Naas

I used to but after plenty of heartbreaks I’ve learned not to it’s been mentally beneficial to me anyway

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By *hat.coupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Kent

It takes me a bit if time to develop feelings, but once they are there they are strong. I can forget people easily too if I don't see them regularly, object permanence is real with ADHD.

Mrs x

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By *oubleswing2019Man
10 weeks ago

Colchester

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "
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No. My head rules my emotions and my feelings. They only get a say if my will desires it. And emotion is just a chemical response to a stimulus, and I get to decide how to respond to that response.

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily ? Of course not. Some people enjoy that and it works for them. I just know it doesn't work for me.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "

I catch feelings far too easily, not love but feelings and it annoys me a lot.

I wish I didn't feel like I do and was more relaxed about feelings but then again I'd rather be too much than not enough

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By *vaRoseWoman
10 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Yeah, whether that’s friendship or more. I thought I was pretty cool and collected. - apparently not

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By *ceKweenWoman
10 weeks ago

Bolton

It’s a lovely thing to have feelings.. we are all so wary these days which is a shame

Feelings make us human 😊

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I used to be the ice queen.

It would however appear, that certain people are able to break that.. and boy do I have the feels🙃🙃

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
10 weeks ago

Bristol

"I used to be the ice queen.

It would however appear, that certain people are able to break that.. and boy do I have the feels🙃🙃"

Nah. She’s right above you ⬆️

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By *ceKweenWoman
10 weeks ago

Bolton

"I used to be the ice queen.

It would however appear, that certain people are able to break that.. and boy do I have the feels🙃🙃

Nah. She’s right above you ⬆️ "

No… I’m below you

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
10 weeks ago

Bristol

"I used to be the ice queen.

It would however appear, that certain people are able to break that.. and boy do I have the feels🙃🙃

Nah. She’s right above you ⬆️

No… I’m below you

That can be arranged 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I am very feel.

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By *oeBeansMan
10 weeks ago

Derby

I think I'm becoming more and more hardened against having feelings for people easily. I used to get very invested very quickly to the point I would overthink, wondering if I was maybe being a bit too much, whether I need to reign it in etc.

I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away.

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"It’s a lovely thing to have feelings.. we are all so wary these days which is a shame

Feelings make us human 😊"

I like them a lot

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"Yes and no, I get attached to people in my life in a superficial way really easily.

Attached to the point I do anything for you rarely. I don't like letting people in and tbh most don't want to either"
I can’t imagine NOT wanting to be in you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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10 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I think I'm becoming more and more hardened against having feelings for people easily. I used to get very invested very quickly to the point I would overthink, wondering if I was maybe being a bit too much, whether I need to reign it in etc.

I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away."

You got older and more experienced is what changed. 😊

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By *r.ZeusMan
10 weeks ago

Basgiath War College

Yes guilty!

It hasn’t been a bad thing so far but I think it’s because I’ve got a good judge of character

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
10 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "

Last time I did it didn't end well... I'm very much trying to avoid that again

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
10 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I feel a lot.

I definitely have feelings for all the important people in my life. That's probably part of why they're important to me 💜

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By *ora the explorerWoman
10 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes definitely.

And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.

I think I have an odd mindset though. I never get hurt because if someone doesn’t want me anymore I definitely don’t want them. It has to be mutual. This is why I’ve never understood the obsessive bunny boiler types.

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"Yes definitely.

And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.

Oh wow now there’s a sight for sore eyes

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By *ora the explorerWoman
10 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yes definitely.

And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.

Oh wow now there’s a sight for sore eyes"

What is 😳

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"Yes definitely.

And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.

Oh wow now there’s a sight for sore eyes

What is 😳"

You

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By *ellinever70Woman
10 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I'm not such a cold fish that I'm without feeling, but I'm not going to feel much beyond having a general feeling of like towards someone until I spend time with someone and get to know them

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By *ora the explorerWoman
10 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yes definitely.

And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.

Oh wow now there’s a sight for sore eyes

What is 😳

You

Awww 🥰

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"I'm not such a cold fish that I'm without feeling, but I'm not going to feel much beyond having a general feeling of like towards someone until I spend time with someone and get to know them "

Honestly, I like the idea that there are people you have feelings for.

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By *oeBeansMan
10 weeks ago

Derby

I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away.

You got older and more experienced is what changed. 😊"

Oh joy, can't wait to be an emotional basket case at 40 🙈

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away.

You got older and more experienced is what changed. 😊

Oh joy, can't wait to be an emotional basket case at 40 🙈"

Too afraid of ever having feelings again at 40? You’ll fit right in on here

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
10 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Do you catch feelings easily for people?

Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "

Depends on the feelings.

And your life philosophy.

I'm a little demisexual.

So like a connection as good chemistry makes for great sex.

I enjoy the social side of the lifestyle so having friends isn't an issue. Also being poly opens up options.

So having feelings isn't necessarily bad so long as you're honest about the feelings.

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By *oeBeansMan
10 weeks ago

Derby

I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away.

You got older and more experienced is what changed. 😊

Oh joy, can't wait to be an emotional basket case at 40 🙈

Too afraid of ever having feelings again at 40? You’ll fit right in on here

Wow, absolute savagery! I mean it's true, but you're not supposed to say it out loud!

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

Feelings as in love? No. Not at all. Limerence? No.

But I do like people when there's that connection. Love spending time, learning all of the little things. It's a great thing to feel, to be alive and I'm happiest when I'm embracing who I am. Feelings are a part of that.

Feelings aren't bad unless they are weaponised, the person is a massive throbber or it's too intense and not reciprocated - like after one social/date. Oh and when it becomes limerence. Never a great look on anyone.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
10 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

“Massive throbber” 😂

There’s Meli’s famous way with words again.

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By *zeroMan
10 weeks ago

Glasgow

As in do I feel in love with people? No, I've only ever felt that truly with one person and it wasn't to be.

I do however find it very easy to become attached to people as friends. I can often come off as stand offish but if I warm to someone I'm a lot different. A bit like a cat. That's why it often hurts me if we stop talking or drift apart for whatever reason. Occasionally I'll sit back and get a bit sentimental thinking about the times we had together and how we are more or less strangers now

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By *sWyldWoman
10 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I think I can fall in love a little bit quite a lot . It's what happens when you wear your heart on your sleeve.

Feelings don't scare me. It's all part of the experience.

It doesn't need to be heartbreaking and it also doesn't mean I suddenly have expectations either.

It means I allow myself to truly get lost in someone and in the moments we share.

I may only love for the night or it may be longer but I don't fight it if it feels right.

My heart may indeed be a beautiful liability but equally it's much stronger for it.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
10 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I don't find it easy to fall in love, I can be quite closed off. But I find it easy to make connections/friendships with people and I really value those connections. Sadly not everyone does.

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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Mandem are talking about love 😭🥴

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"Mandem are talking about love 😭🥴"

I’m kidding but honestly it’s not about love. Catching feelings is more the stage well before love

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By *zeroMan
10 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Mandem are talking about love 😭🥴

I’m kidding but honestly it’s not about love. Catching feelings is more the stage well before love"

Oh, then not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Mandem are talking about love 😭🥴

I’m kidding but honestly it’s not about love. Catching feelings is more the stage well before love"

While they are vastly different, it's a slippery slope for me.

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By *sStephenPickle OP Man
10 weeks ago

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"Mandem are talking about love 😭🥴

I’m kidding but honestly it’s not about love. Catching feelings is more the stage well before love

While they are vastly different, it's a slippery slope for me.

Agreed. Once I like you, buckle up, the L word is coming.

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By *attykinsWoman
10 weeks ago

Salford

No not at all and haven't ever been the type to fall easily, it usually takes a long time for me to have feelings for someone

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By *igR93Man
10 weeks ago

Sarcasm City

I do indeed

It’s my only fatal flaw 😂

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
10 weeks ago

Debauchery

I really don’t, I can block off those emotions quite easily. I do however build friendships easily

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By *eriScotMan
10 weeks ago

Scottish Borders

"I really don’t, I can block off those emotions quite easily. I do however build friendships easily "

I am exactly the same as you, friendships very easily but relationship wise absolutely not to the point people think im heartless but it’s far from the reason

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
10 weeks ago

Debauchery

"I really don’t, I can block off those emotions quite easily. I do however build friendships easily

I am exactly the same as you, friendships very easily but relationship wise absolutely not to the point people think im heartless but it’s far from the reason "

I completely get it

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By *rSuave88Man
10 weeks ago

Mirfield

'I am very feel' as the great Oleksander Usyk often said. It is what it is, its made me be who i am. Life is there to be felt.

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Sometimes

Sometimes.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
10 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

Rarely.

I have the emotional capability of a roll of cling film.

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By *ad NannaWoman
10 weeks ago

East London

I don't.

I would only allow myself to feel deeply about someone who I was pretty certain would be around a while, and committed to me.

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