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By *utual OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Bawtry

So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on

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By *hickthighs25Woman
10 weeks ago

Stockton


"So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on"

Depends how much you want it/ are drawn to them. Nothings ever impossible 🤷‍♀️

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By *sStephenPickleMan
10 weeks ago

Ends

Find a way to meet. I had a partner I met on fab who lived in Lancashire. Plus I have a railcard

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By *mmaleiaWoman
10 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Don’t message them if they’re too far away, that’s such a cunt tease

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By *estructionDollyWoman
10 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

This is my constant dilemma as most people I'm interested in are miles away 😭 the answer is, I don't know. I enjoy chatting with them. It's frustrating.

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Stay in touch, but appreciate how often we can potentially meet will be limited by distance.

Usually we end up have quite longish calls at night. The horniness builds, and eventually it gets to - this isn't enough we need to fuck.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

I usually don't talk to people who are not local. I have tried it in the past and it never lasts.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
10 weeks ago

from mars

I have a car 🚗

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

.

If I liked someone and it was _utual I'd find the time to meet them. Not have a meet. Meet them.

Because I'm not looking for NSA, I really enjoy the friendship side of things and mini adventures, I'm happy travelling. By the time we get to meeting, we'll have been speaking for some time.

My biggest hurdle is time. Desire, money, love of planning is all there but finding time can be tricky. If they understand that? I'm happy enjoying it and seeing if we can make time. There's always a way.

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By *ear NecessitiesMan
10 weeks ago

The woods

Ask if they want to stay in contact. You can have friends that live miles away that accept that meeting in person might be occasional due to logistics but isn't geography the general fab curse?

When you do meet though, invest the time.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
10 weeks ago

Niche

Where there's a will (and enough attraction and want) there's always a way!!!

My best decision ever was to message a guy 5hrs away from me.

Best ever 😈😈😈

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By *enegadeMMan
10 weeks ago

Witney


"So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on"

How far is too far? I love a road trip …and if things are flowing … then I’d be happy to travel ….

But I fully understand distance is a big factor for many

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By *oPantsJustVibesMan
10 weeks ago

Staines

It would normally require a bit of planning but if they’re far away and we’ve been talking for a while and I trust them not to ghost me or cancel last minute then I’d make the effort. If they’re more than an hours drive away though I rarely do it unless I’ve met them before

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By *bi HaiveMan
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10 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Stay in touch.

One of my partners is 100+ miles away, the other 9.

But I've met many over the years at clubs and socials, as well as making specific trips to meet people further away.

Distance is only an issue if it's literally impractical to even consider it due to personal circumstances and commitments, and of course cost for some.

But there's never any harm in just chatting and being friends online. You never know when the chance to cross paths may spring up after all. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ancashireredheadWoman
10 weeks ago

Up North


"Where there's a will (and enough attraction and want) there's always a way!!!

"

That’s pretty much my approach too. It obviously makes a more regular set up difficult but not impossible.

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

I actually enjoy the distance.

It adds to the excitement,travelling to meet with someone (not a coincidental work trip or holiday).

The planning usually takes longer so the anticipation is at an all time high.

Some connections are undeniable & have to be explored.

🩵

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By *layfullsamMan
10 weeks ago

Solihull

Distance is just a test as to how far lust will travel

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By *NormalMan01Man
10 weeks ago

Harrogate


"So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on"

Where there is a will, there’s a way. I’ll never say no. Yes distance is an issue for sure - but I always hold hope for the future!

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By *izandpaulCouple
10 weeks ago

merseyside

Don't usually contact people who live too far away, saves any problems.

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By *ad-BodMan
10 weeks ago

Leicester

Happy to chat to anyone and everyone regardless as to where they are- never know when you might be in their neck of the woods!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

I largely avoid the engagement with people I'm not at least occasionally in the local vicinity of. I don't know their itineraries or plans and at most, it would be a friendly hello.

It's hard enough keeping up with locals' mail.

If anyone mentioned their helicopter - ie, not a rotating cock - I'd engage more

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By *viatrixWoman
10 weeks ago

Redhill

If I really like (and fancy) the person, I am more than willing to travel, but I also want to see time and effort invested in us meeting.

I was involved in a FBship pre pandemic where the sex was completely out of this world, but I was the one driving 2 hrs and booking the hotels at my expense for a 2-hr fix. Fuck that. I look back and I make myself feel sick 🤢🤢🤢😂😂😂😂

So equal effort- yes.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
10 weeks ago

South Wales

If the feeling is very much _utual we will always try and find a way to meet up. We don’t mind travelling for the right people xx 😘

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By *utual OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Bawtry

Thanks for all of your thoughts on this. My takeaways so far:

- I am liking the positive mindset - so stay in touch as it could work.

- I think we all agree that time is the real difficulty here - we can control most other things, but not time.

- Mutual - effort from both sides is key to making this a genuine success or a once sided flop

- Helicopters help

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By *infullyObedientWoman
10 weeks ago

Woodley


"So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on"

If the messages are fun and make you smile then carry on. If its not fun then move on.

If it gets to the point you have to meet them - find a way 😃

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By *exyScientistsCouple
10 weeks ago

Castlebar

I find it's easier not to start the conversation and try to stick with people nearer...

If sometimes if I've met a person and want to plan something then so long as both sides make an effort it can happen. If its based just on a conversation I wouldn't be as likely to make the effort.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Kent

I'd discuss the possibility of meeting in the middle or maybe at a club, if iys not likely to happen I would move on but stay in touch occasionally. People do travel and who knows, either of us may be travelling to the others neck of the woods x

Mrs x

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By *WANDTGCouple
10 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

As we normally like a social first I'd have to say it's a no, pointless travelling 30 plus miles for coffee then find out it's not for you or even worse that you're all compatible !

Now that, would cause a dilemma!!

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Covent Garden

OP, quite so — it happens every time. It's a tough one, agonising in fact. Nearly every person I've met has been hundreds of miles away from London. Also, nearly every person I've met was on the back of them messaging first and, more often than not, they ticked the most important '_utually agreeable' boxes: conversation, chemistry and commonality, which made the possibility of meeting all the more frustrating due to distance and logistics.

The saving grace (for me anyway) is that I'm a slow burn - protracted weeks and months of chat before I meet someone. I travel to them or they travel down to meet me.

Ultimately the outcomes for me are:

• We plan ahead and agree to meet half way; Birmingham and Manchester have become my defacto rendezvous points.

• It just fizzles out, with occasional messages in passing with no intent.

• We keep the heartbeat of the conversation simmering until providence prevails. In this case I've got one or two that have been going on for nearly two years!

• Natural attrition: she's found someone else, closer, or at some fab social where she made new connections.

• I end it.

Finally, circumstances have changed slightly in my favour: my work now requires me to travel to Sheffield / Midlands every once in a while. This has helped immensely in easing some of those geographical frustrations.

Seriously the lengths one has to go to get a quality bonk... 🙂

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By *umagainandagainMan
10 weeks ago

Altrincham

Keep in contact and see how it goes. One big red flag is when their messages go from eight lines to eight words.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
10 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Over the years, I have had several long distance encounters, if they are worth the time and effort, you make it work

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By *randMrsShebaCouple
10 weeks ago

Birmingham

You're a single man so you should go for a weekend away.

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By *hunky GentMan
10 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on

Depends how much you want it/ are drawn to them. Nothings ever impossible 🤷‍♀️"

Woohoo. There's still at least one in a million chance.

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By *electableicecreamMan
10 weeks ago

The West


"Don’t message them if they’re too far away, that’s such a cunt tease "

Ok ok I'm sorry!

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

In fair Verona.


"So ........ what do yo do?

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on"

The 1st and Second one.

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By *ustus5555Woman
10 weeks ago

Mansfield

I've been chatting to a cpl for a while now. Just so happens that thier going to pdi the same time as me and hubby. Really looking forward to meeting them. 🥵

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By *vaRoseWoman
10 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Stay in touch and find a way to make it work

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By *hunky GentMan
10 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

I've been there a few times.

.

Sometimes it doesn't go our way other times 'destinies entwine'

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By *rHotNottsMan
10 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Distance doesn’t bother me for the right people as long as they understand it’s gonna be infrequent type of relationship. With women that accom it’s easier , take in turns travelling etc

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
10 weeks ago

Bristol

The eternal fabs curse that is geography! Interestingly I’ve faced this situation recently. I’ve been talking to someone that lives completely the other end of the country, it’s flirty, the attraction and desire was _utual, so we continued chatting. We both knew a meet would be either unlikely, or have to be patiently planned. We have arranged for one in a month! Sometimes good things may come to those who wait, and you should never say never to anything.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
10 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Keep chatting if we get on. Who knows what will happen in the future

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Keep chatting if we get on. Who knows what will happen in the future "

...meet you at door of the Pink Flamingo? 🤷🏻

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By *addy bareMan
10 weeks ago

southend

Keep chatting and if we really wanna meet i travel to them and get a hotel.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
10 weeks ago

Brum - ish

As a single, I’d got to a point of saying I would only meet people who were relatively local. However, I found more and more that the people I was connecting with were a distance away. If there was means to arrange a meet, I started to approach it that I didn’t mind as long as we could chat a while to get as good an idea as possible of chemistry before either of us were travelling long distances.

If I hadn’t had this approach, S and I would never have met so I’m rather glad I did!

L

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By *ittlebirdWoman
10 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"Keep chatting if we get on. Who knows what will happen in the future

...meet you at door of the Pink Flamingo? 🤷🏻"

You knows it 😘

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham


"So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on"

Every girl I've chatted to and hit it off with are miles away but I'm still talking to them because they're super lovely and we get on 😁

Men, I don't tend to talk to ones miles away as the idea is to meet (not currently as knee deep in 'meat' at the moment) but I have a couple of chaps, again, who are super lovely and we chat

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By *an JuniperoCouple
10 weeks ago

North East

Think it’s always worth staying touch with people you click with. Even if it’s difficult to meet immediately or regularly it’s never impossible. We’ve had some amazing meets with people from over 200 miles away, even booked a weekend in the Lakes with one couple 😆

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
10 weeks ago

North West

Distance can be an issue and can be massively frustrating but every now and then there may be someone who is worth the effort so the miles become irrelevant. If both have the desire and want to make it work, it will work. The effort has to be on both sides though.

There are some downsides of course, like not being able to meet as often but then you have to make the time you do get together all the more worthwhile 😈🍭

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

10 weeks ago

East Sussex

I chat semi regularly to a couple of people we're unlikely to ever meet.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
10 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

If we’ve met previously and know we’d get on then we would travel for the right people. We met a gent in a club in Blackpool - he lived in Wales and we were Leeds way. We met him every 6 weeks or so and do weekends at his or at ours.

We wouldn’t travel to meet someone that we hadn’t met in person. Just in case they look completely different. We wouldn’t expect someone to travel either for a social.

K

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
10 weeks ago

Next Door

If we get on, then I would meet up.

If _utual attraction develops more then I will still travel as long as the other person is willing to give as well.

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By *londebiguyMan
10 weeks ago

Southport


"So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

I'm miles from Bawtry.

I am there staying in a good hotel a couple of times a year.

I've yet to have anyone actually show up to meet even when we've chatted and arranged it.

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on"

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By *oxychicWoman
10 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire


"So this must happen all of the time - you see a profile of somebody you would really like to meet, you message them and begin to chat; it would appear the feeling is _utual - but they are miles away ........ what do yo do?

I'm miles from Bawtry.

I am there staying in a good hotel a couple of times a year.

I've yet to have anyone actually show up to meet even when we've chatted and arranged it.

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly

- Don't bother and move on"

Depends how much chemistry we have , ive met long distance , only thing is , it tends to be not very often 😊

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By *londebiguyMan
10 weeks ago

Southport

I've met a few people various distances away and still chat at times. We'd meet again I'd thing when I'm near to them as I travel around a lot.

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By *ellinever70Woman
10 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I want to do the sex, not talk about it and schlepping around the country just doesn't suit my life nor do I want to do it

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By *JB1954Man
10 weeks ago

Reading

As a single male and older male. I have found as my age increases . The area to find people to message, get replies is increasing. So chatting to others are now miles away. Hopefully messaging will be productive. So I would travel , make say weekend away.

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By *ceKweenWoman
10 weeks ago

Bolton

Is nice when a meet up is arranged with the folk you connect with but sometimes, you just become ships in the night with brief catch ups 🤷‍♀️

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By *ustAnotherMan
10 weeks ago

midlands

I just talk to people I want to and see what happens. I flew to Scotland to meet someone once

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By *sStephenPickleMan
10 weeks ago

Ends


"I want to do the sex, not talk about it and schlepping around the country just doesn't suit my life nor do I want to do it "

We’d have great sex

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
10 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

- Stay in touch knowing a meet is unlikely ❌

- Find a way to meet even if only briefly ✅

- Don't bother and move on ❌

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By *weetiepie99Woman
10 weeks ago

cardiff

I think distance is used as an excuse a lot of the time. You would make it happen if you really wanted to.

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By *tr8MrEMan
10 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield


"I think distance is used as an excuse a lot of the time. You would make it happen if you really wanted to."

Distance or "Not my type"

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By *ellinever70Woman
10 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"I want to do the sex, not talk about it and schlepping around the country just doesn't suit my life nor do I want to do it

We’d have great sex"

Not with each other though

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

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"I want to do the sex, not talk about it and schlepping around the country just doesn't suit my life nor do I want to do it

We’d have great sex

Not with each other though "

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
10 weeks ago

Bristol


"I want to do the sex, not talk about it and schlepping around the country just doesn't suit my life nor do I want to do it

We’d have great sex

Not with each other though

"

🥶

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By *ammerandthongsCouple
10 weeks ago

Limerick

Stay in touch as you never know when you might be in the same area.

Amy

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By *sWyldWoman
10 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Where there is _utual desire,then there's usually also a way to make it happen

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By *sStephenPickleMan
10 weeks ago

Ends


"I want to do the sex, not talk about it and schlepping around the country just doesn't suit my life nor do I want to do it

We’d have great sex

Not with each other though "

Well played.

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"I want to do the sex, not talk about it and schlepping around the country just doesn't suit my life nor do I want to do it

We’d have great sex

Not with each other though

🥶 "

Sometimes it takes iron to cut iron.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
10 weeks ago

Kingston

Anything more than an hour away would be a non-starter. Who is going to travel half way across the country for that first social?

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By *ou only live onceMan
10 weeks ago

London

I enjoy the fact I'm chatting to someone I like and stay in touch. Good things come to those who wait.

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By *attykinsWoman
10 weeks ago

Salford

If I really like their profile I'll ask if they visit my area regularly for work or something. If not I probably wouldn't start chatting as the logistics would be a hassle I think

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By *eardedguy83Man
10 weeks ago

Worcestershire

I might be a rare one, but I would travel a distance for a social as long as they turn up!

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By *mmaleiaWoman
10 weeks ago

Trowbridge


"Don’t message them if they’re too far away, that’s such a cunt tease

Ok ok I'm sorry!"

I have exceptions obvs ☺️

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I travel but I've yet to find a guy willing to put in the same amount of effort travel wise. It's not a problem as I can't often accommodate, but it does mean they need to be something really great for me to continue beyond a few months.

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Hoddesdon

We don’t mind travelling and usually plan a hotel stay for ourselves in preparation, if it happens it happens if it doesn’t we still had a night away, halfway points are great if it’s a really long distance x

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