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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You refuse to meet them because you know you’re in the wrong time/place to give them what they want, so rather than risk fucking it up you take the chance of things will come together at some point in the future.

Or are you an impatient little fucker when you get horny for someone you have to meet them?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago


"You refuse to meet them because you know you’re in the wrong time/place to give them what they want, so rather than risk fucking it up you take the chance of things will come together at some point in the future.

Or are you an impatient little fucker when you get horny for someone you have to meet them?"

I don’t believe in ‘wrong time/place’ if you wanted someone that bad you’d surely make alternative plans 😉

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By *sWyldWoman
12 weeks ago

Edinburgh

My reasons for not acting on my desires are usually centred around lack of confidence. A fear I would be a let down.

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I'm a slow burn with a rapid heartbeat, offering a steady pace to win her over. There is always a time and place, unless it conflicts with The Fåb Curse™.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I don't see the point in holding back. Waiting for the right time seems a bit of a cop out and would tell me maybe they just aren't right for me.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Sometimes we're just in the wrong life.

It is what it is. Move on rather than waste both of our times in a situation that's unsustainable 💜

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"You refuse to meet them because you know you’re in the wrong time/place to give them what they want, so rather than risk fucking it up you take the chance of things will come together at some point in the future.

Or are you an impatient little fucker when you get horny for someone you have to meet them?

I don’t believe in ‘wrong time/place’ if you wanted someone that bad you’d surely make alternative plans 😉"

I guess I meant a bit more deeper than that like if you were distracted by other people or in the middle of some complex shit and you like them that much that you wanted to be able to fully focus if that makes sense that’s probably a bad example, it’s more about do you believe in fate and that you’re happy to say no to somebody knowing they’re gonna come back to you when the time is right?

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Sometimes we're just in the wrong life.

It is what it is. Move on rather than waste both of our times in a situation that's unsustainable 💜"

Yes , so you don’t really believe in fate if something is meant to be it will happen later?

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By *ea monkeyMan
12 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I have cancelled meets or socials because I’m not in the right headspace or don’t have the energy to devote to them properly.

I feel that it’s a duty of care to myself and to them. If it’s worth it and we both want it, it will come around again or it won’t.

That’s life

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Sometimes we're just in the wrong life.

It is what it is. Move on rather than waste both of our times in a situation that's unsustainable 💜

Yes , so you don’t really believe in fate if something is meant to be it will happen later?"

Nah. Life is what we make it. If everything is predetermined in the stars what's the point of morality or working on yourself 💜

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By *urry BlokeMan
12 weeks ago

I am not in a mindset to meet new people at the minute

A combination of factors has left me with a somewhat crippled libido

I don't feel very sexy

I don't feel very sexual

I don't see point in half hearted, apathetic sex or just going through the motions purely because the opportunity is there

I want to be 100% there on a meet

Right now, I don't think I would be

So why bother?

I am very much a 'forum fabber' at the minute

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago


"Sometimes we're just in the wrong life.

It is what it is. Move on rather than waste both of our times in a situation that's unsustainable 💜

Yes , so you don’t really believe in fate if something is meant to be it will happen later?"

The trouble with that is, life is too short. You might be waiting for something that may not happen later. If you're feeling it now and it's meant to be then there will be a way. There may not be tomorrow.

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I have cancelled meets or socials because I’m not in the right headspace or don’t have the energy to devote to them properly.

I feel that it’s a duty of care to myself and to them. If it’s worth it and we both want it, it will come around again or it won’t.

That’s life"

Yeah, I think you’re right it will come around again

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Sometimes we're just in the wrong life.

It is what it is. Move on rather than waste both of our times in a situation that's unsustainable 💜

Yes , so you don’t really believe in fate if something is meant to be it will happen later?

The trouble with that is, life is too short. You might be waiting for something that may not happen later. If you're feeling it now and it's meant to be then there will be a way. There may not be tomorrow. "

I guess that’s the difference with people that believe in fate if it’s meant to be it will be ? You don’t need to force it….The universe has it

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago


"Sometimes we're just in the wrong life.

It is what it is. Move on rather than waste both of our times in a situation that's unsustainable 💜

Yes , so you don’t really believe in fate if something is meant to be it will happen later?

The trouble with that is, life is too short. You might be waiting for something that may not happen later. If you're feeling it now and it's meant to be then there will be a way. There may not be tomorrow.

I guess that’s the difference with people that believe in fate if it’s meant to be it will be ? You don’t need to force it….The universe has it "

I don't see it as forcing it. More letting it happen. 🤷‍♀️

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Sometimes we're just in the wrong life.

It is what it is. Move on rather than waste both of our times in a situation that's unsustainable 💜

Yes , so you don’t really believe in fate if something is meant to be it will happen later?

Nah. Life is what we make it. If everything is predetermined in the stars what's the point of morality or working on yourself 💜"

But you do believe in alternate universes 😂

Yeah, I get you. That makes sense.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
12 weeks ago

Ends

People that tell you it’s not the right time might just not want to meet you but don’t want to say that to you.

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By *ealitybitesMan
12 weeks ago

Belfast

There are lots of reasons I would refuse to meet someone but timing would have nothing to do with it.

I don't get horny over people I've never met so that wouldn't be a factor either.

I only ever meet socially first time and that isn't open to negotiation so if I've chatted to someone for long enough and decided they are good people I'll arrange to meet for a coffee.

That's as complicated as the process gets.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
12 weeks ago

Ends

If I like someone I’m going to try and make the time to see them.

Obviously real life comes first. If someone is going through personal battles, that will be their priority and will reflect in that they don’t have time to meet anyone.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
12 weeks ago

Reading

I considered cancelling a meet this week because I felt I wasn’t in the right headspace and would be distracted by what I was going through emotionally.

However, I knew that we had felt really comfortable with each other at our previous meet so instead I was fully upfront with them about it, and let them know where my head was but explained that I did really want to see them as well. As it was we actually talked about what was on my mind and they were able to give me a different perspective on it and help me process it.

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
12 weeks ago

Voldsøy

I have met people (socially) that I would like to see again, but had to put a pin in it, so to speak. The problem is usually logistics, and the fact I can't have too much on my plate at once. They've been very understanding tbf! We'll just meet later on, it's fine. And if not, also fine.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Sometimes we're just in the wrong life.

It is what it is. Move on rather than waste both of our times in a situation that's unsustainable 💜

Yes , so you don’t really believe in fate if something is meant to be it will happen later?

Nah. Life is what we make it. If everything is predetermined in the stars what's the point of morality or working on yourself 💜

But you do believe in alternate universes 😂

Yeah, I get you. That makes sense. "

I never claimed alternate universes. I'm in the wrong life for not being born to a millionaire too. Such is life 💜

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By *EAT..85Woman
12 weeks ago

Nottingham

There's one. He's in a monogamous relationship. I'll be there waiting if/when it ends.

Things simply can't always just work out. But life can also move on if you keep waiting for the right time. That person might move on. Or you could gamble and know that you've got the odds against you and work hard to make it work.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
12 weeks ago

Ends


"There's one. He's in a monogamous relationship. I'll be there waiting if/when it ends.

Things simply can't always just work out. But life can also move on if you keep waiting for the right time. That person might move on. Or you could gamble and know that you've got the odds against you and work hard to make it work. "

I will be right here waiting for you 🎶

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By *parkle1974Woman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm never that "horny" to meet someone...

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
12 weeks ago

Reading

I never make the sensible decisions when it comes to sex or dating, I don't think.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
12 weeks ago

Reading

I would just move on tbh. Easier all round.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
12 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Nope. If I think about it too much it generally doesn’t happen 🤷‍♂️

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
12 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

Nah, now is always a perfect time.

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By *ookie46Woman
12 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’m torn I’m very much about that life is too short and you should take those chances when opportunity arises but at the same time I’ve waited patiently for someone till the time was right and it worked out perfectly

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