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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rd OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

Wales

Well, not strictly, but it's been a while.

How do you get over the nerves?

I feel like I'm missing out on life, comfortable and safe in my little bubble, buuut...

...there's hot men out there to ride ..

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By *hortieWoman
13 weeks ago

Northampton

Lots of horses out there to ride, Cowgirl.. up and Atom!

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).


"Well, not strictly, but it's been a while.

How do you get over the nerves?

I feel like I'm missing out on life, comfortable and safe in my little bubble, buuut...

...there's hot men out there to ride .."

Choose carefully and get out there an ride em !!

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By *K herts mMan
13 weeks ago

Fleetwood

Meet them where you feel safe and just relax and enjoy yourself

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Raccoon city


"Well, not strictly, but it's been a while.

How do you get over the nerves?

I feel like I'm missing out on life, comfortable and safe in my little bubble, buuut...

...there's hot men out there to ride .."

I'm not sure i do, I feel like I just have to go for it, or I never will.

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By *obilebottomMan
13 weeks ago

All over

I am not sure to how many but certainly this applies to a lot including myself. It took blooming ages to even think about considering exploring anything other than what I knew. Little steps and lots of encouragement from nice people but take your time to pick well and do things your way.

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By *spenfallsMan
13 weeks ago

Northamptonshire


"Well, not strictly, but it's been a while.

How do you get over the nerves?

I feel like I'm missing out on life, comfortable and safe in my little bubble, buuut...

...there's hot men out there to ride .."

I can relate to this. I let things slide far, far too long after my relationship and now find it difficult to imagine myself ever getting back on the horse... So to speak. But Alat 41 you're comparatively young, plus it's much easier for a woman who wants to get laid to acheive her goal than it is for a single bloke.

Get out there seize the day!.. And cocks.... Seize a few of them too.

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By *oelDorianMan
13 weeks ago

vanaheim


"Well, not strictly, but it's been a while.

How do you get over the nerves?

I feel like I'm missing out on life, comfortable and safe in my little bubble, buuut...

...there's hot men out there to ride .."

I would say tie them down and ride the fuck out of them haha

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By *ojangles69Woman
13 weeks ago

Milton Keynes

Can truly relate to this too!! Been a wee while for me too!

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Soho

Perhaps take a leap of faith if you have a bundle of nerves, for your first time — whatever that first time happens to be.

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By *EAT..85Woman
13 weeks ago

Nottingham

I'm fine meeting new people socially, but get a little nervous getting naked for the first time. I put on a confidence boosting outfit, and just dive straight in. Worrying isn't going to get me anywhere, the butterflies will pass and after nervous weeing twice I know there's actually no wee desperately trying to exit me!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Central

Make sure it's no pressure for you. Select very carefully, so ignore the fuck now lot, as it's about what you need - it starts and ends with you.

Be sure about what you need and take one step at a time

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
13 weeks ago

Altrincham


"first timers - Well, not strictly, but it's been a while.

How do you get over the nerves?

I feel like I'm missing out on life, comfortable and safe in my little bubble, buuut...

...there's hot men out there to ride .."

My first time with another man after only being with hubby for 24yrs was such an emotional roller-coaster, luckily hubby and BF are amazing with me, how they treat me & deal with my emotions - find someone who makes you feel comfortable who you can be comfortable with, that's when you feel really sexy

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By *oodgreen25Man
13 weeks ago

Gorey

Humour is a great ice breaker if you are nervous in the bedroom. I find women always laugh when they see me naked to help me along. I mean why else would they!

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By *uzzieboyMan
13 weeks ago

taunton


"Well, not strictly, but it's been a while.

How do you get over the nerves?

I feel like I'm missing out on life, comfortable and safe in my little bubble, buuut...

...there's hot men out there to ride .."

Have a social first OP x

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By *uteinasuitMan
13 weeks ago

Herts

Socials and forums are often advantageous

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By *empest2KMan
13 weeks ago

Derby


"Well, not strictly, but it's been a while.

How do you get over the nerves?

I feel like I'm missing out on life, comfortable and safe in my little bubble, buuut...

...there's hot men out there to ride .."

I don't think I ever really get over the nerves, so instead I just fake it until I make it... or I drink some alcohol! 😅

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
13 weeks ago

newcastle

Ok so single? I'm married and I still get nervous even though I've only had 5 men. 6bwith hubby but that was 43 years ago. We're still together. .I've learnt it's about fun. You can laugh and not be embarrassed. Even sex can be fun and not so serious. Good luck girl xxxx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
13 weeks ago

Reading

Try not to over think it. Actively divert your thoughts if you do. You will have a ball and be very popular I'm sure.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
13 weeks ago

Coventry

Club environments are great. It's a safe place where you're around everyone who is just doing the same. Gives you lots of opportunity to meet lots of men in a safe Club environments. It's a safe place where your around everyone who is just doing the same. Gives you lots of opportunity to meet lots of men in a safe environment. You have advantage to shop around in the real world at a time and convenience that suits you. You can sort of speed date if you like. And there just less pressure, you can comfortably go at your own speed. You can take your time, watch a bit, see how other people go about it first. It's a really supportive environment and sometimes you can get some inspiration from other and make new freinds too. Plus it potentially opens new opportunities through the people you meet like, introductions, party invites, recommendations. If you want access to the men and action of the wider scene it's a good place to try. Obviously picking the right club night/party for your needs/tastes helps.

Plus you've not put all your eggs in one basket like an individual meet. You're really not tied to anyone, you can just go be a soial butterfly and find what you like. It's access to a live playground where you are in control and you have the variety and selection in a safe setting.

And many a good regular thing, FWB or even relationship have come of the back of a hot club liaison.

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By *ellhungvweMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I just assume the other person is even more nervous and part of my job is to make them less nervous. Focussing on them takes away my nerves.

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By *ike_looking_forMan
13 weeks ago

Cumbria

first time after being in a long term relationship was rushed and both what I needed and not, first club/playing in public went with a friend, who broke the ice by getting us a beer and sucking me in a crowded room

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By *rHotNottsMan
13 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don’t really relate to this, but in the past I made some dates and then canceled them not because of nerves, but just like you say comfortable in your little bubble. Especially if you have access to sex through fuck buddies etc.

But if you only agree to meet new people, you think are really hot and you get to know them first so you know they are genuine and good people than there’s enough pull to get over the nerves or apathy ! Good luck

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rd OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

Wales

There's definitely no apathy here.

More like a bundle of anxiety.

Taking a bit more time talking to someone I think is the answer.

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By *aizyWoman
13 weeks ago

west midlands

I think of the nerves as part of meeting someone new, I think if I didn't feel nervous before meeting them for the first time it probably means I'm not that into meeting them, if that makes sense?!

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Raccoon city


"I think of the nerves as part of meeting someone new, I think if I didn't feel nervous before meeting them for the first time it probably means I'm not that into meeting them, if that makes sense?!"

It does actually.

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