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By (user no longer on site) OP   
8 weeks ago

On here because of things that have happened in our past relationships that mean that we still want or like a sexual relationship but without the commitment of having a full relationship

I had a forum regular inbox me saying me that my profile was negative and I must have had a bad experience in the past and it’s really got me thinking about why I’m here, I will say I had never engaged with this person before and was just a random message

So do past relationships or experiences mean that all you want now is uncomplicated sex or meetings, almost sex without the responsibility or commitment of the daily aspects of life

I don’t think I’m in anyway jaded but being accused of it definitely has knocked me and my confidence

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By *avenNightsMan
8 weeks ago

Canvey Island

I’m here because I want to be here and meet new people. I’ve had a very bad relationship in the past but I don’t let it define who I am as an individual.

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By *electableicecreamMan
8 weeks ago

The West

Why would an unsolicited criticism from a random Internet user knock your confidence?

Perhaps it's this fragility is what needs to be addressed.

Do you feel you need to be validated by the forum regulars?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

Someone giving you an unsolicited opinion on who you are, when they don’t know you, is just the site version of junk mail. Ignore it.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
8 weeks ago

Dartford


"On here because of things that have happened in our past relationships that mean that we still want or like a sexual relationship but without the commitment of having a full relationship

I had a forum regular inbox me saying me that my profile was negative and I must have had a bad experience in the past and it’s really got me thinking about why I’m here, I will say I had never engaged with this person before and was just a random message

So do past relationships or experiences mean that all you want now is uncomplicated sex or meetings, almost sex without the responsibility or commitment of the daily aspects of life

I don’t think I’m in anyway jaded but being accused of it definitely has knocked me and my confidence "

We have been married for 24 years and swinging for the last 4. So its not commitment issues for us. I just wanted to have some fun with ladies and enjoyed my husband joining in. We don't like to be called unicorn hunters because that implies that we are just out to satify our own selfish fantasy with no concern for the lady we invite to join us. We genuinely enjoy seeing eachother having fun and both love pleasing a woman together. There's no past trauma pushing us to do this, it's just exciting amd pleasurable for all involved.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
8 weeks ago


"Why would an unsolicited criticism from a random Internet user knock your confidence?

Perhaps it's this fragility is what needs to be addressed.

Do you feel you need to be validated by the forum regulars?"

Ah see this is my exact point

There is no fragility at all but it makes you think after all we are all human

I need to be validated by no one

But accusing someone of fragility when all they do is ask a question is my exact point that people here judge you when they know nothing about you

Have a great day

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
8 weeks ago

Reading

I'm definitely here because of the impact of a previous relationship. But not in the way you've described.

Do you need to know the reason you're here? If you're getting what you want and are happy?

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By *midnight-Woman
8 weeks ago

...

I wasn't here by choice initially, but was excited by what I saw and so decided to stay. I wouldn't describe myself as a swinger though

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
8 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Nah. I’m here because of my Satyriasis(old-fashioned term).

But circumstance meant I could never act on it. Now I’m on Fab, I can ☺️

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By *ellhungvweMan
8 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I wouldn’t care what a forum regular thinks. No one here should be put on a pedestal.

I am here because I like being single. I don’t want another relationship. I also like sex and I like meeting couples and wives. That doesn’t make me jaded or cynical - it just means I have found my niche. Embrace it and enjoy it OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
8 weeks ago


"I wouldn’t care what a forum regular thinks. No one here should be put on a pedestal.

I am here because I like being single. I don’t want another relationship. I also like sex and I like meeting couples and wives. That doesn’t make me jaded or cynical - it just means I have found my niche. Embrace it and enjoy it OP. "

You’d think so but had 3 abusive messages on the back of this so I am out

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By *ellhungvweMan
8 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"I wouldn’t care what a forum regular thinks. No one here should be put on a pedestal.

I am here because I like being single. I don’t want another relationship. I also like sex and I like meeting couples and wives. That doesn’t make me jaded or cynical - it just means I have found my niche. Embrace it and enjoy it OP.

You’d think so but had 3 abusive messages on the back of this so I am out "

I am sorry to hear that. Sounds like some people have too much time on their hands or they just need to get a life. Don’t let them win.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I wouldn’t care what a forum regular thinks. No one here should be put on a pedestal.

I am here because I like being single. I don’t want another relationship. I also like sex and I like meeting couples and wives. That doesn’t make me jaded or cynical - it just means I have found my niche. Embrace it and enjoy it OP.

You’d think so but had 3 abusive messages on the back of this so I am out

I am sorry to hear that. Sounds like some people have too much time on their hands or they just need to get a life. Don’t let them win."

Whenever you ask a question people will offer a response. Some you'll agree with, others you won't. Depending on who sends it there can be a temptation to put weight behind their view.

But whoever replies, it's just words on a screen. If they don't know you, have never met you and are forming their thoughts based on what's in your profiles and the question you've asked, then those thoughts will be as much determined by their own personal experiences as they are what you've said/written.

The option to ignore anything said that is negative or that you don't agree with is always there. I've never put value on the opinions of strangers over my own, or those from someone close to me. They're water off a ducks back.

Nobody knows you like you. Your reasons for being here are your own.

And if people decide to send abuse? Report them. Nobody has the right to do that.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
8 weeks ago

Reading

Yes I am not interested in a relationship in any traditional sense. I am enm and love the variety of having a few fwbs, best of both worlds.

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
8 weeks ago

scunthorpe

Myself and Sean have been together for 17 years, married for 11 and been on here for 10.

We joined because I’m bi and was wanting to sleep with women, I enjoy seeing Sean with other women and I quite like sleeping with other men too.

Donna x

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By *illyboy12345Man
8 weeks ago

Horsham

I joined because you don’t get banned for asking about anal unlike tinder

But nah, I’m here because I want to explore as much as I can. I’m single and trying to find people on regular dating sites who are inclined the same way as me is hard

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
8 weeks ago

Wales

I think we all do look for external validation at times, sometimes more than others. It's part of what makes us human, that feeling of belonging and connection with others.

That being said, your post doesn't read to me like you're looking for validation. More asking a question out of curiosity.

Just remember, some people are twats and you'll be fine

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
8 weeks ago

Wales


"I joined because you don’t get banned for asking about anal unlike tinder 🤣

But nah, I’m here because I want to explore as much as I can. I’m single and trying to find people on regular dating sites who are inclined the same way as me is hard"

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By *atch0101Man
8 weeks ago

Here

I shouldn't be here. I am married but cannot help have a nose. I'll never have the life people have here, but I'm no different to anybody else here.

Just cannot get involved properly. Stupid in the scheme of things.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Chichester

I am just here as I am single. If I wasn’t single I’d not be on here I guess

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
8 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

Just to keep up with the world 🌍

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I wouldn't be here if my wife hadn't passed away, so, yes, I suppose so.

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By *100Man
8 weeks ago

Essex

I’m on here as I love to watch couples having sex on cams and see whet everyone’s up to

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Central

We'll mostly, as single people, have had relationships that influence our direction but it's likely only those which ended with a massive result for us, that would be the main driver for us to be here, surely? I'm sensing it's not too likely, unless we're near traumatised from them and it's more probable situational and it matches our needs. And the forum ain't bad!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
8 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I mean. I want and like the aspects of a sexual relationship without dealing with someone every single day regardless of past traumas.

I don't have nesting relationships, but I wouldn't say they're not full relationships 💜

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By *hortieWoman
8 weeks ago

Northampton

Get on them wheels and RIDE, honey.

For a first timer on this site, it *can* be a painful eye opener.

Or the reality check you want.

Or the 'fuck no , not for me'.

You do this life for you first.

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By *iss DevilWoman
8 weeks ago

Bedford

Of course our past relationships have a huge impact on us being here. I tried monogamous relationships, but, in most cases, my sex drive was too much for one man to handle. And I finally decided sod the rules and the society, I don't want to be in a traditional relationship, it's just not for me. My libido fluctuates currently but there is no way I'd swap my freedom for the constraints of typical husband -wife arrangement. Even if we'd swing together.

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