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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. " I have the same desire and have pondered the exact same things 😂 so I'm bookmarking this! | |||
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. " Message a guy. Say ‘I like the look of you, bring a friend’. Kinda just goes from there really 🤷🏻 | |||
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. " I think if you put that on your profile you would be inundated with offers, I think you are overthinking it. As others have said do it with a couple of fwb’s if you need that emotional pull, having said that there are quite a few MM couples on here that look for single women so at least they have experience | |||
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"I've been trying to persuade my partners to set up an MM account for this. I think they'd be popular. As long as they still made time for me! 😂" I wasn’t expecting a ‘my partners would be great for this’ comment 😂 | |||
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"I've been trying to persuade my partners to set up an MM account for this. I think they'd be popular. As long as they still made time for me! 😂 I wasn’t expecting a ‘my partners would be great for this’ comment 😂" Poly strikes again!!!! | |||
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"Can you not speak to two men you have met in the past and maybe create a what’s app group for 3 way chat ? Most of us don’t really have a problem with it as long as it’s not bi compulsory." I love how optimistic you are that previous partners and I still get on 😬 | |||
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" Message a guy. Say ‘I like the look of you, bring a friend’. Kinda just goes from there really 🤷🏻" Is … is this really how straightforward allosexual people are??? Because 💀 | |||
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. " First thing I'm thinking even before reading anyone else's comments. Consider your safety. Only chose people you trust and make sure you have someone on hand (obviously doesn't have to be in the room) to support you, should you need it or should you suddenly feel uncomfortable. Then I'd say, the world is your oyster in here and you'll have queues of men willing to take you up on it. But having only experienced a few, I'll defer to others for how to expect the evening to flow out egos etc. But if it's for you. You be a little selfish and ensure whoever you choose knows this is about you. Xxx Have fun. | |||
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" First thing I'm thinking even before reading anyone else's comments. Consider your safety. Only chose people you trust and make sure you have someone on hand (obviously doesn't have to be in the room) to support you, should you need it or should you suddenly feel uncomfortable. Then I'd say, the world is your oyster in here and you'll have queues of men willing to take you up on it. But having only experienced a few, I'll defer to others for how to expect the evening to flow out egos etc. But if it's for you. You be a little selfish and ensure whoever you choose knows this is about you. Xxx Have fun. " Thank you for bringing up my safety. But I wouldn’t get anywhere near a man that I didn’t trust or felt safe with. Part of attraction for me is safety. Both physically and emotionally. | |||
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. " I hope it goes well for you OP. It can be so hot.. but it can be so fucking awkward also. The dynamic really has to be ‘right’ otherwise it feels like one too many sausage rolls at the after party. | |||
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"I've been trying to persuade my partners to set up an MM account for this. I think they'd be popular. As long as they still made time for me! 😂 I wasn’t expecting a ‘my partners would be great for this’ comment 😂" Yeah, I guess that side of our dynamic is a little unusual. The friendship and sexual connection happened before the romantic one so there was a foursome fairly early on (me and B, him and his ex-partner). I am very lucky that the sexual side continues alongside the poly thing with me being the hinge partner relationship-wise. Our threesomes are incredible! I'm just having wonderful flashbacks to Saturday night/Sunday morning 😈❤️🔥 There's a lot of overlap in the femmes they both find attractive and who find them both attractive so I do think there's potential for the MM thing. Anyway, you'll hopefully meet them both in July at the London social so if you think there's the possibility of mutual attraction you could always let me know and I'll do the "My friend fancies you thing" 😂😂 Important things for whoever you do this with. People you can laugh with - the logistics of an MMF can be awkward and hilarious. Working out whose legs (and other bits) need to go where!! Discussion beforehand of hopes, hard limits and boundaries for you and them. | |||
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" I hope it goes well for you OP. It can be so hot.. but it can be so fucking awkward also. The dynamic really has to be ‘right’ otherwise it feels like one too many sausage rolls at the after party." Oh my god, the way that I just ch*ked laughing at too many sausage rolls at the after party 😂 | |||
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" I hope it goes well for you OP. It can be so hot.. but it can be so fucking awkward also. The dynamic really has to be ‘right’ otherwise it feels like one too many sausage rolls at the after party. Oh my god, the way that I just ch*ked laughing at too many sausage rolls at the after party 😂" I have a way with words, so I’m told🤭🤣 | |||
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"When I first joined fab I threw myself in at the deep end and met up with a well verified MM duo. It was a great experience as they were very comfortable with one another and happy to lead when I needed them to. It’s definitely an option I’d personally consider again if I got that urge. Something to ponder anyway x " I think this is probably what I'll end up doing - in that I'll create a new connection rather than ask anyone I might be currently having sex with. I don't want to risk or jeopardise what I have with anyone. It feels easier to go down a different route. | |||
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" There's a lot of overlap in the femmes they both find attractive and who find them both attractive so I do think there's potential for the MM thing. Anyway, you'll hopefully meet them both in July at the London social so if you think there's the possibility of mutual attraction you could always let me know and I'll do the "My friend fancies you thing" 😂😂 " And Julie, what if it's you I fancy?  Asking for a friend. | |||
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" There's a lot of overlap in the femmes they both find attractive and who find them both attractive so I do think there's potential for the MM thing. Anyway, you'll hopefully meet them both in July at the London social so if you think there's the possibility of mutual attraction you could always let me know and I'll do the "My friend fancies you thing" 😂😂 And Julie, what if it's you I fancy? Asking for a friend. "July is ages away. It's far too soon to be inducing bi-panic!    | |||
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"I met two guys once who supported opposing football teams. It worked out fine after a little back and forth between them and once you get going everyone just seems to know what to do "This sounds like carnage to me. Also, I'm fairly certain it would be more difficult for me to find someone attractive that supports certain opposing teams. | |||
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. I have the same desire and have pondered the exact same things 😂 so I'm bookmarking this! " Should imagine if you took that crop (in your picture) out of your mouth and told them there are a few blokes that would just crack on lols | |||
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"As a typical Alpha male type and a single guy, I will answer this in the most honest and straight forward way I can. I may get shot down in flames of saying it, but I don't care. The way I see it, women are in control in this situation, so think of it like shopping for your fantasy fuck date. Totally get the emotional connection your looking for so once you've got the hots for a guy arrange a drink, and see how you get on, maybe developed that and explain your mmf fantasy, a lot of open minded guys would be up for it.? Remember that Sex is not as emotional for guys as it is for women, they just want to fuck you. Then arrange the second date and meet up and if your comfortable explain your MMF fantasy, you will be in bed with both of them in no time. Go for it babe!! Live is for living " Not gonna shoot you down in flames but I am going to disagree completely. Sex may not be as emotional for you personally, but the majority of guys I know, myself included do need some kind of connection. We don't just want a hole to fuck. A threesome is about three peoples wants and desires, not one being the centre of attention and the other two being human sex toys. In my experience guys who perceive themselves as in some way 'alpha' have more issues with another guy in the equation than normal guys. They see their involvement as some kind of competition with the other guy to be more impressive. I'd advise, as others have, to talk to a guy you know well, who you know would be comfortable in a threesome scenario and who has experience. Then either approach someone either of you already know, or spend time looking on Fab and make an approach yourselves. Take time to talk them, make sure you have a social meet first and take it from there. Networking at socials is also a good route. The issue with looking at MM profiles is that whilst they may be comfortable with an MMF/MFM there's no guarantees you'll be attracted to both. Choosing two singles gives you a better chance to get the right 'fit'. It may take time. You may have to make several approaches. You may have to wait a while for plans to.come together. But being in no rush will make for a much more comfortable and enjoyable experience. As for worrying about whether the two guys will have issues comparing themselves, their bodies and especially dick sizes? There's no guarantees of course, but finding guys who have had multiple verified meets with couples is often a good pointer that there shouldn't be any problems. | |||
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" I think this is probably what I'll end up doing - in that I'll create a new connection rather than ask anyone I might be currently having sex with. I don't want to risk or jeopardise what I have with anyone. It feels easier to go down a different route." I would say you should give your current guys the chance - they may actually be offended if you don't which would also jeopardise what you've got at the moment. I find with MFM it doesn't matter if the guys have just met there and then, as long as the manhood matches size wise if your doing "advanced origami positions" - DVP and DP are reliant on equal sizes to stop the bigger one just dominating the area and pushing the smaller one out of the picture altogether! It has to be said, MFM is absolutely divine | |||
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. I have the same desire and have pondered the exact same things 😂 so I'm bookmarking this! " What she just said | |||
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. I have the same desire and have pondered the exact same things 😂 so I'm bookmarking this! " Same! 🍭 | |||
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"Any guy who wants to be involved in a MMF situation but has issues with their ego has to sort a few things out first. I don’t think it’s the female’s responsibility to think of anyone else other than herself unless a partner is involved. If that’s the case, a lot of honest conversation needs to happen." Why doesn't a woman have a responsibility to think of the man/men she's sleeping with? | |||
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" I would say you should give your current guys the chance - they may actually be offended if you don't which would also jeopardise what you've got at the moment. I find with MFM it doesn't matter if the guys have just met there and then, as long as the manhood matches size wise if your doing "advanced origami positions" - DVP and DP are reliant on equal sizes to stop the bigger one just dominating the area and pushing the smaller one out of the picture altogether! It has to be said, MFM is absolutely divine "I didn’t see this comment the first time around. I find it amusing 😬 that you think I should put the feelings of the men I’m currently having sex with before my own feelings??? | |||
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions. How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me. Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless? What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. " If it’s a straight MMF I wouldn’t be worried about what the other person looked like. If BI then the other guy would have to be close to what I find attractive. I would be happy to have either with you. | |||
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"Sorry if this is slightly off-topic. It is personal curiosity. With you being demisexual would you need to have an emotional connection with both partners? I've had threesomes with a partner and not really had any level of emotional connection with the other person and I've had instances where there is an emotional connection with both. They both work, but there's quite a qualitative difference to the experiences." I’m not sure. I’ve had two threesomes in the past and have had emotional connections with both (and both experiences have been amazing) I have no idea if I’d be able to have sex without it. Someone in an earlier comment mentioned an emotional anchor in one person and the other being someone new and I just don’t know how that would work for me. It’s possible? But I’ve never done it so I have no idea. | |||
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"Sorry if this is slightly off-topic. It is personal curiosity. With you being demisexual would you need to have an emotional connection with both partners? I've had threesomes with a partner and not really had any level of emotional connection with the other person and I've had instances where there is an emotional connection with both. They both work, but there's quite a qualitative difference to the experiences. I’m not sure. I’ve had two threesomes in the past and have had emotional connections with both (and both experiences have been amazing) I have no idea if I’d be able to have sex without it. Someone in an earlier comment mentioned an emotional anchor in one person and the other being someone new and I just don’t know how that would work for me. It’s possible? But I’ve never done it so I have no idea." Emotional anchor feels like a term I can relate too. I'd say it's something that can and has worked for me. Anchor doesn't feel quite right though. It's more a source of vicarious arousal or compersive joy. It occurs usually with quite deeply intimate partners. Where there's a mutual emotional connection between all involved, I have found that a very different experience and also rarer. | |||
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