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"Time. Lots of time. Finding someone else too helps when you're ready." Agree 👆 time is a healer even thought it seems a cliche! There will come a time when you feel indifferent and thats the best feeling when it no longer tugs at you. You will get there x | |||
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"What does "triangulated exes" mean please ?" Apologies! It's basically introducing third parties and playing them off each other to create strife. She wanted to stay friends with her ex. In certain contexts that can be understandable. But she would keep mentioning how he'd beg her to get back together, how he'd change for her etc. She'd then tell me how horrible he was to her, etc. Portraying him as a persecuted and me as the rescuer. Eventually I received a message from the ex. I worked out she was telling him the same things. Making me the persecutor and him the rescuer. When I called her out on the contradictions, she deflected blame and gave a shallow apology. In hindsight, I was manipulated. She strung me along with promises about the future. Her actions didn't align with her words at all. | |||
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"What does "triangulated exes" mean please ?" They were slightly acute or obtuse?? | |||
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"Gotta go through the 5 stages of grief" Lots of times and in no particular order 🤣 | |||
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"What does "triangulated exes" mean please ? Apologies! It's basically introducing third parties and playing them off each other to create strife. She wanted to stay friends with her ex. In certain contexts that can be understandable. But she would keep mentioning how he'd beg her to get back together, how he'd change for her etc. She'd then tell me how horrible he was to her, etc. Portraying him as a persecuted and me as the rescuer. Eventually I received a message from the ex. I worked out she was telling him the same things. Making me the persecutor and him the rescuer. When I called her out on the contradictions, she deflected blame and gave a shallow apology. In hindsight, I was manipulated. She strung me along with promises about the future. Her actions didn't align with her words at all." It sounds like you miss what could have been not what the relationship actually was. | |||
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"You have to let yourself go through it and feel what you feel, some people just ignore and never really get over it" That's where I've been at this past year. Allowing myself to fully feel everything before I can date again. I think she ignored it. Looking back, I was a link in a chain of back to back relationships for her | |||
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"Note, I said heart ache, not heartburn 😉 Walking down the aisle whilst shopping, I was greeted with my ex and her new partner doing their weekly shop together. Despite being the one to initiate the break up (she was emotionally unavailable and triangulated exes), it still hurts a fair bit to unexpectedly see her. How have you all dealt with that sort of pain? Or maybe you're made of stronger stuff than I am ![]() well I read a how to get over a headache ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Note, I said heart ache, not heartburn 😉 Walking down the aisle whilst shopping, I was greeted with my ex and her new partner doing their weekly shop together. Despite being the one to initiate the break up (she was emotionally unavailable and triangulated exes), it still hurts a fair bit to unexpectedly see her. How have you all dealt with that sort of pain? Or maybe you're made of stronger stuff than I am ![]() Fuck her mum | |||
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"Note, I said heart ache, not heartburn 😉 Walking down the aisle whilst shopping, I was greeted with my ex and her new partner doing their weekly shop together. Despite being the one to initiate the break up (she was emotionally unavailable and triangulated exes), it still hurts a fair bit to unexpectedly see her. How have you all dealt with that sort of pain? Or maybe you're made of stronger stuff than I am ![]() Time and get yourself inside a new gf, | |||
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"Note, I said heart ache, not heartburn 😉 Walking down the aisle whilst shopping, I was greeted with my ex and her new partner doing their weekly shop together. Despite being the one to initiate the break up (she was emotionally unavailable and triangulated exes), it still hurts a fair bit to unexpectedly see her. How have you all dealt with that sort of pain? Or maybe you're made of stronger stuff than I am ![]() A little bit of you will never move on.. | |||
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"So hard, but remember why you ended it in the first place. The chances are she is still that way with her new partner. You deserve to be with someone better x" This helps for sure. In that moment I forgot about the excuses, the irresponsibility. If she's never giving herself time to process her breakups, chances are she's still the same way like you said x | |||
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"Time. Lots of time. Finding someone else too helps when you're ready." I don't think it does, time is the only healer | |||
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