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By *adsladsboisbois OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Northern England

Hi everyone, me and my partner (33F) have set up a new couples profile (obvs not this one), looking for single men. Still have it set to hidden, to avoid the barrage of messages, but are putting a lot of thought into our profile description.

We are planning on meeting a number of guys over the coming months, but want each guy she meets to be successively more experienced and with more stamina. This will mean opportunities for lots of different guys on here.

The reason being, she has only been with three men in her life, and only me for the past ten years. I suffer with pretty bad premature ejaculation, so her experience of sex is me cumming in less than a minute, and this has been the case for most of our relationship.

We don't want to go from that - to mindblowing sex over several hours with an experienced, fit, guy, straight away. Because where do we go from there? The bar will immediately be set very high, and her body probably won't be ready for it. Mentally, sex with less capable men might not be as satisfying for her after expeiencing that.

I know she would enjoy even just making out and touching with a new guy, given she's not been with many guys and is used to very mediocre quality in bed with me. At this point she won't mind if the meet is mostly kissing and foreplay, and he cums quickly (providing he ideally does his best to make her cum first).

We would greatly appreciate any tips on finding guys in this way. Should we explain this on the profile? Like: phase 1 - "we're looking for early cummers or virgins/inexperienced guys, lots of kissing and foreplay". Then once she's enjoyed meets like this, phase 2 would be something like - "younger guys with one or two decent verifications who can last a few minutes".

Eventually we would like her to meet with the upper echelons of Fab, the muscular hunks with stamina for days and tens of verifications. But only once she's enjoyed a wide spectrum of new guys with varying ability in the bedroom.

How would you recommend we describe this, and how would you recommend we search for guys for these first couple of phases? Obviously we don't want fakes. And guys without experience are hardly going to advertise that fact in their profile. We would prefer to do the searching/hunting ourselves rather than relying on only guys that message us.

Thanks for reading. I hope this plan makes sense, and wonder if any other hotwife couples have used this approach? Do you think it makes sense from a new hotwife perspective, given her limited experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I would suggest starting with proper newbies ( not new profiles that say been here before).

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"Hi everyone, me and my partner (33F) have set up a new couples profile (obvs not this one), looking for single men. Still have it set to hidden, to avoid the barrage of messages, but are putting a lot of thought into our profile description.

We are planning on meeting a number of guys over the coming months, but want each guy she meets to be successively more experienced and with more stamina. This will mean opportunities for lots of different guys on here.

The reason being, she has only been with three men in her life, and only me for the past ten years. I suffer with pretty bad premature ejaculation, so her experience of sex is me cumming in less than a minute, and this has been the case for most of our relationship.

We don't want to go from that - to mindblowing sex over several hours with an experienced, fit, guy, straight away. Because where do we go from there? The bar will immediately be set very high, and her body probably won't be ready for it. Mentally, sex with less capable men might not be as satisfying for her after expeiencing that.

I know she would enjoy even just making out and touching with a new guy, given she's not been with many guys and is used to very mediocre quality in bed with me. At this point she won't mind if the meet is mostly kissing and foreplay, and he cums quickly (providing he ideally does his best to make her cum first).

We would greatly appreciate any tips on finding guys in this way. Should we explain this on the profile? Like: phase 1 - "we're looking for early cummers or virgins/inexperienced guys, lots of kissing and foreplay". Then once she's enjoyed meets like this, phase 2 would be something like - "younger guys with one or two decent verifications who can last a few minutes".

Eventually we would like her to meet with the upper echelons of Fab, the muscular hunks with stamina for days and tens of verifications. But only once she's enjoyed a wide spectrum of new guys with varying ability in the bedroom.

How would you recommend we describe this, and how would you recommend we search for guys for these first couple of phases? Obviously we don't want fakes. And guys without experience are hardly going to advertise that fact in their profile. We would prefer to do the searching/hunting ourselves rather than relying on only guys that message us.

Thanks for reading. I hope this plan makes sense, and wonder if any other hotwife couples have used this approach? Do you think it makes sense from a new hotwife perspective, given her limited experience?

"

Enjoy the weekend experience both of you... Just find that guy that seems honest and decent and the rest will just flow.

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By *ildTimes.Man
10 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam


"Hi everyone, me and my partner (33F) have set up a new couples profile (obvs not this one), looking for single men. Still have it set to hidden, to avoid the barrage of messages, but are putting a lot of thought into our profile description.

We are planning on meeting a number of guys over the coming months, but want each guy she meets to be successively more experienced and with more stamina. This will mean opportunities for lots of different guys on here.

The reason being, she has only been with three men in her life, and only me for the past ten years. I suffer with pretty bad premature ejaculation, so her experience of sex is me cumming in less than a minute, and this has been the case for most of our relationship.

We don't want to go from that - to mindblowing sex over several hours with an experienced, fit, guy, straight away. Because where do we go from there? The bar will immediately be set very high, and her body probably won't be ready for it. Mentally, sex with less capable men might not be as satisfying for her after expeiencing that.

I know she would enjoy even just making out and touching with a new guy, given she's not been with many guys and is used to very mediocre quality in bed with me. At this point she won't mind if the meet is mostly kissing and foreplay, and he cums quickly (providing he ideally does his best to make her cum first).

We would greatly appreciate any tips on finding guys in this way. Should we explain this on the profile? Like: phase 1 - "we're looking for early cummers or virgins/inexperienced guys, lots of kissing and foreplay". Then once she's enjoyed meets like this, phase 2 would be something like - "younger guys with one or two decent verifications who can last a few minutes".

Eventually we would like her to meet with the upper echelons of Fab, the muscular hunks with stamina for days and tens of verifications. But only once she's enjoyed a wide spectrum of new guys with varying ability in the bedroom.

How would you recommend we describe this, and how would you recommend we search for guys for these first couple of phases? Obviously we don't want fakes. And guys without experience are hardly going to advertise that fact in their profile. We would prefer to do the searching/hunting ourselves rather than relying on only guys that message us.

Thanks for reading. I hope this plan makes sense, and wonder if any other hotwife couples have used this approach? Do you think it makes sense from a new hotwife perspective, given her limited experience?

"

No worries...message me in a a couple of years 😂🥪

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By *ust want fun 888Man
10 weeks ago

nearby


"Hi everyone, me and my partner (33F) have set up a new couples profile (obvs not this one), looking for single men. Still have it set to hidden, to avoid the barrage of messages, but are putting a lot of thought into our profile description.

We are planning on meeting a number of guys over the coming months, but want each guy she meets to be successively more experienced and with more stamina. This will mean opportunities for lots of different guys on here.

The reason being, she has only been with three men in her life, and only me for the past ten years. I suffer with pretty bad premature ejaculation, so her experience of sex is me cumming in less than a minute, and this has been the case for most of our relationship.

We don't want to go from that - to mindblowing sex over several hours with an experienced, fit, guy, straight away. Because where do we go from there? The bar will immediately be set very high, and her body probably won't be ready for it. Mentally, sex with less capable men might not be as satisfying for her after expeiencing that.

I know she would enjoy even just making out and touching with a new guy, given she's not been with many guys and is used to very mediocre quality in bed with me. At this point she won't mind if the meet is mostly kissing and foreplay, and he cums quickly (providing he ideally does his best to make her cum first).

We would greatly appreciate any tips on finding guys in this way. Should we explain this on the profile? Like: phase 1 - "we're looking for early cummers or virgins/inexperienced guys, lots of kissing and foreplay". Then once she's enjoyed meets like this, phase 2 would be something like - "younger guys with one or two decent verifications who can last a few minutes".

Eventually we would like her to meet with the upper echelons of Fab, the muscular hunks with stamina for days and tens of verifications. But only once she's enjoyed a wide spectrum of new guys with varying ability in the bedroom.

How would you recommend we describe this, and how would you recommend we search for guys for these first couple of phases? Obviously we don't want fakes. And guys without experience are hardly going to advertise that fact in their profile. We would prefer to do the searching/hunting ourselves rather than relying on only guys that message us.

Thanks for reading. I hope this plan makes sense, and wonder if any other hotwife couples have used this approach? Do you think it makes sense from a new hotwife perspective, given her limited experience?

No worries...message me in a a couple of years 😂🥪"

I only wish that I lived nearer and that you would be interested

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By *vaRoseWoman
10 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Inexperienced doesn’t equal a shit shag

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge


"Inexperienced doesn’t equal a shit shag"

The lady from Unseen University speaks sense.

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

Maybe she should write what she wants from the couples profile

I read this as you already think it's a given your going to be successful on here, planning months in advance of the guys, upper echelons? No-one is better than anyone else, they could have 10 veris, but that means they are human, nothing else.

Sorry it's harsh

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By *ruella DeThrillWoman
10 weeks ago

Essex

Every word of this sounds more about you than her if I’m honest.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
10 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).


"Every word of this sounds more about you than her if I’m honest. "

Agreed.

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By *adsladsboisbois OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Northern England

Appreciate the responses. Will certainly let her do the profile writing on the couples profile. Reading it back now I realise it comes across a bit derogatory and presumptuous, sorry.

If we do find any interested men, I will do my best to be a light touch - obviously the most important thing is the chemistry and personality with any prospective new partner for her, who understands what she's looking for

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

The 'upper echelons'!

Obviously you must run your profile in any way you want but be aware that people will lie.

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By *adsladsboisbois OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Northern England

Ok, thanks. Sorry about the use of 'upper echelons'...🤦‍♂️

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Ok, thanks. Sorry about the use of 'upper echelons'...🤦‍♂️"

No need to apologise, I guess it was just a poor choice of words

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I am now with someone and we have recently set up a couples profile

My advice would be to be absolutely clear in the first few lines of what you don’t want…even insofar as putting it in capitals…hopefully some guys will even bother to read the profile first and then and not send you a message if they’re not suitable…hasn’t worked with us

Good luck though and prepare for the deluge of mail, and that’s not even counting the winks and friend requests you will no doubt receive

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

One way to avoid being overwhelmed is to block all mail, search for people you like the look of and contact them. That way you'll have much more control.

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By *marty300Man
10 weeks ago

Macclesfield

Love to meet you guys

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By *adsladsboisbois OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Northern England

Definitely was..!

Aside from how poorly written and rude the post was, is there anything in the idea of slowly building up to an encounter which is unlike anything I can offer her?

Or perhaps that should not be something we try to control - just aim to find a guy who she clicks with outside the bedroom, and let them enjoy themselves inside the bedroom. If he's a good choice, he will understand and respect her limits and preferences for their encounter.

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By *aizyWoman
10 weeks ago

west midlands

I think it is better for her to search and decide who she would like to meet rather than grading men on your profile, I think that will be very off putting for most men.

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By *effdelightMan
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

Been with a couple of wives

Loads of fun hehe

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Definitely was..!

Aside from how poorly written and rude the post was, is there anything in the idea of slowly building up to an encounter which is unlike anything I can offer her?

Or perhaps that should not be something we try to control - just aim to find a guy who she clicks with outside the bedroom, and let them enjoy themselves inside the bedroom. If he's a good choice, he will understand and respect her limits and preferences for their encounter. "

If you tap reply+quote under the post you're replying to we'll know who you're answering.

I think you're over thinking this.

Chat to your partner, find out what she wants and how she'd like to progress.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
10 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

I think your expectations are unrealistic and it seems to me you are viewing men as a commodity. Don't do that, don't make anyone feel like they are 'less than'

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By *effdelightMan
10 weeks ago

Grimsby


"I think your expectations are unrealistic and it seems to me you are viewing men as a commodity. Don't do that, don't make anyone feel like they are 'less than'"
beautifully put x

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By *teveanddebsCouple
10 weeks ago

Norwich

Prepare yourself for loads of 'I'm a crap shag and should be first' messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

You can’t plan like this

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

"Her body probably won't be ready for it"

It sounds like you want to gradually "train her up" for a top notch sex session. Makes me think of a Couch to 10k programme.

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By *xhibitionGuy35Man
10 weeks ago

South East

Hi OP, have you thought about working on the PE issue to improve your own stamina alongside the other things you are planning?

Controlled breathing is a great starting point if you aren’t practicing that already and maybe try masturbating and edging (think about your arousal as a number from 1 to 10 - start stimulation on 4 and stop when you get to 8) you can do this with your partner or other partners if you are going to start swapping, just work on building things up gradually and have fun…

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

land of overweight munters


"Hi OP, have you thought about working on the PE issue to improve your own stamina alongside the other things you are planning?

Controlled breathing is a great starting point if you aren’t practicing that already and maybe try masturbating and edging (think about your arousal as a number from 1 to 10 - start stimulation on 4 and stop when you get to 8) you can do this with your partner or other partners if you are going to start swapping, just work on building things up gradually and have fun…"

He hasn't said about swapping, it's all about her

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