FabSwingers.com forum: Fetishized

By *udesentient OP Man
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Do you enjoy being fetishized? Obviously, I get the BBC references often, sometimes it's nice, but it can come off as very weird and uncomfortable on other days.

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By *oeBeansMan
9 weeks ago

Derby

I don't think I've ever been fetishised before. I've been with women who enjoy being with younger men but I always had the feeling that me being younger was more of a bonus to them liking me for me rather than solely because I was a younger guy.

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By *vaRoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

No I don’t like it.

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By *urry BlokeMan
9 weeks ago

When I was big (like REALLY fat as opposed to chubby), I was the target for many a 'chaser'

They looked at my body shape and little else

I was encouraged to eat badly, wear clothes that showed rather than hid my frame and was paraded like a prize cow at chub / chaser events

I was rejected for not being big enough when I lost weight - people remarking / asking if I was ill

I was also excluded from established social groups when I did lose weight

Looking back it was deeply unhealthy (both physically and emotionally) and I am glad it is behind me

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By *orphia2003Woman
9 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I've had it happen to me due to my size and the fact I play as a Domme in my BDSM. I hate it.

I'm a person, not a role or a size label.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

How would I know if I was being fetishized?

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By *udesentient OP Man
9 weeks ago

Leeds

"How would I know if I was being fetishized? "

Errmm, there's no clear cut way to know unfortunately, but you can tell. For example, when someone categorically says only "BBC", demands cock pics, but they've NEVER had any real interaction with black people, lives with a white partner, has only white friends, avoids a social meet too, yep, it's not always a good scene. LOL

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By *udesentient OP Man
9 weeks ago

Leeds

"No

When I was big (like REALLY fat as opposed to chubby), I was the target for many a 'chaser'

They looked at my body shape and little else

I was encouraged to eat badly, wear clothes that showed rather than hid my frame and was paraded like a prize cow at chub / chaser events

I was rejected for not being big enough when I lost weight - people remarking / asking if I was ill

I was also excluded from established social groups when I did lose weight

Looking back it was deeply unhealthy (both physically and emotionally) and I am glad it is behind me "

This sounds really sad, glad you're out of that space. Modern example is Lizzo, the musician, she's gotten some flak for losing weight.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"How would I know if I was being fetishized?

Thank you. Guess it’s most of the messages I get then.

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By *tormidaysWoman
9 weeks ago

Manchester

I hate been treated like a kink/wank dispenser

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By *harminGent79Man
9 weeks ago

stockport

I don’t like it

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By *oodmessMan
9 weeks ago

yumsville

They can keep their rough and ready model looks role play ideas

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

Race fetishisers are gross imo.

We exist to them as a stereotype, not as individual people

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By *oeBeansMan
9 weeks ago

Derby

"Race fetishisers are gross imo.

We exist to them as a stereotype, not as individual people "

But it's a positive stereotype so it must be fine! Back into your box and be grateful for the attention /s

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

East Sussex

No I don't.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

"Race fetishisers are gross imo.

We exist to them as a stereotype, not as individual people

But it's a positive stereotype so it must be fine! Back into your box and be grateful for the attention /s"

Bro 💀

Some of the stereotypes are 🥴

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By *veenBeeTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Winchester

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
9 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

I'm not a fan. I know I'm BIG but I'm a human being too.

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By *veenBeeTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Winchester

I know I'm just a kink for men, but I'm ok with that because I'm only looking for fun

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

There are a lot of guys who fetishize trans people across the spectrum, from CDs to trans women.

They usually have predetermined ideas about what, not who, you are. These are the ones who immediately refer to themselves as daddy, you as baby girl/sissy/slut/[insert belittling epithet]. They have all sorts of weird ideas about what you like, what you'll do, how you'll respond...

Thrn there's the guys who want to worship you/be dommed by you/marry you... 🙄

Interacting as a fully TV profile here has certainly been an education.

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
9 weeks ago

Norwich

It's an interesting subject.

I'm a maturer lady and wobbly so that's definitely a big attraction to some.

My preference is black men. However I never refer to them as BBC as it's derogatory and factually incorrect for many.

I don't see my preference as a fetish as it's not based on taboo or anything with negative or stereotypical connotations.

I just like men who are culturally different to me so I learn and grow from my relationships with them.

Ah if you're on a sex site there's probably always some element of fetish or kink.

You have the choice to really get to know people though and decide what works for you and what doesn't and how you like to be treated.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Not in your area

I think there's a difference between willingly participating in your own fetishization, and getting fetishized for something you can't help or control, like ethnicity.

I've experienced both, and one certainly feels more irritating to me than the other

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By *ndymac888Man
9 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I’m pretty normal looking so I don’t think I’m fetish material, I do teach a bit and wear a uniform so have been told that I have been a fantasy but I can keep those things private 90% of the time.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

I find it gross.

People have approached me before (in a club) and their sexual interest in me stemmed from how 'exotic' I looked and I couldn't get away from them quick enough. I don't want to be a tick on your 'I fucked women from these different ethnicities' list. Go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Fetishism is not good, but Fab is a disaster area for it, as those who benefit from it usually promote it to the detriment of those who could fit the bill but want nothing to do with it. For example a lot of black guys go a very long way to promote their stereotype, like starting "black king" type threads (still going today). The whole "appreciation thread" genre promotes fetishism galore.

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By *sStephenPickleMan
9 weeks ago

Ends

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

I'm uncomfortable when I get the impression that I'm an accessory, rather than appreciated and wanted for being me. It's part of my filtering process, to find people who really want to know me better

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
9 weeks ago

Niche

Does getting messages along the lines of 'milf' and 'cougar' count?

I hate those stereotypes. I don't be interested in anyone still needing a mum, or age play, or guys more than just a few years younger than I am. It makes me feel all kinds of wrong.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
9 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

"Does getting messages along the lines of 'milf' and 'cougar' count?

I hate those stereotypes. I don't be interested in anyone still needing a mum, or age play, or guys more than just a few years younger than I am. It makes me feel all kinds of wrong.

This is me too. Nothing makes me hit the block button faster than someone telling me that they love the older woman. They either want me to mother them or teach them a thing or too....no, I don't want to teach anyone anything, I want an equal and no I'm not your Mother

Last guy who asked if I could role play bring their Mother I said 'yeah, now fuck off before I tell your Father'

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I get it a fair bit and it's ok to a point, but often enough the reality won't match up to their fetish fantasies

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By *estructionDollyWoman
9 weeks ago

Manchester

I get fetishised a fair bit as a fat girl and I really don't like it. It's one thing to have preferences and be attracted to people's attributes, but when they don't even see you as a person, just a body type (or whatever their fetish is) it's just grim. I'm a whole, complete person. If you aren't interested in me beyond my body shape then sorry, you ain't passing the vibe check.

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By *partharmonyCouple
9 weeks ago

Ruislip

I don't know if anybody fetishises posh, middle-aged, white men these days but I'd be happy to have the experience at least you once.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
9 weeks ago

IPSWICH

When and if it happens I'll let you know.

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By *rostgiantMan
9 weeks ago

Wilts

I'm quite a tall guy (6'10), but I've never been fetishised 🤷‍♂️

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By *G74Woman
9 weeks ago

Blackburn

I get pissy at the age fetish ... messages asking if I'm into younger guys who are 48 to my 50. I don't judge a guy by their age and don't expect a man to judge me for mine.

Age is just a number ... immaturity can be ever lasting 🙄

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By *aidForSharingWoman
9 weeks ago

Lancashire

"Fetishism is not good, but Fab is a disaster area for it, as those who benefit from it usually promote it to the detriment of those who could fit the bill but want nothing to do with it. For example a lot of black guys go a very long way to promote their stereotype, like starting "black king" type threads (still going today). The whole "appreciation thread" genre promotes fetishism galore."

'Black king'? Well that's an improvement on the ones who like to call themselves 'donkey', 'horse', 'bull' etc. Can only feel sorry for these guys. -)

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
9 weeks ago

Voldsøy

Absolutely not. It's gross.

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By *vaRoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

There is a difference between being fetishised and having a preference. At least I see it that way.

I’m a big girl, meeting people who are attracted to bigger body types is one thing but being reduced to only wanting to meet me because of that single characteristic is fetishising.

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By *ung nine inchMan
9 weeks ago

leeds

I love big women

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By *ermite12ukMan
9 weeks ago

Solihull and Romford

Is fetishized similar to ravished, but with more cheese? Askin obvs. For a fweind.

More seriously, I'd be happy just to be on squeaking terms.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
9 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

"Do you enjoy being fetishized? Obviously, I get the BBC references often, sometimes it's nice, but it can come off as very weird and uncomfortable on other days. "

Fetishise them back! 🤨

This is about carnality. Not dignity & personhood 😜

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
9 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don’t like it at all

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