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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Talk about rock bottom ! You send out nice friendly messages to people ! You match what there looking for ! And you just get deleted ! Arhhhhhh ! Not even a polite no thank you

I understand the game but where along the line did people's manners disappear ?

No wonder sooooo many men on here fake couple profiles ! Totally sad

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

It happens, it isn't nice when it does but it is part of the game...and won't change.

The good times are worth the effort most of the time.

You have been here a short time and had fun so you are doing it the right way for you... Continue to have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys seem to think they are the under dogs on here. It happens to us as a couple too.

Your point on faking profile to be a couple though; one thing that makes us delete and block are guys who do this, so I wouldn't advise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens ....

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

why worry

Just move on to someone else hun

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think you match their profile, they clearly didnt think you matched their profile.

Even if you fit into a category they are looking for they may not have liked your profile/pics etc.

Site rules, It is NOT rude, not to reply.

I respond to most of mine but not always.

Just like everyone else I get fed up of repeating myself so just delete sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I totally understand that but it's sole destroying I'm always polite and geniue and I've received 2 replies !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I can't see you face pic properly it doesn't look the best and no that's not saying you're not attractive. I'd try again on that one as that's a first image that flashes up.

Also putting negative comments on your profile is a turn off. If you can't say anything nice dont say anything at all lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrgghhh

Look Ill be honest if you want

Your pictures - no cock pictures and if you do have them maybe leave them for ' friends only'

Add something more to your profile - a little about yourself without being all ' woe is me'

Oh and most of all - don't let it bother you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I can't see you face pic properly it doesn't look the best and no that's not saying you're not attractive. I'd try again on that one as that's a first image that flashes up.

Also putting negative comments on your profile is a turn off. If you can't say anything nice dont say anything at all lol. "

You said it better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ill adjust my profile x see if it's better x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What was negative ???

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Talk about rock bottom ! You send out nice friendly messages to people ! You match what there looking for ! And you just get deleted ! Arhhhhhh ! Not even a polite no thank you

I understand the game but where along the line did people's manners disappear ?

No wonder sooooo many men on here fake couple profiles ! Totally sad "

The thing is YOU might think you match what they're looking for, they don't. You also have to realise if people take time to write profiles setting out what they're looking for, if they receive a message, look at the profile and there's nothing there or boring generic content, they'll delete without reading: I do.

Sadly, a lot of men join sites like this with the assumption it's full of raging nymphomaniacs, ready and raring to go, so they don't have to fill out a profile, just post pictures of their cocks from various angles, and send messages along the lines: "well?!! It's not gonna suck itself!!!

As an aside: your moan is longer than your profile text: need I say more?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was negative ??? "

Your status hunni x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I totally understand that but it's sole destroying I'm always polite and geniue and I've received 2 replies !

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If after a week your soul is destroyed one has to ask: is this for you?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you tess I appreciate that I may not meet their criteria ! But surely by the law of averages lol !

Your comment regarding my profile text is noted x ill try and be more imaginative

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This isn't the 1st time on here Tess x I thought I'd give it one more bash ! But I'm thinking this may not be for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youre verified by a 21 yr old lady I'd say your not doing bad!!!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

You've been here a week had 2 replies and a meet. That's more than some get in a year.

I agree with the profile comments tho.

And like others have said just because I have age criteria etc on my profile doesn't mean I'm gonna meet everyone within those criteria. There may not be an attraction there or something you have or don't have in the profile/pics they find off putting. Single guys outnumber couples/single fems massively on here. If your getting despondent after a week your gonna find life on here tough!!

And site rules state it's not rude not to reply just take a no reply as a no and move on x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You've been here a week had 2 replies and a meet. That's more than some get in a year.

I agree with the profile comments tho.

And like others have said just because I have age criteria etc on my profile doesn't mean I'm gonna meet everyone within those criteria. There may not be an attraction there or something you have or don't have in the profile/pics they find off putting. Single guys outnumber couples/single fems massively on here. If your getting despondent after a week your gonna find life on here tough!!

And site rules state it's not rude not to reply just take a no reply as a no and move on x"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Thank you tess I appreciate that I may not meet their criteria ! But surely by the law of averages lol !

Your comment regarding my profile text is noted x ill try and be more imaginative "

Just be yourself. People ask for help, everyone gives their tuppence worth, which results in a generic borefest!

You are unique, let members see you. Remember don't try and appeal to everyone: you can't!

If you prefer Amazonian women, say it. If you like playing in custard, shout it loud. You'll stand out and attract the kind of people for YOU!

Good luck!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Thank you tess I appreciate that I may not meet their criteria ! But surely by the law of averages lol !

Your comment regarding my profile text is noted x ill try and be more imaginative

Just be yourself. People ask for help, everyone gives their tuppence worth, which results in a generic borefest!

You are unique, let members see you. Remember don't try and appeal to everyone: you can't!

If you prefer Amazonian women, say it. If you like playing in custard, shout it loud. You'll stand out and attract the kind of people for YOU!

Good luck!"

Excellent advice!! I love custard

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm now up to 5 messages x and my meet was an old friend that happens to be on here ! She is fantastic x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you tess I appreciate that I may not meet their criteria ! But surely by the law of averages lol !

Your comment regarding my profile text is noted x ill try and be more imaginative

Just be yourself. People ask for help, everyone gives their tuppence worth, which results in a generic borefest!

You are unique, let members see you. Remember don't try and appeal to everyone: you can't!

If you prefer Amazonian women, say it. If you like playing in custard, shout it loud. You'll stand out and attract the kind of people for YOU!

Good luck!

Thank you sooo much x think I've been approaching this all wrong

It's tricky trying to appeal to most people x I know what I like (love to please) and custard is a favourite of mine but only on apple pie lol

I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, your profile is your most important asset, sell yourself. Say what you like and what you are looking for. Make it a little personal so folks get a feel for who you are.

Before I met my OH I was never short of meets, and was told my profile attracted them as I came across as friendly, sincere and trustworthy. My pics showed I was a dirty bastard

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers Ben ill check yours out and see how the pro's do it. Cheers for the advice Ben much appricated

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Custard only on apple pie? So if a lady said 'I'd like to lick custard off your huge throbbing cock'...you'd say 'nah, forget it'? Hmmmm.

Also, be more selective with your age group. Would you really like a 99 year old sitting on your face?

Lay out your profile like a market stall - your likes/dislikes/what you have to offer/what ladies can expect when they meet you - be imaginative. I prefer the tattoo pic as an avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers Ben ill check yours out and see how the pro's do it. Cheers for the advice Ben much appricated "

You won't get much info off my current profile as I am not really looking for meets anymore. Good luck anyway.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I can sympathise.

I knew a window cleaner that cried every time the chamois didn't clean the windows by itself.

He wasn't too sensitive for window cleaning tho you understand.

It was everyone else. Rude Chamois! rude!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Custard only on apple pie? So if a lady said 'I'd like to lick custard off your huge throbbing cock'...you'd say 'nah, forget it'? Hmmmm.

Also, be more selective with your age group. Would you really like a 99 year old sitting on your face?

Lay out your profile like a market stall - your likes/dislikes/what you have to offer/what ladies can expect when they meet you - be imaginative. I prefer the tattoo pic as an avatar. "

I'm nearly 99 !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Custard only on apple pie? So if a lady said 'I'd like to lick custard off your huge throbbing cock'...you'd say 'nah, forget it'? Hmmmm.

Also, be more selective with your age group. Would you really like a 99 year old sitting on your face?

Lay out your profile like a market stall - your likes/dislikes/what you have to offer/what ladies can expect when they meet you - be imaginative. I prefer the tattoo pic as an avatar.

I'm nearly 99 ! "

When you are 99 give me a call

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Thank you tess I appreciate that I may not meet their criteria ! But surely by the law of averages lol !

Your comment regarding my profile text is noted x ill try and be more imaginative

Just be yourself. People ask for help, everyone gives their tuppence worth, which results in a generic borefest!

You are unique, let members see you. Remember don't try and appeal to everyone: you can't!

If you prefer Amazonian women, say it. If you like playing in custard, shout it loud. You'll stand out and attract the kind of people for YOU!

Good luck!

Thank you sooo much x think I've been approaching this all wrong

It's tricky trying to appeal to most people x I know what I like (love to please) and custard is a favourite of mine but only on apple pie lol

I"

I think the mistake usually made by men is trying to please everyone: you can't, why would you want to?

Be honest with yourself: why are you here? What do you want?

I like confident men. Saying what you want without insulting those outwith your preferences impress me. Even if I'm excluded, therefore the target market would be too: impressed that is.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Custard only on apple pie? So if a lady said 'I'd like to lick custard off your huge throbbing cock'...you'd say 'nah, forget it'? Hmmmm.

Also, be more selective with your age group. Would you really like a 99 year old sitting on your face?

Lay out your profile like a market stall - your likes/dislikes/what you have to offer/what ladies can expect when they meet you - be imaginative. I prefer the tattoo pic as an avatar.

I'm nearly 99 !

When you are 99 give me a call "

Hey, You are my favourite flake :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Custard only on apple pie? So if a lady said 'I'd like to lick custard off your huge throbbing cock'...you'd say 'nah, forget it'? Hmmmm.

Also, be more selective with your age group. Would you really like a 99 year old sitting on your face?

Lay out your profile like a market stall - your likes/dislikes/what you have to offer/what ladies can expect when they meet you - be imaginative. I prefer the tattoo pic as an avatar.

I'm nearly 99 !

When you are 99 give me a call

Hey, You are my favourite flake :P"

Change your name to Granny Cornet and you can have my flake

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You can stick a 99 in me and lick me like an icecream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can stick a 99 in me and lick me like an icecream "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can stick a 99 in me and lick me like an icecream "

slut

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You can stick a 99 in me and lick me like an icecream

slut "

Ha ha an example of what attracts those who like flakes. Also, pervy, I didn't say where the flake was to be stuck, did I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it sole destroying? If they're not interested then their not interested if they say no thanks or not..

There are a lot of people who can't handle the rejection of being told no thanks

No pleasing everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OMG ! It's all going off lol my profile has lit up after all your advice x thank you soooo much

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"OMG ! It's all going off lol my profile has lit up after all your advice x thank you soooo much "

Except my advice about the pic

Maybe it was the flake comment

Maybe it should have been Brighton Rock

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