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I want my newGF to get into swinging

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By *ikeahorse OP   Man
9 weeks ago

letchworth

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By *ikeahorse OP   Man
9 weeks ago

letchworth

How do I approach her ????

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
9 weeks ago

Next Door

Show her your single guys profile and see what her reaction is

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By *alf GarnetMan
9 weeks ago

Adlington x


"Show her your single guys profile and see what her reaction is

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This !

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Mayfair


"Show her your single guys profile and see what her reaction is

🤷‍♀️"

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This is good advice. Please ensure that she reads ALL of your verifications so that she can see your attestations and feedback.

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By *ikeahorse OP   Man
9 weeks ago

letchworth

I love the like style I want her with me on my journey!

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By *t_takes_two!Woman
9 weeks ago

Yorkshire


"Show her your single guys profile and see what her reaction is

🤷‍♀️

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This is good advice. Please ensure that she reads ALL of your verifications so that she can see your attestations and feedback."

Its the best way to break the ice to a discussion about what you have enjoyed here previously n what you like ? Answer her questions n see what happens. If shes not feeling it then you know you can move on to someone who is.

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By *ndymac888Man
9 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"Show her your single guys profile and see what her reaction is

🤷‍♀️"

Awkward 😬 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Maybe he met his gf after these meets and is genuinely asking for advice on how to broach the subject... Must be tricky going from single to having a gf and taking about this?

Maybe just have an honest conversation and if she isnt into it you will have to make a choice.

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By *t_takes_two!Woman
9 weeks ago

Yorkshire


"Maybe he met his gf after these meets and is genuinely asking for advice on how to broach the subject... Must be tricky going from single to having a gf and taking about this?

Maybe just have an honest conversation and if she isnt into it you will have to make a choice."

If he wants her in this lifestyle why not show her? Assuming the meets are prior to her,and in the hope she's up for this lifestyle. If she is up for it and compatible, she's going to be curious, plus she might have a profile here?

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By *ndymac888Man
9 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"Maybe he met his gf after these meets and is genuinely asking for advice on how to broach the subject... Must be tricky going from single to having a gf and taking about this?

Maybe just have an honest conversation and if she isnt into it you will have to make a choice.

If he wants her in this lifestyle why not show her? Assuming the meets are prior to her,and in the hope she's up for this lifestyle. If she is up for it and compatible, she's going to be curious, plus she might have a profile here?

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That’s fair I apologise if I sounded judgmental (dick move)

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago


"I love the like style I want her with me on my journey!"

You have to be honest tell her you have enjoyed swinging previously and would like her to do meets with you and have sex with strangers . If she says yes, all good. If she says no then you must accept that. She might end the relationship though when she learns you "want" her to join the lifestyle.

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By *all me FlikWoman
9 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

My partner was, and still is open about being in the lifestyle so when we first met I knew about it. After a while I became interested and the rest is history. Swinging is all about honesty and being open about who you are as a person. Good luck OP.

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By *t_takes_two!Woman
9 weeks ago

Yorkshire


"Maybe he met his gf after these meets and is genuinely asking for advice on how to broach the subject... Must be tricky going from single to having a gf and taking about this?

Maybe just have an honest conversation and if she isnt into it you will have to make a choice.

If he wants her in this lifestyle why not show her? Assuming the meets are prior to her,and in the hope she's up for this lifestyle. If she is up for it and compatible, she's going to be curious, plus she might have a profile here?

That’s fair I apologise if I sounded judgmental (dick move)"

Nothing to apologise for, I think you're right it's a tricky conversation to start but being upfront now saves them getting more invested if they aren't compatible. Showing her fab is a good way to be like this is what I enjoy, have done, check it out, get curious, ask Qs n lets navigate a way we can both enjoy it together.

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By *ggdrasil66Man
9 weeks ago

Saltdean

Unfortunately you are more likely to lose a girlfriend if you approach her directly on the subject. Maybe pretend you have only just heard of swinging and ask her what she thinks of the subject?

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By *DoRe181Couple
9 weeks ago

Huddersfield


"Unfortunately you are more likely to lose a girlfriend if you approach her directly on the subject. Maybe pretend you have only just heard of swinging and ask her what she thinks of the subject?"

But that would be a lie, it's always better to tell the truth.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm not sure this went the way the OP was expecting.

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By *rogalCouple
9 weeks ago

Falkirk

Everyone has a path at this stage of life. She might not want to get involved with the lifestyle and would probably want you to lose the profile. However, there is a chance that she would be interested in the lifestyle and want a couples account instead

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By *issmorganWoman
9 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Talk to her op, we don't know her and what she's into.Its the only way you'll know.

Tell her you have some fantasies and ask if she has anything she wants to try too.

If she says no though, you need to leave it and decide if you can make a go of it with her or if you want to swing alone.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
9 weeks ago

Manchester

I would be honest and tell her you were doing this before she met and explain to her what it's about and what you like about it. If she is not interested then you have your answer. But she may be curious and want to know more, it might be something she doesn't know much about. I think being honest is the best approach. It might be a compatiblity issue if she is horrified at the idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Ask her to rate your cock and publish the score on your other thread

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By *lym4realCouple
9 weeks ago

plymouth

It's a tricky one ! and we just discussed what Mr4 had done with his ex's and then took it all from there and no pressure to compete with his Ex's but Mrs4 wanted to try some fem on fem fun and did so and then wanted to try a M/M/F but huge step to take and unless she's 100% sure ...

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago


"Maybe he met his gf after these meets and is genuinely asking for advice on how to broach the subject... Must be tricky going from single to having a gf and taking about this?

Maybe just have an honest conversation and if she isnt into it you will have to make a choice.

If he wants her in this lifestyle why not show her? Assuming the meets are prior to her,and in the hope she's up for this lifestyle. If she is up for it and compatible, she's going to be curious, plus she might have a profile here?

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Very true .. I guess I was just surprised that most of us assumed he was still playing behind her back.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Hopefully the replies are more helpful in steering your approach now OP, but i fear I have backed the wrong horse if you are asking for people to rate your cock in other threads.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
9 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire


"How do I approach her ????"

Don’t worry, we’ll all approach her

Joking aside, just ask her if she’s got any old fantasies? And start from there.

Good luck, and hopefully she doesn’t become your new ex girlfriend.

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By *a LunaWoman
9 weeks ago

o o OO o o

It’s the sort of conversation you maybe should have had before diving in, say on date 3.

Being into swinging is not a regular occurrence- so perhaps mention it but don’t hold your breath.

But you never know 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Mayfair


"Maybe he met his gf after these meets and is genuinely asking for advice on how to broach the subject... Must be tricky going from single to having a gf and taking about this?

Maybe just have an honest conversation and if she isnt into it you will have to make a choice."

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That's an interesting observation and I respect your diplomacy. But I'm not so sure I share your viewpoint. If he was earnest in his query he would have written out the context with some background, rather than throwing out a vague question and hoping for the best.

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Mayfair


"Hopefully the replies are more helpful in steering your approach now OP, but i fear I have backed the wrong horse if you are asking for people to rate your cock in other threads.

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I wasn't aware of his RMC thread. I rest my case.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Ask, if you can't have the conversation then you shouldn't be swinging together.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

East Sussex

Start as you mean to go on. If that's having open conversations with her now's the time to do it. If you intend to ask advice from other people before approaching her I think you might struggle.

You know her better than us even if your relationship is new, you will know her even better after you've talked to her.

Good luck to you both

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
9 weeks ago

West Suffolk

Be honest from the start, tell her you are on swingers and see how she reacts, if she doesn’t like it it’s up to you then to either abandon the site or start cheating

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
9 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle


"I love the like style I want her with me on my journey!"

Why ? Before you tell us why ... just read that sentence slowly to yourself..

'I' want her on 'MY' journey... hilarious.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

Communicate

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