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Do you Swing on first meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

With cpls, we tend to prefer to meet for a drink first, then go home have a frank discussion....and then decide if to play or not...4 people to keep happy, so can be complex if 1 is not 100% happy. And people can feel obliged or under pressure at the time....

Single guys, well we Shag on first meet! Ha ha just me to please and im a Tart lol xxx

What about you guys??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will do depends on Chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never! There's no guarantee I'll want to play and as a single female it would be extremely foolish of me to put myself in a situation I may not be able to control. Also, because I'm looking for someone 'kinky' believe it or not some single men actually lie to get a meet. A social meet beforehand usually sorts the liars out. Surprising how the person who claims to be up for anything lets slip how they're not really into 'kinky stuff' just wanted to meet a 'bossy' woman...sigh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We swing on first date, providing their is something there lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the play on first contact thing before and after a couple of false starts we now always meet for a no strings drink then go home to make the decision in a no pressure atmosphere

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

We normally just go for it if the spark is there.

There has been one time that we met just for a drink first and didn't enjoy the meet when we evertually had it. I know thats not really a guide to say every meet that we meet for a drink first won't be enjoyable..but it put us off a bit.

So now, we meet, if all in agreement we play. Up to now it has worked well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we click we play, if we don't we won't. It's a simple method and has proved to be the most reliable. What's the point in waiting if someone is available and right there with you and we all get on.

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By *artin216Man
over a year ago

Spilsby

Whats a meet??.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we get as far as meeting someone it means we do want to play with them however we often find that its hard for four people to all click. If we do then we always have a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we click we play, if we don't we won't. It's a simple method and has proved to be the most reliable. What's the point in waiting if someone is available and right there with you and we all get on."

That about sums it up for us, not that we do much swinging nowadays, but if we needed to go home and think about it then it would probably be a no thanks anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YES we play on the first meet if the chemistry is there, but if we don't play on the first meet it does not mean we will not play on subsequent meets, or not want to meet the people again with a view to playing.

Sometimes things just click and it's natural progression, sometimes we need to spend more time with the people and get to know them better, sometime we just know it is never going to happen but do not mind as we know we will have made some new friends.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Like many others have stated, providing the chemistry's right we also play on first meets, the problem with socialising prior to sex, it can be a bloody long time before sex takes place, we once spent 6 hours chatting to a couple before we managed to “Engage”

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We play on first meet, but we would say to those couples who prefer to meet for drinks first.

Make sure you make that clear to the people you are meeting BEFORE the meet. There is nothing worse than driving 60-70 miles to meet somebody, under the impression you are going for a drink and play session, only to be leaving for home an hour later.

Maybe if those people who want to meet for a social first would change their minds if it was they who had to do all the traveling. We have had this happen to us 3 times this last year. Worst was travelling 109 miles because the impression given was we were going to play. No way would we have driven 109 miles just for a pint and a meal, we can do that closer, much closer to home!!

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond


"If we get as far as meeting someone it means we do want to play with them however we often find that its hard for four people to all click. If we do then we always have a good time "

That sums it all up in one nice sentence, shame we have been let down a couple times this past year, maybe bad judgment on our parts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cannot remember, it was so long ago

But seriously sometimes we have done other times we havent, it all depends on circumstances at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if the chemistry is there on the first meet then yes

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

By the time i agree to a meet ive already decided i want to play with them.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"If we get as far as meeting someone it means we do want to play with them however we often find that its hard for four people to all click. If we do then we always have a good time

That sums it all up in one nice sentence, shame we have been let down a couple times this past year, maybe bad judgment on our parts?"

I would say going by your previous post, more communication needed when arranging your meets.

We set all bounderies and what may happen before going for the meet. The only thing that would stop it is if there was no spark.

But if we did decide to meet anyone just for a drink ( not likely) without a view to playing, then we would make sure all parties knew before anyone set off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to prepare, as far as we can, for both possabilities. We don't expect to play, but will if everything is ok. No two meets are the same, so we go with no expectations, and if something happens, so much the better, lol

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

We always turn up hoping; but not expecting

Having had chat on webcam or phone with all 4 online before agreeing to the meet in the 1st place does reduce the risk of a problem

But always if even just one not happy then nothing happens; no one should feel pressured into playing

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By *ary and BejesusCouple
over a year ago

Ye Olde Stable

only if they are so gorgeous, my pussy starts chewing my leg!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo

I play on the way to the meet... bus driver is a hunk.... starter

I play at the meet...main course

as for the taxi journey home.....

eventually fall in the front door hours later, knackered but smiling

I love my dessert.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk to much to even get to starters ! lol lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We suppose there is no right or wrong answer!

Like some have said it can be a pain arranging to meet for just a drink....than waiting weeks to arrange a play!

Its Chemistry.....thats seems to be the key thing....I suppose we all"know" if its a go!

Thanks for all your comments guys....

R&J XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always say that i may not play on a first meet as i need to see what the chemistry like first!!! only been 2 meets when iv not played on first time and those ended up bein the most regular meets!! each to their own and i imagine for couples it must be harder when you have 4 people decidin xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We gowith the flow if it feels right we do

If not, we dont, or wait xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we just go with the attitude" lets go with the flow and have a good night regardless"...

it has alot do do with chemistry from all parties...

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By *ickedWWoman
over a year ago

Chester

By the time a meet happens I have usually found out most things about them, warts and all, do, dont's, rules etc..

So if the spark happens on a meet generally things happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We often accomodate at a weekend,so we usualy spend the week before chatting on the phone a few times and mailing.

Then when the time comes theres usualy little doubt that something will happen on the night.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do as I am told on the first meet...

Usually piss off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes if the chemistry is there on the first meet then yes. always meet on the proviso that it may not happen but usually it is play time after a get to know you drink

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"I always do as I am told on the first meet...

Usually piss off... "

lol, that brought a smile to my face

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I'm a tart too

I often swing on the first text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always do as I am told on the first meet...

Usually piss off... "

awwwwwwwwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never meet anyone for sex, i meet people for a drink and see how we get on, if we get on and like each other then yes i'll play on a first meet if not i dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always do as I am told on the first meet...

Usually piss off...

lol, that brought a smile to my face "
Lol mine too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every time on first meet. Have little time to waste meeting in pubs. Have chats with `date` on phone 1st. Last guy we met had sex slave naked and sucking his cock within the very 1st minute of arrival. didn`t even have time to remove the lense cap, lol. He was fucking her very shortly after. Phone calls worked him up into a frenzy. great evening though.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I dont see the point of texting and emailing often for months

I want a fuck, he wants a fuck

If he meets my requirements then I give him my number and hes often on his way the same day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooh no swing on the first meet what type of boy do ya think i am xx

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"Ooooh no swing on the first meet what type of boy do ya think i am xx "

tart x

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