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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

This is a public sevice request on behalf of the single guys.

We see a lot post about single guys not getting anywhere on here, so your advise is required.

What can a single guy do to make you think, I would be interested in meeting him.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham

'meeting' - in my case the meeting stage was waaaaaaaaay down the line

My current FWB/BF was weeks of chatting, then a couple of socials before we got physical, lots of clear communication and respect.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
10 weeks ago

South Wales

Just be Oscar Isaac and then a meet would be guaranteed! Xx 😄

Also, I find meeting sometimes requires patience. I like to message for a while and see how things go before arranging a social first to see how things are in person so it can take quite some time before an actual meet. (There are always exceptions to this rule and I can’t really explain why that happens, sometimes you just know) xx 😘

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By *luebell888Woman
10 weeks ago

Glasgowish

Make me laugh

Don't be vulgar and don't call be babe is a good starting point.

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By *vaRoseWoman
10 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Ok one word probably sums this up for me EFFORT.

Start with a decent bio. There are lots of great guys bios to be found amongst the forum guys. From humours and silly to serious and factual, the common denominator is effort.

Pics: Every woman or couple here has different things we prefer. However again Effort is the key. Take your time building your gallery…. Think about what’s in the background too, we notice these things.

Messages: speak to us like we are human beings. I am not a hole to be filled, I’m not your whore or your filthy secret. Keep your fantasies to yourself at least until the conversation leads that way. Bonus points if your message shows you’ve read the profile of the person you’re messaging. It’s that word again… effort

Meeting, that comes later but the above is where you get your first interest

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

A tip to avoid frustration !

More of a mind set really, woman on Fab are subtle.

Most will go through profiles with their account hidden, they aren’t trying to rob us of the empowerment received when you get profile views. They just know that every time they view one it generates a possible unwanted message, the same with fabbing our pics.

Most woman aren’t on Fab looking for just sex, it’s easy for them in most cases to find willing partners outside of here, I think most are looking for something they can’t get by walking into a bar. A kink or a fantasy.

If your profile makes you look capable of delivering what they are looking for they will get in touch.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
10 weeks ago

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Be yourself.

Keep in mind this is a casual website, if exclusivity is what you're looking you've come to the wrong place.

Overly complimentary messages from randoms can come across a bit desperate.

Remember, fab is at the bottom of most women's priority list.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
10 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Treat me like a person and not a sex dispenser / walking fleshlight.

Engage my mind in some way (open to various topics, styles etc, it's the forging a connection that is relevant,

not the specifics) - for me if you are unable to engage in some back and forth conversationally, then experience tells me you'll likely be a dull and/or unresponsive sexual partner.

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By *agic.MMan
10 weeks ago

Orpington


"Be yourself.

Keep in mind this is a casual website, if exclusivity is what you're looking you've come to the wrong place.

Overly complimentary messages from randoms can come across a bit desperate.

Remember, fab is at the bottom of most women's priority list.

"

I always found the "just be yourself " advice a bit counterproductive, given that there are so many ignorant, uneducated, emotionally immature and with poor social skills men on fab (and I am basing this on what women share is their interactions with men on fab)...maybe being themselves is not good enough

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By *iss.BellaWoman
10 weeks ago

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"Be yourself.

Keep in mind this is a casual website, if exclusivity is what you're looking you've come to the wrong place.

Overly complimentary messages from randoms can come across a bit desperate.

Remember, fab is at the bottom of most women's priority list.

I always found the "just be yourself " advice a bit counterproductive, given that there are so many ignorant, uneducated, emotionally immature and with poor social skills men on fab (and I am basing this on what women share is their interactions with men on fab)...maybe being themselves is not good enough "

Well.. actually that's a good point. Those individuals should seek out a personality transplant

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By *uckslut and MCouple
10 weeks ago

Greater London

As our profile says, 'only message us when we have a meet up'.

The amont of guys, that message and offer when we have nothing up is insane. We do meet single guys, but on our terms. We're super fussy and insist on doing this when we're free. For example on a day off. We don't think this is hard to understand. Bombarding us on a work day is not going to get you any where. Keep on messaging, when we're not free will only gain them a block.

Our advise is, read the profile, follow the guidlines, and your be rewarded.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"Ok one word probably sums this up for me EFFORT.

Start with a decent bio. There are lots of great guys bios to be found amongst the forum guys. From humours and silly to serious and factual, the common denominator is effort.

Pics: Every woman or couple here has different things we prefer. However again Effort is the key. Take your time building your gallery…. Think about what’s in the background too, we notice these things.

Messages: speak to us like we are human beings. I am not a hole to be filled, I’m not your whore or your filthy secret. Keep your fantasies to yourself at least until the conversation leads that way. Bonus points if your message shows you’ve read the profile of the person you’re messaging. It’s that word again… effort

Meeting, that comes later but the above is where you get your first interest

"

This is what I was going to say, only not quite so eloquently

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

I think I'm fairly straightforward on my profile about what I'm looking for from men (but also women and couples) and I've written it specifically because I want people to succeed. Unfortunately success rate is low even with instruction.

Just this week I've had first messages that referred to me as 'honey' 'babe' and 'hotlips' and my advice? Don't do that.

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
10 weeks ago

Norwich

From my perspective the number one things single men should do is read profiles. Once they have done that respect people's preferences.

Mine is quite clear yet I get so many messages from men who clearly have just looked at my pics or have decided that they know me better than I know myself and should message me anyway.

I hope you enjoy it here though and have success.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Speak to women like humans not some disposable cum bucket.

Make an effort in your profile and approach, if you cba to write a bio I assume you are equally as lazy in bed.

Most women aren't attracted to genitals alone, if that's all you have to offer you won't get far.

Your profile should appeal to women, what they want to see yes we are all different but 17300 cock pics alone isn't that. Many guys profiles appeal to men because they do what they want to see.

Don't try to get sympathy sex it ain't sexy.

No reply = no thank you, keep the bruised ego to yourself.

Don't be a cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Be hotter

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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"Speak to women like humans not some disposable cum bucket.

Make an effort in your profile and approach, if you cba to write a bio I assume you are equally as lazy in bed.

Most women aren't attracted to genitals alone, if that's all you have to offer you won't get far.

Your profile should appeal to women, what they want to see yes we are all different but 17300 cock pics alone isn't that. Many guys profiles appeal to men because they do what they want to see.

Don't try to get sympathy sex it ain't sexy.

No reply = no thank you, keep the bruised ego to yourself.

Don't be a cunt."
Don't be a cunt, words I live by

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton


"Be hotter"

Good advice 😂

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By *ora the explorerWoman
10 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Local

No cock pics

Nice gallery

Nice profile text

Doesn’t talk sex in first few messages

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By *ighlandCooWoman
10 weeks ago

Chesterfield


"A tip to avoid frustration !

More of a mind set really, woman on Fab are subtle.

Most will go through profiles with their account hidden, they aren’t trying to rob us of the empowerment received when you get profile views. They just know that every time they view one it generates a possible unwanted message, the same with fabbing our pics.

Most woman aren’t on Fab looking for just sex, it’s easy for them in most cases to find willing partners outside of here, I think most are looking for something they can’t get by walking into a bar. A kink or a fantasy.

If your profile makes you look capable of delivering what they are looking for they will get in touch. "

100% agree with this.

As a single woman on Fab I came here looking to fulfil some fantasies and specific things I wanted to find.

I got inundated with single male profiles, and I ended up leaving the site for a bit.

One other thing I've noticed that really puts me off, a guy will ask what I'm looking to fulfil. I'll tell him I want threesomes for instance, his next statement is " I can help, I would do that with you "

Ok, but we've still only chatted for 5 messages!

I want the experience to be a good one, not just two strange men fucking me.

Most single woman ( not in a couple ) come here for a specific reason.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
10 weeks ago

West Suffolk

Be able to hold a conversation

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
10 weeks ago

West Suffolk

If someone asks “how are you?” Don’t reply “horny”

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By *phroditeWoman
10 weeks ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Be able to hold a conversation "
This in a nutshell.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
10 weeks ago

West Suffolk

Personalise your first message rather than a copy and paste message, try and stimulate the ladies mind rather than thinking of getting into her bed

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Not have a picture with a ruler next to there dick would be a start or send a copy and paste first message!

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