FabSwingers.com forum: What’s the difference

By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

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Fat fingers deleted the post so here it is again!!

So I’ve been thinking which in itself can be dangerous

The site has the word swingers in it but I see many people refer to it as a sex site

Take out the aged discussion of what defines a swinger as in only couples but is there a difference in your opinion between a swinging and/or sex site and what do you see this site as

For me swinging is different. I need that elusive connection and the more social side of it with like minded people and the actual probability there may be no sex

I don’t want a “fuck and run” I would at least want a build up and not to feel I was just a “dick” at the end of it. Hopefully a slice of cake and a brew

These are just my opinions, what are yours and please don’t criticise anybody else’s choice

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

I think swinging doesn't involve payment and a sex site does.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

"I think swinging doesn't involve payment and a sex site does. "

Maybe I have worded it incorrectly

I don’t mean professional sex workers I mean on here how do you view it or use it for

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By *aughtyPumpkinWoman
10 weeks ago

Not Far From Doncaster

Swinging is community based with like-minded people who enjoy sharing sexual encounters and experiences. Sex sites are transactional.

Sidenote… lost track of how many times I’ve been told I’m ‘not a real swinger’ because of my dynamic and preferences

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By *oxychicWoman
10 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

To me swinging as a massive social side to it , and many different friendships can be formed , sex sites to me is basically a fuck and go regardless of ppl and the etiquette

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By *ellinever70Woman
10 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think any site where you hope to meet people to have sex with can loosely be referred to as a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Swinging is open and honest, it's good communication, social, it's basically group sex of more than two.

A sex site is a hook up site.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

It's a swinging site for the couples and those that go to clubs.

To me it is a sex site. I'm not here to date. You can meet people for sex and also get on with them without making it into a bigger deal like most people seem to do.

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By *ellinever70Woman
10 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Swinging is open and honest, it's good communication, social, it's basically group sex of more than two.

A sex site is a hook up site."

Meeting others for casual sex can be social, open and honest and involve good communication.

Swingers don't have a monopoly over those things

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

For us it's a swingers site. We are looking for fun but we are also looking for likeminded people and to meet people and make frirnds in the swinging community. There is a huge social side to it which we like.

For others it's a sex site. Simply for finding and getting NSA fun.

Both have a place on here, but the two sides have alot of conflict.

We do consider single people swingers, but not every single person on the site is a swinger.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
10 weeks ago

Coventry

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
10 weeks ago

Coventry

As far as I'm concerned a swinger is simply someone who has an intrest and/or participation in the actives of the scene. Its a lifestyle rather just a hook up.

The world is more openly promiscuous these days. I wouldn't say having casual hook ups (one on one or 3+ people) makes you a swinger per se. And I think a lot of the younger folk out there who regularly engage in such activity and use different apps to find this would agree and would also not label themselves as swingers too.

I don't think being a swinger is limited to couples and I totally recognise the legitimacy of singles. I think what make you a swinger is simply getting stuck into the scene. For example if you go to clubs and parties.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

A sex site. Does that imply I need to have sex?

I like swinging, I like the freedom of it all.

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

It's more akin to a sex site, if I am picking between the two.

I've been on here as a couple and there's been a sense of you aren't real swingers unless you do x y z. So it's hard for me to consider it couple centred. So I'll focus on the sex site aspect. I'm here because I am interested in finding a sexual partners. I think that's most people's motivation. So it can serve as a reasonable definition.

I am demi so there's a level of emotional connection necessary for sexual attraction. I've encountered all the why are you here instead of a dating site, you won't find what you are looking for stuff. I have found what I am looking for, in several ways. So I am sure your desire for a slice of cake and a brew is quite a reasonable one.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
10 weeks ago

Beverley

If you are a couple who just meet other couples for drinks and a laugh, then you're hid being social, surely?

I think the sex is a key definer of swinging, and with the number of singles on here it's totally fine to refer to it as a sex site, or sex community if you want to rule out the payment aspect

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By *each needs some creamWoman
10 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

The definition of a swinger is a group of people meeting up for sex.

It doesn't say anything about couples just a group of people.

A therefore ultimately a swinger meets up for sex.

How you go about meeting up is down to personal choice as long as at the end you have sex.

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

It's just a shorthand label people whack on the site. No single clear definition.

Fuck, don't fuck who you want (and wants it back). Eat cake if you want, post nonsense on the forums. Never meet a single person and get your kicks from posting photos if you want. You don't need to have sex with Fab people or be swinging to be on here.

Being interested in sex probably helps though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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10 weeks ago

East Sussex

There's no difference in my opinion. The majority of people on this site are here for sex. Some of them enjoy conversation and social activities beforehand but sex is their end goal.

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By *electableicecreamMan
10 weeks ago

The West

If we were to define the site by how the majority use it then fab is an amateur porn site where you to get to message the content creators for free.

For me fab is a sex based site and pretty eclectic in it's use. The cams and chat, the forums, the pics, the access to events and to people. It's not one thing by design.

Swinging as a term is a pretty old definition of ENM culture at this stage and I think has largely been superceded. Most people seem to define it in terms of how they live the lifestyle themselves.

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
10 weeks ago

Norwich

I'm single. If I was in a relationship I wouldn't be on here.

However I am single and I do go to socials and plan to go to a club. However when I'm in a relationship all this stops so I'd say for me it's a sex site primarily. I'm not in the lifestyle.

However I think it's whatever you want it to be and as long as you're safe, enjoy it and don't mess people about that's the main thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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10 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I'm single. If I was in a relationship I wouldn't be on here.

However I am single and I do go to socials and plan to go to a club. However when I'm in a relationship all this stops so I'd say for me it's a sex site primarily. I'm not in the lifestyle.

However I think it's whatever you want it to be and as long as you're safe, enjoy it and don't mess people about that's the main thing.

I agree. Be open about what you want, don't say you want the same as someone else unless you really do.

The majority of people we have met are using the site to get sex. With one or two exceptions they agree to meet us socially because they want to have sex with us.

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