FabSwingers.com forum: How does it make you feel

By *ere4It3000 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

Belgium

When you send out face pictures and then it’s suddenly quiet on the other side. Do you prefer it like this or hearing a “thankyou but not for us” kind of thing?

Has this happened to you before?

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By *loverMan
10 weeks ago

iver

"When you send out face pictures and then it’s suddenly quiet on the other side. Do you prefer it like this or hearing a “thankyou but not for us” kind of thing?

Has this happened to you before? "

This happens quite often.. honestly I would rather the reply. But each to their own

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By *aizyWoman
10 weeks ago

west midlands

I'd rather no reply I'd get the msg loud and clear from that.

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By *eettogetpleasedMan
10 weeks ago

Ponterfact

An outcome is always nice and does help!

Anyway I know the females/couples does have hundreds of messages and this is hard to do so but perhaps the admins should think of this side too as there are huge amount of members.

Anyway have fun!

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
10 weeks ago

Brum

Just like that time I wasn’t holding onto my kite properly.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

Oh god, I'd prefer it if they just deleted the message thread rather than give me negative feedback.

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By *egDaySkipperMan
10 weeks ago

Liverpool

Never happened to me, probably because I look like Henry Cavill and Hugh Jackman mixed together.

That being said, if someone ever preferred the Vampire guy from twilight looks, I would rather they delete my message and never reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Happened more than I'd like to admit or send a face pic and then get user has blocked you lol

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By *ineapplePixie69!Couple
10 weeks ago

Neverland/Wales

Would rather a 'not for me sorry'

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By *egnMaxCouple
10 weeks ago

Nottingham

Never mind when people just evaporate. Saves time in the long run. And wouldn’t want to meet with someone that ignorant anyway.

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By *r Light YearMan
10 weeks ago

Brighton

"When you send out face pictures and then it’s suddenly quiet on the other side. Do you prefer it like this or hearing a “thankyou but not for us” kind of thing?

Has this happened to you before? "

Best not to read too much into it OP. Could be any number of reasons why they haven't messaged since.

Don't give it a second thought, just focus on who is in front of you and wants to get close and personal with your pretty face

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By *inx000Couple
10 weeks ago

Manchester

Unfortunately we get it quite often and it does become annoying..we would prefer a reply than no reply at all and be ignored as we find that quite rude.

A simple 'sorry your not what we are looking for' would do just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I don't really give out my face pic very often...but and extended silence would make me feel like the Elephant Man..

I'm not sure there is a nice way of telling someone they look fuck ugly...so that doesn't work either.

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
10 weeks ago

Norwich

I've had this. One guy blocked me which I thought was extreme! 🤣

I think I'd rather they didn't reply back tbh. No reply is a response as they say.

I've had some guys be really brutal and it's not nice. I'd rather be in my not as attractive as as the ones they like bubble! 😅

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By *ucka39Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle

I don't need to send any pics I'm visible

And if I wasn't

I wouldn't find it disappointing for not getting a response but id be annoyed if just went ahead and blocked me before I did

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By *ere4It3000 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

Belgium

There’s so many ways to adress this. I’d rather have a polite “sorry you are not what we’re looking for” then being left on read or just leaving the message unread forever. The message is delivered that way too but just think it’s not left with the best feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

All the time my fave is offencive 😭

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Happens most times

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By *abs Big BangersWoman
10 weeks ago

Cotswolds

Never had this yet, but I'm sure my time will come 🤣

Don't let it phase you either way

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I'd rather no reply, I've not had it as yet.

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
10 weeks ago

Middle Earth

some guys can't take the reply of, "sorry but your not my type". we'v had some rude responces. so we tend to just delete and ignore ore now.

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By *omeones GrumpMan
10 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

I know that I'm going to scare them away when I send it so let them look then block them

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By *pforanything22Man
10 weeks ago

March

Delete or no thank you. Not keen on reading your message and nothing.

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I’ve been on both sides of this lol, that’s why I just decided to have no private pics and put my face out there it’s deffo disheartening to get the “not for me sorry”.

But I was speaking to a woman for a couple of days once until she showed me pictures and I felt horrible saying she wasn’t my type, she took it very well and didn’t give me a hard time, but i did feel like a dick after two days of positive chat.

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By *rHotNottsMan
10 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Hasn’t happened for a long time I don’t really get into those kinds of conversations anymore and I think I have enough on my profile so people can see what I look like, but I remember doing it as a couple a long time ago and it’s weird. It just goes quiet after, I mean what can you say but no thanks . 😂

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
10 weeks ago

South Wales

I think I’d prefer a ‘not my type’ than complete silence…..maybe xx

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By *gent CoulsonMan
10 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If they just leave it open and don't reply, you are left wondering of they will respond at some point.

If they deleted it, you have your answer there and then, which for me is better.

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By *asyman321Man
10 weeks ago

north east

Doesn’t do anything for your self esteem, that’s why I’d never post on here

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Has this happened to you before? "

Yes, it happens a lot.

I’m not sure what I’d prefer, I get that I’m not everyone’s type, but when you think there’s something there, and then you are ghosted, that’s pretty sad.

Do I prefer an honest ‘not gonna happen mate!’? I’m not sure. 😅

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By *asty tatsyMan
10 weeks ago

london

Not sure really on this one as I have had both ways, sorry not what I’m looking for and completely pied. But you can’t be everyone cuppa tea right so just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I prefer it when it goes quiet. Much less hurtful than "put a paper bag over it, ugly".

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

Any rejection is a bit of a downer whether it's voiced or not. We just take it on the chin and move on

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By *ozzybear1981Man
10 weeks ago

preston

I like to be transparent and have on my public pictures.

But that’s just me really and they can see from the offset ☺️

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By *urFantasy21Couple
10 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

"When you send out face pictures and then it’s suddenly quiet on the other side. Do you prefer it like this or hearing a “thankyou but not for us” kind of thing?

Has this happened to you before? "

My heart sinks not because of rejection but I wonder is it somebody that knows us?

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By *exyScientistsCouple
10 weeks ago

Castlebar

If they want one I'll send one. Saves meeting someone and wasting time if they aren't interested

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
10 weeks ago

Aberdeen

I would rather the silence, I'd take the hint and block and move on.

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
10 weeks ago

Voldsøy

Omg, I think I'd rather silence. I'd get the message from that. Just delete it.

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

I rarely send face photos and even then it's usually a month or so from the inception of chatting. If photos are shared the conversation either continues at pace or just fizzles out after a while. That way we never really know if it was the photos that did it or just the natural decay of the conversation.

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By *uremuleMan
10 weeks ago

Carlow/Kilkenny

Like some feedback then move on. Even if sorry not for me its better than silence

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

That's why I have a face pic on my profile.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
10 weeks ago

Stoke

If it happens to us I just blame the Mrs, it can't be me cos I'm feckin stunning!

Mr F.

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

It has never happened or if it has i am blissfully unaware 😂

No response is a response & i prefer this 🩵

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By *ife NinjaMan
10 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I expect the quiet response. I'm more than happy if it's not. I know my limitations and expectations 🤓

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I've always had positive feedback about my face. Obviously my face pictures also come with an online survey sent via email.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"If it happens to us I just blame the Mrs, it can't be me cos I'm feckin stunning!

Mr F.

Haha. This is the best attitude.

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By *lueDressWoman
10 weeks ago

Bath

Im sure it's happened to Me.But the usual thing is Im not interested in them after exchanging photos.

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

"When you send out face pictures and then it’s suddenly quiet on the other side. Do you prefer it like this or hearing a “thankyou but not for us” kind of thing?

Has this happened to you before?

My heart sinks not because of rejection but I wonder is it somebody that knows us?"

Yeah I worry about this but it’s inevitable lol.

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
10 weeks ago

Sheffield

"When you send out face pictures and then it’s suddenly quiet on the other side. Do you prefer it like this or hearing a “thankyou but not for us” kind of thing?

Has this happened to you before? "

Honestly just having the mail deleted is usually the easiest.

Speaking from the male perspective people are usually looking for something specific (BBC, Bi, Over 50, Under 30, VWE etc)

Most of your messages never get read.

If it gets read and there is no response you don't know if they're interested or not.

It's so easy to be too keen for some people or not keen enough or another.

And if you do get a no thank you it's WAY to easy to pick over everything about yourself wondering what you did wrong or is wrong about you.

So someone just deleting the mail is the quickest and easiest to deal with.

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By *entlemanJay39Man
10 weeks ago

Northampton

Unfortunately the reason a lot of women or couples won't reply, is because there are "men" that will continue to pressure them, or get butt hurt and then send a rude response back.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
10 weeks ago

Wirral

I've had responses ranging from just "No" to silent delete and block.

I'm not particularly arsed whether someone rejects in words or by silence - the communication method doesn't change the message!

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By *ikesEmBigMan
10 weeks ago

Herts

"When you send out face pictures and then it’s suddenly quiet on the other side. Do you prefer it like this or hearing a “thankyou but not for us” kind of thing?

Has this happened to you before? "

Just confirms my penis is better looking than my face

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I feel like they actually have some standards so I respect their decision.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
10 weeks ago

North West

I've had the radio silence a couple of times. It's fine because then I can tell myself that I'm just too intimidatingly hot. 🤣

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
10 weeks ago

Next Door

A deleted message, a ignore for months it's happens to me. I'm not bothered if I'm not for them and they chose not to reply. I still get my answer

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"When you send out face pictures and then it’s suddenly quiet on the other side. Do you prefer it like this or hearing a “thankyou but not for us” kind of thing?

Has this happened to you before? "
happens quite often id rather hear no thank you than the ghosting. But then again I understand replying no to everyone could be a hassle

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By *r lotharioMan
10 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

i'd have to get a message first lol

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By *tudleyGoodfuckMan
10 weeks ago

Durham

I hate when people don't reply at all or just delete your message. If you're not interested fine but at least acknowledge it. I reply to everyone eventually, depending on time or how many I have but I'll always reply either way.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Does anyone dare send a face pic in here now?

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By *ay6eeMan
10 weeks ago

South Wales

Definitely prefer the reply. With messaging ladies on here you never know if you message has just disappeared in the avalanche of erm... other messages!

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By *r lotharioMan
10 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

that must be what happens to all mine....haha

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

We always send a polite no thank you, unfortunately others don’t but each to threre own x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

I don't meet people if there's zero chance we'll get on. I prefer to know, so that my time is allocated accordingly

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By *et and WillingCouple
10 weeks ago

Nuneaton

We always say "not for us thanks" and get the same back but have been ghosted a few times.

We dont fancy everyone and they dont us its the way of the world. We never take offence if its a no but no reply is a bit rude but dont really let it bother us x

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By *sWyldWoman
10 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I've come to the conclusion I do better on Fab than I do on Tinder because people don't see my face here

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I've come to the conclusion I do better on Fab than I do on Tinder because people don't see my face here "

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Your lådyship, your visage is forever enshrined within the hearts and minds of the lustful and licentious lotharios on here.

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By *ou only live onceMan
10 weeks ago

London

IIf we're talking purely about what happens after sending a face pic, I think I prefer a 'deleted without reading'. Brutal but unambiguous.

I'd rather that than a faux polite message which is really just code for "we didn't like your ugly mush"!

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By *ilverfox for youMan
10 weeks ago

Hull

As important as face pics are . When your asked to show yours first then get blocked , isn’t easy to go through but it’s the way it is ! Women have the control . Also when they say face pic with first message or you get deleted ! A bit harsh when they have no pics at all !

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