FabSwingers.com forum: Ever get a message…..

By *cunthorpe123 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

scunthorpe

Any wonder why the person would be interested in you??

I get this feeling quite often, we could get a message from a couple who are slim, fit and really attractive and I wonder why they would be interested in us as a couple when I’m plus size.

Then I get in my head about getting naked in front of such a hot couple

I’d love to hear tips on getting over this!

Donna x

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

Often.

And not just WhatsApp’s from my mum either.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham

"Any wonder why the person would be interested in you??

I get this feeling quite often, we could get a message from a couple who are slim, fit and really attractive and I wonder why they would be interested in us as a couple when I’m plus size.

Then I get in my head about getting naked in front of such a hot couple

I’d love to hear tips on getting over this!

Donna x"

Nearly every message I get I feel like this 🫣

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By *cunthorpe123 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"Often.

And not just WhatsApp’s from my mum either. "

Respectfully, your profile picture is 🔥🔥🔥

Donna x

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By *cunthorpe123 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"Any wonder why the person would be interested in you??

I get this feeling quite often, we could get a message from a couple who are slim, fit and really attractive and I wonder why they would be interested in us as a couple when I’m plus size.

Then I get in my head about getting naked in front of such a hot couple

I’d love to hear tips on getting over this!

Donna x

Nearly every message I get I feel like this 🫣"

It’s awful isn’t it?? I start by thinking that if they have messaged us then they must like what they see but then I start overthinking everything!

Donna x

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"Often.

And not just WhatsApp’s from my mum either.

Respectfully, your profile picture is 🔥🔥🔥

Donna x"

If my mum says that I’m out.

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By *r Bond.Man
10 weeks ago

Moving Around the Midlands

This is why i like to get to know people before getting naked with them.

I feel more comfortable and less awkward then. I still feel awkward but not as much .

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
10 weeks ago

Norwich

Yes I'm a curvy girl too and I get really hot guys contacting me and I feel exactly the same.

I think us ladies have been conditioned that thin is everything and nobody could possibly like us if we're not. The fact is everyone's tastes are different and we just need to have confidence that we're beautiful and definitely good enough.

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By *cunthorpe123 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"This is why i like to get to know people before getting naked with them.

I feel more comfortable and less awkward then. I still feel awkward but not as much ."

We do tend to meet for a social before we play unless it’s in a club but it’s still a worry

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By *cunthorpe123 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"Yes I'm a curvy girl too and I get really hot guys contacting me and I feel exactly the same.

It’s an awful way to think isn’t it?

I’ve been with Sean almost 17 years, he’s seen me smaller and bigger and always wanted me….but I still find it hard to see why and I’m married to him!

It’s harder to understand why a stranger would like my body x

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By *exyScientistsCouple
10 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Any wonder why the person would be interested in you??

I get this feeling quite often, we could get a message from a couple who are slim, fit and really attractive and I wonder why they would be interested in us as a couple when I’m plus size.

Then I get in my head about getting naked in front of such a hot couple

I’d love to hear tips on getting over this!

Donna x"

Yes, and single guys, hot guys, younger guys...

I assume that people have a certain "type" and if I get it in my head that I'm not it then it's tough to get passed that.

Even met a hot guy and kissed him and still doubted that he liked me...

Met him again, had some fun and still thought nah, he was just bored and horny and I was free...

Maybe that's true but I had fun 🤪

Sometimes it seems to good to be true. Mr always says just go with it 😊 so I'm trying not to overanalyse and not to expect too much.

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By *cunthorpe123 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"Any wonder why the person would be interested in you??

I get this feeling quite often, we could get a message from a couple who are slim, fit and really attractive and I wonder why they would be interested in us as a couple when I’m plus size.

Then I get in my head about getting naked in front of such a hot couple

I’d love to hear tips on getting over this!

Donna x

Yes, and single guys, hot guys, younger guys...

I assume that people have a certain "type" and if I get it in my head that I'm not it then it's tough to get passed that.

Even met a hot guy and kissed him and still doubted that he liked me...

Met him again, had some fun and still thought nah, he was just bored and horny and I was free...

Maybe that's true but I had fun 🤪

Sometimes it seems to good to be true. Mr always says just go with it 😊 so I'm trying not to overanalyse and not to expect too much. "

I need to learn to magic of not overanalysing 😂

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By *r Man45Man
10 weeks ago

North West

Yeah I'm the same, paranoia sets in and I then start to think it's a scam/catfish profile.

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I’m always intimidated by the seasoned swingers lol, what in my profile made them think I can do what they need 😂

With regards to the beauty standards thing it’s maybe they are looking for variety, when I was in a relationship with an athletic woman I totally found myself attracted to the more curvy girls even in porn selection 🤫.

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By *EAT..85Woman
10 weeks ago

Nottingham

"I’m always intimidated by the seasoned swingers lol, what in my profile made them think I can do what they need 😂

I can second this. I went through a faze of only seeking out cheating men and a fair few said their partner's were slim and that they just craved someone bigger and squashier and any other Juicy word you want to apply to my soft malleable flesh

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By *EAT..85Woman
10 weeks ago

Nottingham

If fab had taught me one thing, it's that leagues are in your head. People like what they like and who they like. Sure, some people have set types, but I've had my fair share of hot ripped men to know that whilst they like the gym, they don't need their bit of sugar to like the gym.

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By *orbidden eastMan
10 weeks ago

london dodging electric bikes

I get this most of the time. But it’s more from the angle where I have sent a message and by surprise I get a reply.

I will send a message because they profile spark something and it was quite funny. But as most people have said, I do like to get know the person before anything happens

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By *ellhungvweMan
10 weeks ago

Cheltenham

The main thing I have learnt on here is that you can’t judge what people are looking for based on their looks. Everyone has something they want and you might well be that something. Don’t over think it - if you are interested in them and they are interested in you then just have fun.

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By *laret_jonoMan
10 weeks ago

Clitheroe

Can definitely relate to this. Tend to avoid messaging women/couples who are described as slim or average thinking they wouldn't want to hear off someone bigger.

Also have a complex over the fact I don't accommodate because my home is my kids safe space. It's just assumed that I'm married

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By *ongandharderMan
10 weeks ago

Rotherham

"Any wonder why the person would be interested in you??

I get this feeling quite often, we could get a message from a couple who are slim, fit and really attractive and I wonder why they would be interested in us as a couple when I’m plus size.

Then I get in my head about getting naked in front of such a hot couple

I’d love to hear tips on getting over this!

Donna x"

You get messages (jk)

But no I don't think I have had anyone out my league message me

That's not that I'm big headed just a statement

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By *idssissyTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

When I get a message telling me I'm sexy or I've turned someone on I am afraid to believe it or just think someone is horny at that moment and won't have any interest once they calm down

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By *rHotNottsMan
10 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’ve definitely felt like this in the past, and can tell you from both sides of it, it’s a very unattractive trait.

Think about it, if you think you’re not attractive or good enough for that person then what does that say about their choices? You must think they are a bit desperate or at least not too choosy, it’s quite insulting for the other person

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
10 weeks ago

Voldsøy

Yeah. Only everytime!

Honestly, blows my mind 🤯🤷‍♀️

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By *cunthorpe123 OP Couple
10 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"I’ve definitely felt like this in the past, and can tell you from both sides of it, it’s a very unattractive trait.

Not at all, I’ve never felt someone was desperate for liking me, I just don’t understand why some people do. That’s not me being insulting to them, if anything I’m being insulting to myself for assuming I aren’t good enough.

Donna

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By *urora1912Woman
10 weeks ago

Norfolk East anglia

"Any wonder why the person would be interested in you??

I get this feeling quite often, we could get a message from a couple who are slim, fit and really attractive and I wonder why they would be interested in us as a couple when I’m plus size.

Then I get in my head about getting naked in front of such a hot couple

I’d love to hear tips on getting over this!

Donna x"

Yes quite often

i wonder what guys see in me 🤷‍♀️

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By *isandhers2Couple
10 weeks ago

Near

"I need to learn to magic of not overanalysing 😂"

Aww babes, I’m the exact same. I tell them before hand that I’m not some petite woman. Thick thighs and a mum tum.

Its a confidence thing for me

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Who am I to second guess if/ why someone finds me attractive? If they tell me they do then they do. But their actions do speak louder than words so I don't necessarily take what they say at face value.

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By *he Old School RockersCouple
10 weeks ago

Gloucester

All the time.

I quite often look at the profiles of couples who messaged us and ask the fella why they would be interested in us, especially when they aren’t looking for our age or are fit and young.

Mrs

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By *ucka39Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle

Nope I never wonder why as that's on them not me 😂🤣 not my problem

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

Mrs CD has this thought often.

We have been messaged by for lack of a better term "beautiful people" and she doesn't get why anyone like that would find her attractive.

It takes alot of time to undo decades of societal conditioning.

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By *uckboy786Man
10 weeks ago

London

"Who am I to second guess if/ why someone finds me attractive? If they tell me they do then they do. But their actions do speak louder than words so I don't necessarily take what they say at face value.

That's a very mature way of looking at it

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

That's a very mature way of looking at it "

You calling me old!??

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By *egnMaxCouple
10 weeks ago

Nottingham

OP - Discussing your insecurities takes real strength of character, for any of us - and that is attractive.

But comparing yourself to others on any kind of scale is always a no win. You’ll either feel inferior or superior - and neither are good.

Recognise your strengths, positives and appeal and enjoy the ride. Because this site, forum and world is better for all of the weird and wonderful and beautiful sizes, shapes, kinks and conundrums that are out there.

Do you. Be proud. And we think you’re amazing.

(Now I’ve got to stop the cringe I always do when waiting for a reaction to my face pics, or worse, offering free paper bags out!)

Max

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

Not in terms of appearance, no. I don't really subscribe to the leagues notion. You're attracted to various people aren't you OP? People like different things, for whatever reason. If it seems genuine, why not try replying. Take it slowly.

I do sometimes think that in terms of personality, I become aware I'm perhaps not the most compatible with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I think most people say what they mean, if they messaged you OP then I'd take as there like what they see 👍

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By *uckboy786Man
10 weeks ago

London

That's a very mature way of looking at it

You calling me old!??"

Of course not. I meant mature as in well-adjusted or healthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

That's a very mature way of looking at it

You calling me old!??

Of course not. I meant mature as in well-adjusted or healthy."

I know. Just teasing

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By *ere4It3000Couple
10 weeks ago

Belgium

"Any wonder why the person would be interested in you??

I get this feeling quite often, we could get a message from a couple who are slim, fit and really attractive and I wonder why they would be interested in us as a couple when I’m plus size.

Then I get in my head about getting naked in front of such a hot couple

I’d love to hear tips on getting over this!

Donna x"

Yes, us too Donna!

I think we all just have this certain image of ourselves in our head (with most people more negative thn it should) but I think other people don’t view or see us the way we see ourselves. It’s an interesting subject 😊

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By *uckboy786Man
10 weeks ago

London

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By *uckboy786Man
10 weeks ago

London

That's a very mature way of looking at it

You calling me old!??

Of course not. I meant mature as in well-adjusted or healthy.

I know. Just teasing

Maybe I just don't get old, sorry, mature people humour

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
10 weeks ago

Hatfield

I messaged my profile in here just last week

I’ve ignored it and left it unopened … if you can’t beat them … join them

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

I am usually very confident in how I look and who I am,although if I really like someone & I have made myself vulnerable then I am a crumbling mess & fuck it up at every opportunity 😅😅

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By *uckboy786Man
10 weeks ago

London

"I am usually very confident in how I look and who I am,although if I really like someone & I have made myself vulnerable then I am a crumbling mess & fuck it up at every opportunity 😅😅

I feel this. It's so much harder to say the right thing when you genuinely like someone 😓

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By *cottish guy 555Man
10 weeks ago

London

All the time.

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