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By (user no longer on site) OP   
10 weeks ago

Horn level is just above zero, with many decimal places in front of it

Maybe 0.00000000000001 out of 10 or a 100 and even a 1000

I think I’ve become closed off to a lot of things

Not a new thing either. And no health issues to make me feel like this. More a state of mind

How do you pick yourself up from a “down period” or do you just wait for it to return?

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By *vaRoseWoman
10 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork


"Horn level is just above zero, with many decimal places in front of it

Maybe 0.00000000000001 out of 10 or a 100 and even a 1000

I think I’ve become closed off to a lot of things

Not a new thing either. And no health issues to make me feel like this. More a state of mind

How do you pick yourself up from a “down period” or do you just wait for it to return?"

Libido naturally comes in waves but if it’s ongoing I’d check in with the doctor that something isn’t wrong in the background.

Other than that, I’d get into a good book that tickles my brain in all the right smutty ways

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

If you find out let me know, but in all seriousness I think it's normal, let's face it there's more to life than sex and those things at time take over and priorities change.

Hope your ok op.

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By *oodmessMan
10 weeks ago

yumsville

You drinking enough water, eating enough fruit, veg and nuts?

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By *ceKweenWoman
10 weeks ago

Bolton

Myself… distancing from folk, lots of blurgh moments, quiet moods… hormones perhaps so I’m remedying that and feel better

But the time out has now made me unsure how to take a leap of faith and try again out there 🤷‍♀️maybe you too have been stagnant too long

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By *ou only live onceMan
10 weeks ago

London

I just wait. Not sure if that's the 'right' approach or not, but works for me.

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By *a LunaWoman
10 weeks ago

o o OO o o

A down phase in general or a no interest in sex phase?

The first one I just ride out and concentrate on things I like, listening to music, dog walks and cuddles and just being with my family and eventually it perks up. If it didn’t I’d see a GP.

No interest in sex? I just embrace it. Mine is hormone related. I’m not eligible to have HRT due to a family history of Cancer, so I just have to crack on with it. It’s quite freeing in a way. I’ve had my hedonistic sex days and so I don’t feel like I’m missing much. Have always preferred sex within a relationship and I truly think that casual sex is heavily overrated, especially on here where folk have to make it sound great because of the nature of the site.

You do you. If you’re concerned then seek out help. If not, just ride that wave and do your own sweet thing.

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By *ealitybitesMan
10 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never had a high sex drive at any stage of my life and have gone 10 years at one point with zero touch or sexual contact.

The last 4 of 5 years have been really tough for various reasons which is why I haven't been meeting in that time.

I honestly don't see any light at the end of the tunnel in that regard so I can't offer any sage advice unfortunately.

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By *inxy777Woman
10 weeks ago

essex

I think sometimes all aspects of life seem to take over, maybe not enough time spent on you. Hope you feel better soon x

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By *olden PoleMan
10 weeks ago

Bromley

Guys get your testosterone levels checked out it’s amazing how quickly we drop not only due to age but stress, depression, inactivity in sex. Our T levels play an important part in how we think, our energy, our sleep and yes our sex drive. Check it out guys..

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

Maybe you are asexual?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
10 weeks ago

Oh thanks for all the responses

Not asexual at all, had all bloods and tests done and they are all good.

Probably more a mental state of mind where I just cannot be bothered

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By *ornucopiaMan
10 weeks ago

Bexley

I'd say something is definitely wrong if anyone has no libido in springtime.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
10 weeks ago

Next Door

Also, if you aren't regularly having sex or mastisbating often, then your sexual urge will decrease

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I’ve found that as I’ve gotten older my libido does tend to come and go. It used to be more steady. I also need more of a connection to someone now, simply being good to look at doesn’t really do much for me anymore.

My suggestion is that there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s likely you just need to connect with someone you like and those butterflies and horn will come back.

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By *ackformore100Man
10 weeks ago

Tin town


"Horn level is just above zero, with many decimal places in front of it

Maybe 0.00000000000001 out of 10 or a 100 and even a 1000

I think I’ve become closed off to a lot of things

Not a new thing either. And no health issues to make me feel like this. More a state of mind

How do you pick yourself up from a “down period” or do you just wait for it to return?"

I'm not sure waiting for it to return will see it return. If you want to make a change make a change. Which of course is very easy to say but a lot harder to do. Start with tiny things one a week maybe and after 6 months see how you've progressed. I'm no expert but I don't think there is one size fits all. Good luck with it op.

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By *apperleymanMan
10 weeks ago

Leicester

If you’re worried or concerned about it speak to your GP and get yourself checked out..

Could be loads of reasons for it but most common is depression or low T levels..

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

Lately I’m finding I’m very conflicted. Life stuff on my mind which means I’m struggling to focus and flapping around a lot. Which affects my horn levels.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

My libido ebbs and flows. It's been low for most of this year. I even took a 3 month break from Fab.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

You’re not different, you’re just not feeling it.

(Try feeling’ it 😉)

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By *ealitybitesMan
10 weeks ago

Belfast

My bloods and T levels are fine. I just have so much else going on and sex is so far down my list of priorities that I rarely think about it.

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By *isskxxyvWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

Libido has a lot to do with mental state.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

Getting out in the sun helps for me. I can get ridiculously horny on a sun and sea holiday.

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

The gym works for me mate. The mind and body need to be in sync, also it might be an age thing but food can affect it to.

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By *olden PoleMan
10 weeks ago

Bromley

Gents that’s great that your bloods and T’s are checking out fine. Life gets in the way of sexual desire at times. Try not to over think it fellas.

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By *sWyldWoman
10 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I'm maybe going against what fab is apparently all about but , I genuinely don't feel horned up all the time . It's actually rare that I do.

I don't think it's healthy to be horny 24/7.

Balance and real life take priority.

This doesn't worry me either because I know with the right person,arousal absolutely happens and infact I become quite insatiable.

I think what you describe is actually quite normal for most people . You just need the right inspiration and I'm certain your enthusiasm would return.

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By *ellhungvweMan
10 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Get a change of scenery. Go do something else - doesn’t matter what - just something different and take a break.

I always find exercise and walking are good for rebooting myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
10 weeks ago

Ah the fab double standards

So many complain about being messaged off a thread yet I’ve just received one saying my profile is negative and must have had bad experiences so I must be lonely

Wow. Fab can do one

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London


"Ah the fab double standards

So many complain about being messaged off a thread yet I’ve just received one saying my profile is negative and must have had bad experiences so I must be lonely

Wow. Fab can do one "

Some people just look for opportunities to troll. Ignore it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
10 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You say no health issue but it’s all very connected - physical, mental, spiritual so could be one of the other two.

I’d wanna know why before fixing it, first thing bloods if over 40 & unmotivated, putting on fat , losing muscle mass then likely just need a shot to bring your Mojo back 😂

If it’s not low T then the maybe means you’re very happy and other things are a priority to you? No actions needed maybe

it’s a great time to think hard about what you want from here and read lots of profiles, surprising the profiles that still stand out when you’re feeling uninterested. I think when you’re a total horn bag, you can’t always trust your own judgement here 😂

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