FabSwingers.com forum: Has flirting changed?

By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

I think I used to be really good at flirting.

Knowing subtle clues and signs of what to say etc but now I have no idea.

I think the biggest thing is I have lost confidence.

Anyway what does flirting look like for you?

Has your "style" changed over the years...

Do you think social norms and internet has changed flirting?

Do you flirt with everyone or do you target so to speak?

I'm keen to share our flirtatious behaviours xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

In person you mean?

If someone is flirting with me (they have to make it very obvious otherwise it passes me by) and I like them, I will flirt back, but I’d say my flirt style is a little reserved, especially in public… strong eye contact and a bit giggly.

However, it’s rare that anyone flirts with me ☹️

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Awww, sorry you fell like no one flirts with you.

Yeah I was meaning in public. It's so difficult to get the balance now a day's for me.

I'm terrified someone thinks I'm being creepy.

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By *omeones GrumpMan
10 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

I never flirt

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

I know when I’m flirting with intention. I know when I just flirt for fun, and having a laugh. I know when I’m direct with my sexy chat and cut the flirting out and go for the downright filthy whisper into her ear.

I change depending on my moods.

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By *isskxxyvWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

"I think I used to be really good at flirting.

Knowing subtle clues and signs of what to say etc but now I have no idea.

I think the biggest thing is I have lost confidence.

Anyway what does flirting look like for you?

Has your "style" changed over the years...

Do you think social norms and internet has changed flirting?

Do you flirt with everyone or do you target so to speak?

I'm keen to share our flirtatious behaviours xxx"

I’m the least subtle person when it comes to flirting.. if I want someone the whole world knows🤣🤣

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By *EAT..85Woman
10 weeks ago

Nottingham

In the sense that a higher proportion of people meet online first, yes flirting has changed.

Many of our first flirtations and escapades used to be on nights out with friends, as we get older those nights out get less and friends pair off so those opportunities become less.

Many things like the wolf whistle and dodgy chat up lines have been outlawed, women are more self sufficient and men more wary.

I'm a terrible flirt if in the mood, typically the ones I fancy don't fancy me and vice versa though 😂

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

No always been rubbish at it and still am.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Yeah, unfortunately it's turned to dick pics and words inappropriate for a 1st meeting, people think because it's online that there's nothing wrong with introducing themselves genitals 1st with a full blown account of what "they" want to do to some body they haven't even seen the face of or had conversation with, apparently we are supposed to find that flattering too.

I dread the day my daughter is old enough for online dating/flirting which is really just flashing and creeps.

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By *ggdrasil66Man
10 weeks ago

Saltdean

Unfortunately a fine line has been drawn between what you can and can’t say. Especially if you are a man, attempting to flirt with a woman. People my age need to be especially careful not to say the wrong thing.

I would draw the line against flirting with people who are much younger, as I don’t want to appear like some old letch, and creep anyone out.

As for the things you can’t say to a total stranger? Anything of a personal or even semi sexual nature. You can’t just amble alongside a woman in the street or down the pub, and say, hi there, you have a lovely bum, nice legs etc. At the very least you will be told to do one, you could get yourself slapped, and in some instances you could be breaking the law.

I would personally never start flirting with anyone, unless they began flirting with me. Even then I would be careful, because there are things going on that I don’t know about. Some words are now offensive, and don’t get me started on pronouns!

Fortunately in a place like Fab, not so many people are weaponising their sex or sexuality. I’d still be careful though…

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I'm person not really, if it's there it just comes through in conversation and always has.

Online, well I was here before online flirting was a thing, so by default - yes.

I've always taken most things online with a pinch of salt. I don't really get online flirting, I want the full sensory data, not just words and emojis. It can be light-hearted playful fun, but not much more than that for me. An indicator of possible interest.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
10 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yeah, Fab has changed it. You now go up to someone in a bar, lob ya cock out,show them it from ever angle, give it a tug and say 'I'd smash ya, let's fuck!'

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By *antsdownreadyMan
10 weeks ago

Chester

However, it’s rare that anyone flirts with me ☹️"
I'd do a lot more than flirt with you alas I'm over your age limit so it ain't going to hapen

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

I think I'm pretty obvious with my flirts, but I'm also wondering if the ISO Standard for flirting has been moved up a notch as more people become oblivious to it. Which effectively means that I need to up my flirting game, veering towards the "woo'ing" phase.

Ladies, lower your drawbridges and raise your portcullises, for NLF™ (next level flirting) shall commence, forthwith.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
10 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Personally I don't like flirting, just say what you want and save everyones time. Which is why I choose to join a swinging site not a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

It's clear it's changed from what people are saying.

I just curious what you are as flirting then.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
10 weeks ago

Laleham

Love a bit of flirting but it's not seen as a bit of fun anymore more. It can be received as predatory behaviour under the current climate.

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By *oodmessMan
10 weeks ago

yumsville

This doesn't relate to the recent eye thread but I mentioned it on another similar one a while ago. I had an hour long prescription eye test, we came out and the woman chatting to her friend behind the counter said 'you've got really beautiful eyes', crossed her legs, crossed her eyes and stuck her tongue out of the side of her mouth.

I was stood there like, (wft), that's different, she looked darlin doing it, I don't really know if she was flirting all I was thinking was how much it cost but I didn't even think to say I bet you say that everyone it was that qucik.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I don't flirt. It makes me feel silly trying.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

And here was the perfect thread to flirt. 🤷‍♂️

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By *an8iMan
10 weeks ago

Bilston

I'm a pull your piggy tales and run to the other side of the playground type of guy

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order."

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

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By *uncouple153Couple
10 weeks ago

Abergavenny

Flirting today is called sexual assault or harrasment..

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By *exyScientistsCouple
10 weeks ago

Castlebar

I love flirting but if I don't get it in response then I stop. If someone flirts with me I flirt back. I find it a very attractive quality when someone is good at it.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water.. "

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

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By *ickedtiesWoman
10 weeks ago

limerick

I don't flirt and I have no idea if someone is flirting with me or trying to get my attention...I will have to be told they are 🤣🤣

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By *he Silver FuxMan
10 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

No. I’m still oblivious to even the most obvious “she fancies you” come on’s.

I literally need a post-it note with “FAF?” on it

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By *he Silver FuxMan
10 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order."

It’s long, hard and full of seaman?

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By *eys00Man
10 weeks ago

have boots will travel

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

It’s long, hard and full of seaman?"

Has to sound a safety alarm when going down!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅"

Arnie in a porno?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

It’s long, hard and full of seaman?"

Beats a dinghy with a fish finger

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By *erotic_adventureMan
10 weeks ago

London, Scotland & The North,

Definitely a grey area now as to understanding and interpretation of any signals As others have elude online dating & hook-up site has changedthe landscape...usually when out its subtle but starts with those looks and glances, most know how to do that....

Sometimes people do it for an ego boost even when they are with their partner

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By *ot so needyMan
10 weeks ago

Galway

I dont flirt either I am just very nice🤣🤣

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By *ickedtiesWoman
10 weeks ago

limerick

"I dont flirt either I am just very nice🤣🤣"

🙄🙄 just so polite! 😂

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By *ot so needyMan
10 weeks ago

Galway

"I dont flirt either I am just very nice🤣🤣

🙄🙄 just so polite! 😂"

Blame my parents for that🤣

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By *ickedtiesWoman
10 weeks ago

limerick

"I dont flirt either I am just very nice🤣🤣

🙄🙄 just so polite! 😂

Blame my parents for that🤣

Full of 💩

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By *ot so needyMan
10 weeks ago

Galway

"I dont flirt either I am just very nice🤣🤣

🙄🙄 just so polite! 😂

Blame my parents for that🤣

Full of 💩 "

❤️❤️❤️❤️💋

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By *aramelBuilderMan
10 weeks ago

Sonning

The online perception has changed people’s view on how to flirt and a lot of so called influencers who show how to “rizz” has made people think differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Can't be too mad about that!

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By *aizyWoman
10 weeks ago

west midlands

I don't flirt Irl I'm rubbish at it, and I never know when someone is flirting with me I have to be told otherwise I take it as a joke.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
10 weeks ago

West Suffolk

Isn’t flirting illegal now? Don’t you need consent before you can speak to a woman or it’s harassment?

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
10 weeks ago

Fucksville

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

It’s long, hard and full of seaman?

Beats a dinghy with a fish finger "

You've made me snort my coffee 😂😂😂😂😂😂

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
10 weeks ago

Fucksville

I LOVE a good flirt although these days I guess people call it more "banter" than flirting? Maybe I'm wrong.

Nothing better than a good "to and fro" like glam doll has done here 😊😘

Flirting and kissing are guarantees to get me going... And if you can make me laugh, my pants are well and truly off 😏😂

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Just tell a bird “ get your tits out” either she does or she doesn’t, you win some you lose some.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

Arnie in a porno? "

Brings a different angle to the film Conan the Destroyer.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

Styles and habits change, as do your tastes and interests. But if you're feeling it's a confidence thing, then take small steps to rebuild yours

. Nothing huge or challenging just consistent small steps that are achievable and meaningful.

Then introduce yourself to more people and enjoy yourself

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

Arnie in a porno?

Brings a different angle to the film Conan the Destroyer.

If Conan wants to destroy me I’ve got a slot on Friday.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

Arnie in a porno?

Brings a different angle to the film Conan the Destroyer.

If Conan wants to destroy me I’ve got a slot on Friday."

Opening scene- Conan slipping into Glows slot.

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By *aizyWoman
10 weeks ago

west midlands

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

Arnie in a porno?

Brings a different angle to the film Conan the Destroyer.

If Conan wants to destroy me I’ve got a slot on Friday.

Opening scene- Conan slipping into Glows slot. "

Surely that would be the climax?!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

Arnie in a porno?

Brings a different angle to the film Conan the Destroyer.

If Conan wants to destroy me I’ve got a slot on Friday.

Opening scene- Conan slipping into Glows slot.

Surely that would be the climax?!"

Surely Conan can last longer than that?

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By *aizyWoman
10 weeks ago

west midlands

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

Arnie in a porno?

Brings a different angle to the film Conan the Destroyer.

If Conan wants to destroy me I’ve got a slot on Friday.

Opening scene- Conan slipping into Glows slot.

Surely that would be the climax?!

Surely Conan can last longer than that? "

Trying to keep it tasteful Glow, Conan slips into your slot, fade out to the rousing drum beat music.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

Arnie in a porno?

Brings a different angle to the film Conan the Destroyer.

If Conan wants to destroy me I’ve got a slot on Friday.

Opening scene- Conan slipping into Glows slot.

Surely that would be the climax?!

Surely Conan can last longer than that?

Trying to keep it tasteful Glow, Conan slips into your slot, fade out to the rousing drum beat music."

Tasteful is a losing battle on here Daizy

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

"I flirt submarine style.you don’t realise it’s happening then suddenly bam! Restraining order.

If I was given a submarine to flirt, I’m the type to torpedo your port side

Submarine Glow is taking ok water. Wait. That’s not water..

Throws a life jacket.

“Blow the long thing if you want live’

😏😅

Arnie in a porno?

Brings a different angle to the film Conan the Destroyer.

If Conan wants to destroy me I’ve got a slot on Friday.

Opening scene- Conan slipping into Glows slot.

Surely that would be the climax?!

Surely Conan can last longer than that?

Trying to keep it tasteful Glow, Conan slips into your slot, fade out to the rousing drum beat music.

Tasteful is a losing battle on here Daizy

Conan cries out - “I’m ready for battle” and begins to unsheath his sword!

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Yep. Flirting has changed.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

"Yep. Flirting has changed.

This is facts.

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By *ucka39Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle

Flirty banter, not changed for me or those who return it

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