FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting women

By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Had a hard time getting a reply from any female's on this site don't know what I'm doing wrong tbh any advice

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

You can use message filters the stop single guys messaging you to start, you can do that then move that bit from the profile.

I know it's frustrating but complaining its hard to get replies can put people off.

Pics are good though.

You could state why you can't accom as well.

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Ok thank you

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

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Look for a thread that was very recent, as in a few hours ago asking similar and have a look at the posts

There was a really great post that I don't want to copy and paste because it's someone else's words but it was good advice.

A lot of people will look at profiles in ninja and if the profile doesn't stand out it just gets passed by

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

"Look for a thread that was very recent, as in a few hours ago asking similar and have a look at the posts

There was a really great post that I don't want to copy and paste because it's someone else's words but it was good advice.

A lot of people will look at profiles in ninja and if the profile doesn't stand out it just gets passed by

The thread is called Unread

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Thanks messaged like 100 plus women just wondering what I'm doing wrong haha

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

You and me both dude, them women with their preferences and stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Thanks messaged like 100 plus women just wondering what I'm doing wrong haha"

You found over a hundred women that match what you're looking for? I struggle to find one guy in a year.

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By *iss DevilWoman
10 weeks ago

Bedford

"You and me both dude, them women with their preferences and stuff."

Lol. I agree! How dare we have preferences! We should be gagging for it lol.

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By *iss DevilWoman
10 weeks ago

Bedford

OP, have a good look at your profile, is it showing you in the best light it can? Does it tell your potential play partners what you can bring to the party, why they should choose you over the thousands of other guys on here? For me, you are way too young and your Snap/Insta filters are a massive turn off but that's just me.

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By *akedMMan
10 weeks ago

Witney

Try being nearly 70 ,

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By *uri00620Woman
10 weeks ago

Croydon

"Anything more just ask" suggests relaxed attitude.

Snap URL link on profile suggests otherwise. I highly doubt any woman would just randomly follow that.

Also (likely personal preference) but an adult using filters on photos like dog ears, devil horns and the like only highlights the fact you're quite young for here which also might make meeting a challenge.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
10 weeks ago

Chatham

For me,

The Snapchat link would put me off, snap is for kids or people that are hiding stuff.

But otherwise profile seems ok.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
10 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Bro, it was a YEAR AND A HALF before I finally got a meet.

If you’re a single man, it’s all one big trial & error of figuring out what works.

Hang in there 👍🏽

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

I've messaged women off all ages and still had like 1 reply

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

I've been here 3 months and I'm verified thought that would be enough haha

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Well thank you that's just for easier communication tbh

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

I'm not young I'm 28 and had plenty of experience with women and know exactly what to do

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

No not really I'm a single male and only interested in women I don't have play partners I'm just looking for a bit a fun tbh

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Haha no I understand completely lol just the insane amount of messages I've sent that are completely friendly and creep free and I still get nothing

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By *cottish guy 555Man
10 weeks ago

London

"I'm not young I'm 28 and had plenty of experience with women and know exactly what to do "

Reply and quote helps people to know who you are replying to.

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By *iss DevilWoman
10 weeks ago

Bedford

"I've been here 3 months and I'm verified thought that would be enough haha "

You are only photo verified and that means absolutely nothing here.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Haha no I understand completely lol just the insane amount of messages I've sent that are completely friendly and creep free and I still get nothing "

Press reply and quote so we know who you are replying to.

So all these messages you've found that many women that are of interest to you? Or is any hole a goal?

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

"I've been here 3 months and I'm verified thought that would be enough haha "

You are only photo verified,which doesn't mean anything.

The childish filters on pictures & Snapchat link don't help you look adult.

Think about what attracted you to the 100 profiles you messaged & how you would like them to view you.

It really is important.

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

No I've just expanded my search tbh because it's hard to even get a conversation with someone

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Ok thank you will try change that

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Ok fair enough that's why I'm asking for advice on what to do

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By *allySlinkyWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

"Had a hard time getting a reply from any female's on this site don't know what I'm doing wrong tbh any advice "

Your profile says "only men message me". This can be interpreted as you only want messages from men, not women

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By *weetiepie99Woman
10 weeks ago

cardiff

"Ok fair enough that's why I'm asking for advice on what to do "

Reply and quote, reply and quote, reply and quote

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By *he Silver FuxMan
10 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

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Anything

Are you? are you really? I know women that would fucking ruin you so be careful what you say 😄

Sorry mate it’s a shit profile. You’re young, the odds are stacked against you.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
10 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Had a hard time getting a reply from any female's on this site don't know what I'm doing wrong tbh any advice "

Honesty, it’s not just you.. visit a club and get known in the circles and engage more on threads but it’s the long game .. just be you and block out the noise my friend

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

OP take a look at SilverFux and Holdyoudown. These are both excellent profiles - this is the level of effort you should be aiming for.

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

It might seem simple advice but message when they are on line so your message doesn’t fall to 50th in line lol, woman are bombarded and ultimately are going to prioritise what stands out (who wouldn’t).

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

You're potentially doing nothing wrong, if you're selling yourself to the best and we can make a good choice, when we review you.

But most people are not mutually compatible - so 99% of people you like, won't have the same feelings.

As long as you don't have much negativity around you - which puts people off - and you focus on what you can give a partner, you're doing the right thing. It does take significant effort to be invested.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

Only message those who match you and you match. That will narrow down the field but then you can write a really good opening message. No guarantees but it will up your chances.

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

OP, dear chap, with respect, your profile is a total car crash.

The first line in your profile simply reiterates your age and location which is already stated in your profile. Your second sentence states "Message if interested...(women only)" - interested in what? You haven't said anything at this stage.

Then you've said "Only men message me". Make up your mind - are you straight or not, are you looking for men or women, or both...?

And...Snapchat? Are you a teenager? Snapchat for what?

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"OP, dear chap, with respect, your profile is a total car crash.

Then you've said "Only men message me". Make up your mind - are you straight or not, are you looking for men or women, or both...?

And...Snapchat? Are you a teenager? Snapchat for what?"

I was about to say the same thing

“Only men message me”

For some that may seem you only want men to message you

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
10 weeks ago

Norwich

You messaging over a 100 women of all ages gives off the any hole is a goal vibe.

Plus as other ladies have suggested if you have Snapchat you are perhaps not a mature headed guy, or you are not being wholly truthful about your relationship status or perhaps worse.

I would suggest you go to a few socials and clubs and get some verifications from that and make some friends and contacts.Then perhaps you might decide you have some preferences too and can find your people.

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By *umagainandagainMan
10 weeks ago

Altrincham

You are doing nothing wrong. It is a simple case of supply and demand. All dating sites have a lot more men than women. A few years ago i made a female account on Plenty of Fish to test this theory. I used one photo of a plain ordinary looking girl, a 6 at best. I didn't even bother to answer the questions or fill in the profile. Within an hour i had over a hundred messages. It would have made no difference what the men put on their profile. There were so many coming in every day that i wouldn't have had time to even look at them. If you want to meet a woman you have to forget about online sites and get out into the real world and approach them. Supermarkets have been successful for me. You can ask where something is or ask cooking advice. Suddenly you are talking to them in an environment where they feel safe. If it leads to a chat you are half way there, if not just move on to the next one.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
10 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Sorry to say this, but you profile is like a charity shop window, its dull and wishy washy.

It doesn't really say anything about you, who you are, what you want and what you have to offer that sets you apart from the hundreds of single males on here.

Put a little more effort into it, make it interesting.

Ditch the snap and the filters photo

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By *ack1971Man
10 weeks ago

Cork

Hey Stan! Head off to a social or event and make friends in the community.

I did that many years ago at 28 and never looked back.

Had several profiles on here as a single guy and couples, I never put much weight into it, it's a handy way of keeping in touch with like minded people.

I've a few friends on here and I've made no effort on my profile.

But then again, I'm not here looking for anything so my profile reflects exactly what the profile is meant for.

Does yours, is the question.

Just be yourself, have no expectations. You'll get a lot of people telling you to do this or that, I've yet to see one of them write a book on how to have the best profile on fab but yet they criticise very quickly, like they are experts.

That says a lot about the person. Keep that in mind when reaching out.

Also, there is some really great people on here with profiles that are heavily into the lifestyle that put on events and genuinely help people out.

Make contact with the ones you think where you can be a solid member of the community, local helps.

It's all about building bridges, making friends, having fun, and respect.

Best of luck

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Thank you helps me understand a little more how do you get involved with events and meet ups I'm.new to all of this qnd gavnt a clue

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Ok thank you for the advice 🙏

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Thanks mate qnd yeah I could put more effort into my profile tbh which is what most of thr women that replied to this thread have said

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

I'm new to all of this mate I don't have a clue hoe this works just stating the obvious tbh and snapchat is an easier form of contact than this site but thanks for the advice

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By *isandhers2Couple
10 weeks ago

Near

This is just me, but I find after one or two messages from single guys, they are asking to meet straight away, or the 1st message is asking if I’m free for a meet.

Some haven’t even asked my name or a photo of what I look like. As I meet without the husband, I kind of like a conversation before meets. So if they ask for a meet within a couple of messages, it puts me right off.

That’s just me though.

Good luck xxx

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By *Silver-Man
10 weeks ago

North Wales

"This is just me, but I find after one or two messages from single guys, they are asking to meet straight away, or the 1st message is asking if I’m free for a meet.

That’s just me though.

Good luck xxx"

This happens with couples and single females also.

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By *isandhers2Couple
10 weeks ago

Near

" This happens with couples and single females also."

Happens with everyone I guess x

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By *Silver-Man
10 weeks ago

North Wales

" This happens with couples and single females also.

Happens with everyone I guess x"

It does, and this can be confusing for guys fairly new to the site, when I was new I never knew the best way to approach a woman due to this, its only from experience of being on here a while and experience of properly checking a profile that I can now approach a woman with what I think will interest her.

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By *ixiekissesWoman
10 weeks ago

Happy place

"Thanks mate qnd yeah I could put more effort into my profile tbh which is what most of thr women that replied to this thread have said "

Well you have had 17 hours worth of advice and I'm thinking you have not amended it yet.

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By *mf123Man
10 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Honest bud once you open that box you cant shut em up

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

You should read the whole thread as it's been pointed out reply+quote so we know who you are talking to

But hours later and still not really changed

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

I'm getting there gonna change my pics soon just listening to everyone's opinion first

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

Ywah I get that mate got people almost having ago at me because I'm asking for advice about my profile qnd stuff I'm new on here lol

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

I'm reading and listening to all opinions first on what to do

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

I never ask to meet straight away mainly say "hey and your gorgeous be nice to talk"

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

Reply+quote. It's in the right bottom of the post

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

What does that do

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

"What does that do"

It let's us know who you are replying to

Just start typing after the last ]

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

"What does that do

It let's us know who you are replying to

Just start typing after the last ]"

Oh ok thank you didn't know

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

"What does that do

It let's us know who you are replying to

Just start typing after the last ]

Oh ok thank you didn't know"

It's a lot easier to reply directly to a person that posts in a thread

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By *inetyz OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leamington spa

"What does that do

It let's us know who you are replying to

Just start typing after the last ]

Oh ok thank you didn't know

It's a lot easier to reply directly to a person that posts in a thread

Yeah most definitely thank you 😊

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