FabSwingers.com forum: Unread

By *effdelight OP Man
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
10 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Either... send them, delete them and forget about them. Or... Consider why they might be unread. Does your approach need adjusting? Are you personalising your messages? Or (and I haven't looked at your profile so this is just me musing) does your profile give the best impression of you?

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By *effdelight OP Man
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

"Either... send them, delete them and forget about them. Or... Consider why they might be unread. Does your approach need adjusting? Are you personalising your messages? Or (and I haven't looked at your profile so this is just me musing) does your profile give the best impression of you? "
thanks for your input, I appreciate it

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By *tu.xMan
10 weeks ago

around

First Impressions can count alot so there first Impression could be your pfp cock profile pics not as popular as you might think

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By *effdelight OP Man
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

"First Impressions can count alot so there first Impression could be your pfp cock profile pics not as popular as you might think "
fair point thank you

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
10 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Consider why they might be unread. Does your approach need adjusting? Are you personalising your messages? Or (and I haven't looked at your profile so this is just me musing) does your profile give the best impression of you? "

To give the OP a hint of how much of a buyers' market fab is, someone is telling the OP to spruce up a profile to get more read messages and they couldn't be bothered to look at.

Fab is is a buyers' market. Women & Couples will tend to be buried in equal amounts of attention and abuse.

Many are looking for something very specific (Bi, BBC, Over 6', over 8" etc etc) so it's easy to get lost in the crowd.

Even a Single Female profile with no interests listed, no pics and potentially no text will still get buried in messages if it's open to mail from single males.

We're all human here with lives outside of fab. It's not easy processing 100 plus messages a day is a full time job

So things to consider:

- Don't take an unread message personally

- If it's not been read in 2 weeks delete it

- Don't harass the recipient or get abusive. It's easy to get banned, a bad rep, or to do your own zen damage

Getting ready more:

- Have a face pic on your profile. Believe it not, women & couples will be more interested in you from the waist up initially

- Read profiles thoroughly a lot of profiles will include a request for particular pics or a keyword to help filter there messages

- Check you're actually what they're looking for

- Keep you profile up to date and attach an image to the message. Only add a cock pic if it's asked for

- It's worth saying in your message that if someone isn't interested to just delete you message. Let's you know where you stand quickly and clearly

- If someone does send you a 'no thanks' and is clear you are not their type consider blocking the profile so you don't message them again

- Keep an eye on the forums for socials and club nights. If you make connections in person first it is easier to chat on here later

Hope that helps.

I can entirely understand it feeling frustrating.

But the number of messages & profile views you get on here isn't a judgement of who you are or how attractive you are as a person.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
10 weeks ago

Norwich

A lot of people will look at a profile before even opening a message. Too many red flags and they won't bother with the message.

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By *andadbodMan
10 weeks ago

Liverpool

i have a theory

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Delete your sent messages.

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By *avexxMan
10 weeks ago

cheshire

"Delete your sent messages."
... this

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By *phrodisiac2000Man
10 weeks ago

saddleworth NW

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x"

I bet all the unread ones are by females

If so that’s normal mate

Just delete and forget about it

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Stop sending messages.

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By *oody459Man
10 weeks ago

Carlisle

To give the OP a hint of how much of a buyers' market fab is, someone is telling the OP to spruce up a profile to get more read messages and they couldn't be bothered to look at.

Fab is is a buyers' market. Women & Couples will tend to be buried in equal amounts of attention and abuse.

Many are looking for something very specific (Bi, BBC, Over 6', over 8" etc etc) so it's easy to get lost in the crowd.

Even a Single Female profile with no interests listed, no pics and potentially no text will still get buried in messages if it's open to mail from single males.

We're all human here with lives outside of fab. It's not easy processing 100 plus messages a day is a full time job

So things to consider:

- Don't take an unread message personally

- If it's not been read in 2 weeks delete it

- Don't harass the recipient or get abusive. It's easy to get banned, a bad rep, or to do your own zen damage

Getting ready more:

- Have a face pic on your profile. Believe it not, women & couples will be more interested in you from the waist up initially

- Read profiles thoroughly a lot of profiles will include a request for particular pics or a keyword to help filter there messages

- Check you're actually what they're looking for

- Keep you profile up to date and attach an image to the message. Only add a cock pic if it's asked for

- It's worth saying in your message that if someone isn't interested to just delete you message. Let's you know where you stand quickly and clearly

- If someone does send you a 'no thanks' and is clear you are not their type consider blocking the profile so you don't message them again

- Keep an eye on the forums for socials and club nights. If you make connections in person first it is easier to chat on here later

Hope that helps.

I can entirely understand it feeling frustrating.

But the number of messages & profile views you get on here isn't a judgement of who you are or how attractive you are as a person.

Having only been a single male on here as few months, I(we before separation) had a couples profile. So from experience, this is all great advice.

So you've read thoroughly the users profile, you've checked that you are within the age they are looking for and that they are looking for single males. You take the time to write a personalised message and attach a face picture.

The message stays unread, therefore it's safe to assume the recipient isn't aware that you may be of interest to them. Is it OK to to message them again in a week or so?

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Delete and move on, work on your profile a bit, all but one of your pics are of your dick. You've see one dick you've seen them all. Some teasing pictures fill out your profile a bit more. Start going to socials this is where you make connections and end up getting meets. Be nice, kind, amd courteous.

Generally message not read or no reply, is actually a reply. Not intrested.

Dont be abusive if your not getting a reply and don't send more messages asking why they aren't replying. Word of mouth is massive on the scene, and I get alot of my meets and request for meets through that.

Best of luck.

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
10 weeks ago

Norwich

I personally don't get that many messages but it seems lots of women on here do.

Please bear that I'm mind.

Tbh if I received your message I would just delete it as a dick pic is a bit of a turn off for me and from what I've read on the forums there are quite a lot of ladies who feel the same as me.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Chichester

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x"

You can’t it’s just part of the great game of fab. Suck it up and crack on

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By *uncouple153Couple
10 weeks ago

Abergavenny

Remember you can read the first couple lines of a message without opening it.

Don't waste those lines

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By *udamet666Woman
10 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x"

If you message me it will be deleted, unread. This is because my profile very clearly states "DO NOT MESSAGE"

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By *aybeLadyWoman
10 weeks ago

West Dublin

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x"

You dont. Its how it works on here I'm afraid. Accept it or dont be on here.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
10 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Can’t speak for anyone else but too much cock. I wouldn’t read it. Most look at pics and sometimes profile before opening a message.

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By *issmorganWoman
10 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

Most of us look at a profile before deciding to read or delete a message.

So try and make your profioe the best it can be. I'd delete your message I'm afraid as most of your pics are your cock.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
10 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Stop sending messages."

I’m with Raven on this one … just give up like the rest of us

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By *oneyBee200Woman
10 weeks ago

Kent

Your status would put me off straight away.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

My advise is leave it, take it as a hint that they are either :

Not interested.

Not read it.

I know most people read their mail, as it’s the FOMO thing (they read it even if they say they don’t)

Those that don’t read it, are already talking to someone probably, so just take it that they won’t have the time for you anyway.

That’s how I look at things here.

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
10 weeks ago

Middle Earth

too many pics of your cock, also you say your straight yet looking for tv's, and a photo of your bum on a pic, too many red flags for a straight couple , if we saw this profile, we would ignore msgs as well.

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By *arkRichMan
10 weeks ago

Manchester City Centre

I read in this forum the other week that a lot of women will look at your profile pic - and read the preview of your message to decide if she’ll click on it and read it…

If your profile pic is a cock, and the first bit of your message is a bit ‘dry’ like - “Hi, nice tits”

Then it’s much more likely she won’t click and open it…

So, have a nice looking profile pic - can take a while to get a good one… but it’s very important on here… and then with your messages, try and write something that makes them intrigued to open it…

If the message preview shows something like this…

“I was just looking at your profile, and it hit me… the only…”

Boom - not saying it works every time, and not saying I don’t get left on ‘unread’ or even ‘read’ - but it’s a lot less likely…

I would say, 30% of the time… it works every time

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

A lot of messages guys send (and their statuses) can be read in the style of Borat.

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By *nnCeeWoman
10 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

To give the OP a hint of how much of a buyers' market fab is, someone is telling the OP to spruce up a profile to get more read messages and they couldn't be bothered to look at.

Fab is is a buyers' market. Women & Couples will tend to be buried in equal amounts of attention and abuse.

Many are looking for something very specific (Bi, BBC, Over 6', over 8" etc etc) so it's easy to get lost in the crowd.

Even a Single Female profile with no interests listed, no pics and potentially no text will still get buried in messages if it's open to mail from single males.

We're all human here with lives outside of fab. It's not easy processing 100 plus messages a day is a full time job

So things to consider:

- Don't take an unread message personally

- If it's not been read in 2 weeks delete it

- Don't harass the recipient or get abusive. It's easy to get banned, a bad rep, or to do your own zen damage

Getting ready more:

- Have a face pic on your profile. Believe it not, women & couples will be more interested in you from the waist up initially

- Read profiles thoroughly a lot of profiles will include a request for particular pics or a keyword to help filter there messages

- Check you're actually what they're looking for

- Keep you profile up to date and attach an image to the message. Only add a cock pic if it's asked for

- It's worth saying in your message that if someone isn't interested to just delete you message. Let's you know where you stand quickly and clearly

- If someone does send you a 'no thanks' and is clear you are not their type consider blocking the profile so you don't message them again

- Keep an eye on the forums for socials and club nights. If you make connections in person first it is easier to chat on here later

Hope that helps.

I can entirely understand it feeling frustrating.

But the number of messages & profile views you get on here isn't a judgement of who you are or how attractive you are as a person.

What a perfect response.

This should be sent to every new person joining the site!!

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
10 weeks ago

Sheffield

"So you've read thoroughly the users profile, you've checked that you are within the age they are looking for and that they are looking for single males...

The message stays unread, therefore it's safe to assume the recipient isn't aware that you may be of interest to them. Is it OK to to message them again in a week or so?

Has to be your own call.

It's not without risks.

Personally, if it's someone I think is really hot I'll add them to my hot list and keep an eye out for updates of them looking for a potential meet or a social. So at least I know they are potentially interested.

It may be worth giving things a longer cooling off period.

There are some bods on here who will never reply. There are a lot of fakes of all flavours and some people just get off on the attention.

Also if you keep messaging a particular woman or couple you can easily end up blocked or frustrating yourself.

Hope that helps.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
10 weeks ago

Fucksville

"So you've read thoroughly the users profile, you've checked that you are within the age they are looking for and that they are looking for single males...

The message stays unread, therefore it's safe to assume the recipient isn't aware that you may be of interest to them. Is it OK to to message them again in a week or so?

Has to be your own call.

It's not without risks.

It may be worth giving things a longer cooling off period.

There are some bods on here who will never reply. There are a lot of fakes of all flavours and some people just get off on the attention.

Also if you keep messaging a particular woman or couple you can easily end up blocked or frustrating yourself.

Hope that helps.

You need to write the book on how it should be done, now if only they listen.... Thanks for trying to help us out with the awful messages we get x 😂

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham

I get a lot of messages and most I can see from the first few lines and without opening the message whether I want to carry on a conversation with the sender

Then there's the HD pic of senders cock or the 'hey!' and nothing else

My advice would be read the profile of the person/people you want to connect with, pick out something personal from their bio/photos and start with that

Good luck in your quest 😁

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By *ackformore100Man
10 weeks ago

Tin town

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x"

Not sure you can force others to read anything. Have a think skin, send loads of cock photos and use text speak seems to be the way.

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By *onnie 90Woman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x"

Not criticising, but eight cock picks and an arse pic aren't really that appealing.

Maybe put more thought into how people see you. Most often profile picks are what give the first impression.

Just a thought.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
10 weeks ago

Fucksville

15 hours on and the profile is still the same... It would be a hard pass from us...

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Address what 🤷🏻‍♂️

You’ve been ignored, just keep it that way, why cause drama?

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By *r Bond.Man
10 weeks ago

Moving Around the Midlands

"15 hours on and the profile is still the same... It would be a hard pass from us... "

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Remember you can read the first couple lines of a message without opening it.

Don't waste those lines "

This ☝️☝️is a great bit of advice.

I generally read those lines then look at the profile pic. A cock pic means I'm not even going to bother looking at the profile, let alone open the message.

If I do get a far as the profile, the (your) status & multiple cock pics is enough for me to delete.

If there is something in the profile that doesn't match what we are after (age etc) delete.

Then and only then would I read a message.

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By *effdelight OP Man
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

To give the OP a hint of how much of a buyers' market fab is, someone is telling the OP to spruce up a profile to get more read messages and they couldn't be bothered to look at.

Fab is is a buyers' market. Women & Couples will tend to be buried in equal amounts of attention and abuse.

Many are looking for something very specific (Bi, BBC, Over 6', over 8" etc etc) so it's easy to get lost in the crowd.

Even a Single Female profile with no interests listed, no pics and potentially no text will still get buried in messages if it's open to mail from single males.

We're all human here with lives outside of fab. It's not easy processing 100 plus messages a day is a full time job

So things to consider:

- Don't take an unread message personally

- If it's not been read in 2 weeks delete it

- Don't harass the recipient or get abusive. It's easy to get banned, a bad rep, or to do your own zen damage

Getting ready more:

- Have a face pic on your profile. Believe it not, women & couples will be more interested in you from the waist up initially

- Read profiles thoroughly a lot of profiles will include a request for particular pics or a keyword to help filter there messages

- Check you're actually what they're looking for

- Keep you profile up to date and attach an image to the message. Only add a cock pic if it's asked for

- It's worth saying in your message that if someone isn't interested to just delete you message. Let's you know where you stand quickly and clearly

- If someone does send you a 'no thanks' and is clear you are not their type consider blocking the profile so you don't message them again

- Keep an eye on the forums for socials and club nights. If you make connections in person first it is easier to chat on here later

Hope that helps.

I can entirely understand it feeling frustrating.

But the number of messages & profile views you get on here isn't a judgement of who you are or how attractive you are as a person.

Thank you so much for your efforts. I really appreciate it. And great points. Thanks

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By *effdelight OP Man
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

"Remember you can read the first couple lines of a message without opening it.

Don't waste those lines

This ☝️☝️is a great bit of advice.

I generally read those lines then look at the profile pic. A cock pic means I'm not even going to bother looking at the profile, let alone open the message.

If I do get a far as the profile, the (your) status & multiple cock pics is enough for me to delete.

If there is something in the profile that doesn't match what we are after (age etc) delete.

Then and only then would I read a message.

"
thank you for your input, I really appreciate it x

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By *effdelight OP Man
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x

Not criticising, but eight cock picks and an arse pic aren't really that appealing.

Maybe put more thought into how people see you. Most often profile picks are what give the first impression.

Just a thought."
thank you. Good point x

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By *he Silver FuxMan
10 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x"

You gotta force those bitches to read them..

Or ask nicely.

Maybe just park that ego mate, they don’t want to know.

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By *effdelight OP Man
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

"So often my messages are unread. How do I address this please x

You gotta force those bitches to read them..

Or ask nicely.

Maybe just park that ego mate, they don’t want to know."

Hahaha fair one 🤷❤️

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By *otwife Snowy and MeCouple
10 weeks ago

Carshalton

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By *otwife Snowy and MeCouple
10 weeks ago

Carshalton

"A lot of messages guys send (and their statuses) can be read in the style of Borat.

Haha

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

mid glam

That's a good profile pic OP

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By *effdelight OP Man
10 weeks ago

Grimsby

"That's a good profile pic OP

Thank you 😁 took advice from you lovely lot x

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