FabSwingers.com forum: Winks or Message

By *udesentient OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leeds

Do you prefer winks from Single men or messages?

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By *parkle1974Woman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

I never look at winks, find them pointless.

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By *omeones GrumpMan
10 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

I never receive either

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By *ou345Woman
10 weeks ago

somewhere out there

I prefer messages. I tend to forget the wink option is there.

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

Messages .I don't even look at winks.

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By *ampireLoveMan
10 weeks ago

Essex

"I never look at winks, find them pointless."

You mean I’ve been wasting my time winking at you everyday since 2024!?! 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🥲😂

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By *enStarrMan
10 weeks ago

Lancaster

Prefer messages. Always open to talking. Winks don't mean much

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By *exyScientistsCouple
10 weeks ago

Castlebar

I look at winks and on the odd occasion I'll wink back. But more likely to notice a message

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

I neither prefer winks or single men. In fact I don't prefer men regardless of their marital status.

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By *heVikingJarlMan
10 weeks ago

behind you

Always prefer a message, get the conversation started

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By *an8iMan
10 weeks ago

Bilston

I don't mind either but I had wink from a stunning milf and hour ago and we've been chatting since

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Messages with vaj pics.

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By *reatBear!Man
10 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

A wink breaks the ice.

Does everyone reply when someone take the time to send a message? I find it rude not to.

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By *ebauchayMan
10 weeks ago

swindon south

Winks are a useful tentative sign of interest but probably overused by single men.

Interestingly experiment would be if winks were usable by everyone EXCEPT single men

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
10 weeks ago

South Wales

We do have a little look at the winks but prefer a message xx

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
10 weeks ago

Niche

I wouldn't say I have a preference but I do look at both. A wink is a fun little ice breaker.

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

"Messages with vaj pics."

Can't beat a vaj pic

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
10 weeks ago

Hatfield

I like both

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Messages with vaj pics.

Can't beat a vaj pic"

No, but I can beat to one.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
10 weeks ago

London

"A wink breaks the ice.

Does everyone reply when someone take the time to send a message? I find it rude not to. "

I also do, but it's easy as a single guy. Women and couples are often not able to respond to every message due to the volume some receive.

Always take no response as a no thank you.

And I am always happy for winks or messages.

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

"Messages with vaj pics.

Can't beat a vaj pic

No, but I can beat to one."

I totally anticipated this response!

I am happy 😊

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By *parkle1974Woman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

"I never look at winks, find them pointless.

You mean I’ve been wasting my time winking at you everyday since 2024!?! 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🥲😂"

It hasn't been that long

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Messages with vaj pics.

Can't beat a vaj pic

No, but I can beat to one.

I totally anticipated this response!

I am happy 😊 "

I'm predictable.

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By *utofthebluexxxWoman
10 weeks ago

London

I would prefer likes.

At least, I could be sure they have checked my profile and it is not a copy-paste message

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By *jekimMan
10 weeks ago

Wigan

I wink an message if I get one back

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By *onkey 2023Man
10 weeks ago

Cross Hands

I usually wink if I fancy someone…

I rarely message a woman first, as I’ve learned (from hard-won experience on here) that very few of the messages I’ve sent in the past get read.

Winking is a good option for initial contact so as not to waste each others time, and if they wink or message back then it’s time to chat and see if there’s a ‘spark’ to take things further

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By *ilverjagMan
10 weeks ago

swansea

As far as I'm concerned either is an expression of interest, and so a wink or a message will always get a prompt reply from me.

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By *carlettsWoman
10 weeks ago

Harpenden

I tend to ignore/delete winks

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By *vaRoseWoman
10 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I don’t look at winks at all

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By *itty AmourWoman
10 weeks ago

sleepy rurality...

I'm in the minority it would appear, I like a wink! I will wink back if I'm interested. Hopefully receive a message after they've then read my profile...

Sort of a wink, wink, nudge, nudge type of thing

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By *udesentient OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leeds

Seems most people tent to prefer messages to winks. But ladies often complain of a cluttered inbox.

I do message often, but I tend to send winks too, just a bit of a nudge kinda

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
10 weeks ago

North West

I very rarely look at my own winks; but I will send them out if there is a profile that catches my eye

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I find woman prefer to give you a wink rather than message straight away, buy yeah probably a waste of time in most cases. Shame really but the girls on here get bombarded imagine getting hundreds a day ?

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Neither

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By *_hot_hornyCouple
10 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

"I'm in the minority it would appear, I like a wink! I will wink back if I'm interested. Hopefully receive a message after they've then read my profile...

Sort of a wink, wink, nudge, nudge type of thing

This is how we like to do it as well. We get way too many messages as it is, and most of the guys don't fit with what we're looking for, so we'd rather they wink and see if we're interested and wink back then send us a long winded message - saves us all time!

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By *loverMan
10 weeks ago

iver

Over the moon if I receive either ...

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By *hat.coupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Kent

I like winks, I think single women get loads and find them tedious. I appreciate them on the other hand and can see the benefit of them. I don't care what anyone says about it its a useful tool to gage interest if used properly. I sometimes shoot a wink and if I get a wink back I know they are interested so shoot off a message. If the profile says they don't bother with winks I just go straight message x I spend time writing a message and put in alot of effort into it so it can be annoying when my well thought out message doesn't get even a thanks but no thanks, hence why I like a wink x I don't get the snobbery behind not liking winks, it's not lazy it's a quick little gesture that helps to break the ice. And it takes just a few minutes to scroll through winks and look at their profile and shoot a wink back.

Mrs x

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By *hat.coupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Kent

"I like winks, I think single women get loads and find them tedious. I appreciate them on the other hand and can see the benefit of them. I don't care what anyone says about it its a useful tool to gage interest if used properly. I sometimes shoot a wink and if I get a wink back I know they are interested so shoot off a message. If the profile says they don't bother with winks I just go straight message x I spend time writing a message and put in alot of effort into it so it can be annoying when my well thought out message doesn't get even a thanks but no thanks, hence why I like a wink x I don't get the snobbery behind not liking winks, it's not lazy it's a quick little gesture that helps to break the ice. And it takes just a few minutes to scroll through winks and look at their profile and shoot a wink back.

Mrs x"

I would like to add that if I don't get a reply to a message I take that as a no thanks. I'm a big girl and can handle the rejection so it doesn't upset me or anything but it's still a little bit irksome all the same. I am only human after all. Had to add that to prevent people commenting that I'm whiny lol

Mrs x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

"A wink breaks the ice.

Does everyone reply when someone take the time to send a message? I find it rude not to. "

Apparently it's ignorant not to!!

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By *udesentient OP Man
10 weeks ago

Leeds

"I find woman prefer to give you a wink rather than message straight away, buy yeah probably a waste of time in most cases. Shame really but the girls on here get bombarded imagine getting hundreds a day ? "

I get it really, getting 100s of messages/winks per day can be very tasking. I tend to play more in the forum now, enjoying the site for the conversation value.

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By *penminded7Man
10 weeks ago

Ebbw Vale

Anything would be a miracle lol

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By *mily36CWoman
10 weeks ago

Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I'll wink if I'm testing the waters, thats what its for, right?!

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By *haringisCaring1208Couple
10 weeks ago

Lurgan

We quite like both to be honest, nice to get winks, but a well written message breaks the ice a bit more

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
10 weeks ago

Norwich

Definitely messages

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By *asty tatsyMan
10 weeks ago

london

I’m a winker I tend to go for that even though most don’t look 🤣

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By *each needs some creamWoman
10 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Don't look to see who has winked me.

I really don't see the point of winking.

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By *uckboy786Man
10 weeks ago

London

"I'll wink if I'm testing the waters, thats what its for, right?!

so you've managed to find someone in the 98-99 age range then?

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By *ozzybear1981Man
10 weeks ago

preston

I have winks but their profiles are hidden

I guess saying thank you will have to wait for now

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By *mily36CWoman
10 weeks ago

Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I'll wink if I'm testing the waters, thats what its for, right?!

so you've managed to find someone in the 98-99 age range then?

You'd be surprised

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