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By *iura1234 OP   Man
10 weeks ago

aberdeen

Hi to who ever reads this.

I’m curious

as women get loads of messages on here how they prioritise them?

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By *ikesEmBigMan
10 weeks ago

Herts

Judging by female friends in here. They need a PA

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By *ora the explorerWoman
10 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

If the avatar is a cock or I know by the first line of the message that I’m not interested I just delete without opening, which is most of them.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
10 weeks ago

Brum - ish

It’s not that hard.

Friends, ongoing conversations first.

It’s easy to delete messages or profiles that clearly don’t meet your preferences - e.g. messages you can read in their entirety without needing to open them, people who are hundreds of miles away, people with no real profile - whatever doesn’t float your boat. That clears a lot.

Then you read what’s left.

L

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By *ikesEmBigMan
10 weeks ago

Herts

I'm glad I make your life easier

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
10 weeks ago

Niche

My general process is a random tapping of the screen like a DELETE THREAD lottery.

It's fairly exciting. Joking of course, or am I 🤔

If you survive the first round, next up to go are silhouettes. Nothing to see here....

Then it's the cocks'r'us.

After that I'll see if there's anything that matches my preferences and/or catches my eye rather than putting it out.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
10 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm glad I make your life easier "

Was that to me. Sorry I didn’t realised you’d posted above me 🤣. Although how I missed that I don’t know!! It wasn’t a pop at you, it’s just me. I don’t like them. ❤️

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By *atty CoramWoman
10 weeks ago

Wimbledon

The loads of messages myth....

I use my filters and read and delete/respond as I get them.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham


"Hi to who ever reads this.

I’m curious

as women get loads of messages on here how they prioritise them?

"

I can usually tell from the first few lines (without opening) what the message is going to be like, whether they've attached a photo or not, it's very time consuming and sometimes unfortunately I don't have the time to dedicate to being thorough or attentive but I try to reply to most

📩

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By *viatrixWoman
10 weeks ago

Redhill

Cock- will read if bored, but usually delete.

Read message, check profile.

Under 6’ tall- usually delete unless it’s a great message.

No appealing photos- no reply, will ask for them if decent message.

If decent/message that catches my attention I will reply.

I don’t get thousands of messages and I have tome on my hands

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Keeping it secret

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By *iura1234 OP   Man
10 weeks ago

aberdeen

Thanks for all the responses so far think a new opening message may be needed.

Or maybe a shave 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"Thanks for all the responses so far think a new opening message may be needed.

Or maybe a shave 😂"
putting your profile pic right way up could cause woman to get crick neck 🤣

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By *issmorganWoman
10 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I use a fair few filters, so I don't get that many messages.

I tend to reply to friends first, or people I know reasonably well.

Then I'll look at the profile of whoever else has messaged me and decide if it's worth a reply, if not I delete.

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By *carlettsWoman
10 weeks ago

Harpenden

Hi or just hey messages get left to last

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By *iura1234 OP   Man
10 weeks ago

aberdeen

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m away to change it now

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By *herrybakewellCouple
10 weeks ago

Staffordshire

When I had a solo account, I'd prioritise by looking for couples and age categories.

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By *iura1234 OP   Man
10 weeks ago

aberdeen

All my selfies are side ways for some reason 🤣

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
10 weeks ago

Swansea


"Judging by female friends in here. They need a PA"

Not at all. If it's ridiculous volumes then they should manage their account better by using filters. It's really quite simple.

Mrs

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By *ikesEmBigMan
10 weeks ago

Herts


"I'm glad I make your life easier

Was that to me. Sorry I didn’t realised you’d posted above me 🤣. Although how I missed that I don’t know!! It wasn’t a pop at you, it’s just me. I don’t like them. ❤️"
tbh cocks are odd looking things

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By *ora the explorerWoman
10 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm glad I make your life easier

Was that to me. Sorry I didn’t realised you’d posted above me 🤣. Although how I missed that I don’t know!! It wasn’t a pop at you, it’s just me. I don’t like them. ❤️ tbh cocks are odd looking things "

Oh no I love them! Just not in my inbox 🤣🤣

I’ll get me coat 🤣

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By *aizyWoman
10 weeks ago

west midlands

Friends first then people I'm already chatting too, new msgs you can see from the first sentence without even opening them if they are a straight delete or not.

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By *iura1234 OP   Man
10 weeks ago

aberdeen

This is my typical opening message.

“Hi your profile caught my eye if you get a spare moment have a look at my profile if you like what you see come say hi”

Will add something in to show I’ve read the profile also if possible

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading


"This is my typical opening message.

“Hi your profile caught my eye if you get a spare moment have a look at my profile if you like what you see come say hi”

Will add something in to show I’ve read the profile also if possible "

I would delete this message straightaway.

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

mid glam


"This is my typical opening message.

“Hi your profile caught my eye if you get a spare moment have a look at my profile if you like what you see come say hi”

Will add something in to show I’ve read the profile also if possible

I would delete this message straightaway. "

Me too. It's a generic copy and paste

Not that I get messages lol

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By *iura1234 OP   Man
10 weeks ago

aberdeen


"This is my typical opening message.

“Hi your profile caught my eye if you get a spare moment have a look at my profile if you like what you see come say hi”

Will add something in to show I’ve read the profile also if possible

I would delete this message straightaway.

Me too. It's a generic copy and paste

Not that I get messages lol"

Thought it was better than the hey how’s you 😂

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
10 weeks ago

mid glam


"This is my typical opening message.

“Hi your profile caught my eye if you get a spare moment have a look at my profile if you like what you see come say hi”

Will add something in to show I’ve read the profile also if possible

I would delete this message straightaway.

Me too. It's a generic copy and paste

Not that I get messages lol

Thought it was better than the hey how’s you 😂"

It's about the same lol

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By *ikesEmBigMan
10 weeks ago

Herts


"I'm glad I make your life easier

Was that to me. Sorry I didn’t realised you’d posted above me 🤣. Although how I missed that I don’t know!! It wasn’t a pop at you, it’s just me. I don’t like them. ❤️ tbh cocks are odd looking things

Oh no I love them! Just not in my inbox 🤣🤣

I’ll get me coat 🤣"
I'm an ugly fucker I gave to work with what I've got

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham


"This is my typical opening message.

“Hi your profile caught my eye if you get a spare moment have a look at my profile if you like what you see come say hi”

Will add something in to show I’ve read the profile also if possible "

Instead of 'blanket mesaaging' read the profile of the person who you're messaging, see if there's anything in it you can reply to making your opening message more personal

?

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"This is my typical opening message.

“Hi your profile caught my eye if you get a spare moment have a look at my profile if you like what you see come say hi”

Will add something in to show I’ve read the profile also if possible

Instead of 'blanket mesaaging' read the profile of the person who you're messaging, see if there's anything in it you can reply to making your opening message more personal

? "
I totally agree 👍

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By *uncouple153Couple
10 weeks ago

Abergavenny

You can read the first line or 2 without opening the message. Don't waste those lines...

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
10 weeks ago

Altrincham


"You can read the first line or 2 without opening the message. Don't waste those lines..."

Lol! I like this reply!

Can I use this as a future status? 😍

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

My dear OP, women are unable prioritise anything, they are as random and unpredictable as a Neutron Star. The just take a leap of faith, a punt, a stab in the dark, a throw of the dart...and just hope for the best.

Ignore any of their responses on here; they are as faux as choux pastry.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
10 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Ladies, I’m curious…

Since the fish jump in the boat for you, do you bother going on the hunt?

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By *a LunaWoman
10 weeks ago

o o OO o o

I read them and then reply. It may be a thanks but no thanks or it may be something else.

I don’t get gazillions of messages so it’s no hardship 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"Ladies, I’m curious…

Since the fish jump in the boat for you, do you bother going on the hunt?"
apprantly singing a ladies favourite song mine is I want to be adored by the Stone Roses

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"Ladies, I’m curious…

Since the fish jump in the boat for you, do you bother going on the hunt?"

If I'm peckish then yes.

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By *ruella DeThrillWoman
10 weeks ago

Essex


"Ladies, I’m curious…

Since the fish jump in the boat for you, do you bother going on the hunt?"

Fish?

I want Moby Dick. Currently all I’m seeing is dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I ignore them all until I can be bothered to read, I see the 1st line and that rules out 90%

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
10 weeks ago

Niche


"Ladies, I’m curious…

Since the fish jump in the boat for you, do you bother going on the hunt?"

Oh yes, fishing is the best fun.

I have had my most memorable and enjoyable fun from my own fishing expeditions 🙂

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