FabSwingers.com forum: Meets

By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

Can anyone help me at all? No one talks to me which is quite upsetting and I am unsure why? I won’t cam and no one will verify me but starting to feel like I’m not good enough for anyone 😔

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
12 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Hello OP

I'm sorry you're feeling that way. You definitely need to have a bit of a thick skin here, so maybe have a think about whether it's the right environment for you, or if you're taking the right approach for the type of responses you're hoping to achieve.

There are lots of threads on here where forum users have given great advice to similar questions, so I'd recommend you search some of them and have a look at what's already been said.

Hope you feel more positive soon.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Hey OP.

Your profile age says 27, but the text says 21, which implies you haven't bothered to update it in 6 years. The text also says part of a couple, which isn't what the people looking at single male profiles tend to want to see.

It's not about not being good enough, it's just about compatibility. If your profile isn't compatible with itself it's unlikely to be compatible with others. So maybe start there 💜

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By *rill PhilMan
12 weeks ago

Crediton

I think you'll find it's the same for most of us guys.

I've been here for years and I've always been in that boat.

It is indeed depressing, and it certainly makes you feel like you must be repulsive but, you've either got to live in blissful ignorance (like I try to) or you can let it wreck your head.

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By *urry BlokeMan
12 weeks ago

You're a bloke, bad start in the numbers game

You're part of a couple, she will undoubtedly get more attention than you (if she's here too)

You have a meet today flag up, a turn off for many more than would view it a turn on

1 photo - a selfie

Few words - very little for people to go off

Your profile says you're 27, the words say you're 21

Which is it?

You're 5ft4 - height is a major factor for blokes here

I get it's not changeable, but it won't help your chances unfortunately

My only advice is change what you can, accept and embrace what you can't

All the above is deliberately direct and is hopefully viewed as constructive as opposed to a character assassination

Also, what you will view in this thread are the views of strangers on a swingers site

They don't define you nor should they carry too much weight

You are worth more than anything you might read here

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op, your bio is a bit bland and tells us nothing.

As someone else said, you have 2 ages on it, so maybe correct it and use the your actual age.

Nobody can write your profile for you, as we don't know you or what you like or offer.

Most ladies will look at a profile before any message and if there's nothing that stands out, they will delete the message.

Put a bit of thought into what you can bring to meets and what you're into and looking for. Then write your bio round that.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

You reference a couples account but give no details of it, so how does anyone know that’s true?

You ask for help writing a bio. Maybe ask your partner with whom you share the couples account

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By *ilk_TrayMan
12 weeks ago

South

Go out and explore the club and social scene.

I rarely get meets off fabs anymore.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
12 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Add the username of the couples account to start.

You have two ages listed.

You need to sell yourself as its your shop window to the other people of fab, what do you want to get out of it? What do you want to convey about yourself.

Lastly, just a personal one for us, lose the BDSMbtest bit.

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

Thanks everyone, I would’ve asked for help sooner but didn’t know this had a forum community but thank you. Is it okay to ask if my profiles okay now? Also I got told to put pics of me in formal clothes and that helps?

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
12 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

"Thanks everyone, I would’ve asked for help sooner but didn’t know this had a forum community but thank you. Is it okay to ask if my profiles okay now? Also I got told to put pics of me in formal clothes and that helps?"

Thats much better. Still says you are 27 but you say you are 21 in the text?

Also you say you dont have kinks but then the BDSM test is saying you are a dom rigger.

Much better now though

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

Well those questions are awkward to answer aha like I don’t like anything being done to me that’s painful or requires restricting my body movement that’s why I said this in my bio? Also I can’t change my age on my profile it says I’ve changed it once already but I haven’t so I’m 21 and I can only put it in my bio

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By *ady_LindaTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

I've found that the more you have on your bio, the more responses you will have. We are all human, and our brains need to know about someone before we consider any interaction.

I hope this helps.

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
12 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

Sorry, but did you get your birthday wrong twice then?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Well those questions are awkward to answer aha like I don’t like anything being done to me that’s painful or requires restricting my body movement that’s why I said this in my bio? Also I can’t change my age on my profile it says I’ve changed it once already but I haven’t so I’m 21 and I can only put it in my bio "

It might be best to just remove the BDSM test results if you've got no interest in BDSM.

How did you get your age so wrong even once? If you've no verifications or noteworthy conversation history you can just delete and start again without losing anything and have your age correct 💜

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

I didn’t get it wrong twice, I got it wrong the first time by complete accident, but it tells me I’ve changed it once of which I haven’t at all

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
12 weeks ago

Altrincham

"Can anyone help me at all? No one talks to me which is quite upsetting and I am unsure why? I won’t cam and no one will verify me but starting to feel like I’m not good enough for anyone 😔"

You're lovely looking but too young for me ☺️

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By *urry BlokeMan
12 weeks ago

"I didn’t get it wrong twice, I got it wrong the first time by complete accident, but it tells me I’ve changed it once of which I haven’t at all "

So, be honest

Did you have it set to 21, assumed it was your age that was holding you back, so changed it to 27 - and now you can't change it back to 21?

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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"I didn’t get it wrong twice, I got it wrong the first time by complete accident, but it tells me I’ve changed it once of which I haven’t at all "

Have you got anything to lose by deleting this one and starting again? The age mix up is odd.

Are you hoping to meet F/FF on your own, or only with your partner -its not clear from your text?

You say you don't like kinks, then list some but don't finish the sentence...you are saying you are Dom, but nothing about your profile suggests this in honesty.

I find it a bit confusing when guys have a couples account and then moan that they can't get any meets?

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

Nope never touched it unless I did last year and don’t remember?

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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"Nope never touched it unless I did last year and don’t remember?"

If you hit 'reply + quote' on the post you are replying to, it will help us to follow the thread and your responses

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

I do solos and with my partner yes, I’m down for f or ff, can’t do much about my age plus I’ll lose all of this account and my bio and I’m more dom than sub, I don’t like anything being done to me that’s painful or anything due to past trauma. Also I thought what I listed were more preferences/fetishes?

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

"Nope never touched it unless I did last year and don’t remember?

If you hit 'reply + quote' on the post you are replying to, it will help us to follow the thread and your responses"

Oh thanks didn’t know that aha

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Nope never touched it unless I did last year and don’t remember?

If you hit 'reply + quote' on the post you are replying to, it will help us to follow the thread and your responses

Oh thanks didn’t know that aha "

I’m more confused

Now know mention of being a couple or referencing the couples account you had

It says you can’t accommodate but in your bio says you can

And as others say how old are you

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

"Nope never touched it unless I did last year and don’t remember?

If you hit 'reply + quote' on the post you are replying to, it will help us to follow the thread and your responses

Oh thanks didn’t know that aha

I’m more confused

Now know mention of being a couple or referencing the couples account you had

It says you can’t accommodate but in your bio says you can

And as others say how old are you "

I’ve said this like 5 times I am 21 years old but it won’t let me change it

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

"Nope never touched it unless I did last year and don’t remember?

If you hit 'reply + quote' on the post you are replying to, it will help us to follow the thread and your responses

Oh thanks didn’t know that aha

I’m more confused

Now know mention of being a couple or referencing the couples account you had

It says you can’t accommodate but in your bio says you can

And as others say how old are you "

Also it does say about the couples account? So idk why you’re saying there’s no reference because there clearly is??

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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"Nope never touched it unless I did last year and don’t remember?

If you hit 'reply + quote' on the post you are replying to, it will help us to follow the thread and your responses

Oh thanks didn’t know that aha

I’m more confused

Now know mention of being a couple or referencing the couples account you had

It says you can’t accommodate but in your bio says you can

And as others say how old are you

I’ve said this like 5 times I am 21 years old but it won’t let me change it "

You'll say it to the end of time and ig will always be an issue.

As previously suggested, I would deletd and create a new account.

If you are really attached to your bio just copy it and save.

In honesty your 4 pics look easy to replicate

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
12 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

You have 1 veri, you could contact again and say you might start a new profile and can they re veri once you have. You can upload the pics again. You can write a bio. And...as it's been picked up by many people and on other threads where people's ages are wrong and it's a red flag...fill in your correct age.

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Nope never touched it unless I did last year and don’t remember?

If you hit 'reply + quote' on the post you are replying to, it will help us to follow the thread and your responses

Oh thanks didn’t know that aha

I’m more confused

Now know mention of being a couple or referencing the couples account you had

It says you can’t accommodate but in your bio says you can

And as others say how old are you

Also it does say about the couples account? So idk why you’re saying there’s no reference because there clearly is??"

Getting angsty doesn’t help when you’re asking for advice

My advice and chose to ignore it is to put the couples account part at the top. Then it is clear you’re a couple rather than reading all the way down

Just my thoughts

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

No one said to put it at the top only to just have it there lol also sure I’ll restart and I will comment on this forum if that helps

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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"You have 1 veri, you could contact again and say you might start a new profile and can they re veri once you have. You can upload the pics again. You can write a bio. And...as it's been picked up by many people and on other threads where people's ages are wrong and it's a red flag...fill in your correct age.

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?"

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified? "

I don’t have a tick because I don’t cam and I haven’t had any meets yet? Also I just made a new profile - masterchaos1 if anyone is interested in checking

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

I don’t have a tick because I don’t cam and I haven’t had any meets yet? Also I just made a new profile - masterchaos1 if anyone is interested in checking "

Says you joined 2 days ago

So many red flags 🚩

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

I don’t have a tick because I don’t cam and I haven’t had any meets yet? Also I just made a new profile - masterchaos1 if anyone is interested in checking "

Are you asking for profile advice?

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

I don’t have a tick because I don’t cam and I haven’t had any meets yet? Also I just made a new profile - masterchaos1 if anyone is interested in checking

Says you joined 2 days ago

So many red flags 🚩 "

Bro you’ve all just asked me to start a new account so I have? What was the point in telling me all this advice then saying that? Yes I made the account 2 days ago because I was going to be deleting this one before any of this advice

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

I don’t have a tick because I don’t cam and I haven’t had any meets yet? Also I just made a new profile - masterchaos1 if anyone is interested in checking

Are you asking for profile advice? "

Doesn’t matter anymore just not gonna bother I’ll stay as I am and stay as it is because I really can’t be bothered

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
12 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified? "

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri"

Ahh gotcha. Very strange!?!

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri"

Yes we have a veri on our couples account from someone who we had a social meet with why?

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By *untimebennieMan
12 weeks ago

Barnet

Don't take it so personal bro it's the same for a lot of guys it's a numbers game for every 20 texts you send you probably only get one reply also have more confidence in yourself bro

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By *eadymade31Man
12 weeks ago

northumberland

Ahh mate i think 99% of blokes on here are in the same boat! Like said in this post you have to be thick skinned ive been on here a while now and not had many meets at all but made a lot of really good female friends ive found a lot of women on here dont just want to fucked and dumped some women like to have the conversation side too and no offence i think this thread may come across a little needy or looking for a lil sympathy which wont help. Again not meaning no offence just stick at it dude. Happy fabbing

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

"Don't take it so personal bro it's the same for a lot of guys it's a numbers game for every 20 texts you send you probably only get one reply also have more confidence in yourself bro "

It’s just annoying coz I have done every tiny single thing I’ve been told to do which I asked for the advice so I’m taking it and then to be complained at for having an account and being called a red flag without even asking me why I have the account? I was legit deleting this one soon lol 😂😂

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
12 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

I don’t have a tick because I don’t cam and I haven’t had any meets yet? Also I just made a new profile - masterchaos1 if anyone is interested in checking

Says you joined 2 days ago

So many red flags 🚩

I'm not a bro

You started the thread and was given some standard advice, but mepointing out the red flags and you not being honest in saying it's 2 days old not 'just now'

...good luck with your 3 profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Don't take it so personal bro it's the same for a lot of guys it's a numbers game for every 20 texts you send you probably only get one reply also have more confidence in yourself bro

Of course you were. You’ve not said anything about having multiple accounts or when were advised to set a new one up miracously a 2 day old one appears

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
12 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri

Yes we have a veri on our couples account from someone who we had a social meet with why? "

It's a cam veri not a meet. And what I meant was to ask that person that you have the veri from to verify you again. It's to prove your human thats all.....

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri

Yes we have a veri on our couples account from someone who we had a social meet with why?

It's a cam veri not a meet. And what I meant was to ask that person that you have the veri from to verify you again. It's to prove your human thats all....."

A cam veri??? We haven’t cammed like at all so idk why that’s saying cam lol we had a meet with someone also yeah I’ve asked

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By *udesentientMan
12 weeks ago

Leeds

"Can anyone help me at all? No one talks to me which is quite upsetting and I am unsure why? I won’t cam and no one will verify me but starting to feel like I’m not good enough for anyone 😔"

I'm probably repeating what others have said. I'll just add that you might make all these changes and still not get a meet. There are just a whole lot more men than there are women, so they get (rightly) overwhelmed with options and messages.

It helps when you don't think of the site as a "hook-up" site. Edit your profile, make it better (I suggested looking at profiles of other men that have a good number of meets and see how they presented their profile)

But ultimately, try to build your confidence outside of Fabs, meet women outside, be nice and respectful, they worst that'll happen is they say No. If you want to have better interaction here, consider going to events

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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"Don't take it so personal bro it's the same for a lot of guys it's a numbers game for every 20 texts you send you probably only get one reply also have more confidence in yourself bro

I mean you literally said you couldn't create a new account because you liked the bio, photos and I think you said it was verified (which it isn't).. Then low and behold you have already set up a 3rd account 2 days ago - so many questions - why not just be honest and say you'd already set up a new account...why ask for advice on a profile you were planning to delete?

You've asked for advice and getting narky with people providing it 🤔🤔

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
12 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri

Yes we have a veri on our couples account from someone who we had a social meet with why?

It's a cam veri not a meet. And what I meant was to ask that person that you have the veri from to verify you again. It's to prove your human thats all.....

A cam veri??? We haven’t cammed like at all so idk why that’s saying cam lol we had a meet with someone also yeah I’ve asked "

Then I suggest you look at your couples profile because it says you were cam verified 3 weeks ago.

Unless I'm looking at the wrong profile

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri

Yes we have a veri on our couples account from someone who we had a social meet with why?

It's a cam veri not a meet. And what I meant was to ask that person that you have the veri from to verify you again. It's to prove your human thats all.....

A cam veri??? We haven’t cammed like at all so idk why that’s saying cam lol we had a meet with someone also yeah I’ve asked "

Errrr your couples profile literally states that it has a verification by cam ....is this is untrue then it needs reporting to the admin team

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By *eoBloomsMan
12 weeks ago

Springfield

Fuck me, it's, Fab CSI on here.🤣

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri

Yes we have a veri on our couples account from someone who we had a social meet with why?

It's a cam veri not a meet. And what I meant was to ask that person that you have the veri from to verify you again. It's to prove your human thats all.....

A cam veri??? We haven’t cammed like at all so idk why that’s saying cam lol we had a meet with someone also yeah I’ve asked

Errrr your couples profile literally states that it has a verification by cam ....is this is untrue then it needs reporting to the admin team"

I’ll report it to admin then aha coz it was a meet unless my partner went on cam for a bit I’m not sure I’ll have to ask when she’s back home

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Fuck me, it's, Fab CSI on here.🤣"

Fab CSI (cock sucking independently)

Fab CSI (cool, sexy, individual)

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
12 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri

Yes we have a veri on our couples account from someone who we had a social meet with why?

It's a cam veri not a meet. And what I meant was to ask that person that you have the veri from to verify you again. It's to prove your human thats all.....

A cam veri??? We haven’t cammed like at all so idk why that’s saying cam lol we had a meet with someone also yeah I’ve asked

Errrr your couples profile literally states that it has a verification by cam ....is this is untrue then it needs reporting to the admin team

I’ll report it to admin then aha coz it was a meet unless my partner went on cam for a bit I’m not sure I’ll have to ask when she’s back home"

I suppose thats where I see black and white. You have a couples profile, you should both be for a first veri, present, and both should run it. i know that's not for everyone.

You've taken a knock in this thread and I'm sorry for that.

Hope you get the profiles sorted.

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By *JC019 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Hull

That would take at maximum 1hour.

Is it really that hard to start again with a fresh profile?

I don't see a tick, so isn't it only photo verified?

On the OPS couples profile they have a veri

Yes we have a veri on our couples account from someone who we had a social meet with why?

It's a cam veri not a meet. And what I meant was to ask that person that you have the veri from to verify you again. It's to prove your human thats all.....

A cam veri??? We haven’t cammed like at all so idk why that’s saying cam lol we had a meet with someone also yeah I’ve asked

Errrr your couples profile literally states that it has a verification by cam ....is this is untrue then it needs reporting to the admin team

I’ll report it to admin then aha coz it was a meet unless my partner went on cam for a bit I’m not sure I’ll have to ask when she’s back home

I suppose thats where I see black and white. You have a couples profile, you should both be for a first veri, present, and both should run it. i know that's not for everyone.

You've taken a knock in this thread and I'm sorry for that.

Hope you get the profiles sorted.

Honestly I really do appreciate all the advice and I’ve done everything I can hoping it’s decent now at least, kinda wish I didn’t figure out this forum thing aha but I do really appreciate everything everyone has said thank you so much all of you also yeah I didn’t get the veri for some reason I never really noticed aha I’ll try get it sorted

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