FabSwingers.com forum: Do you actually like to chat?

By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

I am curious, a huge part of me being here is to create a social connection and explore a multitude of topics obviously sexual topics being the priority.

But do you find that people hate don't have time to chat one on one or they chat for a night then ghost? Xx

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By *tr8MrEMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

You make do with what you get....just remember no one likes a bitcher

Good luck

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By *riel13Woman
12 weeks ago

Northampton

I only want to chat to people I'm attracted to as some people get pissy when I'm not attracted to them after "getting on"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

Fair point. Not meant to be bitchy. But on second read. It does sound bitchy.

Not my intention. Just curious what people's experiences are. Xx

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

I chat extensively, for weeks and months before meeting someone. I find the right people to chat to, or they find me, people who have similar interests...such as chatting (amongst other things).

Conversations ebb and flow, and some fizzle out. I wouldn't call it ghosting.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Yes I do, I need a connection to meet.

But mostly I can’t be bothered with the same old conversations.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
12 weeks ago

Reading

Depends if there is a connection.

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By *redwilma666Couple
12 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

"I am curious, a huge part of me being here is to create a social connection and explore a multitude of topics obviously sexual topics being the priority.

But do you find that people hate don't have time to chat one on one or they chat for a night then ghost? Xx"

Detest electronic chat, there is too much BS on here which is much easier to spot face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I actually like chatting and bantering with people on here, meets might be out of the question but can still have a laugh..

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By *anks101Man
12 weeks ago

Blackburn

Yes sure, I feel like connecting is more important and having a few laughs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"Yes I do, I need a connection to meet.

But mostly I can’t be bothered with the same old conversations."

This is something I think it's a real problem... How many times do you have to tell people, "yeah I'm good thanks." Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I am curious, a huge part of me being here is to create a social connection and explore a multitude of topics obviously sexual topics being the priority.

But do you find that people hate don't have time to chat one on one or they chat for a night then ghost? Xx

Detest electronic chat, there is too much BS on here which is much easier to spot face to face"

I'd prefer meeting face to face but sometimes you have to do some talking to set of is worth chatting, surely? Xxx

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By *heVikingJarlMan
12 weeks ago

behind you

I love a good chat but ghosting seems to be part of the cause on here I find

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By *isskxxyvWoman
12 weeks ago

Reading

"I am curious, a huge part of me being here is to create a social connection and explore a multitude of topics obviously sexual topics being the priority.

But do you find that people hate don't have time to chat one on one or they chat for a night then ghost? Xx"

I can chat for fucking ages to interesting people

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By *tr8MrEMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"I am curious, a huge part of me being here is to create a social connection and explore a multitude of topics obviously sexual topics being the priority.

But do you find that people hate don't have time to chat one on one or they chat for a night then ghost? Xx

I can chat for fucking ages to interesting people "

Now I know why you haven't messaged me 🤣🤣

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By *each needs some creamWoman
12 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I can chat but it's not what I am looking for as this is a swinging site I am looking to meet up for sex not chat.

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By *ddie1966Man
12 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

In a word, yes.

Love a bit of social interaction as much as physical interaction.

I find its nice to make that initial connection before you find out the person is some sort of demented deviant. Unless that's what you're looking for of course.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
12 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We love chatting to people that we feel we’ll have a connection with.

However we won’t do random chats with people we’ve got no interest in. We are here to make the right connections.

If we do get on, we generally take the chat away from here and do a three/fourway chat so we can see how invested people are.

There is nothing better than matched energy from someone you fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I prefer to chat as it allows me to get to know the person and know if our personalities align cause it results in genuine friendships and if any sexual stuff happens then it feels much better

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By *spenfallsMan
12 weeks ago

Northamptonshire

Absolutely, yes.

Love to chat, and given the nature of our common underlying interests here, the more risqué and erotic the better.... But I can still do social, whimsy, humour (hopefully) and general interest chat just as happily.

As an 50-summat, single guy I'm not expecting Fab to suddenly result in a deluge of untapped shagging opportunities, but there is still a lot of fun to be had if you make the effort to connect with people.

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By *effdelightMan
12 weeks ago

Grimsby

Yeah love to chat

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By *ucka39Man
12 weeks ago

Newcastle

Always have a long chit chat build the connection and chemistry and chat about rubbish also

then the naughty stuff

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By *oubleswing2019Man
12 weeks ago

Colchester

I do indeed. I can write for hours and engage in any subject, some quite deeply if an area of understanding or experience.

And then there the joy of learning from someone else too.

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By *ultryandSassyWoman
12 weeks ago

somewhere in the middle

I love to chat.. yes I’m here for a sexual connection.. but I want the connection before it is a sexual thing.. so I’ll chat away to people until I find it..

More often than not.. pleasantries move onto., send me a pic.. what you wearing.. etc.. I’m bored by then.

But if someone captures my mind.. I’m sending those type of things without them even asking..

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By *tickytip44Man
12 weeks ago

rhyl

Love to chat x

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By *redwilma666Couple
12 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

"I am curious, a huge part of me being here is to create a social connection and explore a multitude of topics obviously sexual topics being the priority.

But do you find that people hate don't have time to chat one on one or they chat for a night then ghost? Xx

Detest electronic chat, there is too much BS on here which is much easier to spot face to face

I'd prefer meeting face to face but sometimes you have to do some talking to set of is worth chatting, surely? Xxx"

I only meet in clubs, so that does away with electronic chat

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By *rHotNottsMan
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I generally won’t chat to someone unless I am attracted to them, there are exceptions but they are very rare

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By *d4funtimesMan
12 weeks ago

Cambridge

I enjoy chatting or camming in the chatrooms. I am here for a genuine connection first, so I talk until I feel that spark.

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By *JcuriousCouple
12 weeks ago

Nottingham

I agree, us too OP.

But I know some people aren't for it and just want to jump in bed with people and move onto the next, but that's okay.. preferences and all that, but it's not for us 😂

We'll happily chew your ear off then have a rumble in the sheets with you hahahaha

Miss S x

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By *.hrisMan
12 weeks ago

Bath

No I can't be arsed with chatting loads. A few messages is o.k, but don't want to be constantly on here backwards and forwards replying.

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By *iddick27Man
12 weeks ago

Cheshire

I like chatting but I prefer to chat via phone calls over messaging

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By *viatrixWoman
12 weeks ago

Redhill

"I love to chat.. yes I’m here for a sexual connection.. but I want the connection before it is a sexual thing.. so I’ll chat away to people until I find it..

More often than not.. pleasantries move onto., send me a pic.. what you wearing.. etc.. I’m bored by then.

But if someone captures my mind.. I’m sending those type of things without them even asking.. "

Exactly. If the interest is there, the chat will flow.

I was bored at the beginning of the year as I was bedbound, so was very clear to people that I would chat but wasn’t meeting etc, and it was always the same thing, what are your plans for today (er- stay in bed? Bedbound? Remember?) what are you up to, etc…

I am also very clear that I do not do sex chat with people I don’t know and they carry on

that’s when the block button gets a workout haha

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By *tudleyGoodfuckMan
12 weeks ago

Durham

I do love a bit of flirty or filthy chat with anyone. Doesn't matter if we ever plan to meet or not just a bit of fun and to make a few friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I agree, us too OP.

But I know some people aren't for it and just want to jump in bed with people and move onto the next, but that's okay.. preferences and all that, but it's not for us 😂

We'll happily chew your ear off then have a rumble in the sheets with you hahahaha

Miss S x"

Wait when is the ear getting chewed? 😛

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By *JcuriousCouple
12 weeks ago

Nottingham

"I agree, us too OP.

But I know some people aren't for it and just want to jump in bed with people and move onto the next, but that's okay.. preferences and all that, but it's not for us 😂

We'll happily chew your ear off then have a rumble in the sheets with you hahahaha

Miss S x

Wait when is the ear getting chewed? 😛

Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Yes, but it depends who with, I'm open to chat to anyone but small talk and daily good morning how's your day messages just irritate me.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
12 weeks ago

Niche

I'm selectively mute.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
12 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

If it’s someone I’m interested in meeting then yes definitely. If I’m honest I’m not looking for platonic friends on here so general chit chat, no not really.

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By *midnight-Woman
12 weeks ago

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I find an avalanche of questions overwhelming

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
12 weeks ago

OLDHAM

"I am curious, a huge part of me being here is to create a social connection and explore a multitude of topics obviously sexual topics being the priority.

But do you find that people hate don't have time to chat one on one or they chat for a night then ghost? Xx"

I love chatting to people, you get various views and reasons why people are on here

I love the flirting and banter

And if you click with someone that's even better - this is how I met my FWB

🫶🏼

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By *oxychicWoman
12 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

Yes , I find the ppl you can easily chat to , the best ppl to meet , conversation as to be there ,

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By *herrybakewellCouple
12 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Absolutely. We both look for that connection.

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By *luebell888Woman
12 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"I am curious, a huge part of me being here is to create a social connection and explore a multitude of topics obviously sexual topics being the priority.

But do you find that people hate don't have time to chat one on one or they chat for a night then ghost? Xx"

If I chatted every night to people I had chatted to before then I would be chatting 24hrs a day. I keep the chat going only with people I am interested in meeting.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
12 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Fair point. Not meant to be bitchy. But on second read. It does sound bitchy.

Not my intention. Just curious what people's experiences are. Xx"

It didn't sound bitchy on first, second or third reading.

If you mean chat as in using text chat then ........ no thanks.

I only chat by phone or face to face, for good reasons , which I can't be bothered typing here.

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"I chat extensively, for weeks and months before meeting someone. I find the right people to chat to, or they find me, people who have similar interests...such as chatting (amongst other things).

Conversations ebb and flow, and some fizzle out. I wouldn't call it ghosting."
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Agree on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I find that people who want to chat a lot seldom meet. Some not all

Sometimes you just have to bite the proverbial bullet and move to the meet bit

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
12 weeks ago

OLDHAM

"I chat extensively, for weeks and months before meeting someone. I find the right people to chat to, or they find me, people who have similar interests...such as chatting (amongst other things).

Conversations ebb and flow, and some fizzle out. I wouldn't call it ghosting."

💯% this! ♥️

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By *each needs some creamWoman
12 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

"I find that people who want to chat a lot seldom meet. Some not all

Sometimes you just have to bite the proverbial bullet and move to the meet bit"

I agree A little less conversation, a little more action please.

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By *arkKatalystWoman
12 weeks ago

East Mids

Some days I'm chatty some days not so. I find chatting to folks soon highlights people that I won't click with or who might get nasty.

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By *ein-guyMan
12 weeks ago

East Cowes

I often get asked why I'm on here if I'm not looking to fuck!

Sorry, but nothing lasts forever and I like chatting, watching others fucking and maybe soon I'll be looking to expand my horizons

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By *tr8MrEMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"I find that people who want to chat a lot seldom meet. Some not all

Sometimes you just have to bite the proverbial bullet and move to the meet bit

I agree A little less conversation, a little more action please. "

Alright Elvis!

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By *arried curious guyMan
12 weeks ago

Motherwell

I love chatting with others, love to know what others like

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By *ankman69Man
12 weeks ago

holbeach

Enjoy the chat, it gives the connections with each other

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By *ellhungvweMan
12 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"I find that people who want to chat a lot seldom meet. Some not all

Sometimes you just have to bite the proverbial bullet and move to the meet bit"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

To those I like yes. If someone's opening message is "hey, do you want to chat?" I'm already bored.

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By *tr8MrEMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"To those I like yes. If someone's opening message is "hey, do you want to chat?" I'm already bored. "

I really couldn't resist 🤣

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By *ripfillMan
12 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

I do like to chat and then if all goes well move to a social meet …

I find there are certain characteristics in chatting which stand out for me and from those they become the strings of attraction to meet and hopefully consensually more …

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By *layfullsamMan
12 weeks ago

Solihull

Love to chat

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By *eve500Man
12 weeks ago

Leeds

Always... The naughtier the better 😉

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By *ominic 300Man
12 weeks ago

PO32

Yes please feel free to message

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Yes always happy to talk

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By *tr8MrEMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"Yes always happy to talk "

Not surprised, you seem a very approachable pair

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By *cottish guy 555Man
12 weeks ago

London

I've had, and continue to have, some great chats on here. Some move to other platforms and some expand into the real world.

You just have to accept them for what they are and that people can take time to respond and some just stop.

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By *sWyldWoman
12 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I do but I have to actually be interested in meeting the person and I'm a fan of normal chat. I want to know them . Not just what kind of sex they enjoy.

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By *electableicecreamMan
12 weeks ago

The West

I've found that I'm unlikely to put a lot of energy into a chat with someone I haven't met and even less with anyone I know I'm not going to meet.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
12 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Sure

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