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Can you ever get over a breakup?

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
11 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

Are you also following eastenders and the drama between phil and sharon? They have broken up and are not together anymore and havent been so for a while, it goes back and forth with them two.

But it seems that phil cant get over the break up this time and it have worsen for him espeically mentally as he cant cope so good, as he still got feelings for her and keeps hoping that she will get back to him on day.

What is your view about it, can you ever get over a break up, have you been in the same situacion where you still fancy your partner and hoped that you would get together in the end, if so, did you?

I would say that yes, it is possible to get over it, first of all. I dont think it is good to keep hoping or healthy that one day you might get toghether again because you would lose many years thinkig this way and not be happy.

There are different stages to get through it like, one is acknowledging the loss and allowing yourself to heal, the next stage is to focus on healing and eebuilding your life, for some it goes quicker than others, do you kow of any other ways too?

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By *a LunaWoman
11 weeks ago

o o OO o o

You can. But you mourn it in a funny way.

Albeit it depends I guess on how good the actual relationship had been up till it went tits up.

A good relationship turned bad at the end is easier to mourn and look back on fondly than a pure toxic/abusive relationship.

Relationships always leave their mark. Sometimes we just miss who we were in happier times.

As for Sharon and Phil, they have had enough chances to make a relationship work, and they screw it up every time. They’re toxic to each other, and to everyone caught in their web.

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By *amo47Man
11 weeks ago

Dunmow

Don't watch eastenders, took me a long time to get over my breakup couple of years ago, I still think about her and the good times we had together. Then my brain goes to the time it all went downhill

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

My view would be to not compare your relationships with a couple from Eastenders

But yes, of course you can. People move on all the time. Meet others, who are better than before.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

I don't think EastEnders is a good real view on relationships.

But yes you get over them, or we'd all be sat mourning our school boyfriends/girlfriends.

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By *eliWoman
11 weeks ago

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Yes of course. It depends on the relationship, how things were and ended. It doesn't take long for me generally. Bit of space, no fuel to the fire and I'm all good.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
11 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

For me yeah. If someone doesn’t want me anymore I most certainly won’t want them so I’d never be hoping someone would change their mind. I may think aw that’s a shame I really liked them but that’s about it. I don’t really wallow.

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By *ude LawMan
11 weeks ago

Harrogate

I watched EastEnders once, Shag.

It's taken me a while to get over it.

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By *oxychicWoman
11 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

Yea ,for me i move on ,mourning is depressing ,im not one for going back either , as the reason why u split is probably still there

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yes.

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By *vaRoseWoman
11 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Yes you can

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By *iseekingbiCouple
11 weeks ago

N ireland and West Midlands

a heart is not whole until it has been rent asunder

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
11 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

It’s *really* easy to get over a relationship if the other person is an absolute shit during the break up.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
11 weeks ago

Ipswich

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

I think I'm probably a bit odd but yes. I didn't want my marriage to end. But it did. I mourned it for a while. I mean I was properly sad, heartbroken, upset, hurt etc but I don't feel any of that now. Maybe a little sad but I feel totally over it. I'm like that with many big "events" that have happened in my life. I feel a bit cold and heartless that these things don't seem to affect me as much as they do other people. Maybe I'm just good at realising that you don't get anything out of dwelling on things or moving backwards over old ground. For me the only way is to accept it and move on.

I don't know anything about Sharon or Phil though. Just my experience.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
11 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"You can. But you mourn it in a funny way.

Albeit it depends I guess on how good the actual relationship had been up till it went tits up.

A good relationship turned bad at the end is easier to mourn and look back on fondly than a pure toxic/abusive relationship.

Relationships always leave their mark. Sometimes we just miss who we were in happier times.

As for Sharon and Phil, they have had enough chances to make a relationship work, and they screw it up every time. They’re toxic to each other, and to everyone caught in their web."
Hi luna, yes, you are right there, you mourn it in a funny way, yes, it also depends how good ge actual relationship had been up till then too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Central

You can get over experience but need to process it, including taking decisions about what you want and what may be an issue for you, that you could address.

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By *rHotNottsMan
11 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Guys tend not to, yes later they’re still bore their friends and cry about them when d*unk, women do , they are like what was that guy‘s name I was shagging last week again ?

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
11 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

You don’t forget a wonderful time. You learn to live with the break up, but you don’t get over it easily, or at least I don’t.

I love deep, and when they leave that space you gave them in your heart, it leaves an empty black hole that is heavy to carry, and hard to fill again.

Short relationships are easy to get over.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
11 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"Don't watch eastenders, took me a long time to get over my breakup couple of years ago, I still think about her and the good times we had together. Then my brain goes to the time it all went downhill "
Yes, it can take long time to get over it too

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By *estructionDollyWoman
11 weeks ago

Manchester

Quick answer, yes you can.

Some are much harder to get over than others. Some you're already mentally checked out of before it's actually ended.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
11 weeks ago

North West

Yep.

Once something is done, it’s done for me. May feel a wounded internally for a little while depending on the depth of feeling towards the other but mostly I can easily remove/erase any emotion towards them, walk away and not look back. #Toodleoomuthafucker

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
11 weeks ago

Altrincham

Short answer is of course you can, but some are easier to get over than others.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
11 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"Quick answer, yes you can.

Some are much harder to get over than others. Some you're already mentally checked out of before it's actually ended. "
Hi kinkyycurvyy, yes, you are right there, some are harder to get over than others too

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By *uenevereWoman
11 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I don't watch soap operas.

However, yes, you definitely can get over a breakup. The breakdown of my first marriage was heartbreaking, even though I instigated it.

You move on and heal over time.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
11 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Yes, you just pick yourself up and dust yourself down

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
11 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

I get what everyone is saying with the 'yes's, and I am inclined to agree with the logic; time is a great healer and all that, but I've had one break-up that will always leave a little scar💔 and as such, no, don't think you (I) can fully get over someone if they really meant that much to you. It took a long time before I knew it was a case of 'give up and move on', remembering the good times rather than dwelling on 'the end'.

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By *ucka39Man
11 weeks ago

Newcastle

Id say nope obviously depends on whose at fault but either way one will be regretting their own actions or behaviour whereas the other feeling numb with mixed emotions

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
11 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"For me yeah. If someone doesn’t want me anymore I most certainly won’t want them so I’d never be hoping someone would change their mind. I may think aw that’s a shame I really liked them but that’s about it. I don’t really wallow. "
Hi nora, yes, you are right there, if someone doesnt want you, you dont want them, yes, it would be a shame too

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By *parkle1974Woman
11 weeks ago

Leeds

There is only one that I won't get over for various reasons....the rest, I have as we parted amicably so there was no hard feelings on any side. I am on friendly terms with all bar one (not the one I won't get over)

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
11 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

Yes if they couldn’t appreciate me when with me why should I give a shit after

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
11 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"Yes, you just pick yourself up and dust yourself down"
Hi diamondsmiles, yes, you are right there, you just pick yourself up and dust yourself down too

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By *urry BlokeMan
11 weeks ago

It's the shared experiences and built habits and routines that I find I miss

I rarely miss the person

I am stone cold if crossed

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