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By *rAndMrsLil OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Barnsley

We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?

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By *ampireLoveMan
2 weeks ago

Essex

If they can’t converse, are they really worth your time?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
2 weeks ago

little house on the praire

If I'm finding a conversation difficult I just used to leave it. I needed it two ways

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By *avrick180Man
2 weeks ago

Pontypool

Was about to say the same thing and some women are the same aswell want to get to know them about then disappear or start being rude to you

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/London

Why bother? If someone can’t, or won’t, maintain something resembling a conversation just move on.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum

Yeah, so true.

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By *rafter69Man
2 weeks ago

upminster

Great post OP, also not only the short answers-the ones in pigeon English!

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By *aizyWoman
2 weeks ago

west midlands


"Yeah, so true."

Innit.

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By *ichierich001ukMan
2 weeks ago

taunton

Surprising how many couples post looking to chat so when you try and initiate a chat you get instant block lol

Always happy to chat here

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/London


"Yeah, so true.

Innit."

👆

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By *ampireLoveMan
2 weeks ago

Essex


"Yeah, so true.

Innit.

👆"

🤫

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/London

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/London

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By *anManCoolMan
2 weeks ago

Camborne


"We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?"

I wish i could get a conversation lol

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By *aryportmeatMan
2 weeks ago

Running up that hill


"We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?"

Wait people can actually have conversations on here without getting blanked and blocked?!,

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By *rdere OpusCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum - ish

If it’s too much hard work we step back. We too look for good conversation and if that’s not forthcoming, we assume a lack of interest or compatibility.

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By *ildTimes.Man
2 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam


"We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?"

If they can't hold a conversation, I fuck them off, simple 🥪

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By *ake and BeckyCouple
2 weeks ago

Gravesend

It's very disappointing when someone who we've had our eye on gets in touch, but they have nothing about them in a message. We used to try really hard when speaking with dull messagers, often overcompensating, but we don't have the patience for it anymore.

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By *rAndMrsLil OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Barnsley


"It's very disappointing when someone who we've had our eye on gets in touch, but they have nothing about them in a message. We used to try really hard when speaking with dull messagers, often overcompensating, but we don't have the patience for it anymore. "

Yeah we're starting to feel like some people are not worth the effort. If they can't hold a decent conversation o line, how difficult will they be in person?!

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By *ampireLoveMan
2 weeks ago

Essex


"It's very disappointing when someone who we've had our eye on gets in touch, but they have nothing about them in a message. We used to try really hard when speaking with dull messagers, often overcompensating, but we don't have the patience for it anymore.

Yeah we're starting to feel like some people are not worth the effort. If they can't hold a decent conversation o line, how difficult will they be in person?! "

To be fair, it’s a blessing you find out here rather than in person. How awkward would that be!

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By *ampireLoveMan
2 weeks ago

Essex


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😂😂😂

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By *rAndMrsLil OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Barnsley

Very true. I don't have a good poker face either, my face says everything I hold back, that would definitely be awkward

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By *ampireLoveMan
2 weeks ago

Essex

Let’s arrange a social with the majority of non conversationalists! A social experiment that no one cares about the outcome enough to put themselves through it 😂😂

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We always take that as they aren't just interested and delete the chat.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
2 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

If the conversation last 3 seconds something else might….

I move on 😘

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum


"Yeah, so true.

Innit."

🍆🌮💦

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By *rHotNottsMan
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Sometimes that connection is just not there 🤷‍♂️

Some are way better in person

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

I use it as a filter. If they can't hold a conversation, then they're not for me.

There's plenty of people on here who can!

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By *aizyWoman
2 weeks ago

west midlands


"Yeah, so true.

Innit.

🍆🌮💦"

😋

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

When I was more active in meeting I used the phone.

I don't like conversing in text it doesn't lend itself to conversation and there is nothing worse than someone who thinks a string of one sided questions constitutes conversation.

Phone for me early or I didn't carry on contact.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
2 weeks ago

Niche

Most on here are fk&go champions. Their chitchat is superficial. Just a means to an end. Nothing wrong with that, just another preference. No one owes a reply, no one owes personal info, etc.

I am a huge lover of chitchat and have that on my profile. It's not for everyone so flat chat is just another filter. Best to know early and move on. Take it as a win.

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By *aoirse NaughtyWoman
2 weeks ago

Cork


"I use it as a filter. If they can't hold a conversation, then they're not for me.

There's plenty of people on here who can! "

I'm with you on this, yea we know why we are all hear but for me if I'm going to play its going to be with people I like and the start to building that is conversation.

now that's not going to say I'm going to have a conversation with evey persin that messages me but with some who messaged me that I liked and either got one word replay or they ask straight away when they can play with me

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By *rSuave88Man
2 weeks ago

Mirfield

It is frustrating, but it shows how common a lack of conversational skills is. If they are incapable of putting in the effort or matching yours, then move on. There are a few decent people on here believe it or not.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar


"We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?"

I need some chat and laughs to get those flutters. If someone can't have a conversation they aren't getting in my knickers...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

Be grateful when they make it clear that they can't talk, as you'd like them to. It's probably best to move on quickly. Others will

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair


"How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?"

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In essence I cull the conversation immediately or let it fizzle out. I don't have the patience for apathy. Most people on here think the årt of conversation is something you hang in a gallery. As I often say I wish there were more people on here who could handle a conversation better than they could handle a cock.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
2 weeks ago

North West mainly. Sometimes London/SouthWest

It is like pulling teeth on here sometimes but as has been said above, it’s a great filter.

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By *ebauchayMan
2 weeks ago

swindon south

One liners get short shrift.

Spelling disasters get shorter.

🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *aoirse NaughtyWoman
2 weeks ago

Cork


"One liners get short shrift.

Spelling disasters get shorter.

🤷🏻‍♂️"

Try it from my side, I struggle enough with written english never mind shortened words and slang words

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By *ebauchayMan
2 weeks ago

swindon south


"One liners get short shrift.

Spelling disasters get shorter.

🤷🏻‍♂️

Try it from my side, I struggle enough with written english never mind shortened words and slang words"

I’m guessing though that you put the effort in and do your best?

It’s the lazy that irritates.

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By *aoirse NaughtyWoman
2 weeks ago

Cork

Of course I do and I think I do quite well but have been a few couples that I have had to explain to that english is my second language and that I dont understand irish saying and shortened words and they kept doing it, its impossible for me to hold up a conversation if I dont understand what is being said and I do not want to spend conversations having to google eveything

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
2 weeks ago

Niche


"Of course I do and I think I do quite well but have been a few couples that I have had to explain to that english is my second language and that I dont understand irish saying and shortened words and they kept doing it, its impossible for me to hold up a conversation if I dont understand what is being said and I do not want to spend conversations having to google eveything "

That can often be deliberate. People are often twisted little fucks

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By *aoirse NaughtyWoman
2 weeks ago

Cork


"Of course I do and I think I do quite well but have been a few couples that I have had to explain to that english is my second language and that I dont understand irish saying and shortened words and they kept doing it, its impossible for me to hold up a conversation if I dont understand what is being said and I do not want to spend conversations having to google eveything

That can often be deliberate. People are often twisted little fucks"

Twisted little fucks I like (yes I had to ask my irish partner what that meant first )

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By *andTWoman
2 weeks ago

Altrincham


"We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?"

I'm a believer of 'if it works, it works'

If I have to try to get someone's attention or make it work with them then I CBA - it's got to be natural, it's 'just gotta work'

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By *assionseeker123Man
2 weeks ago

Nowhere

Definitely. Connection is needed I think. It makes the physical aspect a lot better for me.

Then it helps to build trust etc to try new and exciting things In future meets….

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By *empest2KMan
2 weeks ago

Derby


"We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?"

Once I get chatting to someone on here, I usually have to rein in my waffling and hold myself back from asking loads of questions about their Fab profile and experiences. Sadly, most of the time, I get very little response back and it gives me nothing to feed on and respond to, so I'm left wanting 😢

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By *ature BBW Lover 69Man
2 weeks ago

exeter

For me chatting and having conversations about likes/dislikes etc should all be part of it , none of us in here should feel that we can’t be open about things , and let’s face it , we don’t all like the same , fab is just an ice breaker to hopefully meet people suitable for what you want , I always seem to ask most of the questions , and yes some are just very uninterested responses , connection is just as important for any good sex

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By *orbidden eastMan
2 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

Unfortunately that’s how it is. These days is very rare to have a conversation let alone somebody having a sense of humour 🤷‍♂️

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

We keep it short on here to be honest as we tend to meet in clubs so that's where we get the socialising done. We keep in touch with friends but even that's short and sweet normally when we are heading to the same events.

We have come across profiles that are hard to talk to online but great in real life so we try not to let it bother us to much.

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By *spenfallsMan
2 weeks ago

Northamptonshire

As someone who can't do meets (non - sexual health issue) but still wants to 'play' with others, chat is everything for me. It's basically why I'm here... I can do mundane, philosophical, flirtatious or down right filthy, as the mood dictates.

But as a flip side to the OP's dilemma, there are very few ladies or mutually participating couples who want to chat to a single man... I get it that if you are not going walk the walk, then why take time to talk the talk, but nonetheless it's a shame that there is not more interest in just being 'erotic penpals' LOL.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
2 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

When the conversation becomes difficult or feels awkward or ‘too much effort’ I would assume it where people are not getting along by text. And I say text, because some people get along better face to face, ( some are the opposite so be aware of that too)

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

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Similar to a few posters - sometimes people aren't great at messaging but in person? Everything is there. I try and remember that.

If it's a task to rival the most difficult Herculean? Let it fizzle. Or stop replying. I like reciprocated energy and when that's not there, I can't be arsed.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
2 weeks ago

Manchester

I don't think there should be too much pressure on a great opening message, but I do like to have something to work with. If it feels like pulling teeth to get a message from them that looks like it took about 5 seconds to write and I'm not getting enough of a sense of the person to feel comfortable with them, then I'll likely just let it slide after a couple of messages.

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By *aomilatteCouple
2 weeks ago

Midlands


"We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?"

Sounds like they're answering your questions. Some people aren't into message ping pong but will happily chat for hours face to face.

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By *.B.D.DMan
2 weeks ago

Northants


"We get that for a lot of people on here they may just be looking for a quick hookup, but why are people so hard to talk to? We try asking questions, talking about things relating to their profiles, try to keep things interesting, but only end up with 2 or 3 word responses.

We like to get to know people a bit before meeting or hooking up, but a lot of the people we speak to make it very difficult

How do you guys handle difficult conversationalists on here?

Sounds like they're answering your questions. Some people aren't into message ping pong but will happily chat for hours face to face."

The messaging back and forth can be tedious, and I reckon a lot of people would naturally be better at talking in person then online.

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