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Mulbarton

I’m guessing most people will say Personal, but does anyone else feel like their opening messages are starting to all sound the same? Like, apart from a few tweaks here and there, it feels a bit repetitive — and you start worrying you’re coming across as boring?

Here’s my current one:

Hi XXX,

I hope you don’t mind me reaching out.

I'd like to chat and get to know each other, see if there's a spark. Would you?

Sending Hugs 🤗

Or something similar to that...

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

You could mention something from their profile that has nade you want to message them

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By *upersonic SamMan
2 weeks ago

wigan

I just ask if they fancy a bum, it's more intimate than fancy a fuck

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/London

Basically, write like you talk. Asking someone if they want to start a chat to see if there’s an interest sounds like har work…chat about what?

Mention something on their profile, something they said in the forums, a question which actually deserves a decent answer are all ideas.

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By *oneyBee200Woman
2 weeks ago

Kent

"I’m guessing most people will say Personal, but does anyone else feel like their opening messages are starting to all sound the same? Like, apart from a few tweaks here and there, it feels a bit repetitive — and you start worrying you’re coming across as boring?

Here’s my current one:

Hi XXX,

I hope you don’t mind me reaching out.

I'd like to chat and get to know each other, see if there's a spark. Would you?

Sending Hugs 🤗

Or something similar to that..."

It' a step up from Hi, hey you, hi how are you? Or have you have a good day?

Perhaps put a little bit about yourself too.

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By *he KakapoMan
2 weeks ago

A nice rock

Mine is what ever nonsense pops into my head.

Sometimes that is just hello I think your tits are lovely

Sometimes it's a complete shite from my subconscious.

People will either engage it doesn't really bother me

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By *rSircumsizedMan
2 weeks ago

Risca

I wouldn't use the same template for an opening message for each woman I attempt to chat with. Each individual has different qualities or something that's been written in their bio, that can easily be incorporated into an opening gambit. I try to make each one personal with a bit of humour thrown in.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm not sure abut sending hugs 🤗

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
2 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

Can I copy and paste that op?

Seriously, there’s no right or wrong.

My advice would be, just be you, and if they answer or send you a message and you are lucky enough to say hello to each other, it was meant to be. If not, it wasn’t and you’d have never got along anyway.

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By *Raven.Woman
2 weeks ago

not the north west

Nothing wrong with it apart from it would scream you have no personality for me.

I respond to the funny more piss taking ones. But that's just me.

People like different things. Who knew!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

At least you don't message "Can I ask you a question ?"

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
2 weeks ago

Dudley...kinda

Just try and make reference to sonething in their profile and personalise it a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Copy and paste are the worst, I never expect a full on essay but just something that isn't one word and shows they read my profile is fine.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

This screams copy and paste message with no effort to personalise, would make me feel like you've likely not even read my profile. I probably wouldn't reply to this sorry, especially with the "sending hugs" bit 😬

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By *aveyougotmymarblesMan
2 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

I never send it

Easier for everyone that way

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
2 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

What’s wrong with “copy & paste”?

You want people to take the time to make a personalised message, when theirs a 90% chance they’re not gonna even look at it?

On the odd occasion I receive a message from a lady, what do I get?

“Hey”

“Hello”

“How are you?”

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

I feel the notion of "sending hugs" is going to close the doors of any opportunities than open them. Unless you're looking for a 'luvvy duvvy'.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
2 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

"Copy and paste are the worst, I never expect a full on essay but just something that isn't one word and shows they read my profile is fine."

I’ve ready your profile. I’m waiting for chapter 2.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

"What’s wrong with “copy & paste”?

As a solo woman I don't appreciate copy and paste message which start "Hey guys. How are you both"

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
2 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole

"What’s wrong with “copy & paste”?

As a solo woman I don't appreciate copy and paste message which start "Hey guys. How are you both""

Haha.

I actually sent a message to someone complimenting their profile picture.

To later see them in my hotlist which a shadow pic (they’d took it down) and the message hadn’t been read yet.

So I do often think if they thought I’d copy and pasted from somewhere else. 🤷‍♂️

What can you do?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If it's bland enough to be sent to everyone it's unlikely to be actually interesting to anyone.*

*Unless you're hot and they like your profile 💜

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

Your own messages may be similar but you're unique. Generally avoid those that sound like bad erotica or porn

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By *abstarlover70Man
2 weeks ago

nuneaton isn

"At least you don't message "Can I ask you a question ?""

But can I ask you a question

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

"At least you don't message "Can I ask you a question ?"

But can I ask you a question

You already did !

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By *ewtfaceMan
2 weeks ago

Bracknell

My messages vary ~ read the persons profile, pick out what appeals and mention something along those lines.

Messages received can be pretty whacky; but even if a person just says "hi" I'm ok with that. It just opens a dialogue, doesn't it.

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