FabSwingers.com forum: Past partners

By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

Would someone’s past partners put you off them in either a vanilla or swinging life?

Maybe it’s someone you know or know of, or do you take people as you find them?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
13 weeks ago

Reading

No it's their past. I don't get what difference it makes.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

The only time this would be an issue for me would if they had been with one of the very very few people I actively, intensely dislike.

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By *xydadbodMan
13 weeks ago

Milton keynes

Nah, i won't mind what happen in the past, however ...

I may draw the line if I was to meet someone that is close to my ex though. I'm not even gonna go there

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By *eliWoman
13 weeks ago

I'm not really a swinger.

Yes they would/could. Or make me a bit less interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

They shouldn't, but yes they do.

I've not met guys before based on who they've met, a feeling of I'd be a disappointment compared to them. I prefer people to not display verifications, ignorance is bliss!

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By *ushrangerMan
13 weeks ago

Hampshire

Yeah, Ive been put off on here after looking at their veri's, Jeremy Kyle / benefits Britain types Not for me ta.

Not saying there's a problem being on the dole for people who are struggling to find work before anyone starts.

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By *illy IdolMan
13 weeks ago

Midlands

Yes, in a vanilla life for sure. If they've been with a friend previously then it would probably put me off or stop me going there. On Fab, not so much, unless who they have been with raises alarm bells to me.

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By *ealitybitesMan
13 weeks ago

Belfast

It's one of the only reasons I look at verifications and follow the trail.

I've ignored my instincts a couple of times since joining fab and got dragged into someone else's drama.

That changed my whole outlook and as such I tend to join the dots now.

The slightest hint of a link to anyone I know to be involved in creating drama would put me off.

I've said many times that this is not a lifestyle choice and has never been anything more than a hobby so I'm never going to be compatible with those who have had a lot more sexual partners than my single digit.

In general though, numbers don't bother me but certain individuals do.

Away from fab I've never had to consider any of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Shit happens, people change, I don’t care who you were whatever many years ago, the person standing in front of me now is what matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"Shit happens, people change, I don’t care who you were whatever many years ago, the person standing in front of me now is what matters. "

Actually I tell a lie, there are a few unforgivable live choices.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
13 weeks ago

Trowbridge

In real life I’d not date or go with any of my friends ex partners.

On fab, my meets are private & my business, that’s why they’re hidden. I do look at others veris & pictures of the people they have been with, but tend to make my own judgement on how they treat me & if we get on.

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By *ickedwillyCouple
13 weeks ago

Bangor

Well said above post

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By *aintsnsinnersCouple
13 weeks ago

Tamworth

My wife used to date my best friend before we met.

He regretted giving me her number when he moved away to live in wales and we all lost touch.

After two years he got in touch and said he wished we could remain friends

We arranged a motorcycle trip abroad and I asked if he would mind if I brought my wife, his ex.

He said that would be ok

We are off on Wednesday for a week in a three bed apartment together

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By *oxychicWoman
13 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

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By *oxychicWoman
13 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

No its the past, I take ppl as i find them not on the veris of others

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By *ancashireredheadWoman
13 weeks ago

Up North

"They shouldn't, but yes they do.

I've not met guys before based on who they've met, a feeling of I'd be a disappointment compared to them. I prefer people to not display verifications, ignorance is bliss!

I echo this but I’d still rather see the veris. Maybe my own worst enemy.

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By *sWyldWoman
13 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yup it can do.

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

Not so much the partners themselves, more the possibility of any drama that would result. That would be very off putting.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
13 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Yep, it would, I mean if they'd been blowies from a crackie for £5 then I ain't touching it.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
13 weeks ago

Den of Iniquity

"Not so much the partners themselves, more the possibility of any drama that would result. That would be very off putting."

Drama ?? From Fab ?? Never 🤔😂

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

"Not so much the partners themselves, more the possibility of any drama that would result. That would be very off putting.

Drama ?? From Fab ?? Never 🤔😂"

😇🤣

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
13 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Not so much the partners themselves, more the possibility of any drama that would result. That would be very off putting.

Drama ?? From Fab ?? Never 🤔😂"

🤣🤣🤣 School playgrounds have nothing on the drama on fab

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By *arleycplWoman
13 weeks ago

Leyburn

Yes it could

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
13 weeks ago

Altrincham

"Would someone’s past partners put you off them in either a vanilla or swinging life?

Maybe it’s someone you know or know of, or do you take people as you find them?"

If it was before me I wouldn't care. What someone did before me is history

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Shit happens. The people you thought you knew at the time turn out to be something else entirely. I wouldn't sleep with a couple of the people I have previously if I'd known then what I know now. I don't imagine most people have a spotless history of only excellent former partners that they'd happily return to in a heartbeat.

Who someone is currently seeing may be relevant to me. Who they've fucked previously is not really something I worry about, unless there's a clear demonstration of alarming trends 💜

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

Yes. A woman's provenance is a key indicator for me on whether I would take things further, or not. Verifications only tell me half the story — I like to ask outright.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Glad they in the past I don't care about them looking for attractive genuine younger single respectful man blue eyes

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By *orphia2003Woman
13 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Would depend on individual circumstances.

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By *oodmessMan
13 weeks ago

yumsville

"Would someone’s past partners put you off them in either a vanilla or swinging life?

Maybe it’s someone you know or know of, or do you take people as you find them?"

Unless they are criminal gangster liable to shoot me for holding their hand, no.

Swinging or vanilla it shouldn't really matter, if someone is finding fault with me for the people I've slept with, I could probably find 10x the number of faults with their ex partners, it's a pretty ugly trait for me.

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By *oodmessMan
13 weeks ago

yumsville

Just reading replies ... I can't believe people are still so keen on veris being a CV of your fab life. Do people not delete their accounts any more, do people show all of them, are greedy, dogging, gangbangs, party and Euro holiday meets automatically added now?

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By *estructionDollyWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester

I wouldn't date someone who was a friend's ex, or an ex's friend.

Otherwise, it doesn't bother me so much unless they were engaging in risky behaviour, that would put me off.

If they had been with someone I *really* didn't like I may ask them about it. There's people I have had sex with in the past that I wouldn't have sex with now, because they hid their true colours at the time or their behaviour changed etc. So just because I've had sex with someone in the past, doesn't mean I would now, or that I might condone their actions carte blanche, or that I even like them anymore! I might think they're a total prick. So I extend that courtesy to others. People change, and can change their minds.

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

In a word, yes.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
13 weeks ago

Den of Iniquity

"Not so much the partners themselves, more the possibility of any drama that would result. That would be very off putting.

Drama ?? From Fab ?? Never 🤔😂

🤣🤣🤣 School playgrounds have nothing on the drama on fab "

Ain't that the truth

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By *utofthebluexxxWoman
13 weeks ago

London

No. I do enjoy vanilla affectionate sex too

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
13 weeks ago

Niche

Totally... You are what you eat! 😉😜

But seriously, yes. People do in fact read profile bios and they will message me claiming we have same likes and wants. But it's just a sales pitch 🤠

Past partners (on or off fab) and their personal choices are clear indicators of their preferences. I'm a big believer in actions speaking louder than words.

One of a certain 'type' of person or activity would be an exception/mistake or experiment/learning curve, but many repeats of similar 'types' and behaviour would simply be a pattern and a clear indicator of where their true interest lies.

It helps guide me to swerve who I personally consider undesirables, and say a polite thanks but no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"Just reading replies ... I can't believe people are still so keen on veris being a CV of your fab life. Do people not delete their accounts any more, do people show all of them, are greedy, dogging, gangbangs, party and Euro holiday meets automatically added now?"
I have seen couple of men but asked them not to do veris I don't want everything I get upto on here

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By *asha86Couple
13 weeks ago

walsall

The past is exactly that for a reason, people grow and change it's how they treat you in the present that matters most.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Not at all, if you keep looking g behind you to the past you'll miss what's in front of you.

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I take people as I find them.

I enjoy conversations about past relationships and sexual encounters, with partners, though. Anything that enriches my understanding of a partner, is enjoyable.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
13 weeks ago

Niche

"I take people as I find them.

I enjoy conversations about past relationships and sexual encounters, with partners, though. Anything that enriches my understanding of a partner, is enjoyable."

I love talking about past fun. Less about the who than the what/how. Can be really helpful and really fun.

Chatting about bucket lists and things we've tried and enjoyed, or not. Things that were funny... we all have funny sexcapades to share! And things we want more of. It's a part of discovering eachother that I love.

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"I take people as I find them.

I enjoy conversations about past relationships and sexual encounters, with partners, though. Anything that enriches my understanding of a partner, is enjoyable.

I love talking about past fun. Less about the who than the what/how. Can be really helpful and really fun.

Sexcapades - I like that. Discovery of each other and the myths we can make together.

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By *oodmessMan
13 weeks ago

yumsville

"Just reading replies ... I can't believe people are still so keen on veris being a CV of your fab life. Do people not delete their accounts any more, do people show all of them, are greedy, dogging, gangbangs, party and Euro holiday meets automatically added now?I have seen couple of men but asked them not to do veris I don't want everything I get upto on here "

It's pretty standard, same with most club meets

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By *B..Woman
13 weeks ago

Wiltshire

"Would someone’s past partners put you off them in either a vanilla or swinging life?

Maybe it’s someone you know or know of, or do you take people as you find them?"

Yes it’s put me off in the past

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