FabSwingers.com forum: Awkward people

By *immers123 OP Woman
13 weeks ago

South Molton

What kind of awkward hard work people have you come across on here?

Mine would be this one guy who has 1 picture he uses here and a certain dating app. I actually spoke to a woman who says she met him, he's genuine however that picture is very old..

He wanted to meet but I said we can't go to my house and he said why not? I said because I don't know you and I'm not comfortable as a woman inviting men into my home.. I said could I please see more pics? He said my verifications are enough. I said well if I'm going to meet anyone it would be nice to see a few more pics. He refused so I said OK, I'll leave it then as I won't meet someone without knowing what they look like. Then he called me weird and again said his verifications are enough.. unlike my fake ones

Lol mine aren't and I update my pictures regularly.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Some people are very defensive of their privacy.

They're totally entitled to that. I won't be meeting them. But that's as far as I need to care. They can find other similarly private people to play with without affecting my experience 💜

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

TLDR: he wants you to agree more, he won’t agree more,accuses you of being fake.

It’s not being awkward it’s some transparent, and rather stupid, attempt at manipulation.

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By *immers123 OP Woman
13 weeks ago

South Molton

"Some people are very defensive of their privacy.

They're totally entitled to that. I won't be meeting them. But that's as far as I need to care. They can find other similarly private people to play with without affecting my experience 💜"

Privacy is fine but using one outdated picture is basically false advertising. I would never meet anyone who won't share pics that would be crazy.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
13 weeks ago

Reading

It's up to you to set your boundaries and keep to them. If that doesn't work for the other person then you are not a match. So byeeee.

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By *rHotNottsMan
13 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s not awkward it’s just how it is. It’s a bit rude calling you weird though why are you still chasing him? Just block him if he’s not for you

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By *immers123 OP Woman
13 weeks ago

South Molton

"It’s not awkward it’s just how it is. It’s a bit rude calling you weird though why are you still chasing him? Just block him if he’s not for you"

What makes you think I'm chasing him? He was blocked after he called me weird. Was just hoping for some light hearted stories

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Some people are very defensive of their privacy.

They're totally entitled to that. I won't be meeting them. But that's as far as I need to care. They can find other similarly private people to play with without affecting my experience 💜

Privacy is fine but using one outdated picture is basically false advertising. I would never meet anyone who won't share pics that would be crazy. "

That's okay. You don't have to meet them or even engage with them at all if you don't want to 💜

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Awkward? Down to interpretation.

Incompatible? I'd say definitely.

Just means you're not right for eachother.

Or maybe you would be, but because of your own (and his) ways of doing things you'll never know. And that's fine. We all do things our own way and sometimes that's the best approach. Jumping through hoops shouldn't be necessary for either party. Just move on to someone else. 🤷‍♂️

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

"Awkward? Down to interpretation.

Incompatible? I'd say definitely.

Just means you're not right for eachother.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
13 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Not so much awkward but eye rolling.

Had a message from a guy saying " Love how slutty you are in your videos"

I don't have any videos on my profile.

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By *tormidaysWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester

There's someone on here that I came across on a dating app

He was weird in the app...I have no idea what he's like on here 🤣

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Years ago when single, I was chatting to a man, told him in advance I only meet socially first.

I suggested some places to meet for a drink and he said "whatever I'm having to jump through hoops as it is".

I told him there were no hoops, but for my safety I meet in a public place and he should understand that.

He carried on whinging about how he was a genuine bloke and I'd be safe etc, I blocked him.

If people can't respect what you tell them here, I doubt they would in real life.

Any hint of pushiness and I block now.

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By *oml and mwgcCouple
13 weeks ago

Birstall

There's a guy who messaged us and wanted to meet us. He said that we should give our phone number to him so he could call us, he said that's better than ping pong messages on Fab. I blocked him.

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By *hyKentGuyMan
13 weeks ago

sheerness

I don’t think it’s out of order to have at least one face time call before a meet. Safety for both parties!

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By *illy IdolMan
13 weeks ago

Midlands

I can't name and shame, but I once met up with a fella I'll call Lero Nondon. We met for a drink and a bite to eat. Once the food arrived, he demanded that I wasn't allowed to look at him whilst he was eating. I thought that was very strange, but respected his wishes. It then started to get even weirder when he started dirty talking to his panini, calling it a "nawty little slut" before every bite

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"I don’t think it’s out of order to have at least one face time call before a meet. Safety for both parties!"

Seeing what someone looks like beforehand won't stop them from murdering you.

If I was the slightest bit concerned about my safety, I wouldn't be meeting them.

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Whilst I will put effort in, if conversation feels like hard work then I will start questioning our fundamental compatibility.

Not being able to appreciate different beliefs and values is a bit of stumbling block for me. The hard-work feeling is likely to be a recurring one. Most people are easy to get on with - when beliefs and values are aligned.

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
13 weeks ago

Norwich

I just block people like that now. Honestly it's like pulling teeth.

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By *ceKweenWoman
13 weeks ago

Bolton

Chemistry, connection.. is fantastic. Unfortunately, at times it dwindles or wires get crossed which is a shame but both parties have to be on the same wavelength.

If anybody is too hard work… that is also a sign to move on.

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By *reative-mindMan
13 weeks ago

exeter

Isn't fab just awkward in it's entirety?

Or is that just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"Not so much awkward but eye rolling.

Had a message from a guy saying " Love how slutty you are in your videos"

I don't have any videos on my profile."

I checked, I feel I've let myself down

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By *ealitybitesMan
13 weeks ago

Belfast

The only awkward people I've engaged with on fab are the ones who don't seem to understand the word "no".

I've been given instructions by women and couples who have messaged me out of the blue who have difficulty accepting that I won't be following any of their demands.

Many of them have told me that men don't have options on fab and especially not men of my age and I should be grateful for any attention.

It gets a little awkward when I point them in the direction of my verifications 😁

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By *usty kayWoman
13 weeks ago

Burnham on Sea

Several times over the years I've had guys who pop up over the months, usually catching me at a time I'm not meeting and then when I am meeting, or have a small pool I am meeting, I get emotional messages around how they must not be good enough, why weren't they my first thought etc

If we talked a lot, had had phone calls or socials then I'd get it but its usually just been a few messages every now and then.

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By *urry BlokeMan
13 weeks ago

More red flags than a Chinese National Day Parade

I don't think he's awkward

I think you had him on the ropes vis-a-vis misrepresentation

I think you were a lot more forgiving than a lot of people here would have been

Do yourself a favour, block and move on

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