FabSwingers.com forum: Any suggestions on how to stand out from the rest?

By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

Hi, as the title says. I would welcome any input to help my profile stand out from the thousands of other men on here, I seem to have good conversations when I get them but it never really goes anywhere. So any suggestions would be very much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

Suggestions from anyone are welcome

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By *rdere OpusCouple
13 weeks ago

Brum - ish

Your profile is key and I’d say in the main that’s not bad.

A good way to stand out is to get involved in the forums because it gives people a better idea of your personality and what you’re into.

In real life, getting to organised socials and club nights can help you to get noticed.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
13 weeks ago

Reading

Do a search for profile advice you will find loads of very good tips

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

The blurb looks OK but are you 29 or 30?

The first pic in your gallery is of you barebacking another woman - that might put some off.

A tip really is to have patience. It's very important here

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Have a personality

Don't be a simp

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By *immers123Woman
13 weeks ago

South Molton

Keep the sex pics to private or best don't post at all. I block anyone with those.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Nothing wrong with your profile OP, I couldn't even find a spelling mistake

*Some* profiles express a preference for not seeing a person hanging out of the back of someone else, so maybe that is a issue with your public pictures. Not that it would bother me I hasten to add.

The profile says you're 29, but the age says 30. Not a massive issue, but maybe remove the "29" from the text if you don't intend updating it.

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By *immers123Woman
13 weeks ago

South Molton

"The blurb looks OK but are you 29 or 30?

The first pic in your gallery is of you barebacking another woman - that might put some off.

This. Definitely puts me off when blokes do that.

A tip really is to have patience. It's very important here"

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By *viatrixWoman
13 weeks ago

Redhill

Good profile, OP. I’d certainly reply if you messaged me.

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By *ou only live onceMan
13 weeks ago

London

I think you're doing just fine!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

I appreciate the honesty, update the blurb.

Picture was with a trusted FB so I understand why people didn't like that, it's been put into my friends only

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By *enk15Man
13 weeks ago

Evesham

Your profile won't make much difference to be honest.

If you want to stand out and meet people, forget direct messaging and instead sign up for socials and events.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
13 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

First pic would put me off. I wouldn’t look any further

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
13 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Looks OK to me. Don't like your status though

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By *ora the explorerWoman
13 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"First pic would put me off. I wouldn’t look any further "

Ignore this ^^. Pic seems to have gone

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By *rdere OpusCouple
13 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"Looks OK to me. Don't like your status though"

I get this - it’s gone now but I read it and thought the sane.

I think it’s easy for these things to look very thirsty. Showing a genuine interest and attraction rather than coming across as if you’ve logged on because you’re horny and want real/virtual help in getting off is a big part of things. Not saying that was the intention but I guess a reflection would be is this post/status about making connections and generating conversation or do I want it to turn me on.

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By *vaRoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Profile bio is good

Pics are cute but rather samey… maybe think about something teasing

If I’m being particularly picky. The use of em dash tends to be in writing from AI such as chat gpt, I’ve noticed a trend of people pointing that out on social media and even if that’s not the case for you a little editing wouldn’t go amiss.

Your age range screams unfussy…. 18-99. If that’s what you want to portray then you don’t need to change a thing but if it’s not and you have preferences then show them.

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By *aughty driverMan
13 weeks ago

Romford

Hivis jacket with a hivis hat

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"If I’m being particularly picky. The use of em dash tends to be in writing from AI such as chat gpt, "

It is picky, but you need a spotters badge for picking this up.

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By *tr8MrEMan
13 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

Windmilling your penis whilst blowing on a red balloon is very popular apparently

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

I didn't use ai, but I can see why you'd think that. It's just my writing style but I've used the feedback and made a few amendments.

I've got some spicy photos but my confidence took a knock hence why they're all under friends only.

Thank you for the feedback

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
13 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

A status like the one Mr challenged me to write today works!

Mrs TMN x

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
13 weeks ago

Cardiff

I always suggest getting to a social or club and hopefully getting some meet verifications from people, obviously you can't blame people not wanting to meet someone without any meet verifications. Getting out there and meeting people in the community is pretty much the only way a single man can get started on fab without having to wait years

Also, be patient, you've not been on here long and if you stay and care enough, it will come

I would be very surprised if putting up a meet/event will be successful tho

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By *ellhungvweMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"A status like the one Mr challenged me to write today works!

Mrs TMN x"

I can see why it might have attracted a bit of attention.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
13 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

When looking for how things are done I look towards nature.

Check out how other animals attract a mate and go from there.

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By *ildTimes.Man
13 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

"A status like the one Mr challenged me to write today works!

Mrs TMN x"

Can't view it for some reason...how odd 🤔🥪

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Good profile,great pics and your a good looking bloke.

As other have said maybe take a step into clubs, look for a newbies event.

I certainly need to take my own advice lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

Some good advice here, thank you ladies and gents, also Inbox is open should anyone feel like chatting

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

There is a Central London Social in July OP, why not get your name down ?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I not been on meet in several months just get messages off idiots

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
13 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Well done op, a single guy asking for advice and taking notice. As others have said try a newbie social, their usually listed further down under parties and events.

Also hang around the forums and get your name known, its amazing what wonders can work for a nice respectful guy

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By *vaRoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

"When looking for how things are done I look towards nature.

Check out how other animals attract a mate and go from there. "

Marvellous

I want to be wooed under a bower like a bird of paradise while the guys all do a crazy dance flashing their bits

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

I knew my dance lessons would come in handy one day!

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By *aizyWoman
13 weeks ago

west midlands

"When looking for how things are done I look towards nature.

Check out how other animals attract a mate and go from there. "

🦚

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By *tr8MrEMan
13 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"When looking for how things are done I look towards nature.

Check out how other animals attract a mate and go from there.

Marvellous

I want to be wooed under a bower like a bird of paradise while the guys all do a crazy dance flashing their bits "

I can reverse windmill to the sound of handels water music 🤣🤣

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By *uality By DesignMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Patience is the key

Your profile is good

It took me 6 months to get my first meet

10 years later look where I am.

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

"There is a Central London Social in July OP, why not get your name down ?"

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/meets/1694241

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

"When looking for how things are done I look towards nature.

Check out how other animals attract a mate and go from there.

🦚"

Oi, we don't want any of those spiders that fuck the male before killing him ! 😳😳

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By *tr8MrEMan
13 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"When looking for how things are done I look towards nature.

Check out how other animals attract a mate and go from there.

🦚

Oi, we don't want any of those spiders that fuck the male before killing him ! 😳😳"

Why would you even try attracting a spider? You're definitely on the wrong site for that 🤷🤷

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By *vaRoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

"When looking for how things are done I look towards nature.

Check out how other animals attract a mate and go from there.

🦚

Oi, we don't want any of those spiders that fuck the male before killing him ! 😳😳"

Ooh that’s an option?

Can I change my vote 🕷️

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

Hello OP, I didn't get to see your profile before you made your amendments, but it looks fine.

I mean there isn't anything inherently wrong with your profile. You come across as polite. You're clearly a pleaser because your description is quite 'adjective heavy'; perhaps you're coming across too subservient or meek, unless that's your intention...?

That photo of you receiving oral won't appeal to some women. It totally incongruous to your other photos. I dunno... I suspect some people (luckless men) would baulk at the notion of giving advice to someone who's only been here a fortnight and who's phallus is wrapped around a woman's lips. You're doing just fine.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
13 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Well wasn't that just a waste of time. Thought he had potential

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By *eoBloomsMan
13 weeks ago

Springfield

"Well wasn't that just a waste of time. Thought he had potential"

🤦🤦🤦

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By *rSuave88Man
13 weeks ago

Mirfield

Well it appears he achieved what he set out to do.. he has literally stood.. OUT from the rest 🙏🏽

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