FabSwingers.com forum: Is fab as GREAT as it used to be?

By (user no longer on site) OP
14 weeks ago

It’s not my first time here obvs, but I can’t really find much to interest me this time. Like, even if I search for folks to potentially meet then I can’t even see anyone that I fancy, let alone who might fancy me back!

Even the forums seem a bit drab and soulless (no offence and I take at least 1% responsibility for that)

Maybe I’ve just shifted more “real regular world” in my values, Idk? Maybe I’m finally growing up/old?

Have you ever got to the stage here where you think you see through the gangsters paradise of fab, like someone lifted off the rose tinted ray-bans and you just see it for what it is?

No offence if you love it and think it’s great, good for you!

Have a brilliant day everyone and I hope you find everything you’re looking for and have lots of great sex and adventures !

See you all, maybe Xxx

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By *ora the explorerWoman
14 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t think so. But it’s probably me not everyone else. Getting old

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By *mmaleiaWoman
14 weeks ago

Trowbridge

It hasn’t been as eventful as I was hoping, but I enjoy the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
14 weeks ago

"I don’t think so. But it’s probably me not everyone else. Getting old "

Call Cheeky and get her back!

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By *tr8MrEMan
14 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

Was it ever truly great? I don't think it's any better or worse, it still has it's beautiful people and it's utter scumbags

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By *ora the explorerWoman
14 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don’t think so. But it’s probably me not everyone else. Getting old

Call Cheeky and get her back!

Awww do you remember her ❤️. Who are you?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
14 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don’t think so. But it’s probably me not everyone else. Getting old

Call Cheeky and get her back!

Awww do you remember her ❤️. Who are you?"

Oh I think I know 🤣

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By *phroditeWoman
14 weeks ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
14 weeks ago

"Was it ever truly great? I don't think it's any better or worse, it still has it's beautiful people and it's utter scumbags"

Once upon a time , when your cock was still growing, there was a place called FAB (in capitals). FAB was a paradise filled with love and laughter and boobs and vag, and bums and cock etc and so on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
14 weeks ago

"I don’t think so. But it’s probably me not everyone else. Getting old

Call Cheeky and get her back!

Awww do you remember her ❤️. Who are you?

Oh I think I know 🤣"

‘bout time!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
14 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"A forum can only ever be as good, interesting and entertaining as the participants make it - maybe people's interests have changed, maybe the "next generation" is invested in topics I am no longer interested in?

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me

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By *phroditeWoman
14 weeks ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me "

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By *ssexfootmanMan
14 weeks ago

Essex

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me "

Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol

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By *aizyWoman
14 weeks ago

west midlands

I do get bored on here, I hide my profile and keep away. When I get really bored with it I'll go UNLOS and won't be back, haven't quite got there yet tho.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
14 weeks ago

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

I think the forum always had ups and downs. People come, people go, some you love, some that’s annoy the tits off you. I just think I’ve outgrown it now though. Nothing to prove nowadays and it’s not really teaching me much either…

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By *hoenix_1Man
14 weeks ago

richmond

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

This is so true

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By *tr8MrEMan
14 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"I do get bored on here, I hide my profile and keep away. When I get really bored with it I'll go UNLOS and won't be back, haven't quite got there yet tho."

Nooooooooooooooooooo 😭😭😭

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By *ora the explorerWoman
14 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me

Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol"

We should set up faboldgits

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By *eliWoman
14 weeks ago

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Yep exactly the same for me.

I also think... Fab isn't work. I can understand returning to work if I didn't particularly enjoy it and there was a good salary but Fab is more like a pub.

I wouldn't keep returning to a pub that I wasn't enjoying and had already told me I wasn't... well.

I'd go explore other things. Maybe other pubs, maybe a nice café. Or go to a bookstore. Go outside and talk to people. Who aren't in the pub.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
14 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"It’s not my first time here obvs, but I can’t really find much to interest me this time. Like, even if I search for folks to potentially meet then I can’t even see anyone that I fancy, let alone who might fancy me back!

Even the forums seem a bit drab and soulless (no offence and I take at least 1% responsibility for that)

Maybe I’ve just shifted more “real regular world” in my values, Idk? Maybe I’m finally growing up/old?

Have you ever got to the stage here where you think you see through the gangsters paradise of fab, like someone lifted off the rose tinted ray-bans and you just see it for what it is?

No offence if you love it and think it’s great, good for you!

Have a brilliant day everyone and I hope you find everything you’re looking for and have lots of great sex and adventures !

See you all, maybe Xxx"

To me? Yes. It's no different to when I first signed up.

Have I changed though? Of course. What i look for has changed, the way I approach engaging with others has changed, I'm back to having a single profile and a separate couples profile again which I haven't had since about 2012.

I've seen people come and go. Seen some of those that left rejoin. There are still people here that have been around as long or longer than I have.

It's not always the site that changes. Usually it's us, our perceptions and our approaches, wants and desires.

As for the forums? They've always peaked and troughed over time, which is a natural occurrence in any community be that online or in real life.

The site remains optional. If people feel it's not for them any more or that it's not serving the purpose they want, then the door is always open to leave. And it remains open for them to come back of course. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ealitybitesMan
14 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't remember it being any different in all my time here.

It has only ever been a hobby for me so I've never been fully invested or interested in a lifestyle or community.

The forums are like the circle of life where people come and go, sometimes with a flourish and often not by choice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
14 weeks ago

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Yep exactly the same for me.

I also think... Fab isn't work. I can understand returning to work if I didn't particularly enjoy it and there was a good salary but Fab is more like a pub.

I wouldn't keep returning to a pub that I wasn't enjoying and had already told me I wasn't... well.

I'd go explore other things. Maybe other pubs, maybe a nice café. Or go to a bookstore. Go outside and talk to people. Who aren't in the pub."

What if there was a pub that used to be amazing and you were curious to see what the new owners had done with the place?

Anyway, I’ll have a coffee with you sometime if you decide to drop your standards xx

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By *enk15Man
14 weeks ago

Evesham

"I do get bored on here, I hide my profile and keep away. When I get really bored with it I'll go UNLOS and won't be back, haven't quite got there yet tho."

You going UNLOS would be detrimental to the site.

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By *ssexfootmanMan
14 weeks ago

Essex

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me

Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol

We should set up faboldgits"

Proper, I'll be the admin

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By *tr8MrEMan
14 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me

Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol

We should set up faboldgits"

I'm in

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By *phroditeWoman
14 weeks ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Who knows but you can make it whatever you want it to be by posting interesting new threads.It is still cool even though fewer topics are of interest to me personally

Nicely said. I think that’s the case with me. I scroll and nothing really interests me

Same for me, it mood depending and rarely get much excitement here these days as used too. Probably getting too old for it myself lol

We should set up faboldgits

Proper, I'll be the admin

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
14 weeks ago

Reading

Probably time to take a break.

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By *ambridgezwingerMan
14 weeks ago

Cambridge

As with most things in life: it tend to be what you make of it. Fab + Clubland us striking a playful balance from my perspective...

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By *olinOfBathMan
14 weeks ago

Corsham

"It hasn’t been as eventful as I was hoping, but I enjoy the forums"

If you raise your age limit...

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By *ansoffateMan
14 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

My ray-bans have more of a brown tint I think, maybe that's where I am going wrong.

Seriously, for a moment at least, I don't think there's all that much that has changed with fab.

As with all sites of this nature, for me at least, the needle in a haystack aspect is always going to exist. I've just come to accept that.

The forums here are quite unique in a way. Lounge is such a fitting term. It has it's own peculiarly cyclical charm.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
14 weeks ago

lightwater

Fab is just as good as ever. It’s the customers that are not

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By *eckard25Man
14 weeks ago

North West Durham

I'm going to paint myself orange and start selling Make Fab Great Again hats

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By (user no longer on site) OP
14 weeks ago

I think this is part of why the forums are a bit shit for me.

I ask a question or three and very few folks actually take the time to answer it/tthem. Instead they offer their best “fab advice” and tell me how “fab is” without considering that I might have been here on and off for ten years and be fully aware of that shiz with sprinkles and a cherry on top

. So where’s the dialogue and growth??? Everyone has a secret inner show-off and I guess that was me once and still is to a lesser extent…

Apologies to those who didn’t offer me their wisdom, and thanks for the lovely PM’s

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By *ildTimes.Man
14 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

Been pretty dire of late, a lot of the characters have left the forums in particular...or don't want to voice their opinions in public.

The site as a whole seems to be inundated with Uggs with a false sense of attractiveness due to the sheer numbers of men, 🤷🏻‍♂️ 🥪

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By *ealitybitesMan
14 weeks ago

Belfast

Another one bites the dust🙄

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By *issmorganWoman
14 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Who left?.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
14 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Who left?. "

You may remember him more as Nippy.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
14 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"Who left?. "

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Another 'it was better in the old days' thread.

I've been here, on and off, for over a decade and it's the same as it ever was.

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By *ev257Man
14 weeks ago

cardiff

For a single M who is fast approaching 60, there is not much action on here, if any.

As for when I post for meets on my M/F profile we are get a lot more no shows when meeting these days.

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By *ookie46Woman
14 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"Who left?.

You may remember him more as Nippy. "

I was racking my brains trying to think who it was

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By *vaRoseWoman
14 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Can we get some MFGA hats?

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By *pirited obeliskMan
14 weeks ago

Ryde

"Can we get some MFGA hats? "

Pleeease!

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
14 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

"Can we get some MFGA hats?

Pleeease!"

What colour would they be?

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Ah it's not as good as it was!

No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.

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By *ansoffateMan
14 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I've noticed that there's less of these fab is shit I am leaving threads.

Is that just me?

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
14 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

"Ah it's not as good as it was!

No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.

Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.

I literally have an empty friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Although the forums are dire, can we have the funny ones back please?

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

"Ah it's not as good as it was!

No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.

Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.

I literally have an empty friends list

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

"Ah it's not as good as it was!

No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.

Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.

I literally have an empty friends list

Have you tried to be more interesting?

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
14 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

"Ah it's not as good as it was!

No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.

Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.

I literally have an empty friends list

Have you tried to be more interesting?"

Define ‘try’

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By *enk15Man
14 weeks ago

Evesham

"Although the forums are dire, can we have the funny ones back please? "

I arrived this morning

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By *innersh WillMan
14 weeks ago

My use of Fab has changed, back in the day I used Fab and the forums to (try to!) meet people.

Now I just head to a club and invariably through a little bit of engagement with the people there (rather than just being a wallflower) usually end up getting what I’m looking for despite not pre-agreeing to meet.

So while Fab may be the same as it ever was, my perception of it as a tool to meet, and my view on its “greatness” is different as I’ve evolved.

Also, as we age, and as new fresher people join the site, then the generational gap may begin to show a bit more, and while the site might be a bit more “now” I’m still essentially as I was “then” which makes a difference to!

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By *eliWoman
14 weeks ago

Funny is such a subjective term.

Sorry I missed your coffee offer OP, hopefully you'll be back soon to ask me again. 🤞

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By *ansoffateMan
14 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Ah it's not as good as it was!

No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.

Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.

I literally have an empty friends list

Have you tried to be more interesting?

Define ‘try’ "

That would require effort.

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By *inx000Couple
14 weeks ago

Manchester

Fab definitely isn't what it used to be..Fab forums used to be a lot of fun with a lot of good people around to make it fun now it is just either boring or people take things too seriously including the Mods which seem to take down a lot of threads for no reason.

Fab uses to be a lot easier to chat to people and arrange meets but now it's full of time wasters or guys pretending to be women just to get themselves off on photos.

It's a lot harder to even get a message of anyone saying they want to meet for a social or maybe more..most of the time you just get ignored!

People ask for face pics then either block you or ignore you which I find is really rude.

It used to be a fun place with fun people and easier to hook up and strike up a conversation but sadly I feel those days are gone.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
14 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

"Ah it's not as good as it was!

No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.

Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.

I literally have an empty friends list

Have you tried to be more interesting?

Define ‘try’

That would require effort."

Just like the way she let you answer for her. 👏🏻

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By *weetiepie99Woman
14 weeks ago

cardiff

It's no different. People come and go. One person's funny, is another's not so funny. One or two people don't 'make' the forums, it's as interesting or not as you want it to be.

If it's not giving you what you want, just leave, it's that simple.

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By *eckard25Man
14 weeks ago

North West Durham

"Can we get some MFGA hats? "

I copyrighted the idea earlier in the thread. Already onto a florida sweatshop who will make them.

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By *ansoffateMan
14 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Ah it's not as good as it was!

No dear, it is. You just aren't getting any. It's a you problem not a fab problem.

Fab is only as great as the people you talk to.

I literally have an empty friends list

Have you tried to be more interesting?

Define ‘try’

That would require effort.

Just like the way she let you answer for her. 👏🏻 "

Was it a private conversation? I am terribly sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Well i guess patience is required in finding the best in anything.

Two hours and they are gone again.

That probably soeaks volumes.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
14 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"Although the forums are dire, can we have the funny ones back please? "

Never left

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