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By *inx000 OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Manchester

Why do some people on here think its OK to waste peoples time?!

Arranging to meet with a time and location saying yes "I'll be there" and "I'm on my way now" just for them to not turn up!

No contact at all after that with an explanation as to why they didn't turn up just get ignored which I find is damn right rude and inconsiderate.

I get that people are entitled to change their minds but at least let the person know either way!

Do they do it for the fun of it knowing they have set someone up without any intention of meeting them in the first place?!

Do they do it just to get their kicks and turn themselves on with the flirting that leads up to the arranged meet but then can't be bothered to show as they have already got what they wanted and now the excitement has gone?!

I always give people a second chance as I feel that's fair as sometimes things don't always go to plan and circumstances can change I get that but if you mess me around the second time you've blew it and you are not worth my efforts anymore!

Rant over!!

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By *otwife Snowy and MeCouple
3 weeks ago

Carshalton


"Why do some people on here think its OK to waste peoples time?!

Arranging to meet with a time and location saying yes "I'll be there" and "I'm on my way now" just for them to not turn up!

No contact at all after that with an explanation as to why they didn't turn up just get ignored which I find is damn right rude and inconsiderate.

I get that people are entitled to change their minds but at least let the person know either way!

Do they do it for the fun of it knowing they have set someone up without any intention of meeting them in the first place?!

Do they do it just to get their kicks and turn themselves on with the flirting that leads up to the arranged meet but then can't be bothered to show as they have already got what they wanted and now the excitement has gone?!

I always give people a second chance as I feel that's fair as sometimes things don't always go to plan and circumstances can change I get that but if you mess me around the second time you've blew it and you are not worth my efforts anymore!

Rant over!!"

Same for us. Twice we got ready and everything booked time off kids all sorted.... Twice in past six months. Madness

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

You can report no shows via their profile.

I'll ask the usual questions. Did you speak on the phone? A video chat? Was it last minute short notice or had you been chatting a while?

The more rushed a meet, without less prior conversation and chat and no means of contacting other than on here, the greater the risk of disappointment.

The site gives some pretty good common sense advice here.

https://m.fabswingers.com/content/safer-meets.html

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I think it all depends on how people on here do meets. I'm guessing from a couples point of view you're gonna be less invested in the person, so less 'connection' less communication and more likely for it to not happen.

It happens. There's worse things to get annoyed about, like the dick of a builder parking in front of my house!

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By *egDaySkipperMan
3 weeks ago

Liverpool


"I think it all depends on how people on here do meets. I'm guessing from a couples point of view you're gonna be less invested in the person, so less 'connection' less communication and more likely for it to not happen.

It happens. There's worse things to get annoyed about, like the dick of a builder parking in front of my house!

"

The builder has a detachable dick?

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By *tr8MrEMan
3 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield


"I think it all depends on how people on here do meets. I'm guessing from a couples point of view you're gonna be less invested in the person, so less 'connection' less communication and more likely for it to not happen.

It happens. There's worse things to get annoyed about, like the dick of a builder parking in front of my house!

The builder has a detachable dick?"

It's a semi....detached apparently

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
3 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole


"You can report no shows via their profile.

……

The site gives some pretty good common sense advice here.

https://m.fabswingers.com/content/safer-meets.html"

I never knew that.

What happens? 3 strikes and they’re out?

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago


"I think it all depends on how people on here do meets. I'm guessing from a couples point of view you're gonna be less invested in the person, so less 'connection' less communication and more likely for it to not happen.

It happens. There's worse things to get annoyed about, like the dick of a builder parking in front of my house!

The builder has a detachable dick?"

It would be in the blender by now if he did.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
3 weeks ago

Brum


"You can report no shows via their profile.

……

The site gives some pretty good common sense advice here.

https://m.fabswingers.com/content/safer-meets.html

I never knew that.

What happens? 3 strikes and they’re out?

"

Depends whether they pay for a supporter badge.

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By *aulupforitMan
3 weeks ago

Corbridge

Plenty on here and I just block now and a hi or one word is not going very far.

I think the site has turned into fab guys with so many pictures of arses in the air lol

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
3 weeks ago

A Dirty Hole


"Plenty on here and I just block now and a hi or one word is not going very far.

I think the site has turned into fab guys with so many pictures of arses in the air lol"

Common courtesy has left the internet a long time ago.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

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By *ralking69.Man
3 weeks ago

NN4

Unfortunately I wasted my whole weekend on 2 time wasters

Saturday no show and same as Sunday

Pitty we a can't put a negative comment like a veri on their profiles

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

I don't generally give more chances. Someone who's dishonest and unreliable is likely to be predictably this way in future.

Some get power, as their payback. They reinforce their behavioural and psychological shortcomings as individuals, by repeating their habits.

We can only have control over ourselves, our choices and behaviour. Learn and pick differently.

And report the no-shows to Admin

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The last bit of advice in the safe meets advice is the most important.

"Don't put yourself in a situation where if someone doesn't turn up, you'll be upset. So don't travel 100s of miles and book into a hotel in the expectation of meeting someone unless you've met them beforehand."

Strangers on the internet are just that. Strangers. Expecting each and every one to do as they say is unfortunately likely to lead to disappointment.

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By *iker JackMan
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I would want more information if possible before coming to any conclusion

You are assuming they missed the meeting on purpose. They could have been delayed, had an accident or a plethora of very good reasons including they changed their mind

Is it frustrating? Yes

If they had been on here since and communicating on forums etc then yes even more so

My issue with reporting people is trust I hope admin would want to hear both sides of the story otherwise disgruntled people could just end up reporting anyone because they can. Maybe an admin can answer this point

Lastly, for me, it’s about how it is all set up in advance. Where you don’t feel it’s pressure, that some things are still left for excitement and even then nothing is guaranteed

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By *ittyNCremeCouple
3 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

OP sorry to read this. They must’ve been mad, if only we were all closer 😈

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By *ildTimes.Man
3 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

Never been stood up, but I make sure I chat a fair bit before and a social ideally, also ...who in their right mind would stand me up? 😂🥪

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By *aughty driverMan
3 weeks ago

Romford

I learnt the hardway but now i just say book a hotel lets both pay half that way there more inclined to meet

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By *ansoffateMan
3 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I don't think I've had a no show quite like that.

It does seem very inconsiderate. It was annoying enough as a couple, when it would take quite a bit of effort to arrange and people would bottle out. No response is one thing, but to actually say on my way. 🙄

In the end of the day we would just run on the basis that a show is 50/50. So we'd keep options open. Whatever happened we usually had a good time anyway.

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By *andadbodMan
3 weeks ago

Liverpool

happened a lot to the wife and myself when we were seeking a single guy to join us, most just enjoy the chase 🤷‍♂️

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By *issmorganWoman
3 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's rude & seems to happen alot on here lately.

If they've been online since the supposed meet, I'm guessing they've just decided to mess someone around.

Please do report them though.

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By *lthomasMan
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Had a no show at hotel meet, with messages right up to the point of saying "just parking the car". Then nothing and 20 minutes later blocked!!

Also had the opposite:

message saying are you free in an hour, rapid exchange of messages then nothing for about 90 minutes and thought oh well.

then get a message that says were in the hotel, what floor are you and can you meet us at the lift.

What a great an unexpected hour of fun that was.

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By *illyboy12345Man
3 weeks ago

glasgow

Almost a constant for me on here. Had someone messaging for weeks, had the hotel booked, travelled and then blocked on the day about an hour before th meet. Some people are just dicks

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
3 weeks ago

Bedale

Yeah this is why I've done a massive clear out of our messages and contacts in the last few days. Blockity block.

Bored of people who start out all eager but then ghost off when you try to get real with them.

Oddly enough, and I can't explain this, since doing so it's almost like a filter has been cleaned as our inbox is busier than it's been in weeks :-S

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
3 weeks ago

Coventry

Our communication is terrible, in terms were not very chatty. I think this can be misconstrued as flakiness when actually it's the opposite. When we arrange a meet (which is rare) we will be there. And if for whatever reason life does happen (which hasn't happened yet) we would give a head up straight away.

I understand our lack of communication and getting us to arange a meet can come across as blowing cold. However we don't like to endlessly talk after we've established a connection because you just really can't tell if something will work till you meet in person. So why keep chatting online when you don't know it'll work till you meet? We're hard to pin down to agree a meet because we are really busy and when we do arrange one we 100% intend to be there.

I think this is why we prefer clubs and generally don't arrange meets on fab. We're not for being messed around or intrested in messing anyone else around.

Mr

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By *inx000 OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Manchester


"Why do some people on here think its OK to waste peoples time?!

Arranging to meet with a time and location saying yes "I'll be there" and "I'm on my way now" just for them to not turn up!

No contact at all after that with an explanation as to why they didn't turn up just get ignored which I find is damn right rude and inconsiderate.

I get that people are entitled to change their minds but at least let the person know either way!

Do they do it for the fun of it knowing they have set someone up without any intention of meeting them in the first place?!

Do they do it just to get their kicks and turn themselves on with the flirting that leads up to the arranged meet but then can't be bothered to show as they have already got what they wanted and now the excitement has gone?!

I always give people a second chance as I feel that's fair as sometimes things don't always go to plan and circumstances can change I get that but if you mess me around the second time you've blew it and you are not worth my efforts anymore!

Rant over!!

Same for us. Twice we got ready and everything booked time off kids all sorted.... Twice in past six months. Madness "

Irs ridiculous isn't it especially when you have children as its not easy sorting out childcare and finding the time for meets so when they don't turn up its annoying.

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By *inx000 OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Manchester


"You can report no shows via their profile.

I'll ask the usual questions. Did you speak on the phone? A video chat? Was it last minute short notice or had you been chatting a while?

The more rushed a meet, without less prior conversation and chat and no means of contacting other than on here, the greater the risk of disappointment.

The site gives some pretty good common sense advice here.

https://m.fabswingers.com/content/safer-meets.html"

I never said I was disappointed as from previous let downs I never get my hopes up anymore which sort of loses the excitement.

The meet wasn't rushed and was chatting a while and now I'm being ignored aswell as stood up which annoys me more than anything as I just think what's the point!

I have reported them.

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By *inx000 OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Manchester


"You can report no shows via their profile.

……

The site gives some pretty good common sense advice here.

https://m.fabswingers.com/content/safer-meets.html

I never knew that.

What happens? 3 strikes and they’re out?

Depends whether they pay for a supporter badge."

Just don't want someone else to have to go through the same thing with the same person!!

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
3 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

I've stopped counting how many times I've been stood up, I don't bother getting my hopes up... Lol

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By *inx000 OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Manchester


"Unfortunately I wasted my whole weekend on 2 time wasters

Saturday no show and same as Sunday

Pitty we a can't put a negative comment like a veri on their profiles"

Assholes!!

Sorry to hear that.

You can report their profile as a no show.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
3 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"Never been stood up, but I make sure I chat a fair bit before and a social ideally, also ...who in their right mind would stand me up? 😂🥪"

🤣🤣

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By *inx000 OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Manchester


"OP sorry to read this. They must’ve been mad, if only we were all closer 😈"

😘🥰

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By *inx000 OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Manchester


"Never been stood up, but I make sure I chat a fair bit before and a social ideally, also ...who in their right mind would stand me up? 😂🥪"

Haha I know right that's what I thought...joking 😅

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By *urseitCouple
2 weeks ago

westerham

So fed up with time wasters. Spoke to the guy on phone seemed nice, gave him directions to the bar and even where to park. He massaged to say he was there but he was in wrong town and then he messaged later said he came to the bar looked in and could not see us. WTF is going on with people? So close to suiting this down. It's the same with couples they contact chat for a while then go quiet.

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